Digital Social Hour
The Hidden Cost of Success Most Founders Won't Admit | Divij Vaswani DSH #1020
Thu, 26 Dec 2024
The hidden cost of success isn't what you think - and most founders won't tell you the truth about it. 🎯 In this powerful conversation, Divij Vaswani opens up about his journey from ego-driven entrepreneur to finding purpose through faith. Get ready for raw honesty about the real struggles of success: anxiety, pride, and the challenge of maintaining authentic relationships while building an empire. Discover why treating everyone with respect matters more than material success, how to overcome ego-driven decision making, and what really brings fulfillment in business and life. Divij shares vulnerable stories about his past mistakes, personal transformation, and why true success means prioritizing relationships over revenue. This conversation goes deep into mental health, spirituality, and the often-unseen emotional toll of entrepreneurship. Learn practical wisdom about maintaining boundaries, finding purpose, and building a legacy that matters. Perfect for entrepreneurs, founders, and anyone seeking authentic success beyond the superficial. Join us for an unfiltered look at what it really takes to succeed while staying true to your values. No sugarcoating - just real talk about the journey from ego to purpose. 🙏 #selfimprovement #motivation #personaldevelopment #motivationalvideo #selfhelp #inspirationalinsights #mindsetshiftfromemployeetoentrepreneur #businessideas #personalgrowth #howtostartabusiness CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Intro 02:10 - Josh's Early 20s 04:28 - People Watching 06:15 - Setting Boundaries 11:02 - Finding Happiness 12:43 - Importance of Gratitude 13:43 - Reflecting on Past Mistakes 15:50 - Overcoming Victim Mindset 20:40 - Understanding Ego 22:10 - Exploring Narcissism 28:10 - Discovering Your Purpose 29:55 - Importance of Forgiveness 32:08 - Trump and Kamala Discussion 34:33 - The Power of Words 38:34 - How to Connect with Divij 38:44 - Outro APPLY TO BE ON THE PODCAST: https://www.digitalsocialhour.com/application BUSINESS INQUIRIES/SPONSORS: [email protected] GUEST: Divij Vaswani https://www.instagram.com/divijvaswani/ https://www.youtube.com/@divij_vaswani LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/digital-social-hour/id1676846015 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Jn7LXarRlI8Hc0GtTn759 Sean Kelly Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seanmikekelly/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What are the hidden costs of success for founders?
I love people watching too. Yeah, it's fun. You learn a lot from it. I be observing people. What are some of your big takeaways? Micro expressions, so like facial expressions. I could tell if they're confident, if they're maybe depressed even, just based off facial expressions and body language. This stuff's really important for me.
What happens when your father, your mother, your sister, your cousin is the person that's talking to the waiter in a poor manner you know do you reprimand them like do you say like yo you shouldn't be talking to this person this way you can't bring the what is it you can't feed the horse but you can bring the water to the horse to the water yeah yeah
All right, guys, from L.A., Dvij Vazwani here today. Thanks for coming on, man. Absolutely. I'm super excited to be here.
We've been chatting for a while now. Yeah, I've known about who you were because we have mutual friends, but never had a chance to actually meet you. So I'm excited to sit down.
Yeah, first time meeting. That's a power podcast, man. For sure. People you talk to for years online, you finally get to sit down, chop it up.
Yeah.
100%.
But yeah, I've heard about you for a while now, and you've really integrated yourself well in the space. Thank you. You've got a great reputation. Thank you. Is that something you were... People are saying good things. Yeah. I've never heard a bad thing. Makes me happy. Which is props to you, man. Thank you, bro. Because in LA, there's a lot of shit talk.
Yeah, man, reputation is everything. I think especially when you start doing business seriously, you realize this is a long-term game. We're not here for a week, for a month. We're here for a year. Not for a year, for longer than a year, for decades, for decades. And so I think for me, I'm playing the long game. I'm all about people.
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Chapter 2: How does ego affect decision-making in entrepreneurship?
Chapter 3: What is the importance of gratitude in business?
Like, obviously it'd be great to have millions and millions and millions to pass along to the next generation, but you can't take it with you, man.
Like I care about my people and that's it. Did you have this belief when you weren't as financially set to?
no i was um my story's pretty interesting i mean i think we all have a similar journey in the sense of a lot of us struggle with ego and and pride right especially in your early 20s and i started making a lot of money and i was like dude i'm getting the nicest cars like the nicest watches and i was just focused on on the wrong things but um i think it definitely you know i had to go through some stuff i had to go through some pain and some suffering before i could um before i could learn how to truly live and exist and
Chapter 4: How can you overcome a victim mindset?
I think after that pain and suffering, when I found God, that's truly when it changed for me. Like it went from the ego mind to being led by the Holy Spirit and humility. And that's all matters.
Wow, that's powerful. I definitely want to hear that story. Yeah, I've been studying materialism and like the mindset behind it. It seems like it kind of puts you out of touch with spirit, with spirituality.
Yeah.
When you're down that road. I haven't seen someone super materialistic, but also super spiritual.
For sure.
It's a rare thing.
Yeah, I think it's okay to like nice things. If you want to provide for your family, you want to give them the best experiences, you want to take your mom around the world and make sure everyone's comfortable. And I think money is the tool that makes those things happen. But it shouldn't be your God. It shouldn't be what you wake up and you praise.
So I think that's the difference is when you praise the Lord and you walk on his path for you, The money will flow, man. It just comes.
So my earlier 20s, similar to you, all about money. That was my number one goal. I put it over family, friends, and my own health even. I wasn't going to the gym, wasn't working out, wasn't doing anything. And my mental health was complete shit also from that. So you can't be laser focused on just money.
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Chapter 5: What role does spirituality play in finding purpose?
You learn a lot from it. When I'm at the airport or in public, I be observing people.
What are some of your most common, I guess, observances? I'm switching the podcast back to you. No, you're good. What do you notice about people? What are some of your big takeaways?
micro expressions so like facial expressions i could tell like if they're confident if they're like maybe depressed even just based off facial expressions and body language i look at how they treat people so if they're with someone i see how they're talking to them that kind of shows me like their leadership style And this is stuff I'm observing before I even film with my guests normally.
I look at how they treat my staff, because sometimes I have my assistant here or something. I see if they talk to them the same way as me. And for me, that's a huge thing. Treat everyone the same. When I'm at restaurants, I see how they treat the server. This stuff's really important for me.
For sure. 100%, man. It's so important. You know what's interesting? I was thinking about this. what happens when it's your family member that's the piece of shit? You know what I mean? Like what happens when your father, your mother, your sister, your cousin is the person that's talking to the waiter in a poor manner? How do you deal with that, right?
And that's something I've been kind of trying to figure out is like, do you reprimand them? Like, do you say like, yo, you shouldn't be talking to this person this way. Um, and I've been praying about it cause I have someone very close to my family that operates that way and it is terrible cause I, I'm very kind to people.
Like any person I see, you know, I try to be as kind as I say thank you, you know, and make sure they feel seen. Um, so I've been praying about it and I think what I've learned is you just have to be the example and you just have to lead with kindness and hopefully the people around you will, um, will realize it and do it themselves. But you can't bring the, what is it?
You can't feed the horse, but you can bring the horse to the water.
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Chapter 6: How can you maintain authentic relationships while building a business?
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've heard that. No, facts though. And that's, I think boundaries are important in that situation. So with my family, I have strict boundaries with business stuff because they're not entrepreneurs. So I love my family, but they try to give me advice in entrepreneurship. It's not-
It's not conducive like it's not it's not gonna work most of the time because they haven't been down that path I'd rather get advice from someone that's an entrepreneur. So I think boundaries are important And if they're treating people like shit at a restaurant, it's really hard to change people man So I'm probably just not even gonna go out with you to eat anymore.
Yeah, you know, yeah, I feel that man boundaries is something I've been struggling with for sure I mean, that's like probably the hardest thing in my life right now is you know You got two parents, right? And that's all you got, your mom and your dad. And they brought you into this world with the grace of God.
And I think for me, I struggle with, I really want to give them the best life because they've worked so hard for me to be where I'm at. But you also got to remember like you've got your own priorities. You got to go to the gym, you got to eat healthy, you got to work and you got to balance all these things.
And so something that it's just something I've been kind of trying to figure out is how much time is enough with the people that I love. And I think what I'm realizing is every day I kind of just in the evening, I'll observe and kind of look back at the day. And I'm like, I'll kind of like do a self-reflection.
And I think that's been super helpful, like micro self-reflection to understand if my time is being spent the most wisely.
Yeah, that's so relatable, man. I was such a giver growing up. I used to put everyone before me and it ate at me, man. I realized I had to put myself first in certain situations. For sure. So that was a big learning lesson. But I always wanted a people please. I don't know if it was some childhood trauma or something, but that was how I thought growing up with friends, with family.
I wanted to put them before me. But that's not sustainable in the long run.
It's not. God gave us one holy temple, and we got to take care of it. If we don't take care of it, no one's going to do it for us.
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