Enneagram and Marriage

Embracing Adventure & Partnership in Marriage w/Hillary McCaskey (8-9 Pairing)

19 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Influencer and Coach (Enneagram & Coaching) Hillary McCaskey, 9w8 joins Christa to explore how her Enneagram type shapes her marriage to an 8. Togethe...

Enneagram Wing Influence: Understanding Subtle Differences

14 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Christa takes you on a journey through the subtle influences of Enneagram wings in marriage relationships. In this illuminating episode, she explores ...

A Mother's Day Special: When You Thought It Would Be Better Than This w/Jessica Turner, Author, 8

11 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Just in time for Mother's Day, this special episode features Wall Street Journal bestselling author Jessica Turner sharing hard-earned wisdom about re...

Strength in Surrender: A Type Eight's Guide to Vulnerability and Connection

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this illuminating mini-episode for anyone who finds themselves in a reactive Enneagram Eight space, Christa unveils tools for finding and accessing...

The Dance of Connection: How Emotional Regulation Transforms Your Marriage

30 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this stance episode, Christa helps you to explore how our emotional regulation patterns impact our closest relationships through the lens of stance...

Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift to Quit Playing Small w/Mary Marantz, Type 4 (4-9 Pairing)

28 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's all been done. I can't start until it's perfect. What if the critics come? In this episode, Christa talks with Mary Marantz, Enneagram 4, about...

Why Great Relationships Still Get Stuck: Moving Around the Enneagram

23 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why personal growth seems to follow predictable patterns of progress and plateau? In this illuminating episode, we dive into one of the En...

Engaging in Personal & Relationship Bible Study w/Philip Nation, VP & Publisher, Thomas Nelson , 4

21 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this illuminating episode of the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, we welcome Philip Nation, Vice-President/Publisher of Thomas Nelson Bibles and acc...

Holy Lament: Creating Space with God in Holy Week

16 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this special mid-week mini episode, Christa explores the ancient practice of biblical lament as a pathway to deeper intimacy with God and our spous...

Building a Thriving Marriage & Business with Brad and Sarah Johnson, 7-6

14 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this engaging episode, Brad and Sarah Johnson, Triad Partners, reveal how life as an entrepreneurial couple (Brad is the co-founder of Triad Partne...

Holding Vigil: The Sacred Arts of Prayer and Presence in Marriage

09 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that costs, but a...

When Both Partners Carry the Mental Load: A Better Share with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

07 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partner...

Beyond the Box: When You Don't Fit Just One Enneagram Type

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore...

Finding Grace in the Mess: Dana K. White on Home Management and Spiritual Freedom

31 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your ...

When Anxiety Takes the Wheel: Understanding Your Type's Relationship with Fear

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, proces...

Addiction in Relationships: How We All Heal Together w/Best-Selling Author Ian Cron, 4

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us al...

Building Internal Validation in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantl...

Beyond Self-Pres, Social & Sexual: A Fresh Take on Instincts That Drives You Forward w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman, Art of Growth

17 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Team...

Your 30 Min E + M Monthly Relationship Blueprint

12 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different appr...

The Space Between Us: Why Decentralizing Your Partner Creates Healthier Love

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of...

Living a Life of Radical Generosity with Craig & Laura Cooper, 3-9

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when we open our hearts and homes to others? Craig and Laura Cooper join us to share their extraordinary journey of faith and generosity ...

One Choice Away: Breaking Toxic Cycles with Justin & Trisha Davis

02 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for a powerful conversation with Justin and Trisha Davis about breaking the cycles that hurt our relationships. From navigating infidelity to ...

The Beauty of Broken Places: How Suffering Reshapes Marriage w/Award-Winning Author Kimberly Phinney, 9

26 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join Christa and award-winning writer and professor Kimberly Phinney for a tender yet powerful conversation about navigating suffering in marriage. Th...

Building Secure Love: Transforming Attachment Patterns with Julie Menanno, LMFT

24 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this powerful conversation with Julie Menanno, LMFT (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment pa...

Understanding Your Arrows: Why Your Partner Seems Different Under Stress

19 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why your partner acts completely different under stress? Join Christa as we explore the Enneagram arrows - your map to understanding relat...

The Marriage You Want: Breaking Free from Stereotypes with Sheila Rae Gregoire, 8

17 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for a powerful must-listen conversation with bestselling author Sheila Rae Gregoire, 8, about creating true partnership in marriage. Using evi...

“Let Them” in Love & Marriage: Stop Trying to Change Your Partner and Start Living Your Life

12 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join Christa as we explore the transformative power of letting your partner be exactly who they are as we pair Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory with the...

Perfect Timing: When to Have Hard Conversations in Marriage According to the Best Relationship Research

10 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timing can make or break a crucial conversation in marriage. Learn the science-backed best times for difficult discussions, understand your partner's ...

Breaking the Patterns That Break You w/Author Tori Hope Petersen, 4w3

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join us with bestselling author Tori Hope Petersen as we explore breaking free from patterns that hold us back in relationships just as she launches h...

Secure Love: Building Unshakeable Connection in Marriage w/EJ and Terah Kerwin 5-2

03 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join us with EJ Kerwin, LPC and Terah Kerwin, LMFT (5-2 pairing), founders of Relationship Renovation as we explore how every couple can build secure,...

Healing Childhood Wounds Together: Supporting Your Partner's Growth Path

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join Christa as we explore the delicate dance of healing childhood wounds within marriage. Discover how to create safe spaces for growth, understand y...

The Enneagram in Real Life: Breaking Down Barriers with Stephanie Barron Hall, 3

26 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ready to move beyond theory into real transformation? Join us as bestselling author Stephanie Barron Hall unpacks how different types accidentally tri...

Your Partner's Enneagram Habits: How to Stop Taking Them Personally

22 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like your partner's Enneagram patterns are pulling you into a dance you didn't sign up for? In this transformative episode, we explore how t...

Family Patterns & Growing Grace: Navigating Life's Transitions with Ro Elliott, 2-9

20 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when your kids grow up and start their own families? How do you maintain boundaries while building bridges? In this heart-warming episode...

Beyond Stereotypes: Breaking Down Enneagram Misconceptions

14 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Think you know the Enneagram? Think again! This myth-busting episode challenges common stereotypes about each type, including the often-misunderstood ...

Finding Your Type: Patterns That Help You Know Yourself

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Confused about your Enneagram type? In this beginner-friendly episode, we're exploring three powerful ways to understand your type: through Intelligen...

The Growth Accelerator: How Your Partner's Type Makes You Better

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why your partner's different approach to life - the very things that sometimes drive you crazy - might be exactly what you need? In this e...

Power Moves: Each Type's Secret Strength in Building an Amazing Marriage

06 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ready to unlock the hidden superpower your Enneagram type brings to your marriage? This week on Enneagram and Marriage, we're diving into each type's ...

Resolution Revolution: The Enneagram & Marriage Guide to Real Marriage Change

01 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Here on the very first episode of the year on the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast, we're exploring what meaningful resolutions look like for each Enneagr...

The Relationship Time Capsule: Your Year-End Love Story

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ready to celebrate your love story? In this intimate year-end episode, Christa guides you and your partner through capturing your most precious moment...

The Social Heart Learns Self-Care: A Conversation with Wes Hardin

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On today's soul-stirring episode, Christa welcomes a special guest – her husband Wes. As a social dominant, Wes has spent years mastering the delica...

Holiday Gift Tips for Spouses & Family Members of Every Type: An E + M Mini Episode

18 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tis the season where you can get SO busy with trying to wrap things up at work or school that you can forget the kind of things you can wrap up in ter...

Bonus Holiday Episode: A Parks and Rec Typing Special w/Melody Hardin, 9 and Christa Hardin, 7

15 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The people in the fictional town of Pawnee, Indiana try their best to make sure the world is run according to the best of their ideals on one of the w...

Help for the Hard Days This Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode

11 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When something really hard hits you around the holidays, you need both help and hope. Today’s mini-episode delivers both, and adds a spark of joy to...

Rewilding Relationships w/Award-Winning Author Lore Ferguson Wilbert, 9w8

09 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"The way to unity is not through uniformity, it is through understanding and loving the other." - Lore Ferguson Wilbert. Whether it’s your spouse, f...

Navigating The Three Enneagram Instincts (Sp, Sx, So) This Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode

04 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The busy times over the holidays can truly take a person -- and a marriage -- down to an unhealthy level if they're not intentionally stepping into li...

Holding to a Posture of Hope Even After Everything This Advent w/Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Advent begins in the dark, and at this weary time of year, we truly need reminders of what we can hope for and how we can remain with one another, des...

What to Do When There's a Desire Mismatch in Your Marriage

27 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Often couples have a mismatch in their sexual desire, and sometimes that desire is stronger in the females, not just the males, contrary to popular be...

Personality and Wholeness: 9 Patterns of Developmental Pathways w/Dr. Dan Siegel, MD

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Relational triggers only get worse when we're not aware of our focus of attention and blind spots. Today we're grateful to have world-renowned psychia...

How Each Type Can Better Communicate with Their Partner: An E + M Mini

20 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Communication between partners can get very sticky around the holidays so today we’re taking some time to allow you a chance to refresh and review t...

Releasing Your Personality Shadows w/Master Enneagram Teacher Leslie Hershberger, Type 7

18 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We see others' shadows readily, but seeing and releasing our own shadows is where the real change begins, even as we learn to move beyond our protecti...

Five Joyful Habits to Set For Your Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode

13 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

With the holidays around the corner, it’s time to get refreshed and to get into better habit-building for you and your marriage and family. Today Ch...

The Enneagram for Teens w/Author Ainsley Britain, Type 2 (and Hannah Hardin, Type 4)

11 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Modern-day kids have so much to contend with between technology, AI, and also just learning who they’re becoming as they rapidly change. As a parent...

Three Tips to Bring Peace to Your Week: An E + M Mini Episode

06 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Maintaining peace is hard on a week when the world feels a bit less stable during election week. Here are three tips for maintaining peace as you lear...

Going Deeper w/Conversations in Your Marriage w/Marriage365 Casey and Meygan Caston, Types 7 and 8

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we stop talking, we stop connecting, and this is a week in the world when we realize that kind and deep conversations are more essential than eve...

Dealing with the Mental Load in Your Relationship: An E + M Mini- Episode

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The term mental load is a hot-button issue right now in relationships, and for good reason. Many individuals, often women, but sometimes men too, find...

Healing from the Inside with Marriage Therapist Blake Roberts, MMFT, Type 9

28 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Many times we want to work everything out relationally with our partner, but often the work must start within by finding your beliefs, emotions, and s...

Healing Misalignment As a Couple: An E + M Mini-Episode

23 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you're feeling misaligned as a couple, relationship desire is lower and you feel so misunderstood. Today not only do you get to walk through the ...

Why Healthy Authenticity is Everything in a Marriage (And How to Bring It!)

21 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Authenticity is deeply important for a thriving marriage, yet authenticity without intentional growth can bring out the very worst of humanity. Listen...

Bonus Episode: How to Recover Lost Desire in Marriage

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In our series, we’ve been connecting on how desire is built, but in this deeper dive episode, we talk about what prevents desire and how it is lost ...

Finding Harmony Together in Conflict w/Kristi Rowles, Type 6 of Enneagram University

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Although it's true that often the partners in a relationship have differing desires, it's also true that we must find ways back to harmony after confl...

Heal your Faith, Sexuality, and Relationships from Toxic Beliefs w/Dr. Camden Morgante, Type 6

12 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Growing up in spaces of faith, many if not most of us have inadvertently picked up on several toxic fallacies as we consider both how to espouse a mat...

Preparing for the Storms of Life Together: An E + M Mini-Episode

09 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We don't always know what to do when storms hit us, whether bad weather hits us internally or externally (such as the current hurricane season), but h...

Healing What's Within When You're Wounded, Weary, and Wandering w/Dr. Chuck DeGroat, Type 4

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Even if you're lined up with meaningful work you enjoy, if you're burning the wick at both ends in any way, your central nervous system doesn't know h...

Finding Your Purpose Together in Marriage: An E + M Mini-Episode

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In your marriages, sometimes you may feel like the only purpose you have is just to get by. Today’s episode offers tips for each and every type to n...

Creating a Culture of Healthy Authenticity in Marriage w/Leadership Coach Lantz Howard, Type 9

30 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Often, you can’t quite put your finger on what’s wrong in your marriage, but you know you’re floating in opposite directions, drifting apart, an...

Why Your Furnishings Matters Deeply in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini-Episode

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Conversations around furniture are frequent in couples' sessions. Where couples sleep, how they sit, and where they eat - all of this carries meaning ...

Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality w/Marriage Therapist and Writer Sam Jolman, Type 4

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's must-listen podcast episode is a vital piece of the sex talk you never got - a conversation about sexual issues as they show up in almost ever...

Healing Disconnection in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini-Episode

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In our quest to ensure our needs are met, it’s very common to start the work by getting self-care and then getting irritated with our spouse when th...

Unearthing Beauty in Your Story & Relationships w/Mara Eller, Type 4

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened with...

An E + M Special: Breaking the Cycle of Sexual Exploitation w/Exodus Cry Founder Benji Nolot, Type 4

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual ...

Finding and Releasing the Emotions Holding You Back w/Adam Young, Enneagram 8

09 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma...

Finding Our Way Back Together in Conflict & for Each Type

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Every couple desperately needs to know how to repair, yet few know the steps for doing so. Finding one another after a conflict is hard, since couples...

Shifting Into Healthy Vulnerable in Relationships w/Raleigh Sadler, Type 6

02 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's one thing to be vulnerable by choice and quite another to find yourself unwittingly so. Today, we discuss the healthiest ways to share our human ...

An E + M Mini: Finding and Aligning Your Values in Marriage

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When spouses don't align on their deepest core values, it's hard to get along and yet many spouses find it hard to articulate what those core values e...

Bringing Your Laments Into the Light w/Tanner Olson of Written to Speak, Type 3

26 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When heartbreak happens, you're not alone. Yet often our first human instincts involve shutting down fast and then isolating ourselves, spilling grief...

Emotionally Attuning w/Yourself This Season: An E + M Mini

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Each of us has emotional parts of ourselves that are difficult to access - we are busy and survival does not allow for constant and deep self-attuneme...

Writing the Book Inside of YOU w/Best Selling Authors Ariel Curry, 9, and Liz Morrow 5

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Eighty percent of adults say they want to write a book, but getting started can be intimidating. How does one even go about starting? How do you get a...

Chasing Your Calling with Courage with Dr. Sandra Richter, PhD

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s hard to be brave enough to step into our calling sometimes, especially if there's fear that God won’t show up for us. When we have heroes in ...

Fighting for One Another's Dreams & Values in Relationship w/Lauren Handel Zander, Creator of the Handel Method

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After the honeymoon years, it's easy to miss one another and see one another as enemies in relationship versus fighting for one another's dreams and a...

How Incorporating Internal Family Systems Can Heal Your Relationship

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Couples work involves not just the external families each partner comes from, but also the internal systems each brings to the relationship. IFS (Inte...

Three Steps for Bringing Your Joyful & Value-Driven Life to Light

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s important that as we live out our day-to-day life that we also make sure these daily rituals we are taking part in are also truly bringing our ...

Exploring the Scientific & Historical Validity of the Enneagram w/Tyler Zach

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Many would argue that the Enneagram is an extremely helpful tool to help us organize and sort out our struggles in nuanced ways so we may more accurat...

Going for the Gold for Every Type in Relationship

28 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As the Paris Olympics gets off the ground this summer, we've got a few fun recommendations for you as well as some personal growth tips for finding th...

Exploring the Hidden Chapter in The Enneagram in Marriage: Finding Your Bedroom Glow

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage issues in the bedroom can be downright confusing and complex across varying couple dynamics and seasons of marriage, especially when an unhea...

Recharging with Joy w/Carla H. Hayden, Type 8

22 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel a lack of direction or margin in your life or relationship? That once you do get a few minutes to yourself, you’re overwhelmed and bogge...

All About Type Ones + Ones With Each Type in Relationship

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...

Transcending Borders and Saving Lives Together w/Raeanne Newquist of Mercy Ships

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When a couple finds themselves aligned in values and begins to take care of themselves, often they're in the position to fulfill dreams and callings i...

All About Type Twos + Twos With Each Type in Relationship

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...

The Enneagram for Moms w/Beth McCord, Type 9

08 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Healthy parenting involves not only the journey of helping to love our kids but also understanding ourselves and the ways we handle stress. This often...

All About Type Threes + Threes w/Each Type in Relationship

03 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special, shorter ...

How to Negotiate Well in Your Marriage w/Dr. Wyatt Fisher

01 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Making negotiations in marriage is essential yet how we come to these is quite the task to undertake without good tools and training. Today we learn f...

All About Type Fours + Fours With Each Type in Relationship

26 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...

Creating Slow Rhythms in Your Marriage & Family w/Chris and Jenni Graebe, 7-1 Pairing

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we get to chat with Chris and Jenny Graebe (7w8 and 1w9 pairing) about how they slow down to create healthy rhythms for their marriage and for ...

All About Type Fives + Fives With Each Type in Relationship

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...

Redeeming Your Time & Relationships with Best-Selling Author Jordan Raynor, Type 3

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you have a lot of work goals but can't seem to accomplish anything in the allotted time your day actually gives you? Do you feel fren...

All About Sixes + Sixes With Each Type in Relationship

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...

Tips for Traveling for Every Type in Relationship, w/Geographer + Travel Expert, Angela Gilmeister, Type 1

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As Tolkien once said, "Not all who wander are lost," and you will be even less relationally lost as you wander into learning with E + M about the ins ...

All About Type Sevens + Sevens With Each Type in Relationship

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...

How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told with Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D.

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When infidelity wounds a couple, in the wise words of our guest today, Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D, best-selling author and the winner of the Thurber...