Enneagram and Marriage
Episodes
Beyond Stereotypes: Breaking Down Enneagram Misconceptions
14 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Think you know the Enneagram? Think again! This myth-busting episode challenges common stereotypes about each type, including the often-misunderstood ...
Finding Your Type: Patterns That Help You Know Yourself
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Confused about your Enneagram type? In this beginner-friendly episode, we're exploring three powerful ways to understand your type: through Intelligen...
The Growth Accelerator: How Your Partner's Type Makes You Better
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why your partner's different approach to life - the very things that sometimes drive you crazy - might be exactly what you need? In this e...
Power Moves: Each Type's Secret Strength in Building an Amazing Marriage
06 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ready to unlock the hidden superpower your Enneagram type brings to your marriage? This week on Enneagram and Marriage, we're diving into each type's ...
Resolution Revolution: The Enneagram & Marriage Guide to Real Marriage Change
01 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Here on the very first episode of the year on the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast, we're exploring what meaningful resolutions look like for each Enneagr...
The Relationship Time Capsule: Your Year-End Love Story
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ready to celebrate your love story? In this intimate year-end episode, Christa guides you and your partner through capturing your most precious moment...
The Social Heart Learns Self-Care: A Conversation with Wes Hardin
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On today's soul-stirring episode, Christa welcomes a special guest – her husband Wes. As a social dominant, Wes has spent years mastering the delica...
Holiday Gift Tips for Spouses & Family Members of Every Type: An E + M Mini Episode
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Tis the season where you can get SO busy with trying to wrap things up at work or school that you can forget the kind of things you can wrap up in ter...
Bonus Holiday Episode: A Parks and Rec Typing Special w/Melody Hardin, 9 and Christa Hardin, 7
15 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The people in the fictional town of Pawnee, Indiana try their best to make sure the world is run according to the best of their ideals on one of the w...
Help for the Hard Days This Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode
11 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When something really hard hits you around the holidays, you need both help and hope. Today’s mini-episode delivers both, and adds a spark of joy to...
Rewilding Relationships w/Award-Winning Author Lore Ferguson Wilbert, 9w8
09 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"The way to unity is not through uniformity, it is through understanding and loving the other." - Lore Ferguson Wilbert. Whether it’s your spouse, f...
Navigating The Three Enneagram Instincts (Sp, Sx, So) This Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode
04 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The busy times over the holidays can truly take a person -- and a marriage -- down to an unhealthy level if they're not intentionally stepping into li...
Holding to a Posture of Hope Even After Everything This Advent w/Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4
02 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Advent begins in the dark, and at this weary time of year, we truly need reminders of what we can hope for and how we can remain with one another, des...
What to Do When There's a Desire Mismatch in Your Marriage
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Often couples have a mismatch in their sexual desire, and sometimes that desire is stronger in the females, not just the males, contrary to popular be...
Personality and Wholeness: 9 Patterns of Developmental Pathways w/Dr. Dan Siegel, MD
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Relational triggers only get worse when we're not aware of our focus of attention and blind spots. Today we're grateful to have world-renowned psychia...
How Each Type Can Better Communicate with Their Partner: An E + M Mini
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Communication between partners can get very sticky around the holidays so today we’re taking some time to allow you a chance to refresh and review t...
Releasing Your Personality Shadows w/Master Enneagram Teacher Leslie Hershberger, Type 7
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We see others' shadows readily, but seeing and releasing our own shadows is where the real change begins, even as we learn to move beyond our protecti...
Five Joyful Habits to Set For Your Holiday: An E + M Mini-Episode
13 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With the holidays around the corner, it’s time to get refreshed and to get into better habit-building for you and your marriage and family. Today Ch...
The Enneagram for Teens w/Author Ainsley Britain, Type 2 (and Hannah Hardin, Type 4)
11 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Modern-day kids have so much to contend with between technology, AI, and also just learning who they’re becoming as they rapidly change. As a parent...
Three Tips to Bring Peace to Your Week: An E + M Mini Episode
06 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Maintaining peace is hard on a week when the world feels a bit less stable during election week. Here are three tips for maintaining peace as you lear...
Going Deeper w/Conversations in Your Marriage w/Marriage365 Casey and Meygan Caston, Types 7 and 8
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When we stop talking, we stop connecting, and this is a week in the world when we realize that kind and deep conversations are more essential than eve...
Dealing with the Mental Load in Your Relationship: An E + M Mini- Episode
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The term mental load is a hot-button issue right now in relationships, and for good reason. Many individuals, often women, but sometimes men too, find...
Healing from the Inside with Marriage Therapist Blake Roberts, MMFT, Type 9
28 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Many times we want to work everything out relationally with our partner, but often the work must start within by finding your beliefs, emotions, and s...
Healing Misalignment As a Couple: An E + M Mini-Episode
23 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you're feeling misaligned as a couple, relationship desire is lower and you feel so misunderstood. Today not only do you get to walk through the ...
Why Healthy Authenticity is Everything in a Marriage (And How to Bring It!)
21 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Authenticity is deeply important for a thriving marriage, yet authenticity without intentional growth can bring out the very worst of humanity. Listen...
Bonus Episode: How to Recover Lost Desire in Marriage
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In our series, we’ve been connecting on how desire is built, but in this deeper dive episode, we talk about what prevents desire and how it is lost ...
Finding Harmony Together in Conflict w/Kristi Rowles, Type 6 of Enneagram University
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Although it's true that often the partners in a relationship have differing desires, it's also true that we must find ways back to harmony after confl...
Heal your Faith, Sexuality, and Relationships from Toxic Beliefs w/Dr. Camden Morgante, Type 6
12 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Growing up in spaces of faith, many if not most of us have inadvertently picked up on several toxic fallacies as we consider both how to espouse a mat...
Preparing for the Storms of Life Together: An E + M Mini-Episode
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We don't always know what to do when storms hit us, whether bad weather hits us internally or externally (such as the current hurricane season), but h...
Healing What's Within When You're Wounded, Weary, and Wandering w/Dr. Chuck DeGroat, Type 4
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Even if you're lined up with meaningful work you enjoy, if you're burning the wick at both ends in any way, your central nervous system doesn't know h...
Finding Your Purpose Together in Marriage: An E + M Mini-Episode
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In your marriages, sometimes you may feel like the only purpose you have is just to get by. Today’s episode offers tips for each and every type to n...
Creating a Culture of Healthy Authenticity in Marriage w/Leadership Coach Lantz Howard, Type 9
30 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Often, you can’t quite put your finger on what’s wrong in your marriage, but you know you’re floating in opposite directions, drifting apart, an...
Why Your Furnishings Matters Deeply in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini-Episode
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Conversations around furniture are frequent in couples' sessions. Where couples sleep, how they sit, and where they eat - all of this carries meaning ...
Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality w/Marriage Therapist and Writer Sam Jolman, Type 4
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today's must-listen podcast episode is a vital piece of the sex talk you never got - a conversation about sexual issues as they show up in almost ever...
Healing Disconnection in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini-Episode
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In our quest to ensure our needs are met, it’s very common to start the work by getting self-care and then getting irritated with our spouse when th...
Unearthing Beauty in Your Story & Relationships w/Mara Eller, Type 4
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened with...
An E + M Special: Breaking the Cycle of Sexual Exploitation w/Exodus Cry Founder Benji Nolot, Type 4
11 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual ...
Finding and Releasing the Emotions Holding You Back w/Adam Young, Enneagram 8
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma...
Finding Our Way Back Together in Conflict & for Each Type
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Every couple desperately needs to know how to repair, yet few know the steps for doing so. Finding one another after a conflict is hard, since couples...
Shifting Into Healthy Vulnerable in Relationships w/Raleigh Sadler, Type 6
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's one thing to be vulnerable by choice and quite another to find yourself unwittingly so. Today, we discuss the healthiest ways to share our human ...
An E + M Mini: Finding and Aligning Your Values in Marriage
28 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When spouses don't align on their deepest core values, it's hard to get along and yet many spouses find it hard to articulate what those core values e...
Bringing Your Laments Into the Light w/Tanner Olson of Written to Speak, Type 3
26 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When heartbreak happens, you're not alone. Yet often our first human instincts involve shutting down fast and then isolating ourselves, spilling grief...
Emotionally Attuning w/Yourself This Season: An E + M Mini
21 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Each of us has emotional parts of ourselves that are difficult to access - we are busy and survival does not allow for constant and deep self-attuneme...
Writing the Book Inside of YOU w/Best Selling Authors Ariel Curry, 9, and Liz Morrow 5
19 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Eighty percent of adults say they want to write a book, but getting started can be intimidating. How does one even go about starting? How do you get a...
Chasing Your Calling with Courage with Dr. Sandra Richter, PhD
14 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s hard to be brave enough to step into our calling sometimes, especially if there's fear that God won’t show up for us. When we have heroes in ...
Fighting for One Another's Dreams & Values in Relationship w/Lauren Handel Zander, Creator of the Handel Method
12 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
After the honeymoon years, it's easy to miss one another and see one another as enemies in relationship versus fighting for one another's dreams and a...
How Incorporating Internal Family Systems Can Heal Your Relationship
07 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Couples work involves not just the external families each partner comes from, but also the internal systems each brings to the relationship. IFS (Inte...
Three Steps for Bringing Your Joyful & Value-Driven Life to Light
05 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s important that as we live out our day-to-day life that we also make sure these daily rituals we are taking part in are also truly bringing our ...
Exploring the Scientific & Historical Validity of the Enneagram w/Tyler Zach
31 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Many would argue that the Enneagram is an extremely helpful tool to help us organize and sort out our struggles in nuanced ways so we may more accurat...
Going for the Gold for Every Type in Relationship
28 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As the Paris Olympics gets off the ground this summer, we've got a few fun recommendations for you as well as some personal growth tips for finding th...
Exploring the Hidden Chapter in The Enneagram in Marriage: Finding Your Bedroom Glow
24 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Marriage issues in the bedroom can be downright confusing and complex across varying couple dynamics and seasons of marriage, especially when an unhea...
Recharging with Joy w/Carla H. Hayden, Type 8
22 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel a lack of direction or margin in your life or relationship? That once you do get a few minutes to yourself, you’re overwhelmed and bogge...
All About Type Ones + Ones With Each Type in Relationship
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
Transcending Borders and Saving Lives Together w/Raeanne Newquist of Mercy Ships
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When a couple finds themselves aligned in values and begins to take care of themselves, often they're in the position to fulfill dreams and callings i...
All About Type Twos + Twos With Each Type in Relationship
10 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
The Enneagram for Moms w/Beth McCord, Type 9
08 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Healthy parenting involves not only the journey of helping to love our kids but also understanding ourselves and the ways we handle stress. This often...
All About Type Threes + Threes w/Each Type in Relationship
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special, shorter ...
How to Negotiate Well in Your Marriage w/Dr. Wyatt Fisher
01 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Making negotiations in marriage is essential yet how we come to these is quite the task to undertake without good tools and training. Today we learn f...
All About Type Fours + Fours With Each Type in Relationship
26 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
Creating Slow Rhythms in Your Marriage & Family w/Chris and Jenni Graebe, 7-1 Pairing
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we get to chat with Chris and Jenny Graebe (7w8 and 1w9 pairing) about how they slow down to create healthy rhythms for their marriage and for ...
All About Type Fives + Fives With Each Type in Relationship
19 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
Redeeming Your Time & Relationships with Best-Selling Author Jordan Raynor, Type 3
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you have a lot of work goals but can't seem to accomplish anything in the allotted time your day actually gives you? Do you feel fren...
All About Sixes + Sixes With Each Type in Relationship
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
Tips for Traveling for Every Type in Relationship, w/Geographer + Travel Expert, Angela Gilmeister, Type 1
10 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As Tolkien once said, "Not all who wander are lost," and you will be even less relationally lost as you wander into learning with E + M about the ins ...
All About Type Sevens + Sevens With Each Type in Relationship
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told with Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D.
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When infidelity wounds a couple, in the wise words of our guest today, Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D, best-selling author and the winner of the Thurber...
All About Type Eights + Eights w/Each Type in Relationship
29 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
Somatic Tips for Every Type in Marriage w/Author and Coach Melissa Kircher, Type 5
27 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What a necessity it is to have great tools to process our conflict and trauma together in marriage, parenting, and relationships, and yet often in the...
All About Type Nines + Nines With Each Type in Relationship
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter e...
Mental Health & Relationships Across Personality Types w/Danielle Fuller, MS, Type 9
20 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
May is mental health month, a time dedicated to bringing awareness to those struggling or wondering what may be going on with them on days when you fe...
Special Episode: This is Us Typing Episode w/Dana Lawson, Type 9
15 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So many times, we relate to characters in a song or media outlet, and we don’t get to process them further. Today, you have a chance to do this with...
How to Stop Striving and Live Purposefully and Abundantly w/Author Becky Kiser, 3w2
13 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It can be so hard deciphering what your God-given dream is and then trying to get the steps just right, especially when you’re in the throes of moth...
Mother's Day Special: Around the Table with Each Enneagram Type Mom w/Alisa Taylor, Type 9
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Mother's Day to you and yours! In this Mother's Day week coffee chat with Christa and her dear friend of over twenty years, artist Alisa Taylor ...
What Every Partner of a 4, 6, or 8 Need to Know About Processing Conflict
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We often find ourselves struggling when we have a spouse with a different way of solving conflict than we have. Today we talk about having conflict wi...
Finding Hope in Hard Times w/Author and Pastor Matthew Stephen Brown, Type 3
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Across the personality spectrum, we each offer different giftings, and Type Threes offer us the reminder of holy Hope - the reminder that the race is ...
What Every Spouse of a 2, 7, or 9 Partner Needs to Know About Processing Conflict
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Many couples are frustrated by differing conflict styles and miss getting to resolution because of it. In this mini-episode, Christa assesses how to d...
Working on Toxic Patterns in Your Relationship w/Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke, Type 2
29 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How much emotional pain do couples have to endure before making the healthy changes that often feel so scary to initiate? This is a question many need...
Post-Traumatic Growth Lyrical Lessons from TTPD, Taylor Swift's The Tortured Poet's Department Dark Night of the Soul Album
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this special surprise mini-episode for Swiftie fans and for inquiring minds otherwise, Christa takes you on a journey of finding ways through pain ...
Bringing Minimalism to Your Marriage w/Diane Boden, The Minimalist Mom, Type 7 (7-5 Pairing)
22 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relat...
Learning to Reveal the Truth in Your Marriage w/Laurie Gerber, Enneagram 6
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't...
Bringing Joy & Clarity to Your Work w/Marty Munger, CEO, Work Coach Co, Type 7
15 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Whether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites y...
What Every Spouse of a 1, 3, or 5 (Logically Wired Partner) Needs to Know About Resolving Conflict
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Each of us needs to understand the other in conflict and yet our personalities get in the way. This listener-requested episode helps you to walk throu...
Finding Your Body's Monthly Rhythms for Relationship & Productivity, w/Occupational Therapist Renae Fieck, Enneagram 9w8
08 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Troubleshooting your life and intimacy stresses also includes understanding the rhythms of your own unique sensory up and down regulating at work and ...
Understanding the Sexual Response Cycle in Marriage: Igniting the Sexual Instinct Series
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Often, couples are too uncomfortable to ask their pastor or marriage counselor about how to build their love life in marriage in the areas of not just...
Sacred Rest for You & Your Relationship w/Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD, Type 3
01 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Rest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven diffe...
Building Sexual Attraction Together in Marriage: Igniting the SX Instinct Together in Marriage
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the E...
Connecting Authentically to Process Our Joy & Grief, w/Author Molly Stillman, 2w3 (2-8 Pairing)
25 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all n...
Igniting the SX Instinct in Marriage: An E + M Series
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexua...
Help for Dealing with Narcissists in Relationships, w/NPD Certified Expert Melissa Thompson
18 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vul...
Typing + Lessons in Love from Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lov...
Finding Restful Rhythms for Your Personality Type in Marriage
11 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the l...
Improving Energy Levels for Your Relationship Type by Type
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. ...
Caring for the Soul of the Helper with Dr. Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, Enneagram 2 (2-9 Pairing)
04 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life o...
An E + M Mini: Myers-Briggs (MBTI) & Your Marriage
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our re...
How Neurobiology Can Bring Safety, Empowerment, and Connection, w/Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT
26 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy...
Cultivating Humility in Your Relationship (For All Personality Types)
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a ...
All the Light We Cannot See, w/Wes Hardin, Enneagram 1
19 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark ...
Special Valentine’s Episode: Balancing Healthy Masculinity & Femininity To Ascend in Your Relationship
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join u...
Staying Calm & Resolving Conflict When You’re Upset, w/Mediator Hesha Abrams
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, ...
Taylor Swift and the Enneagram with Melody Hardin, Type 9
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Music can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Ta...