Fate Resilience

Avoidance

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why you are avoiding a problem? or a person? We talk about avoidance and why we do it! We know that it can get in the way, but it also is ...

Self-Compassion: A Solid Foundation for Motivation

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Often we'll do things out of fear or because we love other people. But how many times can you think of doing something because you love yourself?

Self-Compassion: Meeting Our Needs

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In a fast paced world full of dead lines and an attitude of "I'll sleep when I'm dead," how do we meet our needs? Join us for this...

Self-Compassion: Caring Force

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do care bears and therapy have a lot in common? Well, we are going to fudge it so it does! We talk about how a Caring Force can help us recognize the ...

Self-Compassion: Common Humanity

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This sounds like the topic of a philosophy class- what is Common Humanity? Well, we address this and discuss why it's an important part of the se...

What is Neurofeedback?

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We have talked a lot about neurofeedback, and let's talk about what it is! We have loved learning more research-based approaches to helping peopl...

Self-Compassion: Self-Kindess is different than self-compassion!

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We may seem like we are just saying the same thing with different words, but self-compassion is made of something that sounds similar, self-kindness. ...

Self-Compassion: It's all about mindfulness

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In taking apart the things that help us with our Self-Compassion, one thing we need to start with is being aware of the here and now. We need to be aw...

Let's talk about Self Compassion

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Question: Who doesn't need Self-Compassion? Answer- Trick question, everyone needs self-compassion! We start the discussion of why it is an impo...

Motivation: Using Values as Motivators

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is one of the best ways to find motivation? Follow your values! Whenever we work from a values-based thinking we can have a stronger drive to acc...

Motivation: Doing it out of Fear

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Did last week's episode feel out of place? Well if you felt that you passed the test! We accidentally switched this and last weeks. So, after you...

Motivations: so what do I GET for doing it? The benefits.

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"It is better to run towards something than away". Is that Pintrest quote true with Motivation? We talk about how looking for the benefits o...

Motivation- Worried about the outcome?

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

So what happens when we have a problem, but our habits are helping us at times? How do we navigate through sometimes our problems work for us?

Motivation: Trust in the Process, or not?

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we are having process resistance in our motivation to change, we need to learn how to first, validate the process is effective, and second, learn...

Motivation: Justification

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How many times do we encounter moments that we want to go outside of our goals or our plans and we have a really good reason for doing so? Meet Justif...

Motivation: Encountering Hopelessness

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

One of the things we can feel when our motivation isn't going the way we planned, or when it doesn't look like someone else's progress ...

Motivation: Resistance because of Fear

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we are trying to be Motivated and feel Fear it can be really uncomfortable to sit with . We want to use that as a reason why we need to just stop...

Motivation: Resistance because of Anger

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we are Motivated it can feel so exciting to be able to work towards our goals, but when we lose that motivation due to Anger arising it can feel ...

Motivation: Why?

01 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why can Motivation be so hard to find, and to continue to use to pursue our goals? We talk about what Motivation is, and then in the next few weeks di...

SMARTer Goals

26 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As we prep for a new year, goal setting can be the best and the worst for our mental health. We look at what SMART goals encompass, and how we can fin...

Ask a therapist:A lot of letters for a lot of therapy

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We got a question from a listener!What is the difference between a LCSW, LMFT and LCMHC? Oh and let's throw Psychology and Psychiatry in there to...

Loneliness & Isolation

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe we go on a couple of tangents... but we talk about Loneliness and Isolation. What is the issue with them, how to we combat it, and how does it u...

Overscheduling

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Not only during the holiday season, but in every season, is the urge to fill our time to the brim. It is great to be productive, but when does it go t...

'Tis the Season: Holiday Stressors and how to work through those

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As the Holiday Season is approaching we wanted to talk about how those stressors impact us, and ways we can help ourselves enjoy whatever we chose to ...

Mindfulness

24 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us as we look at what finding peace, mindfulness, and grounding all have in common. We also discuss what zoning out is in relation to that, and h...

Forgiveness

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We often learn about the healing power of giving and receiving forgiveness. We talk about all the levels of that, how it truly is helpful, and when fo...

Sexual Health

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we look at ways to support our sexual health. We talk about getting education about what Healthy options are out there, and ways we can vali...

Chronic Illness and Mental Health

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the hardest things is learning that you have a chronic illness, and not knowing how that will affect the different areas of life. We talk about...

Friendships as an Adult

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Remember when it was SO much easier making friends with the kids at school, or on the soccer team, or the art club? We talk about how these friendship...

Religion in Therapy

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Does Religion have a place in therapy. We talk about how we see people bring up the topic of Spirituality and Religion, the similarities and the diffe...

Stages of Change: Maintenance & Relapse

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As we wrap up reviewing Stages of Change we finish with Maintenance and Relapse. We talk about how Relapse is less of a scary scenario and more of an ...

Stages of Change: Action

03 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What can be one of the LONGEST Stages of Change, turns out to the one of the shortest episodes! We talk about what it looks like to be Acting on the t...

Stages of Change: Preparation

19 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The shortage stage in change is Preparation. What does that look like? We talk about how it can look in a few ways, and we LOVE the way James Clear ou...

Stages of Change: Contemplation

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Often one of the hardest places to be in the "change" process is at the beginning. We try to break down why it is such an important place, a...

Stages of Change: Intro & Pre-Contemplation

05 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In our last multipart series for a bit we are covering Stages of Change!We cover things like power struggles, what it means to start out on a path to ...

Best of!: Hailey's Pick- Drama Triangle: from Victim to Creator

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hailey's favorite episode was when we talked about going from a Victim mindset to a Creator role. With this change, we open up our options and be...

Best of!: Jen's Pick- PACE- Curiosity

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jan's favorite episode was when we were discussing the PACE acronym and worked through what Curiosity means! Being curious helps us grow and help...

Best of!: Taylor's Pick- Meeting Anger

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Taylor's pick for his favorite episode is Meeting the Emotions: Anger. In this episode, we see what Anger means to us, what it's trying to t...

Best of!: Self-Care

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are revisiting some of our favorite episodes over the next few weeks. This week we are re-listening to our top all-time episode about Self-Care. W...

Boundaries: Zero Depth Boundaries

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In the conclusion of our Boundaries Series, we talk about how we are able to decide how "deep" we want our boundaries to go! Episodes will ...

Boundaries: Trust Equation

11 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So what makes up trust? (Credibility + Reliability + Intimacy)/Self Interest = TRUSTWe break down the Trust equation in today's episode and talk...

Boundaries: Freedom & Responsibility go with Trust

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Often when we talk about Boundaries we wonder how we make up this Trust we can have for ourselves and others. Freedom and Responsibility are key parts...

Boundaries: Subsystems

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Boundaries have a funny way of making things more complicated at times, but once you understand why we bring things up into parts it actually makes it...

Boundaries: Heirarchy

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, we talk about how we find hierarchy in boundaries. Often we think that means one partner is "better" than the other...

Boundaries: Triangles and Power struggles

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We have more triangles! We probably should have gone into geometry..... we are going over how triangulation happens in relationships and how those oft...

Boundaries: Finding Priorities

06 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we think about boundaries, we often feel overwhelmed by everything we need to protect. We need to start with priorities of what we work on first....

Boundaries: Where do we begin? Values

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When discussing Boundaries the not as known companion it has is Values! How do we find those values? What do we use them for when finding boundaries? ...

Intro to Boundaries

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Boundaries are a MUCH needed topic when we think of our relationships with others and how to be balanced and healthy. In this episode, we talk about j...

Post Traumatic Growth: Self-Actualization

16 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So we have worked through past traumas and are trying to see how we can continue to grow, this is when we reach a point of Self-Actualization! Learn m...

Post Traumatic Growth: Awakening

09 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

While we are healing from our past traumas we go through an Awakening process, what meaning did I find, how does this impact who I am, what do I want ...

Post Traumatic Growth: Transformation

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What does Transformation look like after trauma? We go over Riding waves and what the difference between Self Sabotage vrs. Self Love is. 

Post Traumatic Growth: Self-Discovery

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this first part we identify the steps we need to take after a Trauma in learning about Self. This is an important step, especially since Trauma can...

Understanding Post Traumatic Growth Intro

20 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we discuss what happens after the Trauma. We know we would like to have growth after those events, so how does that look? We start loo...

Trauma from Death

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As we wrap up going over Trauma's we finish with trauma that can come from death. Sometimes the trauma is in the way it occured, sometimes in the...

Trauma from Injury

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we talk about the trauma that happens to the person involved, and those around them when an injury occurs. Sometimes we think it will just a...

Knowing Abuse: Betrayal Trauma

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week Jennifer and Hailey talk about Betrayal Trauma and what it looks like. It can be present in ALL sorts of relationships, and we talk about ho...

Knowing Abuse: Addiction

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Addiction can often be seen as just a problem for the individual, but in this week's episode we look at how it actually impacts those around them...

Knowing Abuse: Sexual Abuse

15 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We often have the heavy task in therapy of discussing the issues of sexual abuse with our clients. Here we outline what those things are, as well as d...

Knowing Abuse: Domestic Violence

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Knowing what Domestic Violence looks likei s extremely helpful for those IN the relationship and those seeing it in relationships around them. We talk...

Knowing Abuse: Physical

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Another heavy topic but we break it down to help explain what physical abuse looks like and how we as humans are resilient and work through these chal...

Knowing Abuse: Neglect

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we continue to talk about how abuse can shape an individual, this time discussing Neglect. *Trigger warning, this episode does discuss diff...

Knowing Abuse: Emotional

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we start to learn more about a heavy topic: abuse. When looking at the types there are many, and we start with discussions about Emoti...

REPOST! Self-Care!

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In honor of Valentines Day we want to remind you to love and take care of yourself! New episode will be out TOMORROW (Wednesday) but please re-listen ...

T stands for Trauma

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we start to look at that word Trauma and what it means. We discuss some different types and ways we can validate our own experiences. 

Drama Triangle-Coach/Caretaker

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are finishing up on our dive into the Drama Triangle. We finish up with Coach and Caretaker roles and talk about how how we can best support those ...

Drama Triangle and TED: Victim/Creator

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Well we finally did it! We got the first installment of the Dreaded Drama Triangle/ The Empowerment Dynamic on here! Join us as we review what the Dra...

Drama Triangle and TED: Persecutor/Challenger

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Here we go with starting the Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic (TED). We start with Persecutor and Challenger!

Attachment- Rupture and Repair

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So we are finishing up Attachment, what happens when it Ruptures? We are going to discuss not only what we do when it ruptures, but what we do in orde...

Attachment - Codependency

03 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When asked the question, "what really is Codependency?" we gave it an answer!There are 3 main types of codependency, and we will explain all...

Attachment - Fearful Attachment

27 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When we have a difficult time keeping and maintaining relationships we often find ourself looking into the option of being fearfully attached. 

Attachment - Avoidant Attachment

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Often given a negative reputation, Avoidant attachment is a great key to understanding how we keep ourselves safe while in relationships. Join us as w...

Attachment - Anxious Attachment

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Remember those good old days as a teen? The angst, the stress, the acne? Well we aren't planning on making you go back to those days but let&apos...

Attachment - Secure Attachment

06 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We are diving into the different attachment types! Join us in discussing what Secure attachment means, and how learning how to identify it can help yo...

Attachment and PACE-Empathy

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we conclude our looking into the PACE attachment model we finally look into the last part, Empathy. It's sometimes hard to know how to show em...

Attachment and PACE-Curiosity

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What was said to have killed a cat will help strengthen your relationship!Today we talk about how curiosity helps you get to know those around you at ...

Attachment and PACE-Acceptance

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we learn about Attachment we are looking at the PACE acronym, We move on to Acceptance. What does it mean to have true Acceptance in our relationsh...

Attachment and PACE:Playfulness

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we learn about Attachment we are looking at the PACE acronym, starting with P-Play. How does play help in our attachments? We talk about how it is ...

Attachment

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

And here we go into looking at Attachment! We start breaking down the basics and we will get into more details in the next few weeks!

Wrapping up with the emotions

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this weeks episode we are talking about how to to use the info we went over with all the different emotions, and how we can work through the identi...

Meeting the Emotions: Anger

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Often seen as a secondary emotion, Anger has its own messages to share with us. We can look at what brings us to this point, and what the emotion help...

Meeting the Emotions: Resentment

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Resentment isn't often a well known emotion as far as the definition, but we have all felt it! Join us in discussing this sometimes heavy emotion...

Meeting the Emotions: Hurt

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

With an emotion that feels very uncomfortable, and often as a result of others actions, we learn what it means to find meaning in Hurt and how it actu...

Meeting the Emotions: Love

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As was asked in the early 90's: What is Love? Today we meet Love and start talking about the types of Love, what it's purposes are and go ev...

Meeting the Emotions: Happiness

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As much as we strive to be Happy, what does that emotion actually tell us? In meeting this weeks emotion we are looking at what makes us happy, how do...

Meeting the Emotions: Peace

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ahhhhhhh what a great emotion we have this week! Join us in our discussion of what Peace is, and how do we finally have a chance to achieve it!

Meeting the Emotions: Bored

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In meeting this unsung emotional hero of creativity, we talk about the benefits of learning more about being Bored. Using it as a tool to take a look ...

Meeting the Emotions: Tired

30 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Not only do we start out with a great Dad Joke, we also get into explaining that feeling tired is a lot more than just needing sleep. Join us as we lo...

Meeting the Emotions: Loneliness

23 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One CAN be the loneliness number, but as we know, two can be as bad as one. Loneliness has a purpose and we can learn a lot about ourselves when we ar...

Meeting the Emotions: Disgust

16 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week are are meeting Disgust and how it's role is to protect. As we learn not to get stuck in the emotion, we learn how we can stay out of t...

Meeting the Emotions: Shame Part 2

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this two part episode we take apart Shame. In Part 2 we address the 3 ways we react to shame, Moving Away, Towards and Against as well as talking a...

Meeting the Emotions: Shame Part 1

02 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this two part episode we take apart Shame. In Part 1 we talk about what shame's goal is, and how do we start to work through it, rather than t...

Meeting the Emotions: Guilt

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In Part 4 of Meeting the emotions we look at Guilt. Guilt is different than shame, so we need to be aware of how that looks. Please join us as we talk...

Meeting the Emotions: Fear

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In Part 3 of Meeting the Emotions we are looking at Fear and how it helps us in finding Safety. By being able to validate Safety we are able to accomp...

Meeting the Emotions: Anxiety

12 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In the 2nd part of Meeting the Emotions we are looking at an emotion that has a lot of misconceptions. Even in bringing up the name of Anxiety we tend...

Meeting the Emotions: Sadness

05 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we go through the emotions we learn about their purposes in helping us meet our needs. Sadness is often one we label as a "bad" emotion a...

Self Care

28 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder what exactly Self-Care is? Hailey, Jen and Taylor try to help you out with what the true meaning of Self-Care is. It's a lot more abo...

Intro to the team

28 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are 3 therapists better than 1? Get to know Hailey Maire, LCSW, Jennifer Oxford, LCMHC and Taylor Madsen, LMFT what we have in mind for the podcast!