Chapter 1: What is the main theme of this episode?
Welcome to this week's episode of Father Knows Something. What does Justin know today? What do I know? What do you know? Probably a little more than something. I only know something, but one thing I do know is, and you will all notice, Dad's not wearing socks today. Dad worked on the car. He was fixing things. He got dirty. He said, I can't go to the studio like this.
So Justin decided to give me some hand-me-down shorts. As you would imagine, it's like 90 degrees outside. It's a beautiful day in LA right now. It's way too hot. That's beautiful. And we're in beautiful downtown Burbank where they used to film the Johnny Carson show. So no free feet pics. So everyone should join Patreon. That doesn't apply today.
It does not because I have, well, it's not a totally naked foot. Everyone's collectively going, oh. They don't stink. They're clean. Well, they're safe from that. They don't, that's not helping their eyes. It looks like you've been walking around in the trenches. Uh, probably. Trench foot. Probably. There's a champagne, uh, cap or wine cap. I decided to dress up the big toe. It's all cool. Yeah.
Justin's just not impressed. Yeah. Very cool. All right. So, uh, why don't you tell us about the theme tonight? Well, we're going into the world of dating. Okay. Keeps coming around. It does. There will never not be dating problems. We should just call this the dating show.
Well, and you know what's interesting about dating is you can encounter this many different times over and over like a cycle. Because when you're dating, you're meeting different people until you find your person. Then sometimes that doesn't even work out. Turns out they weren't your person. All of a sudden you're dating again.
So at any age, any time in life, you can find yourself dating and can encounter these problems. And I think it's interesting. Some people date to find the right person. Right. And some people just date to date. Depends where you're at. Let's kick it off. This episode of Father Knows Something is presented by Walmart. If you had a baby, you know how fast essentials add up.
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I have been a faithful listener to the show for a few years now. I would love to hear your thoughts on something I've been pondering for a while now. Do tell. I am a 24 year old woman studying medicine in Europe. That is how I met my boyfriend three years ago at a uni event. And we have been together for two and a half years. In my opinion, our relationship is good and strong.
Now onto the pondering part. My boyfriend finished med school two years ago and has been struggling to find a job since. He's from a different part of the world, but still lives in my country currently. He has tried to get a job in an English speaking country, but it sadly didn't work out. Here in my country, he isn't able to work due to high state language level requirements for doctors.
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Chapter 2: How can writers effectively deal with setbacks?
Ideal outcome, I learn how to deal with uncertainty at the moment and don't put so much pressure on knowing my future path. Moving to be with each other, I mean, to start off right now, if he got the job in country number B and you're in country number A and you're apart, you know, I do believe in medicine.
And I'm not trying to be funny, but I only go from what I've heard from interns in residency. There's no life other than work and sleep. So, you know, you'll probably survive that one. Because you guys are so focused on just working in medicine. And the fact that you have this two and a half years of foundation, hopefully that will carry you.
And you guys will just realize you got to be in different parts of the world at that point in time. when you decide to go to um graduate and you're going to become an intern i would imagine that you'll go you'll try to get a job in this country wherever he is and but again you're going to be fully booked and you know it's down to the relationship how you guys are able to keep it together
motivate each other and still continue with your careers, but to let your relationship grow in the dysfunction that it probably will be in, I would imagine, because it's a dysfunctional life, that period of your life, until you really do get a handle of getting out of 48-hour or 24-hour or 32-hour shifts, whatever they do. I just know it's crazy.
And I don't know enough on how crazy, but I just know it's crazy. I guess it comes down to moving and committing to this with the idea that, and I'm not saying this in a negative way, but a relationship can always end for whatever reason. And so- Or weather the storm.
Yeah, well, no, certainly it could, but I'm just, I think you have to think about all possibilities here in making a big decision like this.
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Chapter 3: What are common dating problems discussed in the episode?
Because in moving to a different country, you are going to change the course of your life. And you got to think about if that relationship doesn't last, is your plan to go back? You'd probably go back to where you're from. And then, you know, it depends on the career, I guess, too. And it depends on where you have to write out that, you know, that internship.
If you have to write it out at that hospital, if there's a commitment there. I mean, there are... But that's life when we start careers. I mean, they're not always, you know, in the same neighborhood that we would think it would be. And because you're in a different neighborhood doesn't mean that making that life change in the relationship will say succeeds. Fantastic.
And if it doesn't succeed, you know, you make that determination for the following up, you know, level of your internship or residency where you're going to put your applications to go.
right well assuming the relationship does succeed i think the crux of it's in the additional info the country we would potentially move to is near my country the culture is similar the healthcare system is one of the best in the world and i love learning new languages but i am scared of the prospect of working and raising a family in a different country
I feel worried that my parents and relatives will be saddened by me moving since I never considered it before. We won't have any of our parents as closely as we wanted, and if slash when we have kids, it might be very tough.
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Chapter 4: How do relationships evolve over time?
This change in my vision of the future makes me feel more confused about what I want to do professionally, and medicine feels lackluster right now. All I can tell you is that... you do the best you can and seeing where he gets a job. You guys know that right now, your belief is that you do have a life with him and you're going to work on that.
And we're going to get curve balls and you just deal with them. You just bat them off and till you hit the home run. So just, you know, long as you're together and you guys have a, an emotional connection, mental, you know, joining, then I think it's, you continue on that path and you just do what you can. You may not have a job in the same community right now.
And then again, you may, it's all what you guys are able to pull off getting, getting work. Because there's a balance of being prepared for the future, but also not putting too much weight on the future and more looking closely at the near future and right now. Because if you always worried about the long run, that may hinder some decisions that could be really good for you now.
So I guess it's just a balance because if you look at the second half of this of all with kids, with being close to family and all of that, that would push me to think, well, probably doesn't make sense to move. But the other side of that coin is We can move, see what happens, see how this relationship develops, see what happens career-wise, because we can always come back.
Yeah, I really don't see where she's questioning the relationship with the person, with the guy. I see that she's just questioning the relationship on how they're going to live and how they're going to function. Right. And the bottom line is you've made your determination right now. You guys have a relationship. Your relationship is going to be a daily thing activity to support it.
And you guys are just going on how we're making our living. And you're going to possibility be apart for a while. You may be together. I mean, I know I have a friend that they live here. However, one of the spouse had to go shoot a movie work on a movie set in South Africa for six months gone. Yeah.
You know, she comes back, she visits, but the bottom line is they are apart and surviving their relationship and they both miss each other. And, you know, they talk, you know, consistently, we do have, you know, FaceTime, we do have other, you know, things that back in my day, we didn't have, you know, it's, it's a whole different world where you can, you know, you can connect. And it's better.
But they realize in this period of time in their marriage, they're apart. But that doesn't change their love, doesn't change anything else. They know that there's going to be an end to this project. And we're going to be reunited. We're going to be back at home together. And look, there might be another movie coming up. Not planned, but it could happen. Another shot.
And the next thing you know, you're gone for another six months on a shoot. That's their livelihood. Well, that's what it's about. That's what this, I think the whole crux of this is about uncertainty and having a plan in your head, being able to deal with that plan taking a left turn or a hard right turn. And that's kind of a big part of life.
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Chapter 5: What advice is given for handling job loss and career transitions?
You got to, because life is so inconsistent. Expect the unexpected. That's right. If you do that, you can't be disappointed. I imagine we should all take up surfing because we have no idea what's going to happen with the curl as we're going through the tube. Right. Just don't know. Yeah. Let us know what you decide.
And it's a big decision, but also at the same time, it's like you can always go back. So it's part of me has always been like, oh, let's go see. Let's go see what that's all about.
Chapter 6: How should one approach unresolved issues in a relationship?
But you're doing it together. The fact that you guys, you have a partner that you guys can sit and laugh about these experiences, and you may not be laughing, I get that. But the fact that you're doing it together, that means more than anything.
that you have someone that you can grab their hand or take them in your arms and hold them and tell them that you love them and that you're going to get through the next challenges. And that's really what this is all about. That is the walk of life, at least the way that I see it. Yeah. All righty. Let's move on to number two. Number two. Hi, Jerry and all.
I'm hoping I can get some sage advice on two separate issues I've struggled with for nearly a year. Okay. Please share your wisdom. I need help. I will try my best to be brief. Okay. I, female 33, the week before I was set to start my ninth year, was reorganized and out of a job March 2024 after eight years of dumb loyalty. I got a severance, which was nice.
I had a cushion and support from my mom, dad, sister, and ex-boyfriend. This is important for my second issue. While I grieved what felt like a loss of my identity. I enrolled in my local college to keep my mind busy as applying for jobs took a toll and was going nowhere. Through all of this, I got it stuck in my head that I want to go to dental hygiene school.
I feel like this is a safe bet and I truly don't believe in the do what you love mantra because I value the security and safety of a job. Now the issue is that I'm enrolling in the last semester of classes I need in the fall to even be able to apply to the program. I'm having doubts about committing to this and regretting it later or not liking the job.
I'm unsure if I should go with something else quick and safe like accounting.
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Chapter 7: What strategies can help in making difficult life decisions?
My second issue, to keep it as brief as possible, the aforementioned ex-boyfriend and I are considering getting back together. We were together for 10 years with the last two of those being on and off. I moved out and we've been broken up for three years. We've had a myriad of issues including infidelity on both sides.
While I cannot possibly go into detail of all 10 years, Jerry is always saying if it's meant to be, we will work things out. My friends and I are saying I will regret this, but my heart is telling me that not only have we both grown and changed, but we've discussed all of our needs and wants and how to be better as a couple. Please give me some guidance.
My ideal outcome would be just knowing I am taking the right steps in my career path and the hopeless romantic in me believes that the reason neither of my relationships, both just under a year, in the span of the last three years did not work out because I had already found the one. I am so glad you hit me with this one. Really am. You guys have never heard me say this. You ready for it? Okay.
Do not dump the dude. Do not dump the dude. I really believe by hearing the story and hearing how you articulated it, that you have both grown from this. And the fact that you guys had infidelity and you realize, hey, that's in the past because now I know who we are and what to appreciate. Now you have a chance. at least that's my gut feeling. Right.
So I really am impressed that you guys have had this ability and thought. So far as the job, that's all a different conversation. But step one, do not dump the dude. And no one has ever heard me, you never heard me say, do not dump the dude. Well, maybe I have. I'd have to scroll back. You go find that one. I don't think, you can go through all the search engines.
Yeah, I mean, the fact that you've been together, that you were together 10 years, you've been broken up for three, and you're both mutually coming back, that's what we talk about a lot. It's the perfect play on it. And I believe you guys can, if you've really grown from it, and you get it and you appreciate and love one another, you'll have a long life together and a full life.
That's my gut feeling. Now let's go tackle your job. Grieving a job? Absolutely. I get it. And I know jobs are tough. The fact that you went to go to school to go... just to learn something else.
And accounting versus this, you can't ask anybody else that question because if you ask me about being a dental hygienist versus an accountant, I will tell you me being an accountant would be like pulling teeth. I would be in pain every day. If I was a dental hygienist, it's a craft. It would be like pulling teeth. It would be like pulling teeth, but not getting your own teeth pulled.
You have to just kind of do something. I do believe you have to do something that you like. And both jobs are trades. One is a trade with numbers. And the other one is a trade because you're doing something mechanical. Mm-hmm. Yeah, it's still, both are procedural. That's correct. But you're going to have to do that one on your own and find out what your love is.
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Chapter 8: How can one find closure after a breakup?
Yeah, and I mean, you can find something consistent and that's reliable, that gets you by, gets the bills paid and allows you to live the life you want. But you can always be searching for what you truly love to do. You can still be discovering new passions, new jobs, new things along the way. You don't know where they'll come from. I had no idea that I'd be in this chair. Exactly.
And ask me how much I like this, guys. I love, love talking to you. I love having you guys tune in each week and say things on the comments. And I love when we are able to have our relationship in our family. This to me is great. And I thank you and Morgan for doing it with me. Yes, of course. One last little funny thing on this. Also, his name is Jerry. Ha ha. Definitely don't dump the dude.
I don't know. I think you might need to dump the dude. Hi guys, Dad here. This episode is brought to you by Walmart. If you've been through the baby stage, you know how fast things disappear. You swear you just bought diapers and suddenly you're back in the store again. That's where Walmart's annual baby event comes in. Right now, they've got thousands of rollbacks and more.
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You can shop the baby event from February 16th to April 17th on Walmart's app, online, or in the store. Thanks, Walmart. All right, let's go to number three. Hi, Jerry, Morgan, and Justin. I absolutely love Father Knows and THT, and when I knew I needed advice, y'all were the first ones I thought of. I'm so glad. I'm back in the dating world after some pretty terrible relationships I've had.
I, 28, non-binary, was asked out by my coworker, 26 male, and I decided to go for it. It was the best date of my life. He brought me roses, opened doors for me, and didn't expect me to pay, which was all new to me. Everything was amazing until we started to discuss what we wanted for our futures.
I've always been in the mindset of adopting children, as there are so many kids in this world that need a home, and I've never been fully sure about having kids in my body. He said he absolutely wants biological kids and doesn't know if he could adopt. This was honestly my biggest fear leading up to the date is that we would have different wants for our futures.
So I guess my question is, do you think there could be a world in which we meet in the middle? As in having a biological child and adopted child without ending up resenting each other in the long run? Or if everything else fits perfect, but this one thing doesn't, does it mean things will have to come to an end? Any advice would be so appreciated. Love you, Father Knows Family.
So in two reads ago, we talked about be prepared for anything. Life does not always present itself as we would think. Yes. So when I was in my 20s, if someone told me that my children were going to be from other men, and their mother, I would never marry. And I would have the most amazing life of my life with my kids. I would have told you, you are insane. That is no way it would ever happen.
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