Feminist Survival Project
Episodes
Introduction to Fun Things We Like
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about something pleasant. Emily and Amelia discuss the books, videos and what have you that are making them happy this year. It’s time ...
Navigating Holiday Gatherings With Family
13 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are coming. What do you do if you have family whose politics you abhor? Turns out it depends. Stick around to the end for Amelia’s high...
Exploring Shadows and Vulnerability
30 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Turns out Emily actually does have a Shadow. And she’s a half-orc wizard.Links:The Science of Saving Your Sex LifeTo Maximize Your Potential, Maximi...
The Bubble of Love and Connection
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a bubble of love? Do you know how to build one? Emily and Amelia discuss how they managed to do it, and how Frozen is more than just a kid...
Cozy Fall Vibes
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The days are getting shorter. It’s going to be colder soon. It’s time to get cozy. It’s time to get… hygge. Candles and pumpkins and cheese, o...
Amelia and the Very, Very Expensive Month (A No-Buy Update)
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia had a painfully costly month. Emily bought Crocs that look like Big Bird’s feet. But in the end, they find the true meaning of No Buy / Low B...
Diving into the Shadow: An Introduction
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For every personality trait, there is a shadow. Emily and Amelia discuss Shadow Work and do just a touch of dream analysis.Links:Carl JungJungian arch...
Hair Transformations and an Intro to Hidradenitis Suppurativa
14 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emily confesses to a migraine induced mullet. Amelia discusses Hidradenitis Suppurativa and effective strategies for going to a medical provider with ...
Lying on the Floor in Public
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emily’s been confronting just how dizzy she is all the time. Emily and Amelia discuss brain stems, car accidents, and disability. If you experience ...
Unmasking: Or, Masking Part Deux
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia has thoughts about the costs (and benefits) masking, as well as being a vestigial toe.Links:Unmasking for Life by Devon Price (Recommended)Inte...
Amelia Has Feelings About Pride Month
26 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Turns out twin siblings can learn something new about each other after forty-plus years. Amelia isn’t sure if they’re allowed to go to Pride. Ima...
Introduction to Dr. Donna Oriowo
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Emily talks to Dr. Donna Oriowo about Donna's new book, "Drink Water and Mind Your Business." Donna will change your life.tl;...
The Magic Trick of Transcendence
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Transcendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss.Come Together (by ...
The Car Accident Experience
28 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well ...
Food Again. This Time, It’s Personal?
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Reveng...
No-Buy Low-Buy Update
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern!(From now until the end of the Murderbot show.)It’s hard not...
Introduction to Food (and Body Acceptance)
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You need to pinky swear you listened to the previous episode before you listen to this one. We’re trusting you.Links:Season 2, Episode 2: We’re St...
Introduction to Body Image and Beauty Standards
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're going to talk about food and nutrition next week. But first, we need to talk about beauty.Spoiler warning: You're beautiful.Links: Ameli...
Understanding Disability Etiquette
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia leads this week, reflecting on what it’s like to be disabled in public. They’ve got some really helpful rules for everyone who wants to hel...
The Art and Science of Disney Adulting
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Your Something Larger can be anything. Even Captain Phasma. And especially Chewbacca.Time for a little escapism this week. Not a Disney fan? It’s OK...
Introduction to Food and Body Awareness
20 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
tl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body.There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode.PS: Ame...
Goals 101: Why Amelia Failed No Buy Low Buy
12 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house wi...
The Problem With Hope
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hope...
Decluttering Momentum and the Doom Box
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declu...
No Buy Low Buy
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work f...
Elon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do We
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger...
Introduction to Decluttering and Cozy Spaces
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much...
Mask Off
09 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particular...
Take Your Time
02 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us. Links: Cynt...
Enough tho
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Sta...
Polyvagal 101
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Vagus Nerve Exteroception Interoception Our Polyvagal ...
Gender: It Begins
06 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. Content warning: There’s...
We're Stronger Than the Fire
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Let it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance...
FSP: Zombie Apocalypse Edition
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Finding steady ground Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Slee...
An Alternative to Hope (From Emily)
13 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of J...
The Come As You Are podcast
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts Spotify Amaz...
63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum)
26 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lie...
62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Five
12 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: Ho...
61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Four
28 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: Pro...
60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Three
20 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss in...
59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Two
14 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’...
58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One
07 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin ...
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3)
22 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are ...
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3)
19 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are ...
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3)
17 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are ...
57: 2020 [BETA]
18 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily g...
56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a Turkey
17 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Am...
55: One Important Thing
02 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a ...
54: Music For Stress Management
26 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spok...
53: How to Attachment
19 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Episode 52: Trust A...
52: Trust
12 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discus...
51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid
05 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture I...
50: Number Fifty
28 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The pow...
49: How to Dreams
21 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia dis...
48: You’re Allowed to Like the Thing
14 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss...
47: Pause For Pleasure
07 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Ameli...
46: What Even Is Hope
31 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psycholog...
45: Emily’s Epiphany
24 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature ...
44: How to Shadow Work
17 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers fo...
43: How to Bystander
10 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https:...
42: Stages of Change
03 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m********ing kindness and m********ing compassion. ***...
41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
27 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriat...
40: Food: It's Complicated
20 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is b...
39: Covid Follow Up
13 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coff...
38: Amelia has the COVID
06 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarant...
37: Ode to Ode to Joy
29 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Ode to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers t...
36: Embrace Tiger
22 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe ...
35: Too Much Connection
15 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Qua...
34: The Madwoman
08 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who do...
33: Because: Unbreakable
01 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of...
32: The Owl and the Cheese
25 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily ...
31: Social Support
18 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. E...
30: Voting While Feminist
11 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this ...
29: Allegra
04 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout. ****** Wozzeck Trailer (...
28: Foop
27 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss. ********** The Monit...
27: How to Unfamiliarity
20 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down...
26: Masks and How to Wear Them
13 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.
25: Even More Social Distancing
06 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off wi...
24: The Sex Episode
30 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex. ****** Magnif...
23: Social Distance Duet
23 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music. ****** Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | ...
22: Time Affluence
16 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others...
21: Your Body Will Tell You
09 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** The Communica...
Mini-Episode: How to Coronavirus
03 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Worried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it. This is an episode for people who aren’t at high...
20: How to Numbing
02 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can r...
19: How to Entertainment
24 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek. ***...
18: The New Hotness
17 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.)****...
17: How to Gratitude
10 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Gratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss. FS...
16: How to Be a White Lady Who Tries
03 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to ...
15: How to Primaries
27 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.
14: How to Art
20 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing...
13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?
13 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one...
12: How to Sleeping
06 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane E...
11: The Bubble of Love
30 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.
10: Rest IS the Revolution
16 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Rest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel...
09: How to Rage
09 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?
08: The Monitor
02 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it. Worksheets from their ...
07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To
25 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the h...
06: How to News
18 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it ...
05: What's Your Something Larger?
11 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here t...
04: The Abyss
03 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.