Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

202: Fatherhood and Fidelity: Men on Keeping Marriage Alive

23 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In the thick of raising children or building a career or juggling the many demands that life imposes on us, it's easy for couples to feel like relati...

201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This is part two of the podcast we released last Friday (#200). And if you haven't listened to that one, I highly recommend you pause this episode an...

200: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 1

16 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We recently experienced the loss of a family member very suddenly, a young mom with three children, and it has made me want to love and appreciate an...

199: How to Banish Fear, Anxiety, and Boredom for a Thriving Sex Life

09 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's interesting that we live in a day and age where it's not the popular thing to want a family and a strong, committed marriage with complete fideli...

198: Q&A - Erotic literature, overweight husband, discussing trying new things, and wooing your spouse

02 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I get so many questions through the anonymous question form on my website, so it's time to answer some more. We address these topics today: A husband...

197: How We Revitalized Sex and Intimacy as Busy Parents: A Sextimony

26 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Building a long-term, intimate marriage is the most exciting demanding and soul expanding work that many of us will ever do in this life. All of the s...

196: Handjobs, Pegging, Mismatched Libidos, Husband Won't Let Me Initiate: Q&A

19 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I'm very excited about today's episode today! We get to address a lot of juicy topics, such as the following: a reluctant wife feeling pressure to...

195: Are You a "Sexual Over-functioner?" with Dr. Kathleen Smith

12 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In many marriages, there are people that feel like they do far more than their share of the relationship work, but why do they tend to take on the res...

194: "Is this ok for us to do?" Seeking God's Direction In Your Sex Life

05 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"I just have a hard time with some of the things you said on your podcast. How can you be okay with things like toys, lingerie, and even talk about s...

193: The Fast and Furious: Over-Coming Premature Ejaculation, featuring Mark Goldberg

28 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I get asked frequently about what to do when you (or your husband) comes too quickly during sex, or has premature ejaculation.  I wanted to do an in-...

192: Why is it Hard to Keep Sex Passionate When You've Been Married for a Long Time? with Jenn Pinkerton & Dan Purcell

21 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For most couples, there's a lot of hot passion and excitement during the early dating and engagement time and for a while after the wedding. But over ...

191: What the Heck is 'Relational Self-awareness,' and How Does it Help You Be a Better Lover? with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

14 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's so easy to notice how our spouse is making choices that get in the way of them getting what they really want.  Our brains expend tremendous amou...

190: Cultivating Healthy Eroticism in Long-term Marriages, with Dan Purcell

07 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For a lot of us, we associate the word "eroticism" with something that's distasteful or something that we probably shouldn't want as a Christ-loving p...

189: The Secret to Saving Our Sabotaged Sex Lives (and how they got so messed up in the first place!), with Rhonda Farr

31 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know that most couples that visit traditional sex therapy have very poor outcomes? They're still just as dissatisfied two years later as they...

188: Awesome Intercourse and Pleasurable Penetration, with Susan Bratton

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we're going to be talking about making penetration pleasurable, a how to make intercourse amazing, and how to close the orgasm chasm ...

187: How Often Are Couples Actually Having Sex & Your Other Intimate Questions Answered, with Hailey Reidhead

17 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As you know, I love answering your questions all about sex, marriage, intimacy, and more. I recently had the opportunity to answer anonymous questio...

186: The Art of Dirty Talk (SPOILER ALERT: it's not actually dirty), with Melanie Studley

10 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Let's get one thing out of the way right up front: dirty talk isn't dirty. It's actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into you...

185: What Happens When Women Explore Their Own Sexuality and Other Questions Answered

03 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode will get a talk about how to make from behind sex positions, such as Doggy style, better. We'll talk about sex toys. We'll talk about ...

184: The Anatomy Of A Sex Date, with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill

26 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After recording last week's episode, but Dr. Glenn and Phyllis hill, we stayed on and chat a little longer. We got started talking about sex dates and...

183: The Anatomy of Emotional Intimacy & Connection Codes, with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding and making sense of our emotions is absolutely essential to living well. We have parts of our brain that are responsible for making sens...

182: Intimacy Isn't Always a Walk in the Park - Answering Your Questions About Relationships, Sex, Communication, Orgasms, and Fantasies

12 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I'm humbled that you'd trust me with your most urgent and private questions--I receive anonymous questions every day through our website. We address a...

181: 4 Pillars to Take Intimacy From Sub-optimal to First-Rate, Both In and Out of the Bedroom, featuring Dr. Juli Slattery

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Picture this. The journey of building an intimate marriage is much like a road trip through winding paths and scenic routes. Sometimes there's traffic...

180: The Secret to Transforming Your Marriage Isn't So Hidden After All: A Conversation with Dan, Amy, Tammy, and Greg

29 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I feel called to this important work that I do in Get Your Marriage On! It is extremely important and meaningful work to me. The changes I've experien...

179: Having An Orgasm vs Living Orgasmically: What's the difference? with Tammy Hill

22 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I believe sex is a very powerful language. Just think an immense amount of information is communicated between two people in any sexual interaction. L...

178: Why Christians Should Be Having the Best Sex, Featuring Francie Winslow

15 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can you relate? Growing up in a good, Christian family, you conversations about sex were mostly about biological reproduction or God's word on chastit...

177: Coaching A Couple Through Resurrecting Their Dead Sex Life, with Dan Purcell & Amy Langford

08 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For anyone listening that wishes intimacy was less conflict and more connection, this episode is for you! I messed up Two weeks ago, I released a...

176: Pregnancy & Postpartum Sex, Sexting, Swinging, and Meddlesome Masturbation Habits - Q&A with Dan Purcell

01 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we get to talk about some really exciting topics as we answer your questions from the anonymous question form on our website:  How to deal wi...

174: Dirty Talk, Bondage, Masturbation and More - Q&A with Dan Purcell

16 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I'm excited to answer some anonymous questions I have received from listeners. Some topics we cover include the following: Learning to dirty talk and...

173: How to Initiate Sex Like a Pro, Featuring James Christensen

09 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We recently hit a major milestone with this podcast: 1 million downloads! Thank you for your support! Let's be honest here. Initiating sex is not easy...

172: Vagina & Pelvic Floor Power with Pauli, Physical Therapist

02 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you wish you could have more powerful, more pleasurable orgasms? Or to not need to cross your legs when you sneeze? Or jump on the trampoline like...

171: Would You Rather…? Sexy Edition & Embracing Your Eroticism

26 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today I want to talk about embracing your eroticism. This is a beautiful part of being human; your eroticism is going to be unique to you just as you...

170: Behold Your Beautiful Body Through the Lens of Boudoir Photography!

19 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DIY or professionally done, boudoir photography has the potential to empower women and open their minds and hearts to their own inherent beauty, as we...

169: 8 Reasons Why Sex in Marriage is Hard (But Also Worth the Effort!)

12 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sex can be hard for couples for many reasons. And if you feel like it's hard for you right now, you're not alone. Sex is so highly personal and it's ...

168: How Your Marital Power Dynamics Are Affecting Your Sexual Relationship

05 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Who in your relationship has more of a say in general, who in your relationship organizes themselves around the other more? Are there any unaddressed ...

167: Successful Vacation Sex & Romantic Getaways, According to a Romance Consultant

29 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Five years ago, around the campfire with friends, one man told me about this amazing trip he and his wife made to Thailand where they camped out on t...

166: 12 Ideas to Make Christmastime Extra Sexy

22 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For a lot of couples, Christmastime is a really stressful time of the year. There's a lot of end of year projects for work and school; there's also gi...

165: How a Marriage Retreat Rescues, Renews, and Revitalizes Your Relationships (5 case studies)

15 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There's something magical about setting aside three to four days away with your spouse, where you can relax and have fun and enjoy working on aspects ...

164: Creating Space for Moms (and Dads) to Feel Like They Are in Control Again with Ariel Finlinson

08 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Picture this: It's a typical day. You're lying in bed. Snoozing your alarm clock for the third time, your resolve to get to the gym weakening. You we...

163: Overcoming Newlywed Hesitations, Expressing Desires, Premature Ejaculation, Masturbation Views - Q&A

01 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today is a Q &A episode. I get anonymous questions, which you can send me through my website, and I go through those regularly.  And today we're goin...

162: How to Keep Your Marriage Hot in the Middle of Raising Little Kids with Kingdom Sexuality

24 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One pernicious thought the often gets in the way of our intimacy is a thought that we can put the romance and desire side of our marriage on the back ...

161: Whole-hearted Lovemaking and Stage 3 Sex, featuring Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

17 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

To love and be loved wholeheartedly. It's life's sweetest gift. Marriages thrive when there's two forces working together love and desire. By love, I...

160: I Don't Need You (But I Want You), and Mindful Loving

10 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Oftentimes in our quest to have a deeper, more intimate marriage, it's really not a question of whether you want to be loved or loved more. It's real...

159: For the Men: Embracing Your God-given Sexuality for an Intimate Marriage

03 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you looking for a big shift in your relationship? The men in my coaching program continually see these shifts in amazing ways. They feel more g...

158: The #1 Limiting Factor in Your Sex Life, According to a Marriage Expert

27 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I have a background in computer science and I love writing code. Nerdy, right? The better the code, the better the program. A program can't run better...

157: 7 Ways To Put the PLAY back in FOREPLAY and Make Sex Fun, Not Work

20 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today I want to talk about what to do when you want to want to have sex but you don't feel in the mood for it yet. Although it would be nice to get in...

156: How the 9 Personality Types Influence Your Sex Life, According to Relationship Expert Christa Hardin

13 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The famous psychologist Carl Jung once said, "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reactio...

155: Sex is Weird: Embracing the Awkward, Fetishes, Butt Stuff, and Building a Marriage for Two - Q&A

06 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I love hearing your success stories! If you would like to share yours on the podcast, please fill out this form. This episode covers six of the anonym...

154: Good Vibrations: How To Close the Orgasm Gap in Your Marriage Tonight, Featuring Amanda Louder

29 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I strongly believe one of the paths to a stronger marriage is by doing the work necessary to have a great sex life as a couple. Why start with sex?...

153: How a Sexy Bedroom Game Took Our Sex Life to the Next Level with Dan & Emily Purcell

22 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

RETREAT FLASH SALE: We've sold out of the main hotel (Hotel Lucy), but we're offering some spots at an overflow hotel next door at a discounted rate! ...

152: Your Sexual Fantasies: Once Upon a Time in a Bedroom Far, Far Away

15 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Just a few spots left for our retreat! Register today! After Dark Role-Play Workshop is tonight (Sep 15)! Sexual fantasies can let you explore and try...

151: How a "Good Girl" and Her Husband Bravely Chose a Better Sex Life: A Sextimony

08 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Any of you with children are quite familiar with stages of child development. However, less talked about and less understood until recently are stages...

150: Black Belt Sex Tips 3.0

01 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

SEXTEMBER STARTS TODAY (September 1)! Read here for more. Many of our podcast episodes are interviews with guests. I often invite my guests to share w...

149: Afraid Your Husband Will Reject or Ignore You AGAIN tonight? Featuring Dr. Laurie Watson

25 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What popular media has taught us The media and stereotypical culture norms show that men are the ones usually sexually pursuing while the women are...

148: How Hannah Learned to Love Sex and Her Body (Next Level Sneak Peek)

18 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Expert marriage coaching can facilitate accelerated growth, overcoming obstacles in weeks or months that might otherwise take years to do on your own...

147: The Penis Episode with Joshua Savage, PA-C

11 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I've been looking forward to this podcast episode for months! As I think ahead into my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond, I want to have a healthy and v...

146: Female Orgasm, Premature Ejaculation, and Why It's So Hard To Be a Higher Desire Spouse - Q&A

04 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I have to say, Wow! I invited my listeners and readers to submit anonymous questions to me, and I've been blown away by the response. You have all as...

145: Yes Dear, Size Does Matter (if we're talking about your heart) featuring Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner

28 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My wife and I both grew up in good homes, but stereotypical to most that grow up in a conservative Christian culture in the 80s and 90s, conversations...

144: Learning to Love Sex, Higher Desire Wives, Sexual Imagery - Q&A

21 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today is a really fun episode that I have planned with you. I emailed my mailing list a few weeks ago, asking for anonymous questions and I got a ton...

143: How Seductive Are You? featuring Dr. Michael Sytsma

14 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for anyone interested in investing in their sexual relationship from an early stage to set the foundation for a fulfilling and intimat...

142: Expressing Your Preferences Without Offending, Sex Ed for Your Kids, Novelty & Pleasure - Q&A

07 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My friend Hailey Reidhead from the She's a Lady podcast recently reached out to me about a number of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage....

141: Hormones and Female Sex Drive with Cody Sanders

30 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

*COMING UP NEXT WEEK: NEW "After Dark Series" special evening workshops, July 5 and 6. Check it out on our website (links below)!*  Even though half ...

140: Entanglement and Toxic Individualism with Aimée Gianni

23 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Intimate relationships are a breeding ground for growth and development, because they're really REALLY hard work to make great. But it's work worth do...

139: Building Intimacy while Building a Business with Monica Tanner

16 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In my program, Next Level, I've come across several couples that are struggling in their marriage because one or both are  entrepreneurs. There's a ...

138: 9 Sex Tips for International Lovemaking Day and Beyond

09 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Because it's 6/9 day, I want to share with you nine ideas to strengthen your sexual relationship! The nine things that are on my mind that I want to ...

137: Blowjobs Aren't Just For Husbands with Danielle Savory

02 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

According to a recent Instagram poll on our Instagram account, I learned that 80% of couples incorporate oral sex into their lovemaking, and 77% of th...

136: Sex When Aging with Natalie Wilton

26 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I realize that as I age, my sex life is going to change. I don't think I'm alone in having some anxiety over changes that might come. Yet sex when agi...

135: Talking to Your Teenagers About Sex with Sheila Wray Gregoire

19 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I have six children, including 3 daughters, and I want to raise them well. I want to set them up for success in their future marriages. Research shows...

134: When Developing One's Sexuality Leads to a Faith Crisis

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Crises aren't necessarily a bad thing in and of themselves. Although they're very unpleasant, they can lead to forcing us to grow up and better defin...

133: Slip into something a little more authentic tonight! with Amber A. Price

05 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In any intimate relationship, we want two things, which paradoxically seem to be at odds with each other: we want to belong to ourselves (that is, aut...

132: Praying For Your Sex Life with Dan Purcell

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today. I just want to get honest with you and talk about marriages and why they are really difficult sometimes. Frankly, marriages take a lot of work....

131: How to Be a Power Couple with Melanie Studley

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you hear the term, Power Couple, what comes to mind? To me I think about a couple that is dedicated to each other and committed to building a ma...

130: Lingerie? YES PLEASE! with Alex and Kadie of EveryLove Intimates

14 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I'm pretty excited for today's podcast episode, all about lingerie. I recently asked my Instagram followers if they regularly include lingerie in sexy...

129: Retrain Your Brain with Dr. Paul Jenkins

07 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Our mindset and patterns of thinking make a huge difference in our intimate relationships and our ability to grow sexually as a couple. As they say, o...

128: Overcoming Pornography for Good with Sara Brewer

31 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sex Positive and Shame Free are two phrases that people usually don't think about when it comes to overcoming pornography for good, but that's just wh...

127: Cultivating "Biblical Eroticism" with Dr. Jennifer Degler

24 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In our Christian culture, we're sometimes afraid of the word "erotic," thinking it has something to do with unsavory media or loose morals. Many of us...

126: Sex Positions for Connection and Pleasure

17 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

it's March Madness in the United States--the NCAA college basketball tournament. And a lot of people create brackets where they guess ahead of time...

125: When Past Sexual Abuse Haunts A Marriage

10 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One source I found states that one in five women experience sexual assault or unwelcomed sexual attention. Trauma from sexual abuse is ugly and can i...

124: Dangers of Duty Sex with Dr. Cami Hurst

03 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One complaint I hear a lot from couples is where they feel like their spouse is consenting to sex but isn't enthusiastic about it. These reports sound...

123: Next Level Sneak Preview: Getting Out Of A Rut

24 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Albert Einstein is said to have once said, "We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them." And I believe that to b...

122: Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity with Tony Overbay

17 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Holy smokes, this episode is jam packed with so much goodness and truth bombs. You're about to hear Tony and I get a bit vulnerable as we share some ...

121: How I Learned to Orgasm: A Sextimony with Ashley

11 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mutual pleasure is an important ingredient of a good sexual relationship. The pleasure we get from sex facilitates bonding, joy, and makes sex way mor...

120: Squirting and Female Ejaculation

03 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is going to be a little more explicit than our usual episodes, but I think that's okay. We get to talk about squirting and female ejacula...

119: How Women "Kill Their Husbands Softly" (And How to Avoid It) with Ramona Zabriskie

27 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Communication and marriage is a big deal. And many couples tell me they wish their communication was better. Many men approach intimacy in marriage d...

118: When Your Spouse Doesn't Speak Your Love Language with Dr. Corey Allan

20 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I've observed from my own experience and coaching other couples that we often get in our own way of having the love and passion that we could experien...

117: From Purity Culture to Developing One's Eroticism with Brandi K. Harris

13 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The older I get and more experience I gain, the more I've come to appreciate my eroticism as a part of me. I haven't always been this way though. In a...

116: Why "Nice Guys" Have Bad Sex Lives: A Sextimony

06 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you a "nice guy" or married to a "nice guy?" "Nice" isn't to be confused with genuinely kind and caring. By nice, I mean one that hints around at...

115: How to Take Your Intimacy to the Next Level in 2023

30 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you ready to take action, to take charge of your relationships, and make this year different and better than any other year you've ever had? I'm ...

114: The Practice of Love with Lair Torrent

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are four fundamental questions we seek in our intimate relationships: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter? How we go about answe...

113: How Men Can Have Multiple Orgasms with Dan Purcell

16 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

With practice patience, determination, and mindfulness men can prolong the pleasure they feel by resisting ejaculation and prolonging their pleasure ...

112: Masturbation and Sexual Agency with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There's a lot of anxiety in our culture around sexuality in general. And within the topic of understanding one's sexuality, there's even more cultural...

111: Tantric Sex: A Wholehearted Connection with Tammy Hill

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There's no doubt in my mind that there's a deeply spiritual and emotional aspect to really good sex. When two lovers come together as good friends tha...

110: Why Men Aren't Always in The Mood with Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray

25 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Like many other men, I've probably said to my wife maybe once or twice, "I'm always in the mood for sex!" or "Whenever you want it, I'm ready!" Just k...

109: Healing from painful sex with help and faith: A sextimony

18 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We've done several episodes about painful sex in the past, but none of them have been as personal as this one today. You get to meet my friends Bryce ...

108: Our Story of Healing from Sexual Shame: A Sextimony

11 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for any couple that has struggled with feelings of shame about bodies or sexuality, and has experienced conflict in their marriage aro...

107: Learning to Love Sex: A Sextimony with Jeff & LeAnn Austin

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Announcement: Join the waiting list for the couples retreat in March! For the next few episodes, I want to take a break from interviewing experts per ...

106: Intimacy: More Will Than Skill with Dr. Dave Schramm

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If someone were to ask you what's your definition of intimacy, how would you answer that question? And how would you explain to another person how to ...

105: Uncompromising Intimacy with Alexandra Stockwell

21 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There's a difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage. Some marriage advice people may have received is to compromise to keep th...

104: Sexual Adventure & Male Pleasure Ideas with Keelie and Austin Reason

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is one of our spicier podcasts! Keelie and Austin Reason from the Love Hope Adventure Blog and Podcast decided to join me today to talk about mal...

103: Normal Marriage Problems & Next Level Sex - Part 2

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is part two of a two-part podcast. Last week, we talked about stage three sex. We introduced this framework of what stages one, two, and three ar...

102: Normal Marriage Problems & Next Level Sex - Part 1

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Normal people have marriage problems. In this episode, I'll introduce to you my three-stage framework to take your marriage and sex life to the NEXT L...