Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts
Activity Overview
Episode publication activity over the past year
Episodes
Episode 125: 3 Suprising Signs that you might actually be too CONTROLLING
23 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you think you're controlling? Most people don't. We generally think of a angry, domestically violent-type person who takes their partners...
Episode 124: Identifying and Setting Boundaries with your Critical Voice
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed the critical voice inside your head? If you are in recovery or are interested in learning more about self-love and self care, this ep...
Episode 123: Inspiring Self-Love
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I share a short poem I wrote that summarizes my journey from self-loathing to self-love. I hope it inspires you to follow your creativity! Spend...
Episode 122: Boundaries are an Inside Job
21 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our energy sets our boundaries! This means that boundaries are mostly an inside job. You might not need to even tell the other person with words that ...
Episode 121: Tap Into your Intuition and Access your Inner Child's Wisdom
14 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I share an exercise you can do for free with a pen and a piece of paper to tap into the wisdom of your intuition/inner child. One time I got an amazin...
Epidose 120: PFM
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Pure. Fucking. Magic. PFM. What was happening in your life when you experienced it? I liken it to the feeling of the universe delivering in such a way...
Episode 119: Standing Up For Justice
17 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you stay quiet when injustices occur? Or do you voice your concerns in a graceful manner? Today I share a story about how I stood up for my values...
118: Are you a Narcissist? Reclaiming the intensity of that word
11 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered if you were a narcissist? I sure have. When I started learning about Narcissism and Codependency back in 2015, I was confused a...
Episode 117: Releasing Anger and Overcoming Self-Gaslighting
03 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever gaslight yourself when you think of the narcissistic person in your life? Do you wonder if it's your fault, if they're right, if...
Episode 116: Should I Hide My Trauma on a First Date?
25 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I listened to a popular male podcaster recently say that we should never mention our ex or our trauma when dating. I disagree. What do you think? Wh...
Rewind: Dating Deathtrap #3: Desperation and Low Self-Esteem
18 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Rewind from 2022 that I thought you might enjoy! I hope it keeps you from making the mistakes I made! How do we know when we are feeling desperate and...
Rewind: Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusions
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Rewind: I'm re-releasing this episode from 2022 because I hope others can learn from my bad mistakes. Trigger Warning! I mildly discuss a date-ra...
Episode 115: Dating Deathtrap #8: Dating While Facing Generational Trauma
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How has Intergenerational Trauma affected your dating life? I share five ways that facing my intergenerational trauma has affected mine. I share a lit...
Episode 114: Is it Traumatic Enough? Taking our Healing Seriously with Erin Vandermore
05 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Erin Vandermore, Licenced Therapist, Wellness Coach, and Author, wants us to take our healing seriously! She says that if the body says it's trau...
Episode 113: Single Parents Building Community with Shoshana Alexander
20 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As a single parent, have you ever felt like you're seen as a reject, or as if you're wearing a scarlet letter? Shoshana Alexandra is here ...
Episode 112: "Breathwork is the Soul's Best Friend" with Susan Tuttle, Part 2 of 2
15 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today is part 2 of a 2 part discussion surrounding breathwork and intergenerational trauma that starts in the womb! Susan Tuttle, author and breathwor...
Episode 111: "Our Responsibility is to Heal Ourselves First" with Susan Tuttle, Part 1 of 2
07 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Susan Tuttle, author and breathwork practitioner with 30 years of codependency recovery, is back! The first time she was on the podcast (#66) was one ...
How to Set Boundaries to create Relationship GOLD
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How are you at setting boundaries? What is the practice that you follow? The questions that you check yourself with before you make the call? I share...
I Will No Longer Tolerate Ambivalence in Myself and in My Relationships
29 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you allow others to be hot and cold with you in relationships? I've noticed that I'm attracted to that energy, since it mirrors my treatm...
Behavior Change is Indirect- (IFS) Internal Family Systems Therapy Example
19 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our culture and media markets that behavior change is direct. For example, if you want to lose weight, then you should diet to eat less. As many of us...
Do you feel a STIGMA surrouding your DESIRE for a romantic relationship?
11 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I sometimes feel shamed by others for my desire for a loving partnership. Do you ever feel this stigma around town? Has anyone ever pointedly asking y...
Is your Life Unmanageable?
04 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever pondered the word "unmanageable" as a description of the type of life you lead? It's rich food for thought and that'...
The Money Healing Podcast with Holistic Money Coach Nadine Zumot
28 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever heard that money is linked to childhood trauma? This is true ! My guest, Nadine Zumot, specializes in helping clients heal their money w...
"Your Feelings ARE your Inner Child" with Jana Wilson
19 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jana Wilson is an emotional healing educator who teaches meditation and hypnotherapy as part of her Emotional Healing System. She just published her...
"The Partner is the Mother" - Identifying the Mother Wound in Romantic Relationships
12 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Mark Wolynn told me, "The Partner is the Mother," and it's one of the most profound sentences I've heard this year. Does this asse...
Educating our Kids about Sex and the Internet with Amy Lang
05 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When is the right time in childhood to bring up the topic of sex? The answer is pretty much from when they can talk! Listening to Amy Lang's podc...
Rewind: What is Emotional Self-Care?
29 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Re-Release: My first episode describing Emotional Self-Care(New episodes starting next week!)Many of you have probably listened to this episode, becau...
Rewind: I Can't Feel My Mom's Love
22 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Re-Release: This is my rawest, most truthful episode. I have contemplated deleting it a few times, but I feel it's an important validation for ot...
Rewind: Emotional Abuse Validation
15 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Re-Release! My most-dowloaded episode!Enjoy!Have you experienced emotional abuse? I sure have, and it can be really tricky to detect. It took me a lot...
Rewind: How do we learn to LOVE our BODIES? with Susan Tuttle, breathwork practitioner
08 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Re-Release! My first, and most-downloaded interview!I'm proud to share with you this conversation between me and my wise friend, Susan Tuttle, wh...
Rewind: How does Verbal Abuse from Childhood Affect my life TODAY?
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
~Re-released popular episode from 2022~Do you believe that the emotional injuries you suffered in childhood stick with you until they are processed? ...
What's Coming Next?
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I have three interviews schedule for the month of October- a memoirist, a trauma-informed money coach, and a sex therapist that can help us navigate d...
Philosophizing with special guest... MY DAD!!!
25 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm celebrating my 100th episode this week!!!!!!! I thought long and hard about how to make it extra special. I decided to invite someone I look ...
Repair in Relationships
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What do we do after we put our foot in our mouth, or overreact to something someone says? Do we bury our heads in the sand and pretend it never happen...
Running into your Childhood Abuser- What do you DO?
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Did you have an abuser from your childhood that you haven't seen in many years? I did, and I ran into them a few weeks ago. NOT a fun experien...
Things Can Be Easy!
05 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have the belief that following your dreams, making more money, or getting that dream house/car/job you have always wanted will be extremely dif...
Opening Up to Receive
28 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into."Â -Dr. Wayne DyerDo you have an abundance mindset? Are you open to rec...
Asking Ourselves Questions as a Powerful Tool for Healing with Melissa Pennel
20 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
MY FAVORITE EPISODE YET!!! I think you'll really love this one, if you're fascinated by intergenerational trauma! I'm super pumped to s...
The Best Parenting Advice I've Ever Received and a Win for Trauma- Informed Parenting
15 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you found a great therapist for your child? For me, it was a long rode to find a trauma informed therapist that understood my son and I. It was t...
Your Queer Therapist Dr. Jen Towns on How to Navigate Trauma in your Relationships
06 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's guest, Jen Towns, has a PhD in Clinical Social Work and recently published a book that gives advice for queer lovers navigating trauma....
Leveling up Dysfunctional Frugality
30 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You you have to have ten good reasons to buy something, or is the reason "because I like it" enough? I have a tendency to be cheap. In lif...
Who do you want to BE? with Life Coach Erin Tagan
23 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Erin Tagan is an ontological life coach, which means she often ponders the question, "Who do you want to be?" (Emphasis on BE-ing)Â Erin and...
Relieving Our Mother Wounds- A Daily Practice
18 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have mother wounds? According to Mark Wolynn, 85% of us do. I am definitely one of that statistic. Today I share about how I've changed an...
Somatic Therapy and Incubator Babies
09 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode could be considered a little "woo-woo." But the truth is that invisible energies are circulating around us at all times...
Healing Your Inner Child with Gloria Zhang
09 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm excited to share with you an interview with the captivating Gloria Zhang! Gloria Zhang (based out of Canada) is a renowned relationship coac...
The Key to Healthy Relationships is Grace + Boundaries!
09 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the first episode of my re-titled podcast! This podcast, formerly known as Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma, has been RENAMED Grace + Bou...
Grace + Boundaries TEASER!
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
My renamed podcast is coming soon! On Sunday I will drop new episodes for my reimagined podcast. Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma has now become &quo...
Episode 83: Online Dating Validation
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm changing the podcast title and artwork, coming soon! This will be my final episode of the podcast under the name of Self-Care for Survivors o...
Episode 82: Start BEFORE You're Ready
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
" Start before you're ready" can be great advice if you're trying to make progress on life's bucket list. I share about what...
Episode 81: The Connection between Binge Eating and Abandonment
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I've struggled with binge eating most of my life. I don't have a severe eating disorder, but food issues have been a part of the coping mech...
Episode 80: Leaving a Narcissist
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What does it take to leave a narcissitic relationship? I believe it took me lots of education, enough anger to keep on going, a lot of planning, and....
Episode 79: "My Self-Care Starts with my Self-Talk," an interview with Terra Jennings
30 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you in a victim's story or a hero's journey? My spiritual leader friend and guest, Terra Jennings, shares with us how to enhance our se...
Episode 78: My #1 Rule About Dating
22 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I signed a pledge to myself in December, 2023, and it's helped me clarify what I might look for when I start to date again.I share about a progra...
Episode 77: "Turning Pain into Love" with Diana Lockett
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How do we grow spiritually, allow for authenticity, and practice presence? My guest today, Diana Lockett, has been on a 25-year quest do learn just th...
Episode 76: Unrealistic Expectations
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a sense of over-responsibility? Does it come out as unrealistic expectations for yourself and for others around you? These could be a res...
Episode 75: Self-Care for Immigrant Mamas with Nurzhan Sterbenz
01 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's guest hosts the podcast Foreign-Born Mamas. She hopes to help immigrant moms listen to their bodies, learn how to self-care and grow to b...
Episode 74: Can you List your Top Three Priorities?
23 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
List your top three priorities... Go! Can you name them with certainty? How do you feel about them; is it honestly how you devote your energy? Would t...
Episode 73: Creating a Happier Brain with Sean Bloch
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sean Bloch, host of the podcast Happy Brain, is my guest today. Sean is a corporate trainer, facilitator, and storyteller focused on mental wellness. ...
Episode 72: Abusive Therapists
09 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had a therapist that was dismissive, insensitive, uneducated, or just plain rude? I sure have. My intention is to share my experiences w...
Episode 71: ACEs and Intergenerational Trauma
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you heard of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)? There is a 10-question test to see how much trauma you endured as a child. This test is a grea...
Episode 70: Joyful Journaling, an Interview with Becca Rae Eagle
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
 Do you journal as one of your tools in your coping-with-emotions tool box?Journaling is an excellent practice to take care of ourselves! Today'...
Episode 69: How Emotionally Mature Are You?
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you emotionally mature? If so, how emotionally mature are you? We've all heard of emotional intelligence, but is emotional matuirty somethi...
Episode 68: How Media Choices Affect our Mental State
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever noticed your body reacting to media? I'm talking about scenes in a movie making you cover your eyes, or videos that you happened to...
Episode 67:Dating Deathtrap #7: Clamming Up
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why could "clamming up" be a red flag in a relationship? I share details of a past relationship and unpack the signs that showed I had been...
Episode 66: How do we Learn to Love our Bodies? An interview with Susan Tuttle.
26 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
My first interview! I'm proud to share with you this conversation between me and my wise friend, Susan Tuttle. Susan is a life coach and teacher...
Episode 65: Taking Suicidal Ideation Seriously
20 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you've experienced thoughts of suicide, then you've had "suicidal ideation." These thoughts can be active or passive. I share s...
Episode 64: Loving Valentine's Day Single, and Dating while Maintaing Mental Health
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Valentine's Day! I have a special episode to share with you. If you're single, do you celebrate Valentine's Day? I sure do! Bes...
Episode 63: Stranger than Fiction; A deep dive into my Jr. High Trauma
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
**Trigger Alert! This episode contains discussion of sexual abuse**I felt compelled to share a story from my 8th grade year in jr. high school, circa ...
Episode 62: My Exiled, Loving Part
30 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you "leveled-up" lately? How are your New Year's resolution's going? I share what lelveling up spiritually means for me and h...
Episode 61: What's Really Behind a Panic Attack?
23 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever experienced a panic attack? They can be so scary. I share some details about why panic attacks form in our bodies and what they are tryi...
Episode 60: The Artist's Journey
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
“The moment that you feel, just possibly, you are walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind, and what exists on t...
Episode 59: Learning How to be a Good Friend
09 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I start the episode sharing my tribulations about my son not wanting to go to bed. He had a "bad" day today, according to him, and I am lear...
Episode 58: Processing, Reflecting, and Celebrating 2022
02 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Survivors, get out your journals! I lead you through a reflection exercise to process and celebrate your big and little wins in 2022. I mention The I...
Episode 57: Non-Traditional Christmas = Self-Care Christmas!
25 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I've had a wacky Christmas this year! None of my normal family traditions have been followed and I even ended up alone on Christmas Eve and Chris...
Episode 56: Gratitude for Our Parents
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being able to share my feelilngs of gratitude for my parents has been a long process for me. I was 36 years old when I lifted the veil of denial and r...
Episode 55: 3 Questions to Ask Before Giving a Gift
11 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you monitor your expectations before buying and giving gifts? I do, and I think it's definitely part of my personal self-care. I discuss gif...
Episode 54: Am I Desperate? Or Simply Yearning for Love?
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I've felt rejected a couple times recently in the dating world. This lead me yesterday, on a sad morning, to questioning, am I desperate? Is that...
Episode 53: Are you Using Substances to fill the Void?
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What types of substances do you use to fill that void inside your soul? Some call it our God-shaped hole. Or maybe it just feels to you like an aching...
Episode 52: Dating Deathtrap #6: Dating with the Wrong Intentions
21 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How are your intentions surrounding dating? Are you aware of the reasons that you're seeking companionship? If it's to sooth your emotions o...
Episode 51: Traveling for the Holidays
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you enjoy traveling? How about traveling to relative's houses for the holidays? Does it bring up some challenges for you? It sure does for me....
Episode 50: Female Voices Will Be Heard Roundtable Discussion
06 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you going to vote on Tuesday? How do you feel about Roe vs. Wade having been overturned last summer? Those are two topics that are discussed in to...
Episode 49: How to Navigate Sharing a Child with a Narcissist
31 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I met a woman today who was dealing with painful custody issues surrounding her divorce from a difficult person. I used the term "narcissist"...
Episode 48: Dating Deathtrap #5 Living in Fantasy
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Could you be using fantasy as a coping mechanism to distract from feelings? Well, I sure have for a lot of my life. I'm finally noticing exactl...
Episode 47: Better Body Care, not dieting
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you treat your body? I was 11 when I started dieting and trying to change my size to fit into society. I didn't treat my body well for dec...
Episode 46: Politeness vs. Phoniness
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When does culturally appropriate "politeness" border on phoniness? That was a question I started pondering recently. Is it really polite if ...
Episode 45: How Verbal Abuse in Childhood Affects My Life Today
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you believe that the emotional injuries you suffered in childhood stick with you until they are processed? Or do you think we can just "keep...
Episode 44: Dating Deathtrap #4- Dating Down and Re-Dating
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever date someone who is out of your league in a negative way? I sure have. Partly it's been out of my desire to not hurt people's fe...
Episode 43: Dating Deathtrap #3- Desperation and Low Self-Esteem
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do we know when we are feeling desperate and should take extra precautions while we date? How can we tell if we have low self-worth? Sometimes it&...
Episode 42: Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusions
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger Warning! I mildly discuss a date-rape situation in this episode. No major details, just feelings and thoughts about the situation. My third ...
Episode 41: Dating Deathtrap #1- Believing Words Above Actions
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered about how your mental health relates to the types of partners you attract? I'm two episodes into the juicy topic of mental...
Episode 40: Dating as a Dipstick of Recovery
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today I start my series about Dating After Trauma. I share three things that skewed my percetion towards developing a healthy and loving relationship ...
Episode 39: Little Acts of Connection
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What act of kindness and connection have you done lately? Have you left a positive reivew for a business or service you like, have you brought a treat...
Episode 38: Self-Care 2022 Refresh
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As I start the new school year as a teacher, I feel it necessary to revamp my self-care routine. What do I want to add to my days and weeks to make my...
Episode 37: Trauma, Forgiveness, and a Listener's Call
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's a first for our podcast- we have a voicemail from a listener named Eugenia. I share her voicemail and tie it in to an expansive experience I...
Episode 36: Physical Health Disruption
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you had Covid-19 Brain Fog and Depression? It lasted way longer than I thought it would. I share my experience with Covid depression and how get...
Episode 35: Feel to Heal
26 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
"The basis of all neurosis is the avoidance of legitimate suffering." -Carl JungWe all want to heal pain from our past, but how? Healing ta...
Episode 34: I Love You More than Wine
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today I share the vulnerable story about how and why I quit drinking over five years ago.I love myself and my son more than I love wine. Thank you, G...
Episode 33: Enmeshed Friendships
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been in a friendship that's enmeshed? Being enmeshed means that you are overly involved in another person's life to the exten...
Episode 32: When I Locked Eyes with Oprah, and Following your Creative Path
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm telling the story today about when I met Oprah. Okay. We only locked eyes for a number of seconds, but it was very significant to me on my sp...
Episode 31: Daily Meditation Practice
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a practice of meditating daily? Well, according to some of the most spiritual educators out there, it's the best routine to start you...