Grief Out Loud
Episodes
Ep. 57: Fine But Not Okay- Mindfulness In Grief - Joe DiNardo
13 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
In March of 2015 Joe DiNardo's wife, Marcia, died of pancreatic cancer. Before her death, he started writing a letter to her which would eventually be...
Ep. 56: Grief In The Present Tense
02 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
John Mayer first encountered grief when his older brother Stephen suddenly died at age 29 in 2007. Nine years later, John's second daughter, River, di...
Ep. 55: Looking Back At Grief - Darwyn Dave
16 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Our guest is Darwyn Dave, creator and host of the Dealing With My Grief podcast. In 1978, when Darwyn was ten years old, his father was killed. 38 yea...
Ep. 54: Self-Compassion As Self-Care In Grief - Heather Stang
28 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Heather Stang, thanatologist, mindfulness speaker, and author of Mindfulness & Grief: With Guided Meditations To Calm Your Mind & Restore Your Spirit,...
Ep. 53: When Someone You Love Is Dying - Supporting Children & Families
06 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What do you tell children when someone in their life is diagnosed with an advanced serious illness? How do you support them and everyone else who is a...
Ep. 52: Grieving The Death Of A Partner As A Young Adult
27 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the term widow or widower doesn't fit because you weren't officially married to the person who died? This is often the case for youn...
Ep. 51: Anger & Grief - Megan Devine
15 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Megan Devine joins us again, this time talking about another shadow aspect of grief - anger. Anger shows up in many ways, including being angry at the...
Ep. 50: Grieving The Death Of A Best Friend As A Teen
16 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
While we usually focus on the death of a parent or sibling, this episode explores what it's like for teens when a best friend dies. The best friend co...
Ep. 49: Everyday Grief Rituals & Routines - Jodie Brauer
10 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Jodie Brauer, founder of the annual Celebrate Silas Memorial 5K, joins us again as a guest to talk about the everyday rituals and routines that can be...
Ep. 48: Grief Dreams - Joshua Black
20 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean when grief becomes part of our dreams? In this episode, we talk with Joshua Black, a Ph.D. student at Brock University, about his g...
Ep. 47: What We Talk About When We Talk About Death
06 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
A lot goes into talking about the people in our lives who have died. Who do we tell? What do we share, not only about the person and what they meant t...
Ep. 46: Children And Memorial Services - Holly Pruett
19 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Holly Pruett, a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who helps families to design individualized rituals for the end of life shares the wisdom she's acquire...
Ep. 45: Supporting Grieving Kids With Mindfulness - Tips For Teachers & Parents
18 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Jill, a longtime educator, incorporates mindfulness and other strategies for emotional regulation in classroom settings. We discuss how grief, stress,...
Ep. 44: Redefining Comfort Food - Dr. Drew Ramsey
11 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
The term comfort food usually brings to mind mac and cheese, lasagna, brownies, and other combinations of sugar and simple carbohydrates. When someo...
Ep. 43: An Only Child, Grieving Her Only Parent - Rachel Ricketts
04 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be a child, grieving the death of a parent, when you're technically not a child? Rachel Ricketts, author of the site loss&found, ...
Ep. 42: Secrets & Grief
28 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
When someone dies, many of us are left with if onlys. Some are interwoven with thoughts that we could have somehow prevented the death, "If only I had...
Ep. 41: Grieving An Overdose (Part 3 of 3) - A Teen's Perspective
21 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, the last in our 3 part series on grief after an overdose death, we talk with Liam who was just starting middle school when his broth...
Ep. 40: Grieving An Overdose Death (Part 2 of 3) - The Loss Of A Child
16 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
In part two of our three-part series on grief after an overdose death, we talk with Samina, whose son Ayaz died of a heroin overdose. The episode star...
Ep. 39: Grieving An Overdose (Part 1 of 3) - The Death Of A Brother
10 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Based on numbers from the National Institute on Drug Abuse, heroin overdose deaths increased by six times from 2001 to 2014. In one state it is esti...
Ep. 38: What Helps When You're Grieving - Ideas For Body, Mind, and Spirit
02 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Jana is joined by Dougy Center staff member, Heather Dorfman, to talk about what helps (or might help) in grief, outside the realm of more formal supp...
Ep. 37: How To Help Children And Teens Grieving A Violent Death
05 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Whether it is a murder, murder-suicide, or a being killed by a driver under the influence, violent death adds multiple layers of complexity to grief. ...
Ep. 36: Grieving My Dad - A Son's Story
26 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
In the two years since his dad died, Mike bought a house, got married, and is expecting his first child. This episode explores what it means to grieve...
Ep. 35: After A Death - 5 Tips For Schools
25 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Dougy Center staff member, Joan Schweizer Hoff, joins Jana to talk about the top 5 things school administrators will want to consider when a student,...
Ep. 34: The Thing I Never Thought I'd Do Again
23 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
There is a lot that goes unsaid in grief, particularly when it comes to dating after the death of a partner. Jana talks with Megan Devine, grief thin...
Ep. 33: The Importance Of Honesty - Talking With Children About Death
11 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
As a child Rachel Stephenson learned first hand the pain of not knowing the truth about her mother's death. The secrecy in her family led to a disconn...
Ep. 32: The Youngest Grievers
10 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
How do we talk with the youngest children about death? What words should we use? Can they even understand? In this episode Jana talks with Joan Schw...
Ep. 31: Birthdays & Anniversaries - Grief And Significant Days
25 Jan 2016
Contributed by Lukas
For those who are grieving, birthdays and anniversaries of a loved one's death can loom large. What we do to mark these days is as individual and uniq...
Ep. 30: The Private Grief Of A Public Death
20 Jan 2016
Contributed by Lukas
The public and often sensationalized nature of a murder-suicide can overshadow the heartbreak and grief of those left behind. In this episode, Stepha...
Ep. 29: When Grief Catches Up With You
30 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
V was six when her father died from cancer, but it wasn't until two decades later that she consciously engaged with her grief. A seeming random encoun...
Ep. 28: Supporting Children Grieving A Suicide Death
14 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
"How do I tell my children?" When someone dies of suicide, parents and caregivers want to know how to talk with their children about the death. Jana a...
Ep. 27: Grief And The Holidays
19 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Under the best of circumstances, the November & December holidays can be stressful. Add in grieving a loss and they can feel completely overwhelming. ...
Ep. 26: Grief And Complex Relationships (Part 3) - The Death Of A Parent
16 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
The last in a three-part series talking with those grieving the death of someone when the relationship was complex, difficult, or challenging. Jana ta...
Ep. 25: Grief And Complex Relationships (Part 2) - The Death Of A Sibling
07 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is the second episode in a three-part series about grieving when the relationship with the person who died was difficult or challenging. Jana ...
Ep. 24: Grief And Complex Relationships (Part 1) - The Death Of An Ex-Husband
04 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is the first in a three-part series about grieving when the relationship with the person who died was complex or conflicted. In this episode, Jan...
Ep. 23: Language, Suicide, And Stigma (Part 3)
24 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Why do people die of suicide? Join Jana and Donna Schuurman for a discussion about this complex question. Two prominent theories mentioned by Donna:...
Ep. 22: Grief And Becoming a Parent - An Interview With What's Your Grief
14 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Eleanor and Litsa from What's Your Grief join us as special guests to talk about becoming a parent when you're grieving the death of your own parent o...
Ep. 21: Turning Points In Grief
08 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever struggled with the idea of finding closure in grief? Given grief's ongoing and evolving nature, the search for final closure can be a mi...
Ep. 20: Grief And Developmental Disabilities
07 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
When someone dies, it creates upheaval in the support system, leading to unfamiliar territory in terms of how to help those with different perceptio...
Ep. 19: Advanced Serious Illness
24 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
How do we help children when a family member is dying? The diagnosis of a terminal illness brings uncertainty, fear, and heartbreak into their lives...
Ep. 18: Grieving The Death Of A Sibling - Tips For Supporting Children
10 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Jana talks with Rebecca Hobbs-Lawrence, a staff member at The Dougy Center, about ways to support children who experience the death of a brother or s...
Ep. 17: Grieving A Suicide Death
26 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Jana talks with Erin Shuster about the death of her brother from suicide. A former young adult group participant and volunteer, Erin talks openly abo...
Ep. 16: Grief And Father's Day
12 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Jana and Joan Schweizer Hoff talk about navigating Father's Day while grieving. Joan, a long-time staff member at The Dougy Center, shares both person...
Ep. 15: Language, Suicide, And Stigma (Part 2)
29 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Jana and Donna Schuurman discuss terms to avoid, and what to say instead, when talking about suicide. Here is a link to download our Tip Sheet on ho...
Ep. 14: The Death Of Both Parents: Grieving As A Young Adult
18 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Jana talks with Jenna, a participant in The Dougy Center's group for young adults, about the experience of losing her mom when she was a child and the...
Ep. 13: Grieving Through Mother's Day
01 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for grieving through Mother's Day Whether you want to acknowledge the day or want to ignore it, know that the lead up, for many people, is the w...
Ep. 12: Helping Children And Teens Cope With Fear After A Death
17 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
After a death, it's not unusual for children to have an increased sense of fear and anxiety. (It's not unusual in adults, either.) When bad or sad thi...
Ep. 11: Who Am I Now?
03 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Losing and finding yourself in grief. Brendon and Jana delve into the many layers of loss that we grapple with when someone dies and how that loss can...
Ep. 10: Seasons Change
19 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Seasons change, but what about my grief? There can be a lot of emphasis on special occasions – anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, etc. when it come...
Ep. 9: Language, Suicide, And Stigma (Part 1)
13 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
"The language we use to describe events not only reflects our own attitudes but influences those attitudes as well as the attitudes of others." --Somm...
Ep. 8: Living In Dying, Dying In Living: Grieving Before Death
05 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Living with an advanced serious illness All in all, even under the best circumstances where families have substantial financial resources and s...
Ep. 7: Somewhere In Between
26 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Understanding And Supporting The Grieving Teen If you know a teen who is grieving a death, you may wonder what responses or behaviors you can expect t...
Ep. 6: Where Did Everyone Go?
18 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Where did everyone go? How grief affects connections with family and friends. This episode grew out of a few questions from the community – Why...
Ep. 5: Grieving Through Valentine's Day
12 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Valentine's Day is one of the many holidays that shift and change while grieving. As with so many other holidays, the lead-up can be really hard. Adve...
Ep. 4: No Apology Needed
06 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Alternatives to "I'm sorry for your loss." This episode delves into that moment when you find out about a death. Most of us don't know what t...
Ep. 3 Tips For Talking With Children About Death
29 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
"How do I tell my child about the death?" This is the most common question we receive at The Dougy Center. Someone has died, leaving parents and other...
Ep. 2: Ashes & Funerals
29 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Jana and Brendon, answer two questions from the community. The first is from a mother of two young children who wonders what she can ...
Ep. 1: The Myth Of The Grief Timeline
27 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Grief Out Loud, Jana and Brendon discuss some of the current mythology surrounding grief timelines. We demystify the idea that ther...
Dear Dougy: Introductions
23 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
In this inaugural episode of the Grief Out Loud Podcast, Jana and Brendon introduce themselves, talk about the history of The Dougy Center, and our wo...