Habits and Hustle
Episode 408: Robert Greene: Are We All Narcissists? + Tips for Self-Awareness
20 Dec 2024
Listen to the full episode here: https://youtu.be/VKvDPETfoIM?si=jiFLE73nwYdcNQb3 Do you ever feel like you're just putting on an act to get attention and love from others? In this bonus episode, I talk with Robert Greene who dives deep into the concept of narcissism and how it affects all of us. We discuss how narcissism develops, and how each person has a “thermostat” for regulating self-absorption. We also share the key for developing healthy relationships despite our selfishness. Robert Greene is an American author known for his books on strategy, power, and seduction. He is the man behind the international bestsellers: The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law (with rapper 50 Cent), Mastery, and The Laws of Human Nature. What we discuss: All humans have narcissistic tendencies Narcissism develops in childhood as a coping mechanism We are drawn to people who reinforce our self-image Deep narcissism results from dysfunctional parenting Attention-seeking behavior stems from inner emptiness We have a "thermostat" regulating self-absorption And more… Thank you to our sponsors: Therasage: Head over to therasage.com and use code Be Bold for 15% off TruNiagen: Head over to truniagen.com and use code HUSTLE20 to get $20 off any purchase over $100. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code Jen at checkout. BiOptimizers: Want to try Magnesium Breakthrough? Go to https://bioptimizers.com/jennifercohenand use promo code JC10 at checkout to save 10% off your purchase. Timeline Nutrition: Get 10% off your first order at timeline.com/cohen Air Doctor: Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code HUSTLE for up to $300 off and a 3-year warranty on air purifiers. Find more from Jen: Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://www.jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://www.jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements Find more about Robert Greene’s: Website - https://powerseductionandwar.com/
Full Episode
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One of your things was, and I think it was 48 Laws of Power, was to be kind of like, to kind of be flamboyant in a way, to stand out, right? That's one of your points.
So at what point is someone being authentic and that's who they are versus putting on a show or an act because they know they're being somewhat manipulative because they know, like a Madonna, for example, or that if they don't stand out, they'll just kind of like fade into the background, right?
Well, the quality of being a kind of a show off is something that you either have or don't have. It's hard to put it on. It's hard to fake it. You know, what you can do is you can learn, you sense when you're a child, when you're eight years old, that when I'm dramatic, When I make a show of something, when I have a tantrum, people pay attention to me.
And then you learn, if you're a manipulative type or you're power hungry, learn how to use that energy. Maybe you become an actor. Maybe you become a politician or whatever. And you channel it into that and you learn to exaggerate it. You learn to use it for effect. But I don't think you can turn an introvert into someone who likes to show off and be an exhibitionist.
I think it's very difficult because you have to kind of have pleasure and enjoy that element of getting that kind of attention. And not everybody has that. So the art of seduction is all about that. The art of seduction, I talk about the nine types of seducers. And one of them is the type that we're talking about here.
And what I'm trying to say is you out there, the listener, you fit one of these nine archetypes. It's sort of who you are. You were wired that way. And the game is to be aware of who you are. Oh, I'm a siren. I'm a rake. I'm a charmer. And then to exaggerate it, to bring it out more. And my view of humans is we are all actors. None of us go around in our social lives just being who we are.
We don't tell people, oh, you don't look so good today. Oh, your screenplay sucks. We are the opposite, right? We learn early on to act. Some people are better actors than others. But you need to be an actor in life. And I don't think there should be anything negative attached to it. It's just, your question is, how do we know whether it's authentic or not? I think you can feel it to a degree.
So, you know, when you see a performer and they're giving everything, there's a sense of, you know, it feels real. Yeah, you do. Sometimes there are people that are rock stars and musicians or actors where it does feel like they're kind of having to fake it. I mean, we can sense the difference.
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