Hacking Love: Deepening Commitment Through Open Relationships
Episodes
Ep. 60:—Open Relationships: Security vs. Freedom; How Much Radical Honesty Do You Really Need? Plus, Aiden's Sex Injury (Anna's Fault!) 🔥❤️🩹😅
16 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 60 is here, and it’s a mix of healing, honesty, and a little chaos.What does it take to rebuild trust after things get shaky? Not through co...
Ep 59: When Real Life Hits 💔🏥 Rebuilding Trust, Therapy Breakthroughs & Our Relationship Reset
07 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ep 59: When Real Life Hits 💔🏥 Rebuilding Trust, Therapy Breakthroughs & Our Relationship ResetAfter one of the hardest seasons we’ve ever ...
Ep 58: When It Still Hurts 💔🔥 The Messy Middle of Open Relationships — and Finding Your Way Back
26 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you say you’re okay… but your nervous system says otherwise?In this deeply raw episode, Anna and Aiden pull back the curtain on ...
Ep 57: Chemistry With Someone New: When Connection Threatens Stability 🧪💥🫦
17 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we face our biggest test yet: what happens when chemistry with someone new starts to shake the foundation of everything we’ve built...
Ep 56: Motel 6 or Four Seasons? 🏨💬 Playing Separately, Setting Boundaries & Getting Real About Jealousy
10 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This one’s all about the little details that really matter—like where your partner has sex with someone else. 😂 In this episode, we dive deep i...
Ep 55: Our Relationship Constitution 📝❤️ & A Very Sexy NYE 🎉💦
01 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After weeks of messy feelings, deep dives, and sexting slip-ups, we finally sat down to co-create our Relationship Constitution—or at least, what we...
Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering Control
24 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering ControlWhat happens when Anna’s working through her own insecuri...
Ep. 53: Trust the Bond (Part 2 with Coach Chloe Prentoulis)
12 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
**NOTE We recommend listneing to Ep 52 first! This is the second part of that episode.**This one’s raw, real, and healing. 💔💬 In Part 2 of our...
Ep. 52 Part 1: On-Air Healing: Our Raw, Live Coaching Session on Trust and Jealousy, with Chloe Prendt
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this candid and emotionally charged episode, we welcome back relationship coach Chloe Prendt for an on-air coaching session after a challenging eve...
Ep 51: From “I’m Fine” to Full Meltdown 💔 Anna Processes Aiden's Solo
29 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This one’s raw, y’all. After our separate play experiences at the Christmas party (Aiden with Jasmine, Anna with Tony), we thought we’d processe...
Ep 50: Aiden's First Solo Experience + Anna's Sexy Massage... Are We "Even" Now? Plus, Sexy Party Recap! 🫦
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this milestone 50th episode, we celebrate the launch of Season 3 of Hacking Love with an in-depth description of a recent sexy Christmas party we a...
Ep 49: Jealousy, Desire, and the Art of Staying Connected 💬❤️
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎉 Bonus 2 Hour Season Finale Episode! 🎉Season 2 goes out with a bang in Episode 49 of Hacking Love and wow, do we cover a lot 😏❤️ From ge...
Jealousy, Desire, and the Art of Staying Connected 💬❤️
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎉 Bonus 2 Hour Finale Episode! 🎉Season 2 goes out with a bang in Episode 49 of Hacking Love and wow, do we cover a lot 😏❤️ From gearing u...
Ep 48 — We Got Married!! 👰🏼🤵🏻 Now What? Our Open-Life Debate Gets Real
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Come for the vows, stay for the vibes 💍🔥Fresh off our festival-themed specatacle of a wedding (let's just say it got a little crazy 😜), we ge...
Ep. 47: Unfiltered Q&A; Solo Date Recap; Anna's 'Playful Probing' 👉 🍑 😉
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hey loves! Episode 47 of Hacking Love is here 💫 After a little hiatus, we’re back—ready to dive into your questions and celebrate some juicy mi...
Episode 46 — Anna Finally Gets Her Solo Date 👫: What Happens When Fantasy Becomes Reality
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this milestone episode, we dive into a story that’s equal parts unexpected, vulnerable, and thrilling. Solo dates have always fascinated (and uns...
🎙️ Episode 45: Results From Our Listener Dating Experiment! Plus, The Politics of Desire
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back, loves — and this one is packed. 💌 After taking a little break, we return with stories, lessons, and laughter from our latest advent...
Ep 44: Are We Datable? 👀 Anna & Aiden Put Themselves on the Market 😅
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So, we had a bit of a wild idea: What if some of you actually wanted to date us? 😳 Or at least hang out and be friends? 👫After 44 episodes of us...
Ep 43: "Hacking Nicaragua" Retreat 🌴 - Hear From Newbies Who Took a Shot -- and Deepened Their Connection. 💫 💕
19 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We just wrapped our very first Hacking Love retreat in Nicaragua… and it went great! 🌴 Three incredible beginner couples said yes to a wild idea—...
Ep 42: Ethics, Ego & Spiritual Bypassing in ENM 🎙️
12 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Broadcasting from the sunny shores of Nicaragua 🌊☀️, Anna and Aiden tackle complexities in ethical non-monogamy head-on.In this episode, we unp...
Ep. 41: The Morning After—Parties, Playrooms, and Emotional Hangovers 🎧🎉💔
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the party ends? We get honest about the emotional hangover that hit us both—the letdown, the exhaustion, and the questions that li...
Ep. 40: When “Open” Isn’t Honest—Red Flags 🚩; A Crazy Sex Party 🎉; Unspeakable Things 💬🙉
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Life’s been busy—family, work, and all the chaos that comes with it—but we’re here to dive deep into the real, messy, and beautiful side of lo...
Ep 39: Radical Growth and 12-Hour Orgasms 🤯 Where Tantra Meets Ethical Non-Monogamy (with Special Guest Scottie O!)
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week on Hacking Love, we’re diving into the surprisingly accessible (and way deeper than you think) world of Tantra-- and how it intersects wit...
Ep 38: “Thank You for Your Service” - When Old Flames Resurface 🔥📞
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re diving into what happens when exes reappear—and how to handle it in a healthy, honest, and open relationship. Aiden reconnects wi...
Ep 37: 🌴 Cabanas, Cuddles & Coaching: Our Trip to El Salvador Gets Spicy 💋🌀
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hey guys! This episode is a no-filter deep dive into our time at a Wellness Retreat in El Salvador —a tropical playground of connection, curiosity, ...
Ep 36: With Chloe & Michel: What 12 Years In an Open Relationship Looks Like 💞
25 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎙For the first time ever, we’ve invited guests onto the pod—and it’s a juicy one. Our dear friends Chloe and Michel join us to share their 12...
Ep 35: The Birth Control Pill—How It Can Affect Your Relationships & Health (What Most Women Aren’t Told) 💊💔
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this long-promised episode, Aiden interviews Anna about her 20-year experience on the birth control pill—and the profound changes she experienced...
Ep 34 - 🛼 From Roller Skates to 💬 Radical Honesty: What Actually Happened at the Party 🎉
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎙️ In this episode, we’re riding high on the glow of a dreamy, disco-fueled night—roller skates 🛼, glitter, and all. After weeks of talkin...
Ep 33: The "No Rules" Illusion — When Freedom Feels Safer Than Control
06 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎙️ Hey guys! In episode 33, we continue to peel back the layers of the onion as we revisit our feelings around separate play—especially rules v...
Ep 32: Slutty Texts, Separate Play & Sorting Through the Feels 😑 +🔥 Part 2 (listen to 31 first!)
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎙️ We’re back with Part 2 of our messy, honest unpacking of our recent separate play experience—because after sleeping on it, we definitely h...
Ep 31, Part 1 - Anna Sets Up a Solo Date for Aiden - and Almost Blows it Up! 💣; Cheating Kinks, Separate Play & Emotional Whirlwinds
29 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we accidentally-on-purpose found ourselves back at the mic after a wild ride of separate play, compersion, confusion, and emotional curveba...
Ep 30 - We Attend a Naughty Club Wedding?! 🤯 Anna Discovers Her Inner Femdom 😈
22 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎧 Join us as we kick off Season 2 with a celebration of how far we've come—into deeper love, more freedom, and whole new levels of compersion (th...
Ep 29 – Anna Goes Solo While Aiden’s Away... and Gets Punished
13 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While Aiden was out of town, I found myself on an unexpected solo adventure—one that turned into a surprising lesson in compersion, communication, a...
Ep 28 - Anna Asks Aiden About Opening Up — A Male Perspective 🔥🧠🔥
03 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you really let go of rules about relationships, masculinity, and desire? In this episode, Aiden opens up about his journey from trad...
Ep 27 - Are We Even Swingers? When Labels Just Don't Seem to Fit; Embracing the Unknown 🔥🤯
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you realize the label you’ve been using might not fit anymore? In this episode, we take a hard look at where we really belong in t...
Ep 26 — How to Discuss the Lifestyle with a Reluctant Partner! Plus, Surprise Run-Ins with Neighbors & Co-Workers in the LS? 😱 🥸
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we start with a totally relatable email from a listener asking for advice on how to approach the topic of opening her marriage with h...
Ep 25 — Cuddle Puddles, Boundaries, and the Beaver Force Field 🦫
18 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🎉 Hey Fam! 🔥 We’re back with Episode 25 where we share some unexpected lessons about boundaries and connection.Ever felt overwhelmed by lifest...
Ep 24 - How NOT to Get a Bigger D*ick! Plus, where are you on the Lifestyle spectrum?
09 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder where you land on the "lifestyle spectrum"? In this episode, we share specific questions to help determine what kind of approach may appl...
Ep 23 — Rehashing Old Jealousy Wounds ; Priapism ER Update 🍆
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this deeply honest episode, we open up about our relationship challenges, past wounds, and the ongoing journey of healing and growth. On air and in...
Ep 22 — From Heaven to Hell: 4 Amazing Hours Leads Aiden to the Emergency Room🍆😳🚑😩
26 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ep 22 is packed with heat 🔥 and a big lesson learned. We’re spilling the details about our latest adventure—a steamy session with a long-awaite...
Ep 21 - The One We Almost Didn't Post 🙈 — Anna & Aiden Play a Sexy Card Game
21 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Aiden arrives home with a box of sexy questions, leading to an unexpectedly hilarious and insightful evening of revelations, laughs, ...
Ep 20 - Better Sex with Someone Else?; Another Try at a Single Guy
24 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Inspired by a Reddit post titled 'My Wife Had Better Sex with Someone Else,' we explore our own fears and revelations when faced with the idea that ou...
Ep 19 - Anna’s Nerve-Wracking First Separate Date; Coming Out (a Little) to Friends; Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone; Anal Prepping!
22 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join us as we dive into Anna's recent coffee date experience and the "nervousitement" that comes with meeting a stranger on a first date. Anna recount...
Ep 18 - Can Jealousy Can Be a Good Thing? 🌶️💑; Also, When They Don't Ask You Back 👻
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
🎉 Welcome Back, Everyone! 🎉 If you’re loving our podcast, please drop us a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review! We're seeing so many of you tuning in – a...
Ep 17 - Permission to Bang: Our Wild Night with New Partners
07 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into our first playdate post-engagement.💍 After weeks of build-up with a sexy couple, the other woman boldly texted Aiden,...
Ep 16 - "No More Rules!" Taking Off The Guardrails & Deciding to Just Go For It
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we get candid about our quirks, kinks, and the challenges we face with jealousy and chemistry. From my "jealousy kink" that spices th...
Ep 15 - Our First Visit to a Sex Club! And Our First Play Experiences
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Hacking Love, we revisit some of our early adventures in the lifestyle, focusing on our first visit to a real sex club, revealing o...
Ep 14 (Revised!) - How More Freedom Can Bring You More Love; The Vanilla Date That Should Have Been Sexy!
14 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we kick things off with a shout-out to some of our new listeners all over the world. Listen for your city! Thank you all and feel fre...
Ep 13 - Lifestyle-Ready: Hacking Your Health for Peak Bedroom Performance
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ready to be your best, hottest and most sexy self? We'll show you exactly how!In this episode of Hacking Love, we explore the critical role health and...
Ep 12 - "But I'm Not Supposed to Be a Slut!": Anna Struggles With Her "Good Girl" Conditioning
06 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of “Hacking Love”, Anna grapples with deeply ingrained societal conditioning around sexuality, and her own sense of self-worth. Fr...
Ep 11 - Hot Girl Insecurities 2: Pre-Pool Party Jealously Jitters
05 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As Aiden and Anna prepare for a lifestyle pool party, beginning the recording just before they head out. Anna candidly shares her feelings of self-con...
Ep 10 - Hot Girl Insecurities 1; Boundaries & Jealousy in the Lifestyle
05 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Anna and Aiden tackle the question of separate play in their open relationship. Anna proposes that, in order to deal with her own ins...
Ep 09 - Relinquishing Control with "Let Them'; Planning a Playdate; Relationship Killers
03 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into monogamous marriage conflict traps, advocating for the 'let them' philosophy of relinquishing control of others. We also...
Ep 08 - Dipping Our Toes In; How the Lifestyle Can Level Up Your Relationship; Best ENM Apps, Podcasts & Books
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back! In this episode, we dive deep into the world of lifestyle podcasts and apps, sharing our personal journey and experiences along the way....
Ep 07 - Post-Breakup Healing: Counseling, Reconnection and Transformation
30 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this revealing episode, we dive deep into our journey of reconnecting after a significant breakup, highlighting the transformative power of humilit...
Ep. 06 - Deep Dive into Open Love: Trust and Discovery in the Lifestyle
30 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we (Anna & Aiden) open the doors to our world, engaging in a heartfelt and unfiltered conversation about our journey within the l...
Ep 05 - Lifestyle Party Diary: Unfiltered Insights, Emotions and Revelations After Our Sexy Event
27 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this intimate episode, we dive into our thoughts and experiences from a recent lifestyle party we hosted. Recorded immediately after the event, we ...
Ep 04 - Our Breakup Story: Recognizing Your Trust Issues and Shedding Your Baggage
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Anna and Aiden recount their tumultuous breakup which was filled with misunderstandings, miscommunications, and hurt feelings. The st...
Ep 03 - The Burning Man Orgy Dome: Our Non-Monogamy Journey Begins
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive deep into our first adventurous steps into the world of non-monogamy. We reflect on our experiences at a festival sex tent an...
Ep 02 - Finding a New Path Post-Divorce: Reinventing What a Relationship Could Be
22 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "Hacking Love," Anna and Aiden share their journey into redefining their relationship and leveraging aspects of ethical non-monogam...
Ep 01 - Introduction to Hacking Love: Deepening Commitment Through Open Relationships
22 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the premiere episode of 'Hacking Love: Deepening Commitment Through Open Relationships.' Join hosts Aiden and Anna as they embark on a cand...