Haven!
Episodes
Everything Falls Apart in the 7th Grade
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I was driving with my friend Gaia, who works as an in-house middle school therapist, as she breezed through some girl drama she helped some kids navig...
Work "Friends"
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are we actually friends or are we just sharing Slack threads and the same calendar invites? This week we dive into that in between space of coworker ...
The Birds & The Bees
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you talk to your kids about sex? And at what age do you start? The “birds and bees” conversation has evolved, especially in a world wher...
Being Married to Neurodiversity
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Perhaps a surprise to no one but my husband Aaron is neurodivergent :) When he was diagnosed later in life, it explained a lot... and raised even mo...
Memory Monday: To Botox or Not To Botox?
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Memory Monday! This throwback was my very first podcast episode. I was winging it (still am, in many ways) and decided to start with a topic that kep...
Big Sis / Lil Sis Mentorship
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Big Sis / Lil Sis Mentorship: When You’re Still Learning but They’re Looking Up to You What does it look like to mentor someone just a step beh...
Raising Boys & Girls with Sissy Goff and David Thomas
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I get to sit down with two of my favorite voices in the parenting space, Sissy Goff and David Thomas. Sissy wrote The Worry-Free Pare...
In-Laws... Uh-Oh, We Married the Family Too
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We may think we know who we are marrying - but do we really KNOW the family they come from? In-laws can be one of the most layered and unspoken dynam...
Are You A Good Dad? (Part 2 of 2)
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In part two of my conversation with my friend Albert, we go deeper into what being a “good dad” truly means to him as shares the small but powerfu...
Are You A Good Dad? (Part 1 of 2)
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are You A Good Dad? This one’s been sitting with me for a while. I often hear moms wondering aloud, “Am I a good mom?” And what the parenting e...
Grown Girl Friendships: Staying Close When You’re Growing Apart
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we explore the emotional complexity of sustaining friendship from girlhood into adulthood. What happens when life pulls you and your c...
Memory Monday: Lessons My Mother Taught Me
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Memory Monday!! Originally aired last season, I’m bringing back one of the most meaningful conversations I’ve had a two-part series with my very ...
Toxic Femininity: Is That A Thing?
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We hear a lot about toxic masculinity — in viral clips, cultural commentary, and even our personal lives. But it got me wondering: Can femininity be...
What I Wish I Knew Before Postpartum
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this vulnerable and practical follow-up to our pregnancy episode, I’m joined again by Tess to unpack everything we wish we knew before entering t...
What I Wish I Knew Before Getting Pregnant
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know when you're actually ready to have kids? And once you are… why does no one tell you how complicated, emotional, vulnerable and confu...
Sharing the Mental Load
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been asked where the birthday candles are—or when your kid last went to the dentist—and realized YOU are the walking, talking family databa...
Memory Monday: Free Marriage Counseling
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The #1 topic request I’ve received on this podcast has been marriage. So we're bringing back a favorite: my two-part series with none other than the...
Why Aren’t Millennials Getting Married?
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
“Can marriages even last anymore?” “It’s just a piece of paper.” “Why even get married at all?” These are the questions I hear all th...
What I Wish I Knew Before We Had Kids
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I don’t think I’ve ever experienced anything quite as life-changing as having kids. It’s the kind of shift you can’t fully prepare for—yet s...
What I Wish I Knew Before We Got Married
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There are so many things you can’t fully understand about marriage until you’re in it. Like how some seasons will feel 10/90 instead of 50/50. Or ...
Will Counseling Save My Marriage?
24 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For a long time, marriage counseling was seen as a last-ditch effort—something couples did when they were already on the brink of divorce. While tha...
Haven! (Trailer)
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hi, I’m Haven. For as long as I can remember I’ve had thoughts, ideas and questions inside of me that I love to talk about with friends and, usual...
How to Fight Better
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Season 3!!!!! This new season is all about relationships. I took a poll a few months ago asking why you're listening to this podcast and t...
The Art of Soul Care: How to Avoid Burnout with Debra Fileta
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do after you crash & burn from burnout? I was talking with a girlfriend the other morning over coffee and we realized it’s not “hav...
That’s Momsense: How Accurate is a Mother’s Intuition? Cross-Over Episode with Kanika Chadda Gupta
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How Accurate Is A Mother’s Intuition? A mother's intuition is a deep, often instinctual sense of knowing that many mothers feel when it comes to th...
Are You Speaking in Frequencies? Q&A with Erwin Raphael McManus
16 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Haven! podcast book club, I sit down with author Erwin Raphael McManus to dive into his latest book, The 7 Frequencies of Commu...
Sisters: Are We Best Friends or Worst Enemies?
02 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sister relationships can be very... tricky Like, I would give my sister my kidney but not my phone charger - what is that?? I was recently watching th...
Brainwashing Your Kids Into Being Best Friends?
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Brainwashing Your Kids Into Being Best Friends? Growing up my brother, sister & I had some knock-down drag-out gnarly flights… so now that I have tw...
Preschool Moms: This Time It's A Dad!
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Preschool Moms...I have done a few episodes on this topic as it’s my current phase of life having a 3yr old and a 5yr old! Previously in this series...
Why Do Compliments Make Us Cringe?
21 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve all been there… Someone comes up and says “Oh my gosh, I love your pants, they’re so cute!” Then we all the sudden feel awkward. ...
Mother/Daughter Talk: Mystery Flavor Q&A
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Bringing back a crowd favorite to the pod… my mom @lisawhelchel! She & I debated back and forth about what topic should we cover together and when ...
Aaron! Takeover: Living The Dream?
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s your favorite…. An Aaron! Takeover What does it mean to “live the dream”? Most people might say… 💰 Financial security 💼 Career...
Preschool Moms: Should We Be Putting Our Kids' Faces Online?
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Social Media + Kids = ??? We are the first generation to really have to wrestle with this as we were the ones in jr. high / high school when social me...
Affair-Proofing Your Marriage
26 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Affair-proofing your marriage... hefty topic. I don't think people go into their marriage thinking "one day I'm going to screw this all up, break any ...
Radical Candor featuring Q&A with Kim Scott
12 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Communication can be tough - especially when you have to deliver some difficult feedback. Kim Scott is a well-known figure in the business world, part...
Preschool Moms: Making Mom Friends
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Becoming a mom can rock your world - all the sudden you're thrust into this entirely new chapter of your life where it's all consuming, entirely life-...
Mother/Daughter Talk: How Do I Not Hate My Body?
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Could you imagine being 12 years old at your first week of dance practice after being cast for the New Mickey Mouse Club - feeling so thrilled to be t...
What Are Your Petty Peeves and What Are We Supposed to Do About It?
01 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Pet peeves... we all have them. Those little annoyances that come up in our day typically triggered by someone else's behavior. Usually we feel a bit...
What Does Healthy Masculinity Even Look Like?
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What does healthy masculinity look like in 2024? I feel the need to add the current year in that title as a caveat because cultural depictions of masc...
A Color Palette of Friendship: Is having one BFF realistic? Learning to appreciate people for the rainbow of roles they play in our lives
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I think sometimes with the media we are set up to think we will have the one "end all / be all / bff" friend that will fulfill all our bestie needs. B...
What's In A Name? What your name says about you, your origin, and who you will be in this world with guest Erwin McManus
20 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
“What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell just as sweet.” That reference is of course a line written by William S...
Origin Story of the Haven! Podcast
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's been one full year since I've launched this pod! I still get the question of "what made you want to start a podcast in the first place?" so I tho...
The Mentor/Mentee Relationship
22 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What comes to mind when you think of mentorship? Oftentimes we picture the one-on-one type scenario like in Star Wars where Qui-Gon Jinn mentored Obi-...
Learning Emotional Literacy as an Adult
08 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"Oh, are you feeling frustrated?" "That sounds really frustrating..." There are so many other words to express emotions other than "frustrated" but ...
Gentle Parenting-Ish
25 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The "gentle parenting" movement is all the rage right now. At its core, gentle parenting is all about the relationship. It's talking about treating ...
Relational Tune-Ups
11 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Anyone who’s been in a relationship for a while knows that sometimes you need to have a quick assessment with your partner of “How are we? Are we ...
Reading The Room
26 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"Come on, man, read the room..." We've all heard some variation of that phrase at some point in time. It typically means someone assessed a situation...
Aaron! Takeover: Labels
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
IT’S A TAKE-OVER!! My husband Aaron is my #1 requested return guest so we took it a step further and let him entirely take over this episode. I had...
You Find What You're Looking For
29 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed that once you’re aware of something you somehow see it everywhere? 🚙 Considering buying a particular car - you then see it driv...
What's It Like to Be A Teenager Right Now? (Part 2 of 2)
15 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The second installment of “What’s it like to be a teenager rn” is out! My neighbor, 14 year old Pearl, came back on to talk more about her cu...
What's It Like to Be A Teenager Right Now? (Part 1 of 2)
01 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us know what it feels like to be a teenager - the ups & downs, wild hormones, and ever-changing friend dynamics. But, I think this current gen...
What Women Don't Understand
18 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Spicy title coming from a woman, I know. But I did an episode last season called “What Men Don’t Understand” and it was talking about just th...
Help! I Like My Friend's Ex
04 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"Help! I Like My Friend's Ex" is what one of my girlfriends said to me over lunch a few months ago... Yikes. This is a recipe for something messy and...
Pie Therapy
27 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Inspired by a cooking/therapy combo class my sister and mom took a while back, this episode is exploring the concept of "the way you do one thing is t...
Keeping Best Friends Forever?
21 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BFFS! Is it realistic to think you can keep a best friend forever? How do you nurture a friendship over time so that it can evolve throughout the y...
The Facts of Life... & Other Lessons My Mother Taught Me (Part 2 of 2)
13 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a continuation of last week's discussion about the necessity of evolving your parenting style as your child transitions between season...
The Facts of Life... & Other Lessons My Mother Taught Me (Part 1 of 2)
06 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
🚀 NEW SEASON LAUNCH 🚀Season 2 is all about relationships and my own Mom so graciously agreed to come and talk about the mother/child bond & evol...
Side Character Energy: Parenting Edition
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our culture says “be the main character of your own story” which I can understand and get the idea… But, I am the main character in only one mov...
Longings and Unmet Desires
09 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Has your heart ever longed for something you couldn't quite reach? Whether you're held back by circumstance, talent, timing, capabilities, fate, or lu...
Navigating Sister Dynamics
25 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a sister and wonder if you're complicated relationship is "normal?" Or do you not have a sister and are curious if it really is all that ...
Blind Spots & Hidden Vices
11 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We all seem to have blind spots - areas we are weak in or aren’t able to accurately perceive ourselves. For me it can be as small scale as moving to...
The Movies That Change Us
28 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us grew up watching movies, but there was always one that you wanted on repeat. Have you ever wondered what drew you to that particular movie?...
Free Marriage Counseling: Money & Sex
14 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The second part of our “Free Marriage Counseling” episode is live now and we cover… Money & Sex Yes, we do really go there. 💰 MONEY 💰 ...
Free Marriage Counseling: Conflict & Communication
07 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The #1 topic request I’ve received on this podcast has been people asking for an episode discussing marriage. Committed long term relationships can...
What Men Don't Understand
24 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you remember the first time as a female you were objectified? I do. I was 12 and he was in his early 20s. It brought up mixed feelings of being ...
Be A Shark: Going After What You Want
10 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sharks - the silent apex predators that you don't see coming until they have already made their kill. What does it look like to take on the traits of...
Taking Up Space
26 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you want to take up more space? Are you nervous that you will come across as too big or too intimidating? Or are you on the other end of the spec...
Which Parent Did You Marry?
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Weird title, right? It seems we accept the love that feels familiar - whether that is for better or for worse. What I want to explore is wondering ...
Why Are You People Pleasing?
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
People Pleasing. It’s not a question of “if” or “are you” people pleasing but "WHY" are you doing it? It seems this is something we may all...
How to Not Botch a Job Interview
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How do you not botch a job interview? I’m a part of a scaling company and had to facilitate 100+ interviews over the last year - some people comple...
To Botox or Not to Botox
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week I am curious about… Botox. I’m 31 so all my friends and I are at the stage of asking ourselves, “Do we do Botox? Is it preventative? ...