Healing + Human Potential
How to Break Sexual Shame & Reclaim Your Desire with Sex with Emily | EP 85
22 Apr 2025
Is it possible that shame—not desire—is what’s really blocking your pleasure? In this episode, we talk about sex as a somatic healing practice—how it can regulate the nervous system, release stored emotion, and support a deeper sense of safety. This isn’t about quick fixes—it’s about learning to listen to your body, understand your needs, and create space for real connection. We look at what keeps many of us disconnected from our bodies, and how tuning into self-awareness and embodiment can shift our relationship with pleasure. You'll also hear how communication, curiosity, and timing can change the way we connect—with ourselves and others. To help unpack all of this, I’m joined by Dr. Emily Morse, host of Sex with Emily and a leading voice in sexual wellness. She shares her 5 Pillars of Sexual Intelligence and practical tools to reframe shame, rebuild intimacy, and bring more presence into your sex life. Whether you're just starting to explore your relationship with sex or have been on this path for a while, this conversation offers real tools you can use today. === Want one of the most Powerful Tools to Support you in Awakening & Manifesting Your Dream Life from the Inside Out (for Free)? Learn how to live to your full potential without letting fear get in the way of your dreams. ✨ Here's How to Get Your Gift: ✨ Step 1: Just head over to Apple Podcast or Spotify + leave a review now Step 2: Take a screenshot before hitting submit Step 3: Then go to alyssanobriga.com/podcast to upload it! === EPISODE TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 Intro 00:30 Exploring Sexual Shame and Cultural Conditioning 00:57 Navigating Sexual Attraction and Compatibility 01:16 Episode Overview and Guest Introduction 02:01 Understanding Female Pleasure and Breaking Taboos 04:17 The Five Pillars of Sexual Intelligence 12:01 Sex as a Healing Practice 16:29 Reigniting Chemistry in Long-Term Relationships 27:56 The Role of Foreplay and Building Sexual Connection 30:53 Reigniting the Spark in Long-Term Relationships 32:03 Exploring New Sexual Experiences Together 33:25 The Importance of Healthy Conversations About Sex 36:02 Navigating Sexual Desires in Dating 38:41 Practical Tips for Deeper Sexual Conversations 41:44 The Role of Therapy in Maintaining Intimacy 45:55 Debunking Common Misconceptions About Sex 52:08 Embracing Your Own Pleasure and Sexual Power 57:44 Staying Connected and Continuing the Journey === GUEST LINKS IG, X, TikTok, Facebook: @sexwithemily https://www.youtube.com/user/SexWithEmily Website: http://www.sexwithemily.com === Have you watched our previous episode titled Exploring Sexual Wellness, Tantra, & Erotic Empowerment - with Layla Martin Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/sGOw2wo-e9Y?si=vDR774dTUcF7tAon ==== Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved. === Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free: https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools 🎉 === Website: alyssanobriga.com Instagram: @alyssanobriga TikTok - @alyssanobriga Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6b5s2xbA2d3pETSvYBZ9YR Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-human-potential/id1705626495
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Everything's great and we're married but we don't have great sex. The sex is not a but. Sex is not an afterthought. Sex is wellness and your pleasure is important and you have to prioritize it from the jump.
I don't think enough people talk about the power of sex as a somatic practice.
I think that sex can be so healing for so many people. There is so much release that can happen when you feel safe because You actually can't fully access pleasure if you're living in an activated trauma state. There's so much judgment around women standing up for their own pleasure. And it's because we'd have to undo decades of cultural conditioning that tells women it's not okay.
paid to be sexual, that their sexuality is something to be shamed of, to be hidden. Sex is messy. If we can take our tears or our so-called mess and celebrate that as like, wow, this is like true sexual expression, that's another way to really reverse the shame and turn it into pleasure.
Another big question that I know people have, everything's great in terms of the relationship, but they're not sexually attracted to them. Can you build that chemistry or does that mean that you're not compatible? Yeah. Wow. This is a conundrum. I mean, what if sex wasn't just something that we do, but it's a vital part of our healing and wellness?
In today's episode, we're diving into sex, pleasure, and embodiment. We'll specifically explore how to shift from performative sex to empowered connected pleasure, how to navigate desire in long-term relationships, and why so many couples struggle to really openly talk about what it is they want.
Our guest today is the incredible Dr. Emily Morris, a sex therapist, author, and host of the number one sexuality podcast, Sex with Emily. She's known for breaking taboos with heart, humor, and clarity, and she's here to help us bring more confidence, curiosity, and compassion into our sex lives. This is a fun one. Hey, Lily. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so excited to be here.
Oh, my goodness. I just want to start off by acknowledging you because you talk about sex so boldly and transparently and authentically online. I think it's so important. And I'm curious about why you think female pleasure is misunderstood. There's so much shame about it, especially with women watching porn. or using vibrators. Can you talk to us about all of this? Yes.
It's such a good question because if you think about it, there's so much judgment around women standing up for their own pleasure. Like women want to watch porn or buy a vibrator or even talk about sex. We have immediate judgment. And it's because of all this, like we'd have to undo like...
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