Wellness 2.0: Be Yourself
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What does it mean to be authentic?
This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. Dance like no one is watching. Sing like you are alone in the shower. Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken. Countless aphorisms remind us that as we move through life, we have a choice. We can pretend and disguise who we are, or we can be true to ourselves. What does it mean to be ourselves no matter what they say, as the musician Gordon Sumner, better known as Sting, once instructed us? Don't we all contain multitudes? Is there really only one true self? And even if there is, how wise is it to always reveal ourselves? As social creatures, heavily dependent on the people around us, does it really make sense to ignore how others see us and march to our own drummers? The evidence about authenticity seems clearer when the shoe is on the other foot. When we are evaluating other people, most of us are extremely suspicious of people who may not be what they seem.
When we discover someone has lied to us, either implicitly or explicitly, we read this as betrayal. We distrust those who say one thing in public and do something else in private. This is why politicians learn to look you in the eye as they speak to you. Why they master the art of the firm handshake and the steady voice. This is really me they're trying to say. What you see is what you get. Today on the show, and in a companion episode on our subscription feed, Hidden Brain Plus, we explore new psychological research into what happens when we are true to ourselves and when we are not. It's the kickoff episode to a new series we're calling Wellness 2.0. We'll go beyond the angst surrounding New Year's resolutions and answer a deeper question. What does it mean to live well?
Over the next few weeks, we'll talk about how to keep your cool during stressful times and how to rise to the occasion during moments of crisis. We'll also help you figure out what you actually want in life and how to embrace the role that chance plays in shaping who you are. We begin with what it means and what it takes to live an authentic life. How to be yourself, this week on Hidden Brain.
How do we define authenticity in our lives?
Every day, we're called upon to play many roles. Parent, spouse, employee, neighbor, friend. Some roles may feel like the real us, and some may feel put on, even fake. What are the benefits of aligning who we are on the outside with who we are on the inside, and what are the costs of those two selves being out of alignment? Erica Bailey is a social scientist at the University of California, Berkeley. She has long been interested in the science and the subtleties of authenticity. Erica Bailey, welcome to Hidden Brain.
Thank you so much for having me.
What experiences shaped Erica Bailey's understanding of authenticity?
Erica, when you were growing up, you were very involved in the fundamentalist church that was at the heart of your community. What was this church?
So this was a small religious group in central Ohio. It was related through my parents and people that they knew. It had all of the earmarks, I would say, of what you would consider a cult in terms of being a very high control group, having really strict ideologies, and a lot of isolation from people who are not part of the group.
How much of a role did this church play in your life, do you think, as you were growing up?
It started off sort of smaller or a little bit distanced from us. I grew up in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, so a couple hours away. It gradually increased to become an incredibly central part of my life. It was a place we would spend hours and hours every week. with people from the community in the church itself. And by the time I was 19, 20, I was kind of all in. I was living full time with people from the group. I was evangelizing on behalf of the group. And it really kind of took up my whole identity.
I would imagine now you must have had close friends in the group. And in fact, maybe much of your social community was coming from this group.
Almost entirely, my social community was this group itself. They really discouraged having outside relationships and really told you or taught you both implicitly and explicitly that this should be your whole life, that this message that they had was so important, it was worth sort of forsaking any outside connections that might distract you from what the group was really about.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What does it mean to be authentic?
0:00–2:55
2
How do we define authenticity in our lives?
2:55–3:33
3
What experiences shaped Erica Bailey's understanding of authenticity?
3:33–12:18
4
How does inauthenticity affect our mental health?
12:18–13:56
5
What is emotional labor and how does it relate to authenticity?
13:56–19:19
6
What are the consequences of being inauthentic?
19:19–24:52
7
How can we create a more authentic workplace?
24:52–50:18