Hot and Unbothered
comparison is the thief of joy. how to stop jealousy & obsession to focus on YOUR own growth (dealing with social media, identity, insecurity)
Fri, 28 Feb 2025
We live in a world where comparison is inevitable, jealousy and materialism lives all around us on social media and in real life, it can be SO tricky to not compare yourself to others. In today’s episode your host, Brianna Gomez breaks down where jealousy comes from, how to cut out unhealthy comparison, and learn how to fall in love with your own life and truly grow in return.. Tune in to learn how to go from insecure and jealous, to HOT AND UNBOTHERED ;)we are truly getting HOT and unbothered today... trying something a little different, a SAUNA segment! this was our first test run so please bear with the audio quality & silliness, it's hard to think in the hot seat (literally lol). what do you guys think, should this be my new segment for guests?Join our Hot & Unbothered besties groupchat! Tune in to learn how to unlock your highest, hottest, & HAPPIEST self and truly GLOW UP from the inside and out.Shop my sustainable made to order clothing line! Stream Hot & Unbothered on ANY PLATFORM.LET’S BE FRIENDS ♡:Hot & Unbothered is now on TikTok!:@hotunbotheredHot & Unbothered Instagram:@hotunbotheredKeep up with me on Snapchat:@bbriannagomez Shop all my favorite things on myAmazon StorefrontBri's Instagram:@bbriannagomez Bri's TikTok:@bbriannagomez Pinterest:@bbriannagomez Spotify:@bbriannagomezShop my Closet on Depop:@xobbrianna See you next Bri-day!xo, Bri 💌
Chapter 1: What is the focus of this episode on Hot and Unbothered?
If you want to learn how to level up your life and unlock the hottest highest and healthiest version of yourself This is the podcast for you. Welcome to today's episode of hot and unbothered Hello beautiful people and welcome back to my podcast.
If you're new here, my name is Brianna Gomez and I am your host of Hot and Unbothered, the ultimate podcast for unlocking your highest self, leveling up your life and figuring out how you are going to take out the space between your current self and your highest self. So today we are doing something a little bit different.
Chapter 2: What is Brianna's new podcast segment involving a sauna?
If you can't tell, I am putting the emphasis on hot and hot and unbothered and we are in a sauna. So it's about to get hot. really hot in here so we'll see right now it's 122 degrees um but who knows so this is a new segment that we're starting where i will have a guest with me so let me know which guests that you guys want to see we already have a few potential ones lined up
But it's going to be really fun. We're going to talk all things self-care, self-love, and it's going to be done in a sauna. So we have the people live on TikTok. And if you guys have any questions, feel free to send them in and I'll answer as I go. But we have a whole setup going right now. So it's going to be really fun. I am going to have a guest in here with me and it's going to be a surprise.
So let me know who you guys want it to be. I'll call them up.
okay guys this is gonna be like you know hot ones where they get hot and they're eating the wings and they can't talk during their interview that's what this is but now it's hot and unbothered okay we're gonna turn it up just so i can get my benefits and i forgot a hair tie of course so today we're gonna be talking about comparison i know i had a lot of people request that topic
Chapter 3: How can you stop comparing yourself to others on social media?
and it's something that is so so relevant in today's day and age with social media everything like that it's literally impossible to not compare yourself to the person you're seeing on the screen we see so many photoshop things we see everything just like glorified almost because of course people are only going to show the good parts of their life but the best part about learning to not compare yourself
is the detachment that comes within that. So the number one thing I want you guys to do when you're trying to stop with the comparison is you have to cleanse and detox the media that you're intaking. So any negative media, whether that's someone who you really compare yourself to often or someone who photoshops their images or post negative things, clear it out.
You can unfollow people and don't feel bad about unfollowing people. It's totally normal. To go on an unfollowing spree, just because I think that we don't realize our thoughts, they really do impact like how we treat ourselves and how we view ourselves.
And so when we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, it's literally impossible to love yourself at a full 100% because you're looking at your phone, you're looking at this person who's not even real. You're just seeing the glorified parts of their life and you're thinking, I wish I had that. Or why am I not as pretty as them? Why don't I have as much success as them?
everything like that and that's just not the way it goes so that's the number one thing is you guys have to kind of identify where you find yourself comparing and then kind of delegate whether or not it's worth it to keep that comparison in your life because honestly like it's not worth 99% of the time
And another thing that comes with comparison, because we know that comparison is the thief of all joy. I'm sure your mom told you that growing up. I'm sure you've heard that before. But comparison also comes or stems from jealousy. And jealousy is something that is honestly, it can be a super strong.
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Chapter 4: What practices can help overcome jealousy?
strong like stronghold honestly and it's hard to shake that feeling away because again when we see someone who has something that we want we become jealous of them and it's just a natural feeling but with that jealousy can come resentment it can come with unkindness and that's just not a good way to live and it's hard to vibrate at a high energy when you are constantly jealous of someone else and holding that resentment so
I want you guys to practice when you see someone who you find yourself being jealous of or comparing yourself to, instead of hanging on to that resentment, I want you to be happy for them. Be happy for them because they have something that is meant for them. You can be inspired by them. You can be motivated by them. But don't be jealous because jealousy is just not cute. And jealousy...
it gives off this desperate energy almost. And it's just not a magnetic frequency to be on. It's just not. So I want you guys to really practice that. And it's really nice like having that mindfulness and that intention when you find yourself like feeling that feeling of jealousy, you can kind of go in and correct it, which is really, really helpful. So I like practicing that.
And another great way to practice this is to never hold a positive thought to yourself. And this can sound a little bit silly, but when you see someone walking down the street, you know, you see them, maybe she has a really cute outfit or you love her dog or her bag or her hair looks amazing and you wish your hair looked like that. You might feel that feeling.
Chapter 5: Why should you never hold a positive thought to yourself?
of jealousy for a second you might feel that oh my gosh that should be me you need to feel that feeling and release it and as you release it you let that person know the thought that you had about them never ever hold a positive thought to yourself and it is like the most magnetic practice you can do because it just spreads more positivity to that person and you get what you put out into the universe if that makes sense so if you're putting positivity out it will come back and find you
let's pause and look at the comments we have isabel isabel said hi brie it's late where i am so i wish i could stay to listen but i want to say i love your advice it's hard to think when it's 142 degrees hot and slightly bothered it's so hard to think I wish I had a hair tie or like a rubber band. I want you guys to imagine this. God creating you, right?
And everything about you is so perfectly and intentionally made in the way that you are right now is the way that you were intended to be.
everything down from your hair to your skin to your personality to your interests that was how he decided you should be because he needs someone like you in this world and then imagine if you spent so much time imagine you're buying a gift for someone and you carefully like put out this gift maybe you you hand make it you pick it out you wrap it with so much care and you're so excited to give it to this person and to see what they do with their gift and
Chapter 6: How does Brianna describe the importance of self-acceptance?
And then they open their gifts and they're like, I hate it. And they're like, I wish I had that person's gift. I wish I had something that's not this. I wish I had more money, more success. I wish I looked different. I wish my talents were different. I wish my family were different. But you handpick this for them. but they're deciding that it's not what they want.
But honestly, at the end of the day, that person who you gave the gift to, they don't know your true intention behind it because maybe you had a specific use for them to use it for that they weren't going to use it for yet. Or maybe you just had this specific vision that you wanted for them and they just don't see it yet, but they don't see it.
So they're so, so upset with the gift that you got them and they want to return it. They want nothing to do with it. They hate it. They put it on the ground and they stomp all over it. Like,
you have to imagine that is how your creator who created you is viewing you because now you're not liking the cards that you were dealt and instead you want to go trading you want to go look at what every other person has and say i like theirs better i like theirs better why don't i have the same clothes as them the same money as them the same job as them you don't know what's coming for you.
And imagine how hurtful that is to the person who gave you that gift, right? And they're not going to want to give you any more gifts if you're constantly just looking and focusing on what everyone else has. So that's my two cents on how you can kind of
change your perspective a little bit when it comes to learning how to be happy with what you have in life and not just wanting instantly what other people have and we live in a world where it's so easy to just scroll and open your phone or see people at the gym or on the street and just wish that things were different but it really is refreshing to remind yourself that you are who you are for a reason
You're where you are in this point in time for a reason. And there's no need to stress about if you're going to get the same success, if you're going to get the same looks and achieve the same things because you are on your own journey. But you have to remember someone else's path is not your path. You are exactly where you're meant to be.
But instead of focusing on other people, you need to be focused on yourself. Because once you decide to look inwardly, and you stop looking at all these external distractions almost and all these external negative factors, you will become so much more magnetic.
Like all of that attention and obsession that you're putting into other people's lives, you need to revert back into you and it will become so powerful and magnetic and you will thrive. I'm going to tell you guys something that I do deal with comparison. I do struggle with comparison.
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