How To Be a Terrible Daughter
Episodes
030: Narcissistic Systems 2: The Return
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we take the blueprint of the narcissistic family and lay it over the systems we're living inside. And unfortunately, the overlay line...
029: Systemic Narcissism Part 1
17 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we zoom out. Way out. We take everything we've learned about narcissistic family systems and scale it up. Because once you se...
028: The Field Guide to Common Neighborhood Narcissists
03 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Not all narcissists look the same. Some are loud, shiny, and aggressively self-impressed, others are quiet, aggrieved, and somehow still manage to mak...
027: Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we break down the strange and rigid logic of narcissistic family systems and the roles children are quietly forced into just to keep ...
026: Good Parent Messages Because Apparently That's a Thing?
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we introduce the idea of Good Parent Messages, the kinds of emotionally regulating, grounding messages children are meant to receiv...
025: Special Encore: Silent Night, Silent Treatment: A Holiday Survival Guide
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a re-release of our Holiday Survival Guide from last year! We wanted to bring it back for a couple of reasons. First, we have a lot of...
024: I Know What You Did in Your Last Relationship
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week we are wading into the murky, sparkling, and occasionally shark infested waters of romantic relationships. You know, the ones everyone insis...
023: The Fine Art of the Fauxpology
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we wade into the wild, destabilizing landscape of apology and repair, where narcissistic "I'm sorrys" are really emotional trapdoor...
022: No Contact II: The Quiet Place
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So you finally did it. You went no contact. You broke out of the emotional prison your narcissist built, and now you are standing in the sunlight, bl...
021: Season 3: Now With 30% More Self-Awareness and 0% Parental Approval
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back! It's time to hate your parents with us again! This week, we're talking about how to take care of yourself while listening to hard thin...
Season 3 Trailer
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Guess who's back from the grave? Not our narcissistic mothers — they're still gloriously, blessedly dead, and we're thriving in their absence. It'...
020: Me: Maybe it wasn't abuse? Also Me: Every complex trauma symptom
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we're tackling one of the most unsettling and deeply confusing questions many of us face: Was it abuse? And let's be honest—if that que...
019: No, YOU need to manage my anger!
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Anger. The emotion we were taught to fear, suppress, or avoid entirely—especially if we grew up under the reign of a narcissist. In this episode, w...
018: Narcissist Escape Room—Just Kidding, You're Stuck
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Not everyone has the luxury of going no-contact with a narcissistic parent, and if that's your situation, congratulations—you've unlocked the exper...
017: Forgiveness: Terms and Conditions Apply
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ah, forgiveness—the gold standard of healing, right? Well, not so fast. When you've been through narcissistic abuse, the usual "forgive and move on...
016: The Casual Demolition of What Little Self-Worth You Have
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we wade through the debris of self-esteem left in the wake of growing up with narcissistic parents. It's not a pretty picture. From ...
015: Burn Before Breeding
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting is hard enough without the baggage of a narcissistic childhood, but add that to the mix, and it's like trying to assemble IKEA furniture w...
014: Vampires vs Narcissists: You're Eating Maggots
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're off to the movies this week! On How to Be a Terrible Daughter, we're diving into the 1987 cult classic The Lost Boys. Vampires, family drama, an...
013: Shrink Wrap: How to Find a Therapist
24 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we're tackling the high-stakes scavenger hunt of finding the right therapist, especially for those of us recovering from narcissistic abus...
012: What kind of F*er are you? The four stress responses
10 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the place that's supposed to feel the safest—your childhood home—turns out to be the source of your deepest stress? Your nervous...
011: Silent Night, Silent Treatment: A Holiday Survival Guide
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are coming in hot (and so are the guilt trips), but fear not—we've got your back. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, or whatever gather...
010: You Shall Not Pass!
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of How to be a Terrible Daughter, we expand on a topic we touched on in previous episode, and it's a BIG one, boundaries —a concept...
009: "So Lonely"
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of How to be a Terrible Daughter, we take a stroll through the exhausting, often invisible labor of loneliness that comes with having ...
008: "Mailbag Mayhem"
20 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to "How to Be a Terrible Daughter!" In this special mailbag episode, we're diving into your burning questions about surviving and thrivin...
007: 3,2,1… No Contact!
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to "How to Be a Terrible Daughter," where we tackle the gut-wrenching yet necessary step of going no contact with a narcissistic mother....
006: Grief: It's Not Just for the Dead Anymore!
23 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this latest episode of our podcast, we tackle the unique and often misunderstood grief experienced by children of narcissistic parents. We've all b...
005: Surviving the Narcissist's Greatest Sh*tshow on Earth
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to part two of our latest episode on the ins and outs of narcissistic abuse. If you missed our previous talk, here's a quick recap: we ex...
004: Narcissistic Abuse: A Carnival of Mind F*ckery
25 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're going to explore the many subtypes of narcissistic abuse. Yes, there are so many that we need to employ a categorization syste...
003: Barbed Wire Mommy
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Elizabeth and Megan explore the intricate world of attachment wounds, particularly those etched by the icy touch of narcissistic pare...
002: Jurassic Trauma
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join us on this week's journey into the heart of darkness—okay, maybe just the heart of trauma, but let's be real, sometimes it feels like the same...
001: Welcome to Our Nightmare
12 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this first episode, Megan and Elizabeth introduce themselves, talk about growing up in a narcissistic family, and explain why they embraced being ...
Welcome to How To Be a Terrible Daughter!
27 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering how to be a terrible daughter? Listen as Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper, mental health professionals who also happen to be cousins, discu...