Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’
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Who is Connell Barrett and what is this podcast about?
In dating, good looks are a lot like Jacuzzis. They're nice to have, but they're overrated. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. Think of me as your podcast dating coach. I am here to help you flirt with confidence, get more dates with very attractive, intriguing women, and help you get a great girlfriend. And do it with authenticity. By being your truest, most authentic self, no sketchy pickup artist moves needed. Because guess what? Women are attracted to you at your most authentic and most confident you. That's right. Mom was right all along. Girls like you for you. So this is about dating with success, results, but also with respect for women, integrity and respect, and also authenticity. So let's get into it.
And today I've got a really fun episode. Today we're going to answer some questions. I'm going to answer some questions that I've been getting from you because there's a lot of dating problems out there that men want help with. I've got some good questions. I've got a gentleman asking me about, is he just not good looking enough to get successful dates and to get a great partner? I've got a really interesting question from a man who is having trouble getting women to show up on dates. He gets ghosted a lot and gets canceled on a lot. So if you ever get flaked on, if you ever get ghosted, today's a great episode for you. If you're not sure if you're good looking enough, or maybe you're just not physically handsome enough to attract your type of girlfriend, today's a great episode for you. And then I've got a fun sort of silly wildcard question. A man wrote me and said, hey, Connell, I really screwed up. Basically, he cried on a date while watching the movie Titanic. He cried and the woman lost interest.
And he wants to know if he's just too nice, too sensitive. So we've got some really good stuff today, and I think you're going to like today's episode as we play a little Ask the Dating Coach. So you asked, I'll be answering today. So I can't wait for that. And one of the things that I like to make sure I help you with here on the podcast is flirting. Making sure you always know what to say, how to talk to women, both in person on dates or when you approach, or also online when sending messages, when texting. It's really important to know how to talk to women. I think struggling to know what to say to women is... the most universal dating problem that I hear from men. Variations of that. What do I say? What's my opener? How do I flirt?
What do I say when I approach? What do I say to not get rejected? How do I stay out of the friend zone? It's all different variations of what do I say. And if you don't know how to talk to women, that's a problem. It leads to ghosting, It leads to getting friend-zoned after one or two dates that fall flat because a woman thinks, eh, he's nice but kind of boring. And it can lead to loneliness or it can contribute to loneliness if you ever feel lonely. Because struggling with flirting and what to say really does get in the way of finding love and finding that special person. And I have been there. I struggled with this as well. I didn't know how to flirt, how to talk to women. I remember I once approached a woman at a nightclub 15, 16 years ago when I was first working with coaches. And I walked up and I literally choked. I didn't talk for like 10 seconds. I just... I opened my mouth, but words didn't come out, and she just walked away. It was awkward, very awkward silence. So if you deal with anything like that, then I have been there. I feel your pain.
But just so you know, it doesn't have to be this way. And so if you want to get really good at flirting, which is one of my specialties as a coach, if you want to always know what to say, if you want to be charismatic, and if you want to know how to write a great opener, or how to text women, and how to really make sparks fly on dates, then just so you know, I do one-on-one coaching.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
Who is Connell Barrett and what is this podcast about?
0:00–5:24
2
Am I not good-looking enough to attract women?
5:24–15:31
3
How can I improve my attractiveness without changing my looks?
15:31–32:14
4
Why did showing vulnerability on a date lead to rejection?
32:14
5
What are the common dating problems men face today?
2:42–14:38
6
How does confidence affect dating success?
14:38–16:50
7
What practical tips can help men become more attractive?
16:50–35:29
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The 10 Texting Commandments: How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates
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