How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Attract Your Dream Girlfriend by Dating with Radical Authenticity—Part 1 of a Special Series
Mon, 18 Nov 2024
Do you want a great relationship with a wonderful woman, but you struggle with flirting and dating? It can make you feel frustrated, lonely and low in confidence. Let’s change that! Introducing the new How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, which launches this week with a 5-part series about how to attract your soulmate. In this first episode, dating coach and author Connell Barrett shares his groundbreaking dating philosophy—Radical Authenticity—to help you confidently flirt, get dates, and find love. Your dream girlfriend is out there, and she wants to meet the authentic you. Listen now!In this episode, Connell will tell you:(4:45) What Women REALLY Want in Men(6:00) The Moment He Learned How to Approach and Attract Women(10:30) How Connell “Stole” His Girl Away from 3 Charismatic Wall Street Bros(12:45) How He Moved in for the First Kiss(16:25) Why Radical Authenticity Is So Powerful to Women(20:04) The Real Reason Men Struggle with Low Confidence(24:24) Jaw-Dropping Success Story: How Connell’s Client Nick Escaped the Friend Zone(30:30) How Connell Bounced Back After His Wife Left Him(40:45) The Secret that Made Women Start Chasing Connell(44:30) The 5 Benefits of Dating with Radical Authenticity(52:00) The 5 Pillars of Radical Authenticity(56:00) The 2 Missions Connell Wants You Do To Today(59:25) How to Get Your Free Copy of His No. 1 Bestselling Book, “Dating Sucks but You Don’t”Quotes"Authenticity unlocks a paradox: Embrace your worth, speak freely, and let the right words effortlessly flow." - Connell Barnett"Embrace fear, take courageous actions, especially when approaching women. Courage is the antidote to fear in life." - Connell BarnettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation Website:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
Chapter 1: What is Radical Authenticity in Dating?
I didn't just live in the friend zone. I owned a condo there. Welcome to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach and author, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you confidently flirt with women and attract your dream girlfriend all by being authentic. No toxic pickup tricks needed.
Thank you so much for being here, especially when you have, oh, I don't know, 7 billion podcasts to choose from. It means a lot to me that you're here. And think of this perhaps less... of a podcast and more like a dating coach session with me as your coach and you as a guy who wants to get a Intended to help you get a great girlfriend. I'm gonna give you three valuable things today first.
I'm gonna reveal what women want Second, I'm gonna give you a whole new dating philosophy That's gonna make you feel much more confident and make you much more attractive to women and third I'm gonna give you some practical in real life missions that are gonna put you on the path to getting more dates and finding your dream girlfriend and
And please stick around until the very end of the episode because at the end of the episode, I'm going to tell you exactly how to instantly get a free copy of my book. I wrote a dating book, best-selling book called Dating Sucks But You Don't. It's a dating guide for men.
And at the very end of the episode, I'm going to give you a free copy if you want one, and I'll tell you how to do that right at the end. Okay, I got a couple questions for you. Do any of these dating frustrations resonate with you? Are you not sure how to flirt and connect with women, and maybe you run out of things to say?
Or do women sometimes banish you to the friend zone, the dreaded friend zone? Or maybe you want to approach some beautiful women out in the real world, like at the gym or at your favorite bar, but something holds you back. Or maybe the dating apps just aren't working for you, not getting good matches, not getting good dates.
Or perhaps you fear that women who you're into, really beautiful, attractive, intelligent women, maybe you just feel like that they're out of your league and that you're not enough for them, not in their league. Well, if any of those frustrations sound familiar, I totally get it. I had all of those issues myself once upon a time. I didn't just live in the friend zone. I owned a condo there.
I was a friend zone real estate magnate. And I think that it's just plain wrong when a good guy like you or me back in the day is lonely and struggling with self-confidence. It just shouldn't be this way. The really good news, though, is that you can change this. once you understand what women want.
And this podcast is going to teach you everything about what women want and everything you need to land a great girlfriend and do it as your most confident real self. No toxic, weird, manosphere, pickup artist BS. So here's what you're going to learn starting today and going forward all the rest of this week and beyond if you stick around.
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Chapter 6: What Success Stories Can Inspire You?
And so it was really thrilling to be vibing with Kelly that night, the coolest, prettiest girl on the rooftop bar in my book. And so we're talking, and here's the moment of truth that happened. I said, hey, I'm going to go get us more drinks. When I came back from the bar with our vodka sodas, she was surrounded by these three Wall Street bros.
And this handsome, wavy-haired guy in the middle had her twirling her blonde hair and giggling. Now, I had assumed that since I had returned with our drinks, Kelly and I would pick up where we left off. I was very wrong. I say, here's your drink. And she took the drink without breaking eye contact with wavy hair. She was ignoring me and talking to him now. Minutes ago, I had been her date.
Now I was her waiter. So I feebly say to her, maybe we should go downstairs? She ignored me. And then Wavy Hair's two wingmen closed the circle and basically turned their backs to me and literally boxed me out of being able to talk to her. And I felt so defeated. My shoulders slumped because all my adult life, charismatic, cool, richer guys like this dated the kinds of women I wanted to be with.
And now this finance bro was stealing the one rare girl who liked me. So I find my coach. He's standing over at the bar, and I fill him in on the situation. Now, I had read in online forums about how to handle these so-called AMOG, A-M-O-G, you might know that term, the socially dominant alpha male of the group. So I go to my coach and I say, hey, what's my move? Do I talk to other women?
Do I try to mess his confidence up with a really perfect barb or insult? Do I give him a knuckle sandwich? What do I do? And my coach just looked at me and said, just go take her away from him. And I said, what do you mean? I was wiping sweat off my forehead. He said, well, she was with you and you guys were hitting it off, right? I said, yeah.
He said, she likes you, but she wants to see if you're going to go after what you want. And then he said, approaching women in a bar, it's like survival of the fittest. And she's leaving tonight. She's leaving this bar tonight with either you or him. Who's it going to be, Connell? And I said, I want it to be me. And he said something I'll never forget. He said, assert your ideal outcome.
What do you want to have happen? And then he said, if your girlfriend, if she was your girlfriend, let's imagine she was your girlfriend. If she was flirting with some other guy, your girlfriend, would you just give up? He asked me. I said, fuck no. And I could feel something inside of me start to stir. I said, no, I wouldn't. I'd march over there and stop it. So he said, go take her back.
And I said, what do I say, though? He said, don't overthink it. Don't worry about what to say. Just speak your deepest truth. Another thing I remember from that night. Speak your deepest truth, he said. So I said, all right, here I go. So with my adrenaline flowing, I beeline back toward Kelly. And I break into that circle. And I take her by the hand. And I command, come with me now.
And I half pull her away from them. And she said... you know, bye guys, as I sort of half yanked her away from these guys. And I take her over and I sit down with her at this nearby bench. And we're only 10 feet away now from these guys, but the investment wankers did not follow us. I was in charge now. And I wasn't sure what to say, but I heard that little voice saying, speak your deepest truth.
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Chapter 7: How to Get a Free Copy of Connell's Book?
Chapter 8: What Are the Benefits of Being Authentic in Dating?
Sure, you have a good job and cool friends, but you just aren't sure how to flirt, the apps don't work for you, and sometimes women put you in the friend zone. It's frustrating. Hey, I struggled with dating too. As an introvert and a total nerd, I didn't just live in the friend zone, I owned real estate there. But I escaped.
Using the dating philosophy of radical authenticity, which I've used to help thousands of men in 17 countries find love. It's what I wrote about in my best-selling book, Dating Sucks But You Don't. And radical authenticity is why psychology today called me the best dating coach in America. And now I want to personally help you attract your dream girlfriend.
So go to datingtransformation.com and book a free call with me. On our call, I'll tell you how my one-on-one coaching will help you find your dream girlfriend, and you'll be doing it by flirting with confidence and authenticity. No creepy pickup tricks needed. So go to datingtransformation.com, book a free call today, and let my personalized coaching help you get a great girlfriend.
Okay, we're back. So why did Kelly choose me that night instead of a rich, handsome Wall Street guy? Well, because the courage and the authenticity I showed elevated me in her eyes above my competition. I stood out. I was the 1% man, top 1%. Now, a few days after that evening, I was telling this story to a good friend. And my friend said, gosh, that doesn't sound anything like you.
And actually, when I told Kelly, I want you, and I'm a man who goes after what I want, when I said that to her, I had never felt more like me. The insecure, self-doubting dweeb who I had been presenting to women that guy was the imposter. The candid, confident guy who Kelly met, that was the real me or the best me anyway.
And while this guy was new to dating and new to approaching girls, that confident guy inside of me, he had been a regular fixture in other areas of my life. I was doing great in other, I had a really well-rounded life. I'll bet you do too. If you're listening to this podcast still, I'll bet that you have a really good, well-rounded life, but the dating piece is that one missing puzzle piece.
And just like you, at the time, I had a great journalism job. I had a fantastic circle of friends. I could break 80 on the golf course. In these other areas of life, I was a man of mastery. but asked me to go approach a girl, and I morphed into this jittery, armpit-stained loser who would quake in the presence of this mysterious species called the female. So why the dichotomy?
Why was I Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde from Girls? Well, as my 20 years now studying dating success has shown me, it's because you, me, everyone, we all have dual selves. We have what I call the higher self and the lower self. Your higher self is the hero of your life. Any arena of life that brings you joy and fulfillment and confidence and you feeling like you're in the zone.
That's your higher self He's you operating at full potential So the job you love or the biceps you've sculpted or the great kid that you're raising It's it's that superhero inside of you who's running the show in that part of life but every hero has to face their arch villain, right? Luke Skywalker had to face Darth Vader. Harry Potter had to battle Voldemort.
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