If I Speak
Episodes
14: What does it mean to live authentically? w/ Oisín McKenna
21 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya talk to Evenings And Weekends author Oisín McKenna about living authentically, intense female friendships, and how financial precarity l...
13: I’m the problem, it’s me
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the difference between tactics and standards? Ash explains with a Big Theory about how we behave in relationships. Moya brings a dilemma from...
12: How to be a good friend
07 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Moya and Ash get deep and meaningful on the subject of true friendship, and help a listener who’s feeling weird about dating a “normie”. Plus: b...
11: Help! My partner’s too posh
30 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya answer a Mystery Question about what they’ll do on the left-wing commune of their dreams, before helping a listener deal with class env...
10: Do I have to be nice to my friend’s partner?
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya ask if honesty is the best policy when it comes to our friend’s partners, before tackling two dilemmas about unwanted friendship and no...
09: Should you ever shag a Tory?
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya tackle the politics of sex appeal in response to the show’s first ever Mystery Question, and respond to a listener struggling with guil...
08: How to cultivate optimism
09 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Moya and Ash think about how to stay hopeful when the future looks bleak, and give advice to listener whose marriage is suffering from major communica...
07: What do straight men know about dating?
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya talk to Matt Kendall from The Love Cupboard podcast about how straight men perceive the women in their lives. Plus, a dilemma from a list...
06: Do you owe your parents anything?
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash presents her big theory about chosen families and what to do when your best friend is having a baby. Moya shares two listener dilemmas: can you li...
05: Are we trapped in a fantasy?
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Moya is joined by a special guest, author and journalist Shon Faye, to work out the lure of political fantasies and advise a listener who’s feeling ...
04: Can you teach an adult to have empathy?
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya tackle a Big Theory about how we punish criminals and respond to a listener who doesn’t know how to end a situationship. Plus: what the...
03: The dating trap
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is there such a thing as a sexual marketplace? Moya and Ash debate the dating trap for straight women and respond to a listener who’s too tired from...
02: Is my long-distance relationship doomed?
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya respond to a listener embarking on an LDR across the Irish border, and tackle Ash’s Intrusive Thought about her cat Moussa. Plus, Moya ...
01: Should I give my mum an allowance?
20 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ash and Moya respond to a listener who’s struggling to support her mum financially and wonder why people are being weirdly hyper-sexual online. Plus...
Introducing: If I Speak
19 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On If I Speak, Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean tackle the world’s social dilemmas (and some of yours). Every other Tuesday we lay bare the weird ...