In Sanity: A piece of mind
Episodes
Episode 75 - What is Parent Burnout?
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Parental burnout is described as an exhaustion syndrome, both physical and emotional. This overwhelming exhaustion leads to emotional distancing from ...
Episode 74 - Narrative therapy: You can do it at home
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Narrative therapy is a technique for therapy that is supposed to help people separate themselves from their problems. Problems occur in cultural and s...
Episode 73 - Finishing up with Grief
20 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm ending this series on grief with a final review of "The Grief Recovery Handbook" which I think you all should read. There are steps and activities...
Episode 72 - Grief is Emotional, not Intellectual
13 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Grief and loss are emotional experiences. Unfortunately, we aren't very good at it, and we aren't very good at helping people with their grief. As a s...
Episode 71 - What's Wrong with Our Grief Narrative?
06 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We've been given a narrative about grief that does not necessarily serve all of our loss experiences. The 5 emotional stages were originally identifie...
Episode 70 - Grief: A Different Perspective
30 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm reading "The Grief Recovery Handbook" and I think it's an interesting and unique way of looking at grief. In terms of therapy and counseling, pret...
Episode 69 - Codependency, Part 2
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you try to control or influence areas where you don't actually have any? Do you try to control people or things with no results? Who do you feel co...
Episode 68 - A Question about Making Friends and an Introduction on the Topic of Codependency
16 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week I answer a question about making friends as an adult. You are not alone if you struggle with this. There are a lot of reasons this is hard, ...
Episode 67 - How to Find a Therapist and Information about Self Care
09 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you ready for therapy? Listen to this week's podcast for some important things to know as you look for a good fit. Self-care. What it is and what ...
Episode 66 - Perfect is the Enemy of Good
02 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Set reasonable expectations. Minimize your use of the words "should, must, or have to." Recognize that doing something is better than doing nothing. U...
Episode 65 - Validation, Self-Validation: How, Who & Why?
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Validation is at the heart of our ability to get along with others and build relational bonds. Validation is the opposite of insulting, dismissing, or...
Episode 64 - Criticism and Complaint: Whose problem is it?
18 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you tell if someone's criticism or complaints about you are your problems or theirs? Listen to this episode, and for a refresher on criticism a...
Episode 63 - Question about Increasing Self Awareness
11 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Having self-awareness helps you understand other people and how they view you and your actions. Many people assume that self-awareness comes easily an...
Episode 62 - Be There for Your Kids
04 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There is a lot going on in the world. Your kids need to feel that you can be there for them no matter what. They have their own relationships to deal ...
Episode 61 - Mindfulness Revisted
28 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It would be impossible for me to express in words what you can only experience by engaging in mindfulness practice. So this week, I'm at it again. Wit...
Episode 60 - How to Understand your Partner's Perspective
21 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
All relationships have conflict. Conflict does not make a relationship bad. The purpose of conflict is to gain a greater understanding of your partner...
Episode 59 - Exploring Some Different Aspects of Understanding
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Despite the important role it plays in relationships, understanding does not have to be imperative in all interactions. Sometimes our need for underst...
Episode 58 - Hedonia, Eudaimonia, Treadmills and Chasing Happiness
07 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is the difference between hedonia and eudaimonia? What is a happiness set-point? How does my set-point affect my ability to be happy? Can happine...
Episode 57 - The Science of Happiness
28 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In a world where the focus on happiness is growing and science is teaching us new things about how to create lasting happiness, it's time to learn wha...
Episode 56 - How Habits and Relationships Intersect
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
According to James Clear, there are three levels of behavior change; the first is changing your outcomes, the second is changing your process, and the...
Episode 55 - Gottman's Four Horsemen
14 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Drs. John and Julie Gottman have identified 4 conflict communication styles that, unless addressed, can have dire effects on any relationship. Listen ...
Episode 54 - Conflict is Inevitable
07 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The number one thing couples fight about is "nothing." Nothing can feel pretty bad, though. Drs. Julie and John Gottman offer some strategies for mana...
Episode 53 - Relationship Conflict
31 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How many types of relationship conflict are there? Let's talk this week about three specific types of conflict as described by Drs. Julie and John Got...
Episode 52 - It's not you, It's your systems
24 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Goals are good insofar as they provide direction for change and improvement. However, just having a goal is not likely to be accomplished without a ch...
I uploaded too early
17 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I accidentally published episode 51 on Sunday evening instead of Monday morning. Oops.
Episode 51 - Habits are Better than Goals
17 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to 2022. It's time for the obligatory podcast about new year goals/resolutions. Except ... that's not where I am going to spend my time. James...
Episode 50 - Setting Boundaries with our Parents
10 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being a child can be hard. Being an adult can be hard, and being an adult child can feel like you are always trying to find out who you are, what you ...
Episode 49 - Parenting Boundaries
03 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What type of parent are you? What are your values? It is useful to have some answers to these questions as you listen to this podcast about parents an...
Episode 48 - Christmas Traditions of Service
27 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Taking a break from boundaries to talk about Christmas traditions. About 12 years ago, we started "Christmas Service Letters" as a gift from the kids ...
Episode 47 - Communication and Boundary Language
20 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you struggling with the words to use to set boundaries, reinforce expectations or reach out for help? Listen to this week's podcast to hear me tal...
Episode 46 - Boundaries: What kind of person are you?
13 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a boundary keeper? Or maybe you are a boundary violator. Do you take more than you give, or give more than you take? This week's podcast is ve...
Episode 45 - Boundaries
06 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me for the first episode in some kind of series about boundaries. Based on your input through Instagram, I am hopeful I can be specific in answer...
Episode 44 - Taking the Week Off
29 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm taking the week off. See you next Monday.
Episode 43 - Cultivating Gratitude: Happy Thanksgiving
22 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Greater Good Science Center offers a whole lot of data on the benefits of gratitude. In a 2018 paper titled "The Science of Gratitude," they outline t...
Episode 42 - Small Changes Matter
15 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We all have things we want to change. They might be pretty big aspirations and perhaps we are working on them. Or maybe changing big things seems too ...
Episode 41 - Stress Management
08 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Stress shows up in our minds, in our bodies, and in our behaviors. We feel stress when we perceive a lack of stability between the work we have to do ...
Episode 40 - The Difference Between Emotions and Feelings
01 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Generally, the words "feeling" and "emotion" are used interchangeably, but there are distinct differences between them. It is important to know the di...
Episode 39 - Resilience: How much do you have, and how can you increase it?
25 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Resilience is something we can all develop, whether we want to grow as individuals, as a family, or as a society. Listen to today's podcast and take a...
Episode 38 - Resilience: How to Help Young People Foster this Trait
18 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, my son Christian joins me to talk about resilience and kids. He's a great resource, not only for his personal experience with resilience in...
Episode 37 - Why Resilience is Important for a Happy Life
11 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I've got some ideas about resilience that I want to address in the next few podcasts. You will certainly learn things, and have some fun with more of ...
Episode 36 - Criticism, Feedback and a Growth Mindset
04 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Is criticism hard for you to take? Can the people in your life offer you feedback? Do you get defensive and criticize back? What are your limitations ...
Episode 35 - Creating Savoring Rituals for Increased Happiness
27 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Happiness - is it a state or a trait? Is it the same as pleasure? What does it have to do with well-being? Can you be happy in life if your life...
Episode 34 - Five Elements of Well-Being: How hard do you want to work?
20 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How would you rate your level of well-being? Are you physically fit? Do you feel spiritually connected? Do you make time for a mindfulness practice? T...
Episode 33 - Parenting: You didn't do it wrong, you just didn't know; and when you know better do better
13 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me and a couple of my daughters to continue a discussion about parenting. Things really have changed, and parenting has changed. My girls share t...
Episode 32 - Parenting with the Whole Brain in Mind
06 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Drs. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have written a book called "The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developin...
Episode 31 - It's Not Time Management, It's Task Management
30 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Time is not a limited commodity because it is always there, unfolding every second before you. Focusing on time creates stress and dissatisf...
Episode 30 - Stepping into Negative Emotion
23 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When we avoid or distract from negative emotions, we close ourselves down. This practice might numb us from the emotions we don't want to feel, but it...
Episode 29 - The Trouble with Worry, Part 4 - Do You Really Owe That
16 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there...
Episode 28 - The Trouble with Worry, Part 3 - Don't Worry! Be Happy!
09 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Thanks for sticking with this multi-part series on worry. There are solutions, and there is hope for less chronic worry.
Episode 27 - The Trouble with Worry, Part 2- Nests in Your Hair
02 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Keep listening and learn how to keep the worry nests out of your hair. The Worry Trick by David Carbonell, PhD
Episode 26 - The Trouble with Worry
26 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If we aren't supposed to worry, why is there so much to worry about? Here in this first podcast about worry, learn the difference between worry and an...
Episode 25 - Processing Emotions
19 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Emotions are just visitors. You can invite them in and you can invite them to leave. SUDS Scale Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Episode 24 - Can You Say Hodge Podge?
12 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Hodge Podge: a heterogeneous mix; a jumble. Now, do what I did and look up heterogeneous.
Episode 23 - Mood & Food Part 3; What to Eat and Why
05 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Food is not good or bad. It just is. However, it is always possible to eat to make us feel better and to make us feel worse. That may look different f...
Episode 22 - Morals First: Values Second
28 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In order to teach kids values, parents and caretakers have to have them. It seems prudent then, to teach kids to HAVE values. These usually come from ...
Episode 21 - Mood and Food Part 2; Amino Acids and Mental Health
21 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Stick with me for some more important groundwork about food and mental health. Amino acids are an important compound and come in a variety of "flavors...
Episode 20 - Mood and Food Part 1; Your Brain and Neurotransmitters
14 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Mood and Food, Part 1 Your brain is always on and requires a constant supply of fuel. Food is that fuel. What you eat affects the way you feel i...
Episode 19 - Parenting Using Love and Logic
07 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode talks a bit more about parenting styles. I also talk a bit about why it's important to allow, even encourage children to make mistakes. O...
Episode 18 - What Type of Parent are You?
31 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
There are 4 different styles of parenting. Most parents have a little bit of all of them. If you understand what they are and how they affect children...
Episode 17 - Why and How Does Mindfulness Work?
24 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Mindfulness isn't magic and it can't cure heart disease, but it is a helpful tool. There are a lot of benefits, and more and more research is being co...
Episode 16 - Self Awareness to Self Correct
17 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Michel de Montaigne got it right - The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself. Check out this week's episode and the resource...
Episode 15 - Women Helping Women
10 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Rising as we lift others, empowering women to reach for the stars, shedding the shame of not being good enough - that's all on us, ladies. Listen to t...
Episode 14 - Metaphor. Mindfulness. Movement.
03 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Sounds like I'm in a feedback loop with podcast topics. Not so. Listen to this one, and I promise you will hear new and interesting ideas about how to...
Life is Like Riding a Bike
26 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk metaphor. Life is like a difficult trail run or bike ride, at least for me. I've learned some good lessons that I'd like to sh...
Episode 12 - A Conversation about Pets
19 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me and a few of my kids this week for a conversation about pets. When you have 9 kids, you might end up having 90 pets, and then you will likely ...
Episode 11 - Journaling - living life twice
12 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Why do you journal? Why do you not journal? This week I talk a bit about my journal journey - the good and the bad. I will also give some insight into...
Episode 10 - Mindfulness for Kiddos
05 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As promised, here's a bit on mindfulness for kids. According to brain imaging research, practicing mindfulness can alter brain structure in a way that...
Episode 9 - Moving into Mindfulness
29 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"The mind is just like a muscle - the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets and the more it can expand." Idowu Kyenikan Mindfulness is this...
Episode 8 - Hearing is not Listening
22 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Will Rogers said that we should never miss an opportunity to shut up. This episode is packed full of great information about how good listening skills...
I used to be a Mommy Martyr, Part 2
15 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Being a martyr is hard work. It might even be harder than being a mother. In the immortal words of Bob Newhart, "Stop it." Here are a few of th...
I used to be a Mommy Martyr, Part 1
08 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a martyr for your motherhood. If you keep an honest journal, go back and read it. You might find what I found - a lot of stuff about how you m...
Positive Characteristics and Clarifying Values
01 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We live in a world where there is a dearth of values understanding. In addition to how values can help you live your best life, they can also increase...
Absorbing into Myself
22 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Here are the resource materials for today's episode. Articles Self-affirmation activates brain systems associated with self-related processing and rew...
Movement as an Investment
15 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Listen to how and why investment in moving your body is scientifically proven to make your life better as you age. The book(s) Younger Next Year*...
In Sanity: A Piece of Mind Introduction Episode
08 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
So they say that if you have something to say, you will find those who want or need to hear you say it. I've toyed around with this podcast idea for a...
I hardly move and I rarely shake
08 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a book you want to write? A podcast you want to start? What would you like to accomplish, and would accountability help? This podcast illu...