INFP Thrive for Enneagram 9s
Episodes
Is Being Late Rude? Cultures Disagree on What Time Is and How to Use It
27 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like people are too blunt – or not direct enough? Do you live by the clock, or are you free with your schedule? Do you like to cut ...
Jantelagen: What a Swedish Flatmate Taught Me about Fitting In versus Standing Out
15 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There's an unwritten rule in Swedish culture called the Law of Jante: Don't think you're special. Don't stand out. Blend in. It’...
The Wrong Way to Listen
07 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Turns out there’s not just one way to listen – there are four, at least according to the authors of Adaptive Listening: How to Cultivate Trust and...
Happy People Fall in Love with Strangers More
22 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Love isn't what most people think it is. It’s not a bond between partners or family, according to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson – it’s a micro-mo...
Mind Reading Isn't a Sign of Love
07 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever thought: “If they really loved me, they’d just know without me having to say it.”But expecting someone to intuit your needs isn’...
I Cried During a Knitting Lesson
07 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I cried in my first knitting class and I didn’t know why – it’s not like I’m emotionally invested in making potholders out of yarn.In this epi...
Feel More at Ease When All Eyes are on You
22 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
My guest today, Sunalie, is a warm and gifted journalist – and also a former client of mine.During our time together, she had so many meaningful win...
Virtuous Procrastination: When ‘Doing Good’ Becomes an Avoidance Tactic
09 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you procrastinating more than you think you are? In this episode, I’m talking about virtuous procrastination – the act of avoiding discomfort,...
Your Comfort Addiction is Costing You
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Comfort can quietly cost you the life you really want. When we play it too safe in the name of avoiding unpleasant thoughts or feelings, we drift away...
Get to the Point
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We often have something meaningful to say – but the way we say it can get in the way. We overload our listener with backstory, hoping to make them u...
Cut Carrie Some Slack: Stoic Musings on Sex and the City
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Carrie Bradshaw used to feel relatable. Now we accuse her of being unhinged.But maybe that says more about us than it does about her.Read the article....
The Ultimate Comeback: How to Respond to Insults
31 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve all had those moments where an insult or offhand comment sticks in our head. Hours later, we’re still replaying it, wishing we’d come up w...
You've Changed. Let's Honor That.
17 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
To move forward, sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is pause and take stock of how far you’ve come. Read the article.***I’m your host, ...
Keep Your Eye on the Prize
10 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I finally became a British citizen after years of putting it off – not because I didn’t qualify, but because perfectionism kept slowing me down. ...
When ‘No Filter’ Is Just Lazy (and Sometimes Immoral)
03 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Being blunt isn’t the same as being brave. In a culture that idolizes people who “say whatever they think,” we’ve started confusing impulsiven...
How to be Remembered
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The Science of Connection: Building Bonds Through Small Acts of LoveIn this episode, I share a brief moment with my nephew that opened up a bigger que...
Make It Stick: A Simple Way to Savor Your Wins
13 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the real key to growth isn’t pushing harder, but celebrating more?In this episode, I’m sharing why savoring your wins matters – how it r...
Pursuit of Happiness: What It Really Means
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What did the Founding Fathers actually mean when they talked about “the pursuit of happiness” – and how can we apply that wisdom to our lives to...
It’s Supposed to Suck Right Now
29 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Struggling to start something new because you're afraid of looking foolish? This episode is your permission slip to begin. You’ll learn how Sto...
Why You'd Rather Lose Than Be Treated Unfairly
21 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do abandoned mansions in Bucharest have to do with dirty dishes and emotional resentment?In this episode, I explore how our desire for fairness c...
The Truth about Mr. Darcy + Nonviolent Communication Tips for Conflict Resolution
08 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Mr. Darcy has been on my mind this week. Not because he’s the fantasy of so many women, but because I finally read Pride and Prejudice, and discover...
How to Combat Speaking Anxiety with Stoicism: Stoicon 2024 Talk
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Last week, I gave one of the lightning talks at Stoicon 2024. The topic: How to Combat Speaking Anxiety with Stoicism.Want to see the video? Head to m...
Conflict: 4 Stoic Solutions for Managing Difficult Conversations
02 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we get angry? How can we challenge our immediate reactions? And what's the best way to articulate our feelings without passive aggression ...
Find the Good in this Very Moment
25 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I’m reading David Fideler’s excellent book Breakfast with Seneca, where he quotes Seneca in one of his letters: “If you want to escape your tro...
4 Best Tips to Communicate with Intent and Impact (Stoic style)
05 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our intentions don’t always line up with our outcomes, and misunderstandings lead to anger, sadness, frustration, and conflict. In this episode, I’...
Overcome Speaking Anxiety with Stoic Psychology
14 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Introvert Emergency Kit Click here if you're ready to become a less anxious, more charismatic public speaker.When it comes to public speaking, w...
How to Stop (Negative) Self-Comparison and Increase Your Confidence
31 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We often hear how negative self-comparisons can be, especially when it comes to social media. But what if we could use comparison as a force for good?...
Stop Numbing Out and Start Thriving: Self-Mastery is an Act of Self-Love
15 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let's be real. We are smart people with an unhelpful habit of numbing out instead of taking action on our dreams. If you relate with any of the ...
When People Interrupt You, Do This
24 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been cut off mid-sentence and feel a whirlwind of emotions – frustration, anger, embarrassment? Why do we, as Enneagram 9s, take interruption...
Stoic Leadership: Lessons from the Greatest Generation
29 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What do courage and resilience truly mean?This Memorial Day, I reflect on the incredible bravery of the 'Greatest Generation' during World W...
When You Think People Are Judging You
21 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever noticed how our thoughts and reactions can create unnecessary stress, or cultivate empathy and understanding for others? On a recent fli...
The Key to the Good Life: Who You’re With on the Journey
05 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Harvard researchers have been studying what makes people happy for decades. Since 1938, they’ve been following the same people, and then their fami...
Sign Up Now: Goal-Setting Workshop Jan 14
12 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I’m hosting a 2023 Goal-Mapping Workshop on Jan. 14. It’s free and a replay will be available for a few days after if you register in advance. Th...
Keep Your Commitments: The Real Reason People Won’t Change
08 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Around January 1, we set goals that we intend to keep. But most of us break these vows before the month is over – why? What’s the real reason peop...
Auld Lang Syne: What It Means and Why It Matters
01 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What does Auld Lang Syne mean and why is its message so important?Find out in this episode.Also, Happy New Year! What are your intentions for this yea...
This Is Your Second Chance: Stay Present For It
23 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s that time of year when we encourage each other to slow down, appreciate what we have, and be present with others. But how do we stay in the mom...
Goals! How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions
02 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life,” Seneca says, “it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising t...
How to Live More Courageously Part 2
26 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Quick reminder in case you need it…Even if you don’t feel like a particularly courageous person, you’ve acted bravely at some point in your life...
How to Live More Courageously Part 1
19 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We live in an age of cowards. Of people going along with the crowd because it’s the easy thing to do. It feels safer to throw stones at the other si...
How to Manage Your Mind
05 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Most of our suffering comes from thoughts that we let run wild in our brains. We spend a lot of time each day rehashing different conversations and s...
How Long Will You Wait Before You Demand the Best for Yourself?
28 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Janus is the Roman god of beginnings and endings, transitions and passageways, doorways and duality, amongst several other things. And he was one of ...
How to Enjoy More Euphoric Days & Make Better Decisions by Listening to the Wisdom of Your Body
20 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
A few months ago, I downloaded the Waking Up meditation app. Founder Sam Harris compares the average mind with a sky clouded with light pollution. He ...
Anger and the Enneagram
13 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In my episode on Stoicism and the Art of Happiness, Donald Robertson offered some techniques we can use to manage our anger toward people who hold vie...
Ancient Wisdom that will Change Your Life: The Story of Marcus Aurelius
04 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
For several years I've been interviewing women like myself who packed up everything to start a new adventure in another part of the world.One of ...
Stoicism and the Art of Happiness
27 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Even though I haven't lived in the U.S. for 10 years, I've been in Italy and England for most of this time, I still pay close attention to m...
Enneagram 101
03 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
[UPDATE: I've since changed the name of my newest podcast to LIVE Without Borders, merging it with my original travel and wellbeing podcast. The ...
You Deserve to Be Your Biggest Advocate
08 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when someone takes advantage of you or tells YOU how YOU'RE feeling? You might want to cozy up in bed with a pillow on your head. ...
Ask for Help
01 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you treating yourself as well as you treat your best friend?The next time you find yourself holding back when you want to ask for help, consider h...
You Matter. Your Voice Matters.
25 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you matter?When I first learned about the Enneagram, I resonated with almost everything there was to say about 9s, except the idea th...
Growth Mindset and the Power of Yet for INFP Enneagram 9s
02 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Last year around this time, I went to the beach with my mom. She was flipping through Real Simple magazine, which is our favorite beach read, and one ...
Find Your Focus: How to Add More Peaceful Productivity to Your Life
19 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you having a hard time getting things done?Maybe you’re a daydreamer. Maybe something is going on with your family. Maybe you’re devastated at...
Let Future You Take Care of It
05 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you overthinking something right now and can’t seem to move forward? I have a simple yet very powerful mindset mantra that will get you moving ...
Are You Choosing Alive Time or Dead Time?
24 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been walking around coastal England and marveling at how nature just keeps going.The tulips here are so red and lush a...
How to Make Faster Decisions as an INFP 9
19 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like you're a workaholic who never gets anything done? I felt like this for so long.When I started my own business, I really, re...
A Conversation with a Myers Briggs Coach, and My Friend, Caitlin Hawekotte
05 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today I’m sharing a podcast episode I did with my friend Caitlin Hawekotte, who is an MBTI® Certified Practitioner, which means that she administer...
Now is Your Time to Lead as an INFP Enneagram 9
29 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Hello from lock down in the UK. I’m sending you a big virtual hug wherever you are waiting out the COVID-19 coronavirus.Do you feel like you’re th...
What Does It Mean to be an INFP Enneagram 9?
29 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
New to Myers Briggs and the Enneagram? I am. I’ve been digging in deeper with both these assessments this year, especially the Enneagram, and I’m ...
Expat Life: How I Learned to Thrive as an INFP Enneagram 9
29 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As INFP Enneagram 9s, we don’t always love putting ourselves out there publicly, but that doesn’t mean we’re not dream chasers.On this episode, ...
Welcome to INFP Thrive for Enneagram 9s
05 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Does this sound familiar?✔️ The weekend passed by in a blur of busyness, but you’re not sure what you actually did and somehow your to-do list g...