Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

119 | Help! I broke no contact- here’s what to do next

07 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You said you wouldn't. And then you did. If you broke no contact with your affair partner and you don't know what to do now, this episode is for you. ...

Ep 118 | Why part of you still wants him and part of you can’t let go (yet)

05 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sister, I know there’s a part of you that still wants him. Even after no contact. Even after you’ve decided to move forward. Even after you know t...

117 | Why You Feel Addicted to Your Affair Partner (and How to Break the Cycle)

30 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I talk honestly about something many women feel but don’t know how to explain- the addictive pull toward an affair partner. If you’ve ever ...

Ep 116 | Stop Making Room for What’s Destroying You: How to Finally Walk Away and Walk in Freedom

28 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What does real freedom actually look like for a woman who's trying to walk away from her affair, but whose heart hasn't caught up yet? In today's epis...

115 | I ended the affair…now what? A step-by-step guide for the first weeks after

23 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You ended the affair… but now you’re left wondering, “What do I actually do next?” This in-between season can feel overwhelming. Your emotions...

114 | Should you tell your husband about your affair? A Christian woman’s honest dilemma

21 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been asking yourself, “Do I really need to tell him?” you’re not alone. This is one of the most complex and emotional decisions afte...

113 | Can I save my marriage after my affair? 5 questions every Christian woman should ask

16 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been asking yourself, “What am I supposed to do about my marriage after everything that’s happened?” You’re not alone. This is one...

112 | Is my husband a narcissist? Or am I just facing the consequences of my affair?

14 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve found yourself wondering, “Is he a narcissist… or is this just the fallout from everything that happened?” you’re not alone. This ...

111 | When you can’t break the affair cycle- even after you confessed

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Healing can feel unexpectedly lonely once the crisis passes and life returns to “normal.” Today, I talk honestly about the quiet middle season of ...

110 | Do I need STD testing after infidelity? The conversation no one is having

07 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Healing can feel unexpectedly lonely once the crisis passes and life returns to “normal.” Today, I talk honestly about a part of affair recovery t...

109 | Not fair! Do women who cheat get shame while men get a pass?

31 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Healing can feel unexpectedly lonely once the crisis passes and life returns to “normal.” Today, I talk honestly about a deeper layer many women e...

108 | Waiting to Heal After Your Affair? Here’s What It’s Really Costing You

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

🌻 Join the Spring Clean With God for FREE here! Have you been telling yourself it’s not the right time to heal yet? In this episode, I talk about...

107 | Why It Feels Like God (or Life) Is Punishing You After Your Affair

19 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

🌻 Join the Spring Clean With God for FREE here! After an affair, many women quietly carry the belief that ongoing pain is their punishment, that jo...

106 | I confessed my affair...so why do I still feel stuck while doing all the right things?

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve done all the “right things” after an affair- therapy, confession, accountability, prayer, and still feel heavy, confused, or disconnec...

105 | Why You Don't Desire Your Husband After Your Affair (And Why Nothing Is Wrong With You)

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been wondering why your head wants to move forward but your heart and body haven’t followed yet, this episode is for you.   Today I tal...

104 | Why Healing Suddenly Feels Lonely And What To Do About It

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Healing can feel unexpectedly lonely once the crisis passes and life returns to “normal.” Today, I talk honestly about the quiet middle season of ...

103 | Why Healing Feels Worse Before It Feels Better

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Can we normalize the emotional backlash that often follows confession, cutting contact, and choosing healing? In today's episode, I share my own exper...

102 | Should I Tell My Family and Friends About the Affair?

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for the woman who wants to live honestly, but also wisely. In this conversation, I share my own experience navigating whether to tell ...

101 | Shame Isn't The End Of Your Story: Healing After Abortion with Brittany Poppe.mp3

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

✨ Free Masterclass coming February 23! The Cost of Silence is a free training for Christian women who had an affair and are tired of managing their ...

100 | A New Sisterhood Is Rising: You Are Not Alone in Your Healing

27 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

🎉 In this milestone 100th episode, I’m celebrating something much bigger than a podcast number. I’m naming a movement I’m watching God build ...

99 | Rebuilding Self Trust After Breaking Your Promises

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share my honest journey of losing trust in myself during the affair, and the tiny, sacred steps that rebuilt my confidence over tim...

98 | How to Build Habits For Healing That You Actually Keep

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I break down how to build healing habits you can actually keep, especially when life is overwhelming. Learn how to create rhythms tha...

97 | Reclaiming Your Identity: Let God Rewrite Your Story After Your Affair

06 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself, especially after an affair, this episode is a breath of fresh air. Today, I share my honest journey of r...

96 | Resetting Rhythms for a New Year After Ending An Affair

01 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

📣 The Group Coaching Experience is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join the sisterhood today!   Happy New...

95 | Holiday Loneliness, Temptation, and the Pull to Text Him

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

📣 The Group Coaching Experience is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join the sisterhood today! The holidays...

94 | Staying Regulated When the Holidays Trigger Everything

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join the sisterhood today! In this ...

93 | The Truth About Closure And Why You Don’t Need His Words to Heal

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join the sisterhood today! Today, I...

92 | The Power of Community in Healing

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

📣 The Group Coaching Experience is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join the sisterhood today! You were...

91 | Becoming Her: Acting Like The Healed Version Of You

26 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

📣 Join the community before Dec. 1! My personal mentor will be joining the Rooted in Joy coaching community as an expert guest speaker. You don't w...

90 | If The Affair Is Wrong, Why Does It Feel Right?

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + Embodied Bible Study is now open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join the sisterhoo...

89 | Seek First the Kingdom And God Will Provide Everything You Need

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

NEW: Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + Embodied Bible Study is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join today. If yo...

88 | Hold Your Emotions Without Letting Them Hijack You

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

NEW: Our bi-weekly Group Coaching + bi-weekly Bible Study is open! DM GROUP on Instagram or email [email protected] to join today. Sist...

87 | Who Am I Without Him? Reclaiming Your Identity After the Affair

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

NEW Community Group Coaching! Reach out on Instagram for more information and to join us today!   When the affair ends, the silence can feel unbearab...

86 | Still Thinking About the Affair Partner? Practical Tools to Break Free

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

NEW Community Group Coaching starting Monday October 20! Reach out on Instagram for more information. You’re not crazy for still thinking about him...

85 | Guilt vs Responsibility: Stop Punishing Yourself & Start Healing

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!) If you’ve ever thought, “I should feel guiltier… I should r...

84 | Will I Ever Feel Loved Again After Infidelity?

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!) Have you ever asked yourself, “Will I ever feel fully loved aga...

83 | Religion vs. Relationship: What Salvation Actually Means After An Affair

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! Do you know for sure if you’re saved? Not if you’ve been religious, gone to church, or tried to be a...

82 | How to Set Boundaries That Actually Protect Your Peace After an Affair

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! After an affair, the word boundaries can feel heavy, like walls, restrictions, or even punishments. But w...

81 | The God Who Sees: When You Feel Invisible and Forgotten

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! Have you ever felt invisible, discarded, or like no one understands what you’ve been through? In this ...

80 | Grieving the People Who Didn’t Show Up For You

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ac...

79 | When You Crave What Doesn’t Serve You

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You know he’s not good for you, so why do you still think about him? If you've ever found yourself craving att...

78 | Still Missing Your Affair Partner? How To Rebuild Real Connection After Your Affair

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You cut off the relationship. You’re doing “the right things.” But the ache? It’s still there. Why do I ...

77 | No Contact Doesn’t Actually Work (And Here’s What Does)

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You cut contact. You deleted the number. You swore you’d never reach out again. So why does it still hurt? Wh...

76 | The Secret To Rebuilding Trust After An Affair? Start With YOU!

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Everyone talks about earning back trust from your spouse after an affair. But here’s the truth no one tells you: before anyone else can trus...

75 | You're Not Broken, You're Still Becoming

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here What if your continued struggle isn’t a sign that you’ve failed… but a sign that you’re still becoming? ...

74 | Where Do I Even Start With Healing After My Affair?

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here If you’ve just ended an affair—or maybe you’ve confessed and you’re still spinning in shame—you might ...

73 | Repentance Is a Homecoming, Not a Punishment

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here What if repentance wasn’t about shame—but about coming home? In this tender and truth-filled episode, I shar...

72 | I Can’t Go Back But I Don’t Know How to Move Forward

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You thought things would get better after the confession. But now? You just feel stuck. In this episode, I speak...

71 | The Difference Between Isolation and Solitude: Stop Hiding And Start Healing

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here After an affair, it’s easy to withdraw, thinking you're protecting yourself or others. But withdraw turned iso...

70 | Am I Still A Good Person After My Affair?

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!   After betrayal, the shame can feel unbearable. You wonder, Who even am I no...

69 | Confession Isn’t Closure: What Your Heart Still Needs to Heal

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!   You finally told the truth. You thought it would bring peace. But now you f...

68 | Stop Trying To Fix Everything: How To Finally Start Healing After Your Affair

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!   If you’ve been trying to fix your marriage, your emotions, or your image…...

REPLAY | The First Step To Getting Out Of Secrecy - Find And Create Safe Spaces

05 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here Sister, this episode has the MOST downloads of all time, so I know that it resonates with many of you!    Are ...

66 | Lessons a Fitness Coach Taught Me About My Healing Journey

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com  Friend, if you follow my Instagram stories (@kristinajoycoaching) then you know I've beg...

65 | I Wish My Friends Knew These 8 Things About Life With An Affair

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com  Sister, today's episode is unique because I want you to think about sharing it with a fr...

64 | 5 Lies I Believed During And After My Affair

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com  Friend, I'm getting honest here and sharing a few of the lies I believed during and afte...

63 | What Stories Are You Telling Yourself? You're Creating Your Feelings

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com  Have you ever stopped to consider the thoughts and stories you let race through your bra...

62 | Stop Lying To Yourself: Honesty Is Kindness

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com  One of the greatest pieces of advice I've been given on my journey is: Honesty is kindn...

61 | My Top 3 Favorite Bible Verses After My Affair

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

ONE spot left to begin coaching in September! Let's connect HERE! One of the biggest lessons I learned after confessing my affair and beginning my hea...

60 | I Really Miss My Affair Partner. What Should I Do About That?

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

ONE spot left for coaching in September! Let's connect HERE! One thing I hear often is some rendition of "I really miss my affair partner, and what ca...

59 | How God Used A Weed To Heal My Heart & Shape My Identity

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect HERE! When was the last time you "stopped to smell the roses"...or the dandelions? What's the big deal a...

58 | Help! Another Man Just Complimented Me!

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect HERE! The question that prompted today's episode came from real people with real stories. We live in a...

57 | The Power Of Words On Your Expectations, Your Health, and Your Identity

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect! I was an adult when I learned "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" was a...

56 | What Is Intimacy After Infidelity?

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sister- I am THRILLED to be back with you! Summer was a time of great refreshment, and I'm excited to get back into routine and hanging out with you e...

55 | God's Call To A Season of Rest

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Friend, I am so grateful Jesus was a human just like us. That means I can study Scripture to see what He did, and I want to do that too! One thing Jes...

54 | 5 Questions to Create the Life of Your Dreams

04 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is it that you really want? Could you describe your ideal life and family in detail? If not, it's time to get serious about dreaming with God ag...

53 | Your Mode of Operating: The Structure to Thrive Part 2

27 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you cringe at words like boundaries or rules? I do! But when I reflected on that because I was looking for a new M.O., I realized, I need struct...

52 | Your Mode of Operating: Choose Success in Thriving Part 1

20 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you cringe at words like boundaries or rules? I do! But when I reflected on that because I was looking for a new M.O., I realized, I need struct...

51 | Honor God With Your Body- Truly Righteous and Holy

13 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Last episode, we talked about getting out of your head and taking back control of your mind and thoughts. Today, I think it's equally as important to ...

50 | 3 Steps To Begin Rewiring Your Brain & Changing Your Thoughts

06 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever catch yourself thinking or doing something you wish you could stop? Do you ever feel stuck in a rut like you can't get out of your head? I...

49 | Do You Want To Be Healed?

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine if Jesus showed up at your house today and sat down with you. What if He asked you, "Do you want to be healed? Do you want to get well?" How ...

48 | Do You Have A Plan For A Successful Marriage? My 6 Tips To Help You Start

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I had a mentor ask me a really great question: What do you think you need to do next? And my own answer really surprised me. I needed a plan in severa...

47 | LIVE COMMUNITY CHAT: Growing Relationally, Spiritually, & Emotionally

16 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For the first time ever, I'm giving you a sneak peek into a weekly coffee chat I hosted. You women bring so much experience and wisdom to the table,...

46 | 3 Things I'm Doing for Valentine's Day Post Affair

11 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's that time of year! Roses, hearts, love, teddy bears and chocolate, and- emotional overload. During the affair, holidays were always a disconnect...

45 | Help! I'm Stuck In The Past Even During Worship

01 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe you've heard the verse "There is no more condemnation" (Romans 8:1) or "Throw off your former way of life" (Ephesians 4:22), but for some reason...

44 | "I Don't Need Community" & Other Lies We Believe

27 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You were created for connection. But somewhere along the line, your Enemy tried to steal it. He tried to disconnect you from others, from God, and eve...

43 | Missing Your Affair Partner? What Does That Mean You Should Do?

17 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jumping in today to a difficult question and answer- Is it okay if I still miss my affair partner? And the (short) answer is- yes! But then I would ch...

42 | 3 Things I Do To Keep Prayer Real; Join Our Fervent Book Study!

06 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know you know you should be praying for yourself and your marriage, but you just can't drag your feet to your prayer closet anymore? Have you ...

41 | Time For A New Accountability Partner? What To Look For And Avoid

21 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Looking for accountability? Let's connect over HERE! You are not alone! Need access to a coach on demand? Email me at [email protected]...

40 | Lessons I’ve Learned In 6 Months Of Going Public; Should You?

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Happy 6 months Podcast Family! Today I take a few minutes to reflect on how I decided to share my story publically, a few things I've learned along th...

39 | Who Am I? And Where Am I? Answers in Colossians 3!

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Want a coach who gets it in your back pocket? Email me at [email protected] and let's see how I can best support you! One of the first ...

38 | From My Heart to Yours: Finding Healing and Freedom From Sin AND Shame

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Want a coach who gets it in your back pocket? Email me at [email protected] and let's see how I can best support you! Sister, Do you re...

37 | When You’re Tempted to Relapse: Lean Into the Uncomfortable Questions

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Let's be honest, healing is sort of like an onion. Just when you think it's going to be smooth sailing, then it's time to peel back another layer. Tod...

36 | Slow Down! HURRY Is Killing Your Marriage

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I get it: the day starts, you get everyone out the door, you're off to work, then you're home for homework, dinner, baths, and bed, and then you crash...

35 | Level Up: How God Used Network Marketing Get Me Out of The Affair

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Listen up: God used my passion for Network Marketing to rescue me from the affair. What?! How's that for a business strategy? Today I share the part o...

34 | Feeling Triggered? Don’t Get Emotional Constipation!

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do you get when you squeeze an orange? What do you get when you are put under pressure? Not a joke here- whatever is inside, comes out! Today l...

33 | 5 Things I Learned About Parenting & Discipline Because of My Affair Recovery

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do you think about when someone says "God is Father?" What do you see when you picture God's facial expression towards you? Then what if I held a...

32 | Let’s Set Some Goals! And Learn The Habits To Actually Reach Them

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Grab your journal for today's episode- it's filled with juicy questions and tips on creating the habits you need to actually reach your goals.  Wheth...

31 | How the Bible Came Alive after 20 Years: 6 Tips to Help You Too

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can you relate? You sit down to read the Bible and it's silent. You don't know where to start. You aren't sure you believe it anyway. So much of it is...

30 | 2 Choices You MUST Make to Rebuild Your Marriage and Life

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One thing I learned from my coach early on in my journey was that being decisive helps expedite your healing process. Make the decision, choose your c...

29 | My Rock Bottom Story Was God’s Ultimate Rescue Plan

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Friend, I'm going to spare you the long introduction today. I did something I never dreamed I was capable of. And then I finally hit my rock bottom....

28 | God Showers His Compassion on Us: 6 Ways to Practice Self-Compassion

15 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you use the word compassion? What about self-compassion? What if I told you it was critical to your healing journey?! Today I dive int...

27 | Why Am I Not Praying More Fervently? 3 Insights to Refresh Your Prayer Life

05 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I was super convicted this week about a situation I should have been covering in prayer. But instead, I found myself passive, saying, "God knows my he...

26 | 3 Habits I’m Using to Grow in My Spiritual Healing and Emotional Healing

02 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey friend, Do you ever feel stuck in a rut spiritually? We all do. Maybe it's a dry season. Or God feels especially quiet. Or you're trying to rebuil...

25 | The Command ”Give Thanks to The Lord” Applies to You Too, Sister!

30 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sister, Do you ever read the Bible and think, "Yes! That's so me!" Or the opposite, "There is NO way I could do that!" You may fall in one of those tw...

24 | Surrounded by Misery, Destruction, and People Who Love to Argue and Fight? God Has a Word For You!

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Friend, Did you remember there's a war going on all around us? Satan is out for your family, your attention, and any part of your life he can get. Bu...

23 | Is Instagram Hurting Your Marriage? 5 Warning Signs and What You Can Do About It

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Sister-Friend, When was the last time you checked your phone settings and saw the amount of time you spend on social media? Does that number shock...

22 | Feel Uncomfortable Because Your Actions Don’t Match Your Values? Listen to Your Cognitive Dissonance!

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Come join the NEW community! You are not alone, sister. Join like-minded women from around the world, looking to encourage, inspire, and rebuild their...

21 | Feeling Overwhelmed After Confessing an Affair? Prioritize These 3 Things Now!

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Come join the NEW community! Find accountability, laughter, and connection with Jesus-loving women just like you. You are not alone! www.facebook.com/...

20 | Things We’re Doing Today to Mature and Grow Emotionally as a Christian Married Couple

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Come join the NEW community! Come laugh, learn, and connect with Jesus-loving women just like you. You are not alone <3 www.facebook.com/groups/int...