Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd
Episodes
Sunday Healing Session
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHello Beautiful People.I hope you are free on Sunday because I have something wonderful for you. I'm hosting our next guided brea...
"They Should Know What I Want" & Other Lies We Tell to Avoid Connection
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever opted out of telling your partner or friend what you actually want from them, by deciding that "they should already k...
Lessons Learned from Life in a Foreign Country
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI've just recently ended a chapter in my life and I can feel my system processing A LOT. One of the things I've been thin...
Carrying the Mental Load? 3 Ways to Shift the Balance in Your House
22 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you heard of mental load? It's the invisible work you behind the scenes- the planning, the organizing, the keeping it all st...
The Messy House Revolution
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text"Clean enough to be healthy, messy enough to be happy." What comes up for you when you read this? What if instead of feel...
You’re Trying too Hard to be Liked & Here's Why
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you have ever found yourself shape-shifting, over-obliging and doing things you don't want to do, this episode is for you.Listen...
Juggling a Lot Right Now? Consider this
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textOver-whelmed or going through a lot right now? This episode is for you.We're talking about 3 things you need to consider when you...
Should You Try to Talk it Out or Bite Your Tongue? Questions to help you Decide.
06 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you're trying to decide whether you should go talk it out or just stay quiet, this episode is for you. Listen in to hear:what ...
Red Flags with Your Therapist
31 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textShopping for a therapist is liking looking for new shoes. They're got to be the right fit for you.Here's some red flags to l...
Q & A: When You Can't Agree with Your Partner
22 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver feel like you and your partner are on VERY different pages? In today's episode I'm sharing some thoughts & question...
How Many Relaxed Women Do You Know?
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIs your system usually pretty calm, present & relaxed, or are you one of the many people who are living in a chronic state of overwh...
How to be Okay with Not Being Liked by Everyone
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes it bother you when it seems like someone doesn't like you? Most of us were conditioned from an early age to believe that it...
Setting Boundaries as a Couple
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes it feel like you and your partner are on different pages when it comes to having hard conversations with family? How do you addr...
Do No Harm. Take No Sh$t. ✨ Guilt. Anger. Kindness & Setting Limits
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen someone shows you who they are, you need to believe them. But so often, we go to great lengths to stuff things down, keep the pea...
7 Signs of a Boundary Bulldozer
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat kind boundary breaches drive you crazy? What sort of behaviour or expectations just feels selfish or inconsiderate? What feel...
Dealing with a Creep? Red Flags, Boundaries & Why Blame Ourselves for Other People's Bad Behaviour
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCreeps. We've all encountered them. They're the ones who seem to actually ENJOY making us uncomfortable. The ones who do...
Over-Thinking, Over-Functioning & Self-Doubt
29 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes it feel like you have to try to stay 2 steps ahead of everything? Like you have to figure out how you want to handle a situation ...
Tired of Being Tired? Try a little Cyclical Living with Sadie Tichelaar
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIs every week a busy week in your world? Are you tired of being tired? If you keep telling yourself, "after this week things wi...
How Much of it Belongs to You?
10 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow much do you take on of what’s happening to other people? How much should you take on? If you tend to get wrapped up in the pr...
How to stay grounded when people push your buttons
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver found yourself at a loss of words when someone says something inappropriate or hurtful? We've all been there, so in today&ap...
Sex, Desire & Long Term Relationships with Courtney Boyer
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am so excited to introduce our first guest on the podcast! Courtney Boyer is a clinically trained sex therapist turned Energetic Se...
Feeling Judged? Listen to This
10 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt is so uncomfortable & unsettling when you know you are the target of someone's unkind criticism and scrutiny. If this crin...
Overcoming the Fear of Failure & Why I Hope You Face-Plant A Lot This Year.
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe're often taught to think of failure as a bad thing, as though anything less than bringing home the trophy or collecting all the ...
Letting Go of Toxic Friends & Unhealthy Partners.
25 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you're considering cutting ties with a toxic friend or partner, but you catch yourself thinking about giving them a second, thir...
Drop Your Anxiety with this ONE Question
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you've been spirally into "what ifs" and anxious thinking, press play on this episode and hear about the strategy I us...
How do I get my in-laws to understand how painful it is to be around babies after infant loss?
17 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEven if you haven't experienced loss yourself, you know someone who has. Whether it's your friend, sister, or family member,...
When Your Friends Don’t Support Your Goals
09 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo your friends seem uninterested, or worse yet, discouraging of your goals?If so, here’s a few ideas & questions to consider if...
Being Bold as Love: the Criticism I'm glad I ignored & why gentleness is fierce strength in action
08 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSomeone told me once that I need to be bigger, louder and more exciting my work. Here's why I decided to ignore them, how I leane...
Feel like You're Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop? Thoughts from Spain
02 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you ever catch yourself dimming down your good news, not letting yourself get too excited, or thinking about all the what if’s and ...
5 things your partner doesn’t know how to tell you
25 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAs a couple's therapist, I've had a unique opportunity to peek inside relationships from a different, neutral viewpoint and to...
Staying Silent or Taking it Too Far? Here's an Easier Way to Set Boundaries
23 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever get mad or annoyed when you have to say no to someone? Like you're angry that they would even put you in the position...
When They Expect Too Much from You
11 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver have someone who feels entitled to your time & energy? Today I'm doing a Q & A episode all about dealing with someon...
Stranded in Berlin (& How I Stop Myself From Freaking Out when things go Wrong.)
02 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am recording this from a train station in Berlin, where I am now stuck for the next few hours. So I thought this would be a good tim...
Alone in a Crowd: When You Just Don’t Click with the Ones You're With
25 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThe worst times of loneliness in my life weren't the times when I was alone. They were when I was surrounded by people who didn&a...
Q & A: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think
12 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you've ever lost sleep thinking about how to better explain your point of view so people understand you better... if you ever sa...
Permission to Pivot & Change Your Mind
06 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI used to think changing my mind was a bit flakey and irresponsible. I would sometimes see it as sign that I had made a mistake or mad...
Your Sensitivity is Perfect - Stop Trying to Toughen Up & Try This Instead.
28 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you see your sensitivity as a flaw or problem to be fixed? Do you ever catch yourself wishing you could just toughen up and be more...
When Gratitude is a Self-Attack
19 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver try to shame yourself into staying put or staying quiet by using gratitude against yourself?“Being grateful” can be great, but ...
Musings from Morocco: Self-Sabotage & Rejecting the Good Stuff
10 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am recording this episode from my hotel room in Morocco where I felt the need to share with you some things that have been triggering ...
3 Questions to ask when your Partner is Driving you Crazy
02 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you're feeling frustrated, annoyed or you've fallen into a negative place with your partner, this episode is for you.In tod...
5 Reasons Why They Hate Your Boundaries
02 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBoundary setting is so much more than just setting limits- it's also dealing with the possible backlash and risk of conflict. But...
Change the Way You See Your Body
25 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDiet Culture makes us feel like we're failing if we're not trim enough or toned enough. Body Positivity can make us feel lik...
Vulnerability Hangovers: Opening Up, Over-Sharing & Over-Exposure
17 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf we are going to connect really, then we have to risk being seen & known. But what happens when you feel like maybe you shared t...
Are you being rude or just being direct?
09 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver had someone claim to "just being honest" in order to justify what feels like a full fledge emotional attack on you? ...
Stop being "Busy." Be a Relaxed Woman instead.
11 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow many relaxed women do you know? How many women do you know who truly move in flow, who are lit up, well rested, easy going and ful...
Does your Partner Under-Function? How to Get More Equality at Home
19 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you carry more than your fair share of the work at home? Does it feel like your partner doesn't even seem to be bothered by th...
How to Enforce Your Boundaries When They Try to Push Past Them
11 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat do you do when you set boundaries with someone and they don't follow through with them? In today's Q & A we're ...
All Talk and No Action? Questions to ask yourself when they don't follow through.
04 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes your partner just tell you want you want to hear, promise to make changes but then keep doing the same old thing? Is there someon...
Reset Your Mindset Q & A
28 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn today's episode I'm answering all your questions about the Reset Your Mindset coaching group.We're starting May 3 and ...
Giving, Receiving & Asking for Help without feeling like a Burden
27 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow easy is it for you to ask for support? How comfortable to you feel receiving help? Do you ever get triggered or bothered by oth...
Inside the Reset Your Mindset Group Experience
25 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textReset Your Mindset is starting May 3! Yay! I am delighted and so looking forward to connecting with this circle of wonderful, kind a...
Are you an Orchid or a Cactus?
14 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you're someone who is more sensitive, in tune or impacted by the people and events around you, you can end up feeling really j...
Q & A: How to Deal with Someone Who Plays the Victim
08 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you know someone plays the victim in every situation? Like they take everything the wrong way or super personally...stir up constant ...
3 Ways to Set Better Boundaries
06 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf speaking up about your needs, limits & boundaries ever makes you stress out, freak out, or lose some sleep, this episode is for...
How to Get Your Partner to go to Therapy
30 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHint: Ultimatums don’t work.Listen in to learn:*3 ways to get your partner on board *why threats & ultimatums usually backfire...
Cutting Ties With Family? 6 Questions to help you Decide
23 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn today's Q & A episode I'm walking you through some questions you need to ask yourself if you are thinking about distanc...
Can’t let go of past hurt? This could be why
13 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf trying to “forgive and forget” isn’t working for you, you’re going to want to listen to this episode In it I’m sharing how...
Speak up or Let it go? 3 Questions to help you decide.
09 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen do you speak up or just let it go? This question came up in our last round or Reset Your Mindset and it opened up an incredible c...
Q&A: Dealing with Boundary Backlash
02 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever had someone get angry or upset when you tried to set a boundary with them? If you've ever had to deal with someone ...
How NOT to do conflict with your in-laws.
23 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThere's an old myth that says that you should send your partner to deal with your in-laws when problems arise.In today's episo...
The Little Habit that Blocks Deeper Connections
09 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textMaking up excuses and telling white lies isn't polite. It's performance. Listen in to find out what's really going on...
3 Ways You're Sabotaging your Relationship
02 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThese 3 tiny toxic habits massively erode love in long term relationships. Learn to spot them and stop before they turn into big probl...
Stuck in Analysis Paralysis? Try this
26 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you get stuck in analysis paralysis? Do you poll all your friends to try to figure out the right decision to make? Do you ever f...
Q & A: How do you handle a Complainer?
26 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you have a chronic complainer in your life, this episode is for you.Listen in to hear:how to tell what kind of complainer you're...
Breaking up with Toxic Friends
19 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textToday I’m talking about the painful decision of breaking up with friends and why it's so hard to cut ties with the women we care ...
Feeling alone or misunderstood? Here's some thoughts from me, with love.
08 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textToday is a Q & A episode that comes from a woman asking about how to cope when no one else can relate to what you're going thro...
The REAL reason you’re Snappy & Irritable
06 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver get snappy at your partner or blow up at a loved one one, and end up feeling embarrassed and guilty?What if your irritability is tr...
How to Tame a Monster-in-Law
15 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you’ve ever struggled with a difficult in-law relationship, this episode is for you. Listen in to learn about:what you might be do...
You can’t do it all. How to Cancel with Kindness.
08 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you constantly racing to try to get it all done and fit it all in? Today I'm sharing how we can stop pushing ourselves to mak...
Why They're Not Respecting Your Boundaries
01 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you have a boundary-bulldozer in your life? Someone who doesn't seem to care if they're walking over the limits you set, ...
Get Calm & in Control during Uncertain Times
23 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver reject help because they're not doing it "the right way?"Always overpack "just in case?" Does covid have ...
No One Ever Supports Me. Also Me: No Thanks, I'm Good.
17 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBehind closed, doors, people often tell me that they feel unsupported by the people around them. They don’t feel like their partner is...
Why do I take things so Personally? Q & A
10 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this Q & A episode, I'm sharing 3 reasons why we take things personally and some ways you can start to break this destructiv...
You’re Not Wrong to be Upset
10 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver try to talk yourself out of being angry? Maybe I'm overreacting... I'm being too difficult...maybe there's just ...
3 Reasons Why You’re Overthinking
10 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAn over active mind can be your worst tormentor or your best rocket fuel. In today's episode I'm sharing the 3 main reasons ...
3 am Questions. Open Conversations.
05 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textToxic friends. Frustrating partners. Boundary breaking in-laws. Should I speak up or let it go?Do I need to draw a line or be more ...