It's a Drama Podcast

Leave our 21 yr old daughter here? London's not what we expected

08 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We're in London. Where our 21-year-old daughter (now) desperately wants to live. I can relate. 30 years ago, two Cornish country bumpkins (Brian and I...

The Verdict. Back to New Zealand. Or Not.

17 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Brian and Liz, husband and wife, have rented their New Zealand home for another year so they can continue their nomadic lifestyle around the world. La...

Return to New Zealand. Or Not.

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We held off sharing this episode. It's one of those uncomfortable (but real) conversations that married couples have when they need to get something s...

Parenting Young Adult Kids: Here's What Happened Last Night

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Parenting kids in their twenties is wonderful, daunting, fabulous, worrying, easy, really, really hard, joyful, exhausting, confusing, a privilege, ex...

Canada. You did it

14 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We're bringing you this podcast episode from a frozen lake in the Canadian Rockies. British Columbia, Canada. Something happened last week that floore...

When Home Hurts More Than it Heals

05 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Brian, Liz and their two adult kids are house-sitting in British Columbia, Canada, for three months. Last week, they received a comment on their YouTu...

Let's Talk about CANADA: One Month in, Here's What We Found

12 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Join Brian and Liz as they walk around their Canadian neighbourhood and share the insights they have gained during their first month housesitting as a...

Why We Choose Risk Over Comfort + Financial Sescurity | Life Lessons That Loss Has Taught U

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Last week, we received a comment on the podcast that said, "We would love to do what you are doing, but it seems too risky". In today's episode, we wo...

We Moved Our Family to CANADA for Winter. Our Honest Thoughts a Week in...

22 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Brian and Liz, husband and wife, are in British Columbia, CANADA. They have packed their bags and, along with their two young adult kids, have embarke...

We were wrong about America

31 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

There are a few myths and misconceptions about America that we have found to be not true, and this week, we wanted to share our experiences with you. ...

First impressions of America. A month in, here's what we think

17 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Brian and Liz, husband and wife, are in Colorado, USA. Join them today as they share their first impressions of the USA and take you on a stroll throu...

Love, loss and the heartbreaking reality of grief

10 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Find out more about Liz's new book: You Won't Just Cry When They Die: Love, loss and the heartbreaking reality of grief This is one of those rare conv...

We're leaving. A Few England Truths (and BIG announcement on where the family go next)..)

20 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After 16 years of living abroad in New Zealand, husband and wife Liz and Brian returned to their home country, England, UK, for a four-month stay. Thi...

Back in Britain. Our Thoughts on England after 16 years abroad

06 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After 16 years away, husband and wife Liz and Brian have returned to old Blighty, England, for a three-month stay. Today, the couple reveal a few home...

Let it Go: Releasing Anger, Money Pits + the Need to Be Perfect .

30 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes you just have to let it go. Even if it hurts your pride. Even if you're scared people will judge you. Even if it did cost over a grand. This...

'How ARE you?' Do you really want to know or shall I lie? – The Marriage Diaries

23 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How ARE you? Answering the question that every struggling person dreads This week, we discuss what happened at a recent family funeral. Whether you sh...

When you just don't have it all together

16 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Has anyone REALLY got their life together? Got it all sorted? We've been married for twenty-five years, and I know we haven't.  This week, husband an...

A place won't make you happy

09 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

it's what you do in that place that will... Feeling a little lost and wondering where "home" is, husband and wife Brian and Liz are back to take you a...

How Downton Abbey Saved Our Family (Our Hardest Location Podcast Yet)

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We recorded this week's marriage diary podcast on location under the famous Sycamore Tree in Bampton, the real village of Downton Abbey. But it was ha...

Where is Home? The Price You Pay For Living Nomadically (The Marriage Diaries)

15 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling fragile and searching for an anchor, husband and wife, Brian and Liz, are back in England, trying to find a short-term rental in Bath. They ta...

Back in England 48 Hours. Ripped Off Twice | Marriage Diaries

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, husband and wife, Brian and Liz, share their recent married life podcast shenanigans. Recently returned from their two-month summer in Gree...

Greece Changed Us — Here's Why We Don't Want to Leave

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We've been MARRIED for thirty-odd years. This year, after a huge family loss, we took our young adult kids and spent the summer in Greece. Here's how ...

This is What Happens When You Give Yourself Time

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What would you do with a million dollars? Brian would buy a car. Liz would build a writing retreat. Welcome to marriage. In this episode, Brian and I ...

When will you see yourself as others do?

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We thought this week's "outside the comfort zone" podcast episode would be about memory and how you perceive yourself, but it turned out to be so much...

If you're struggling with loss listen to this

27 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

"It's been a year, get on with it". If you are struggling with any kind of loss and want to feel supported and loved, this conversation is for you. No...

Mouth tape, money, and travelling with adult kids. An update from Greece

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're back, from our sunny Naousa balcony, on the Greek island of Paros, Greece, where we're staying for a month with our two young adult kids for the...

Leaving your husband to spend a month in PARIS. Not what I expected (at all)

13 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Liz left her husband Brian and went off to spend a month in Paris with her daughter. The dream Paris trip. As is often the case, things went in the op...

I lost her then i lost me. A raw conversation about grief, loss, and the fear of becoming someone new

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if the hardest part of being real… is letting people see it? We almost didn't record this. The voice in my head said: Don't show too much. Don'...

The Norway Road trip. Brian Went to the Top of Norway and Back — Here's What Happened

22 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Greetings from Athens, Greece! This week we're sharing the story of Brian's recent (and very excitingly epic) Norway road trip — a bucketlist journe...

Goodbye, New Zealand

09 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever wanted to leave everything behind for a year, throw caution to the wind and get on a plane with nothing but a suitcase and a one-way ti...

Going overseas for a year. Here's how we do it.

26 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we share how we make a year-long trip happen.  Enjoy! Enjoy, say hi in the comments and subscribe and share this podcast!❤️ Liz ...

Travelling the world for a year. The List

12 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

People think it's easy to up sticks and travel the world for a year. 1: Rent your house to a complete stranger off the internet. 2: Hand over your cat...

Our BIG News

28 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We've kept you waiting long enough. Today, you will discover why we have been frantically trying to downsize and raise money.  Here goes... Enjoy, re...

The hardest money Brian's ever earned

17 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Brian's boat has been the bain of our life for the last two months. But now it's gone. And thankfully, Bri is still here to tell the story. Just. Enjo...

Running on Empty. The Man needs help

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The weight is shifting. The winds are turning. Mary is on her way... This is episode 200!!! And to celebrate, we are beginning a new season... This is...

Owning Your Mistakes

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ready to feel uncomfortable? This walking podcast is a taste of the content we publish to our Patreon supporters. We wanted to share it with you, too,...

What romance looks like for us (*warning: contains WITHERED bits)

03 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Friday was a day of love and affection.  VD. Not the down-below disease, the day. Of love. Valentines Day. Rather than buy Bri some crappy scented ca...

$99 NZD birthday getaway (cheap,YES but wozzit cheerful??)

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It was my birthday, so I booked a surprise trip for me and Bri. I googled New Zealand cheap accommodation. Best places to stay in New Zealand. Real Ne...

13 years we've suffered this in New Zealand...

14 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's the little things, isn't it? The little things in life that give you the most grief. Remove those stresses and...Bingo. Life is wonderful. So why...

24 hours in America. Here's what surprised us.

05 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Liz and Bri are back from their adventures in Canada, but on their way home, they spend time in the USA. Because they have no one else to talk to apar...

Reminder: You're not the one who died. (Patreon BONUS Episode)

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This is a bonus episode that I recorded for our Patreon members. My hope is that it reaches the right person. The person who needs to hear this messag...

The holiday that changed our life (Behind the scenes episode)

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Last month, I boldly said I wanted this family holiday to Canada to "fix" me. Fix was the wrong word. You can't fix grief. But what you can do is deci...

We came to Canada to feel happy (did it work?)

07 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Want behind-the-scenes BONUS content? Become part of our fabulous Patreon Community to receive MEMBER ONLY SECRET podcasts, stories, photos and more! ...

Farewell. We're leaving New Zealand (and going to...?)

13 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You can now JOIN our SECRET Patreon Community! ➡️ ⁠https://patreon.com/itsadrama⁠ There's a 25% EARLYBIRD discount for the month of December!!...

People who make you feel better

06 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You can now JOIN our SECRET Patreon Community! ➡️ https://patreon.com/itsadrama There's a 25% EARLYBIRD discount for the month of December!!   It...

(more) Unwanted news

22 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We thought the sad news was over. Had floated away like water under a bridge. Babble, babble, babble. Brook, brook, brook. No more crying into a micro...

Life in NZ | Too good to be true?

15 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

MOVING TO NEW ZEALAND and want to know more about the country? SIGN UP below for our FREE 5-DAY VIDEO GUIDE! It's all happening in New Plymouth's Pac'...

We're in Fiji (and it's NOT what we thought)

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

So this is the BEST Island in Fiji? Today's episode is brought to you ON LOCATION. We are IN Fijji. Actually there. With the plan trees and everything...

Fiji Wedding Party, here we come...

20 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Liz and Brian and getting ready to go to a wedding in Fiji. Of course, there are concerns. Just a few. What with those dancing men and crab-racing wom...

Liz Meets Her Hero Author. Here's What Happened

13 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I am a huge fan of this week's guest. Rachael Herron is a best-selling author who not only moved from the United States to New Zealand with her wife, ...

The Book I'm Scared to Write

06 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling is healing. I've read those words a lot while grieving my mum. And it's true; to a certain extent, it's true. But what people fail to mention ...

Having a Public Panic Attack

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What's happening? Why, when I was feeling fine, 'doing ok,' and 'coping', do I suddenly feel like I've been hit by a sledgehammer and fallen down a we...

Tears in the Toilet. Returning to New Zealand

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Liz and Brian are back in New Zealand. They flew from Chiang Mai via Bangkok and China and, thirty hours later, were home in Taranaki, New Zealand. Tu...

Teeth Fixed, Bones Bent. How we Saved $$ in Thailand

02 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Trusting our Teeth to Thailand and paying to be pummelled. After three weeks in Chiang Mai, Thailand, Liz and Brian are smiling from ear to ear. Their...

Losing it (all) in Thailand

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Combining much-needed dental work with a holiday, Liz and Brian left New Zealand and are in Thailand for a month. Brought to you from their bedroom in...

When you Work More than you Rest. The Fear of Stopping (& losing everything)

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week has been horrible, it really has. I'm sorry, but we have more sad news to share. Thank you for being here and letting us talk about it. We a...

Drama in Vegas. (Over) worrying about our 23-yr-old son

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is it Just Me? Wouldn't every mother be the same?  Our son is on holiday in Vegas. And of course, there've been a few dramas. What was interesting, t...

Hor-Moans. Taking Testosterone & resisting the URGE to edit your life

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There's been a bit of a to-do in New Zealand this week. A shortage of HRT. Scary stuff... Talking about taking hormone replacement, Brian shares why h...

Staying. In New Zealand

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Stay. This week we were given a huge reminder. Something that changed the way Liz sees things. The stars aligned. Questions were answered.  On one su...

A Month in Thailand? What's to Dread?

12 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sign up for Liz's FREE 5-day LETTERS. When we booked our month-long trip to Thailand back in May, it seemed like a grand idea. Get away. Change of s...

Is this NORMAL? What I wish I'd known about Grief

06 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sign up for Liz's Five Letters here. Be the help you needed. That's always been my motto. My blueprint. My words-in-guiding-armour that help me forwa...

Can I stay home forever? Braving normal life while GRIEVING

14 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's the first time in eight weeks I've left the house. Apart from getting groceries, walking in nature, and spending an hour or two working at our lo...

Grief. It looks like this (but feels like that)

07 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Lately, when I drop into bed at night, I find myself asking how on earth I got through the last twelve hours. Quite often, I don't remember what I did...

Is This Grief or Depression (and why does no one warn you?)

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We weren't going to release this podcast episode. The original plan was to discuss whether, after losing her mum to cancer six weeks ago, the deep sad...

Goodbye. For now

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

No description. No words. Just a story. And a thank you. A huge, huge thank you. Thank you for allowing me to share the intimate details of such a sad...

Unexpected Respite

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Wrong. Wrong. And wrong again. You'd think that I'd have learned by now. I've had fifty-three years to practice, after all. But no. Still, I make the ...

Say it. While you still can

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This was one of the hardest podcast episodes I have ever recorded. But it was necessary. I won't watch the recording back because I know for a fact th...

Troubled Times

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Another behind-the-scenes podcast where Liz and Brian share their decision to discuss such personal details about their marriage and life in public (i...

Coping. Or Not. (Behind-the-Scenes)

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week is a behind-the-scenes podcast where Liz explains why she shared a very personal journal entry with three thousand people and the outcome of...

Braving Alternative Therapy. Torture or Bliss?

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Yesterday, Liz experienced floatation therapy. Spent the day floating in a tank of salt water. Alone. No lights. No sounds. No Bri. This week, the cou...

Swanky places & second-rate service. What the??

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's podcast, Liz shares a recent scary memory loss experience on her solo vacation in New Zealand, Brian gets jealous about a bloke named B...

Wayward spending & Angry Reviews

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's show, Liz and Brian dive into the world of negative reviews and comments. Brian shares a lifelong criticism, and Liz is irked by her hu...

2024. What's up & what's in

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I don't know about you, but I get the feeling that people are ready for a change. I'm not sure what that collective "change" is, but I know there is o...

job Seeking and Cock-Tales

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's jobs, jobs, jobs in our house at the moment. Honestly, it's all we can talk about. We've got a son who needs one, a daughter who's juggling one a...

Mangled memories & cringey chitchat

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and then beat yourself up for days (or years) because you were convinced you said something rude or inap...

Gatecrashers, royalty & deranged morning routines

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Liz and Brian's morning routine has changed drastically. Just when they thought they'd discovered a nice quiet hidey-hole to indulge in some golfy med...

Couples Who Overshare

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, husband and wife Liz and Brian set out to discover if it is healthy for a couple to spill the beans about personal stuff onlin...

Sonny. How's Life Online? (Behind The Scenes)

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sonny, our son, is now 22. (I still can't quite get my head around that one).  It has been two years since Sonny last joined me for a chat on the pod...

Unwanted News

03 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In the five years that this podcast has been going, this week's episode was the hardest one to record. For those who have been with us for a while, yo...

Wet Behind The Ears

21 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Looking back, I was so wet behind the ears I'm surprised I didn't drown.  Two years ago, I announced to the world that I would be writing, publishing...

Proverb: Man who work non-stop has small sausage

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You leave your home to go "away" for a few weeks and believe that everything will be Puuurfecct. You tell yourself you'll relax. Take massages. Eat ou...

What a Drip

05 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is brought to you from the lovely and very gorgeous art deco city of Napier in New Zealand, where Liz and Bri are housesitting for...

How's Life Alone? Tessa. (Behind The Scenes)

19 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week's podcast is a behind-the-scenes chat with Liz and her daughter, Tessa. Tessa (19) is a regular guest on the podcast. Since her last visit, ...

Up Yours, Hugh

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is there anything worse than a fraud? Someone who poses to be someone they aren't?? In this week's episode, Liz and Bri talk about family reunions, te...

Call Yourself a Friend??

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Liz and Brian are off on a five-week holiday. Housesitting in New Zealand. But before they reveal where they are going, they want to tell you all abou...

Banging on the Ceiling

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine living in a house with no walls. Where everything was upside down and shaped like a lav. Where spiders and snakes swam in puddles of rain unde...

All Down Hill from Here

16 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is there anything more attractive than seeing a man swinging from a ceiling bar with one hand, wearing only his underpants? Or anything more impressiv...

Wedding Thug

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Spring is in the air (at least in Liz's upside-down head), and what better thing to talk about than love, marriage and hurly-burly thugs? Be prepared ...

Laughing all the way to the BANK

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ohh...you're in for a real chuckle today peeps! Victor Hugo famously said that "laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face." Hmm. I'm ...

The Birthday

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Last weekend, Big Bri celebrated his birthday, and, as promised, in this week's episode, we are going to share ALL the juicy details as to what it loo...

Bye-Bye 50's

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Guess what day it is tomorrow?? Go on. Have a guess. It's Bri's birthday. That's right; tomorrow is Bri's big SIX-O!  And what better way to celebrat...

Was it Even Worth it? Cost of a Weekend in Wellington, NZ

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Liz and Brian are back from their four-day long weekend in Wellington, New Zealand, where they spent three nights housesitting and spending time with ...

Escaping to Wellington. But at what cost?

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Brian and Liz are knackered. Whacked. They need a weekend away. Escape for a few days. The trouble is, accommodation in New Zealand is not cheap...in ...

Gobsmacked

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Never. Not in my wildest dreams did I think that I would EVER be sharing what I'm about to share with you in this week's podcast. Join us this week as...

It's HERE!!

10 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For two years, six months and six looonng days, I have waited to share the news I have for you on this podcast. And today, my friend, I am happy and p...

Pack ur bags

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Five years ago, Brian and I left everything behind (including a full-time job with a regular wage) to take our family (two teenage kids), travelling a...

Book cover FEAR! Behind the scenes

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After almost two and a half years, I am almost ready to publish my first book. That book is called The Travel Bog Diaries. It is made up of hilarious ...

Hot, sweaty MESS

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Fess up. Hot, sweaty MESS. Time to confess. When does it happen? When do you turn into a dithering, hot, sweaty, prickly fuss-bag who shakes and quive...

Tender or Torturous?

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Liz confesses a few massage secrets, Brian blows the cover on a bloke named Dave (who doesn't live in Gisborne) and the word on all lips th...

Replacing Brian

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Last week it happened. I finally met someone who knows more than Bri, is more patient than Bri, is quicker than Bri...and to make things even weirder,...