It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Setting Limits Without Going Over the Line

01 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle an important but tricky topic in this episode - how to set healthy boundaries with others when tensions run high. Wh...

Holiday Harmony: Keeping The Peace at Family Celebrations

21 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Keeping the Peace This Holiday SeasonBill and Megan share tips for avoiding and defusing conflict at holiday gatherings. They offer insights from thei...

Pulling the Plug on a Hostile Conversation

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ending Hostile ConversationsBill and Megan share strategies for defusing tense conversations and exiting hostile interactions. They provide insights f...

Falsely Blamed? How to Protect Yourself and Respond

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Exploring Targets of Blame and How to Best Manage ThemBill and Megan tackle the challenging topic of being a target of blame from a high conflict indi...

Civil Communications for Lawyers and Law Offices

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Effective Communication for Legal ProfessionalsBill, Megan, and their guest Rehana Jamal – and Bill’s co-author – dive into strategies for clear...

Grief Over the Death of a High Conflict Loved One

23 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill and Megan provide guidance for coping with the complicated emotions that can arise when a high conflict p...

The Art of Mindful Engagement: Using EAR Statements Judiciously

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

De-escalating High Conflict People with EAR Statements: An insightful look at calming down difficult situationsIn this episode, Bill and Megan dive in...

Floundering Into Adulthood: Overcoming Alienation and Parents with Personality Disorders

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Finding Your Way as a Young Adult with a High-Conflict ParentIn this week's episode, Bill and Megan discuss the challenges many young adults face when...

When Grandkids Get Caught in High Conflict

02 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle questions from grandparents struggling to support grandchildren amidst high ...

Manipulators in Plain Sight: Spotting Antisocial Personality Disorder

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Podcast hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle listener questions about antisocial personality disorder. Bill clarifies common myths.Recognizing Anti...

Surviving High Conflict Divorce, Custody Battles, and Parental Alienation

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Navigating High Conflict Divorce and Co-ParentingIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy answer listener questions to...

Over the Fence: High Conflict Neighbor Disputes

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Keeping the Peace with High Conflict NeighborsIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy tackle strategies for dealing w...

Family Feuds: Navigating High Conflict Personality Clashes

05 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Navigating High-Conflict Family DynamicsIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute tack...

Caught in the Crossfire: Escaping High Conflict Contagion

28 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding High Conflict Contagion Through Projection and Emotional SpreadIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy ...

Workplace Gaslighting: Two-Person Conflict or One High-Conflict Person?

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Identifying High-Conflict People vs. Mutual Conflict at WorkIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss how to id...

Group Dynamics Decoded: Taming High Conflict Drama and Disruptions

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

High Conflict Dynamics in Groups: Navigating Drama and Setting LimitsWelcome back to 'It's All Your Fault', the podcast from the High Conflict Institu...

High Conflict Under the Microscope: Unveiling New Insights from a Summer of Reflection

07 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Kicking Off Season 3: Summer Reflections and High Conflict InsightsWelcome back to Season 3 of 'It's All Your Fault', the insightful podcast from the ...

REBROADCAST: 10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation with Guest Michael Lomax

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mediating high conflict disputes requires a shift from many standard mediation approaches. When one or more of the parties has a high conflict persona...

REBROADCAST: The New Elephant in the Room: Personality Disorders

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Personality disorders are mystifying to those unfamiliar with them, and even to some in the mental health profession, although with copious amounts of...

Walking Away

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Some relationships with high conflict people reach a point where the only one getting frustrated and hurt is YOU. It is okay to walk away? Are some r...

Apology Quicksand

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s not unusual that high conflict people demand an apology from a reasonable person who has attempted to set limits on them, such as a supervisor ...

HOA Headaches with High Conflict Complaints

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do when a community resident or homeowner calls with complaints as consistently as the sun rises and sets? Some are chronic complainers bu...

REBROADCAST: TikTok Famous: Parental Alienation and Barricaded Bedrooms

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

While We Wait on the Court’s Decision...New information regarding the alleged child abuse from the father has come to light, causing the judge to de...

REBROADCAST: Parental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Part 2

29 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

While on hiatus, we’re re-releasing some of our past episodes. This week, we’re finishing to our 2-part conversation with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker about...

REBROADCAST: Parental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J. L. Baker, Part 1

15 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

While on hiatus, we’re re-releasing some of our past episodes. To start, we’re returning to our 2-part conversation with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker about ...

The New Ways for Families Program

25 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Bill and Megan are off to Scotland to talk about their New Ways for Families Program. Scotland will be the first country that implements the High Conf...

Exposure and Humiliation as a High-Conflict Strategy

18 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In some high conflict cases, we may have reached the end of our rope and resort to what we see as our only option: threatening to expose the high conf...

Let a Win Be a Win in High Conflict

11 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The definition of a “win” is different in high conflict situations as opposed to ordinary conflict. Not recognizing that a win looks quite differe...

Narcissists Who Endanger Their Countries

04 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Who can you trust with national security documents? An article by Tom Nicholas in The Atlantic titled The Narcissists Who Endanger America points the ...

TikTok Famous: Parental Alienation and Barricaded Bedrooms

27 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Alienation in UtahHigh-conflict situations often include extreme behaviors and the case we’ll discuss in this episode is a perfect example of extrem...

HCPs in HR, Genuine vs. Feigned Empathy, and Child HCPs

20 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Megan and Bill answer your questions on a variety of high-conflict topics, including:“How does one handle it when your HR professio...

Blamers Who Call CPS, Minimizing Contact with HCPS, and Quiet HCPs

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

More Listener Questions!In this episode, Megan and Bill answer your questions on high-conflict topics that matter to you, including:How do you stop a ...

High Conflict People in Mediation, Emotional Triggers in BIFF Responses, and Hereditary Antisocial Personality Disorder

06 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Bill and Megan continue answering listener questions:“I am a family mediator. My practice focuses on keeping people out of court an...

Narcissistic Co-Parents, Borderline Spouses, and Intimidating Behaviors

30 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Megan and Bill answer listener questions:“I'm going through a high conflict custody case with someone who it would appear has some f...

The Alex Murdaugh Con and How to Avoid Being Conned

23 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Alex Murdaugh conned a lot of people in his rural community, in his professional circles, and even within his family. He gained the confidence of thos...

Alex Murdaugh’s Personality: Is He a Sociopath, Psychopath, Antisocial?

16 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Alex Murdaugh murder case has captivated people in the U.S. and around the globe. Technology allowed us to see with our own eyes and hear with our...

Why Connection Is So Important in High Conflict Interactions

09 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the cornerstones of successful management of high conflict interactions is connection. In fact, it is the “C” in the CARS Method®—a set ...

High Conflict Workplace Investigations with Guest Host Cherolyn Knapp and Guest Bob Stenhouse

02 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Workplace investigations. If you’ve been through one, it may have been easily worked out with assistance from the professionals involved or it may h...

Divorce Radio and Celebrity Divorce with Guest Ilyssa Panitz

23 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Divorce is hard and often confusing with bits of information online, in books and other sources, which can be helpful but also confusing. Journalist a...

10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation with Guest Michael Lomax

16 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mediating high conflict disputes requires a shift from many standard mediation approaches. When one or more of the parties has a high conflict persona...

Family Law in Israel with Guest Michal Fein

09 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is it possible to change family law in an entire country? Change that results in improvements for families, and especially for children?In today’s e...

Telling a High Conflict Spouse That You Want a Divorce

02 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the hardest decisions when divorcing a high-conflict spouse is how and when to tell that person that you want a divorce. How will the person re...

Getting it Backwards in Family Court—Winners & Losers

26 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes professionals in the legal system get it backwards. It’s frustrating and leaves people feeling helpless. Why can’t the judge see what th...

The New Elephant in the Room: Personality Disorders

12 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Personality disorders are mystifying to those unfamiliar with them, and even to some in the mental health profession, although with copious amounts of...

Confirmation Bias in High Conflict Situations: How to Avoid Being Fooled by High Conflict People

05 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been fooled by someone? Or become passionate about a cause, belief, or opinion that later was proven to be false – and you discovered ...

Times of High Risk: The Most Dangerous Times with HCPs

29 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

People with high conflict personalities have strong unconscious fears that are easily triggered: abandonment; humiliation, being dominated; ignored; a...

Dilemmas & Decisions: Why It’s So Hard to Stop Yourself from Over-reacting in High-Conflict Situations

22 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Stopping yourself in a high-conflict situation doesn’t come naturally for most. We get frustrated when things escalate quickly and wonder why we too...

How Brainwashing Works on a Child’s Brain

15 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know if brainwashing of a child is real in divorce and/or co-parenting? In parental alienation (child alienation), families are divided but is...

Yes, And—Improvisation & Creativity in Conflict Communication with Guest Kelly Leonard of The Second City

03 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Second City – where countless actors and comedians got their start. They’ve been bringing the funny for over 60 years. Now the first name in i...

Erasing Family with Guest Director Ginger Gentile

24 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Erasing Family. In this age of cancellation, it’s not so rare. In the divorce and child custody (family court) world, cancellation has been a “thi...

Transforming Inmates into Peacemakers, with Guest Doug Noll: Part 2

17 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“Listening People Into Existence.” In this second episode with Doug Noll of the Prison of Peace program, Bill and Megan continue their conversatio...

Transforming Inmates into Peacemakers, with Guest Doug Noll: Part 1

10 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“From Serving Life to a Life of Service.” This is the motto of the Prison of Peace program created by Doug Noll and Laurel Kaufer, two lawyers wit...

Solutions for High Conflict at Work with Guest Cherolyn Knapp

03 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In workplace conflict, handling complaints, upset employees and high conflict situations is taxing, leaving many organizations feeling stuck or withou...

What is the Difference Between Alienation & Estrangement?

27 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In high conflict divorce, accusations of parental alienation are common and cause tremendous distress for everyone involved, including the courts. But...

What are the 4 Fuhgedaboudits When Interacting with Someone with a High Conflict Personality?

20 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Interactions with someone with a high conflict personality often become contentious and you may eventually get upset, storm off, or simply feel inadeq...

What is the High Conflict Personality Theory?

13 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

People with high conflict personalities have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. This pa...

When to Stop Trying with Someone with a High Conflict Personality

06 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Interactions and life with someone with a high conflict personality can be trying. Some will keep trying until they’re completely burned out while o...

Parental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Part 2

22 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

High conflict divorce and separation in the family courts consumes the majority of the courts’ time and resources and provides the most frustration ...

Parental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Part 1

15 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

High conflict divorce and separation in the family courts consumes the majority of the court’s time and resources and provides the most frustration ...

REBROADCAST: Domestic Violence in Family Law: Part 1

08 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

REBROADCASTDomestic ViolenceMegan and Bill are joined by the Honorable Karen Adam and Annette Burns to discuss domestic violence. This is part one of ...

REBROADCAST: Using BIFF Responses

01 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

REBROADCASTIn today’s episode, we talk about how to tackle hostile communications with BIFF Responses.What is a hostile communication? It usually co...

REBROADCAST: High Conflict Emotion Contagion

25 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

REBROADCASTThe challenge of being emotional creaturesDid you know that emotions are contagious? We like to think we are in complete control of our emo...

REBROADCAST: Part 2: Borderline Personality Disorder for Family Members

18 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

REBROADCASTFamily members (and friends) of someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) are typically mystified about how to inte...

REBROADCAST: Narcissistic High Conflict People

11 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

REBROADCASTWhen an HCP is a Narcissist...Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they bl...

REBROADCAST: Who Are High Conflict People?

04 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

REBROADCASTIn today’s episode, we look at what makes up a high conflict person and talk about EAR Statements.Blamers. Narcissists. Accusers. Ragers....

Are Personality Disorders a Mental Illness?

28 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Personality disorders are widespread but not always seen as a mental disorder. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by ...

Narcissists: The Great Dividers

21 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you aren’t sure whether you’ve met a narcissist, think back to an interaction in which you went away feeling small, inadequate or even insecure...

What If I’m High Conflict?

14 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you wondered if you are high conflict? If you have, you’re not alone.Many people contact us with a concern that they might be high conflict aft...

Can People with High Conflict Personalities Change?

07 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impos...

Q and A Lab: Paranoid Personalities

30 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This Q &A Lab focuses on two questions about possible paranoid personality behaviors and high conflict behaviors, including:Combative, Aggressive,...

A Conversation with Amanda Ripley: a Best-Selling Journalist’s View of High Conflict

23 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In 2021, we noticed a new book that was gaining a lot of attention—titled High Conflict. Of course a book with that title grabbed our immediate atte...

On Being a Megaphone: Should You Tell the Judge, Boss, HR, or Others That the other Person is High Conflict?

16 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

To tell or not to tell. That is a question on the minds of many who deal with high conflict situations. In a court situation, is it is a good idea to ...

High Conflict in Education: Chaos, Attrition, and Fear with Guest Sandra Just

09 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Throughout the pandemic, which we’ve now been in for a little over two years, the fight has been “on” in the education world. Education – espe...

New Ways for Families

02 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Parents divorcing in protracted battles. Crowded family court dockets. Kids who spend their childhood with nervous stomachs, anxiety, and a yearning f...

A High Conflict Divorce with a (rare) Successful Outcome

26 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

High conflict divorce is one the hardest trials one can go through. It’s so hard on parents and on their children. If you’ve ever wanted to know w...

Johnny Depp & Amber Heard: Are Domestic Violence Allegations True or False?

19 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The legal case between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp has been heard around the world. It’s a case rife with allegations of domestic violence on both s...

Bullies at Work with Catherine Mattice

12 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Workplace conflict is on the increase. According to a 2021 survey, 89% of employees from a diverse range of industries reported experiencing conflict ...

Q&A Lab - Answering Listener Questions

05 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s time for the Q&A Lab again! In this episode, Bill and Megan answer listener questions on several topics, including:dealing with high confli...

Part 2: Borderline Personality Disorder for Family Members

28 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Family members (and friends) of someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) are typically mystified about how to interact with t...

Part 1: Borderline Personality Disorder for Those Who Suffer

21 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

People throw around the term Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD), but most likely don’t even know what it is, and many have no idea how to hand...

Will Smith: High Conflict or Just Upset?

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The slap heard around the world. Obviously this was a high conflict situation, but was it a one-off incident resulting from a highly stressed person, ...

When a High Conflict Decision-Maker Uses BIFF & EAR on You

07 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing from the previous episode, Bill and Megan take a listener question about a high conflict situation in the workplace. Specifically, what do ...

High Conflict Certification for the Workplace

31 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

High conflict situations in the workplace are increasing as workers return to the office. Global anxiety is higher than normal, and for those who may ...

Finally Figuring It Out: Learning From a Late-in-Life Bi-Polar Diagnosis with Dr. Jay Lieberman

24 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A diagnosis of bi-polar disorder can be both devastating and liberating. Although such a diagnosis is unsettling because of the lifetime implications,...

Putin’s Potential: Is Putin a Malignant Narcissist? Part 2

17 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Putin hasn’t stopped, as we predicted, and it doesn’t look like he’s going to stop. Is that because he’s backed into a corner? Because he’s ...

Is Putin a Malignant Narcissist? If So, Can We Predict His Future Actions?

10 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Putin’s attack on Ukraine. Why is he doing it? What drives him to act with such ferocity to destroy a county, innocent civilians, children? In this ...

Using Empathy, Attention and Respect to Calm Current Conflicts

03 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Bill and Megan discuss the use of EAR Statements to calm current conflicts experienced by people across the globe. Anger, accusations...

Q&A Lab: Dating Edition

24 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you are curious about love and romance with challenging – or even toxic – partners, this is your opportunity to hear questions from our listene...

Dating Radar: Your Blind Spots

17 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Watch Those Blind Spots!The very qualities that help us fall in love can at the same time be the on-ramp for the highway to hell. Avoiding a high-conf...

Dating Radar: How HCPs Jam Your Radar

10 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In the first episode of this Dating Radar four-part series, Megan and Bill discuss how people with high conflict personalities (HCPs) can destroy your...

Dating Radar: High Conflict Types You Might Want to Avoid

03 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are people you shouldn’t marry, have children with, or have a financial entanglement – people with high conflict personalities. They blame, ...

High Conflict Emotion Contagion

27 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The challenge of being emotional creaturesDid you know that emotions are contagious? We like to think we are in complete control of our emotions, but ...

Q & A Lab

20 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve got questions. We’ve got answers.In this episode we host our very first Q & A Lab where we answer your questions about high conflict pe...

Domestic Violence in Family Law: Part 2

13 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Domestic ViolenceMegan and Bill are joined by the Honorable Karen Adam and Annette Burns to discuss domestic violence. This is part two of this conver...

Domestic Violence in Family Law: Part 1

06 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Domestic ViolenceMegan and Bill are joined by the Honorable Karen Adam and Annette Burns to discuss domestic violence. This is part one of this conver...

Harm Reduction with YouTube Influencer & Author Dr. Todd Grande

30 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you love reading thrillers and mysteries? Or binging shows like Dexter on Netflix? If you do, you’re going to love this episode! We’re intervie...

Holiday Conflict Reduction

23 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What causes conflict? Differing ideas and opinions do, but most people can manage it, although extraordinary circumstances, time pressures and stress ...

Living on the Edge: Borderline High Conflict People

16 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is an often misunderstood and unfairly maligned mental health issue. Years of misinformation on the Internet, fi...

Living With Suspicion: Paranoid High Conflict People

09 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been around someone who was ultra-suspicious? Not just the typical accusatory behaviors, but someone who suspects conspiracies against them or th...

Dealing with Drama: Histrionic High Conflict People

02 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Histrionic Personality Disorder. It’s all about the drama.Drama abounds online, on television, in movies, and in everyday life. But have you been ar...