it's not just you
Episodes
i'm attractive to him but he's not my type
08 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
girlssss, grab a cuppa and a sweet treat, this weeks pod episode is a juicy one. today we’re asking the question...should you date someone who’s n...
why does maintaining my adult friendships feel so hard?
01 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
in todays episode we reminisce on the 'good old days' and reflect about how friendships (and specifically friendship groups) change so much as life mo...
how to have the best hen do
24 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
it's time for a big fat hen do debrief!!! in this episode we're telling you everything that happened at rach's hen. how did soph pull the ...
will i ever get married?
17 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
if you're in your 20s and surrounded by friends in long-term relationships or getting married, this episode is for you. we’re talking about the ...
my friends struggling and i don't know how to help her
10 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
comforting a friend isn’t always easy, rightttt! so in this weeks episode, we dive into what it really means to show up for the people we care about...
getting into a relationship after being single for so long
03 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
getting into your first relationship after being single for so long can feel exciting.. & also a little overwhelming at times! in this episode we ...
i wish i could tell my younger self this
27 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
today we’re getting nostalgic thinking back to our younger years and the things we wish we had known sooner! we’re chatting about everything - fro...
i'm in my twenties and i'm worried my friendships aren't going to last
20 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you that wants to have friendships that go the distance. but lets be real guys, sometimes friendships can be haaaaard work 😅 but ...
i've been rejected and i feel awful about it
13 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
rejection hurts. whether it’s the guy you like, the dream job you hoped for, or friends leaving you out, hearing 'I don’t want you' can st...
life's too short to not take risks
06 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
at the start of 2026 we took a HUGE risk and quit our 9-5 jobs to pursue this podcast, eeeeek! it's been a wild journey so far & today we'...
how do i learn to like my unedited appearance?
27 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
is natural beauty even natural anymore? in this episode, we’re talking about the way subtle 'micro' treatments, invisible filler, and “und...
am i where i should be at 27?
20 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
we have a birthday to celebrate. yes our very own soph has turned 27!!! in this week’s episode, we have an honest, unfiltered chat about how soph is...
how do i know if he's the one?
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
how do you know that the person you're with is the right person for you?! today we're hearing rach's story: how did she know she her fianc...
our unfiltered opinions on going to the gym
06 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
let’s be honest, social media can often give us unrealistic expectations of what going to the gym looks like. from influencer lies, gym anxiety and ...
how to survive a medium-distance relationship
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
as you may know, soph just got into her first relationship at 26..and her and her boyfriend live in different cities. so come along for the ride as we...
would you rather: best friend edition
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
to wrap up season 4 we play a good old game of 'would you rather'. we chat about having access to each other's camera rolls or messages, boyfriends wh...
getting into my first relationship at 26 years old
24 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
yep. you read correctly. our very own soph is no longer a single queen!!!! 26 and getting into a relationship for the FIRST time. HOW did this happen?...
the truth about university freshers
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
we relay our university fresher experiences: the good, the bad and the ugly. freshers gets hyped up a lot, but the reality doesn’t always match the ...
living through non-stop change in my 20s
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
at the ripe old age of 26 we feel like we’ve learnt a couple of things about being in your twenties. does the change ever stop? what do you when new...
rach is engaged !!!
05 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
she’s a fianceeeeee !!!!! guys, todays ep is a little bit of a different one because our very own rach is gonna be a wife 🤯 we’re giving you a ...
my best mates started dating each other
08 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
it's always weird when two of your friends decide they suddenly fancy each other. one day you're a trio, the next you're a third wheel &am...
i’m single and all my friends are getting engaged
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
whether you're single or dating, people getting engaged can bring up weird feelings. sometimes jealousy, sometimes sadness at the idea of change, ...
no one told us we'd miss uni this much
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
there was a time when your best mates lived five steps away, plans were made in the kitchen at 11pm, and your wardrobe was basically communal. now... ...
would you do these things with your best mate?
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
it’s time to chat about amber flags in friendships. would you share your mates toothbrush? pants? hold their hand? is having your friends on ‘find...
i'm 26 and i've never had a boyfriend
13 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
we're back with a fan favourite, a follow up from an old episode 'i'm 24 and I've never had a boyfriend' – two years later and s...
i can't stop comparing myself to my best friend
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
we know comparison is the thief of joy but what happens when you can’t stop comparing yourself to your best friend? in this episode soph opens up ab...
i have big dreams and i feel stuck
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
ever struggled to feel content in the season you’re in? or felt like you have big dreams but have no idea how to pursue them? you’re not alone! to...
i struggle to let people love me
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
letting people love you can be hard sometimes. don’t get us wrong, it’s such an amazing gift to have people in your life who are kind and generous...
everyone in the group is closer to each other than they are to me
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
ever feel like you're competing with the people in your friendship group? ever feel like everyone knows each other better than you do? friendship grou...
i find making close friends hard
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
today we’re discussing close friendship. as adults, creating and building close friendships can be difficult. how do you meet new people? what do yo...
my birthday stresses me out
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
find celebrating your birthday lowkey stressful? feel pressure to have the best day of your year? it's not just you! from choosing a way to celebrate,...
how to get through long distance
24 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
rach shares about the challenges in her long distance relationship. how did you get through it? how do you show someone you love them when you're ...
the world of skincare stresses me out
17 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
ever felt totally and utterly STUCK when it comes to buying skincare products? same. today’s episode is essentially a half hour rant about the world...
the reality of being single in your 20's
10 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
are you one of the only single people in your friendship group, circles, work place or maybe even family? we talk about some of the frustrating realit...
it's january and i'm struggling
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who struggles at the beginning of a new year. christmas is over, it's freezing cold and sometimes you're just not feeling attempting...
5 questions to ask your friends before 2025
20 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
what’s the bravest thing you did this year? who poured into you that you’d like to thank? we asked each other five interesting questions about 202...
don't do this in front of the guy you like
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
we're having a bit of a laff in todays ep, as we totally expose ourselves with some of the embarrassing things we wouldn't DREAM of doing in front of ...
the moment we realised our friendship had become unhealthy
06 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
we’re getting vulnerable today as we chat about how our friendship has had to change over the last year. ever realised your friendship with your clo...
am i actually attracted to him?
28 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
sometimes someone is your type on paper but in reality you just don’t vibe. sometimes someone couldn’t be further from the kinda guy you’re usua...
i'm never going on a group holiday again
22 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
why can it be SO difficult to organise a group holiday?! different budgets, accommodation ideas, availability, will your holiday EVER make it out the ...
i've realised my parents aren't perfect
26 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
navigating your relationship with your parents can be kinda complex right?! as you grow older, you have a moment where you realise your parents are hu...
i need to ask for help but i can’t
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
today we're joined by our first ever MALE podcast guest. he brings the 'it's not just you' topic and shares about his struggle in asking for help. why...
why won't he notice me
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you that tries to impress boys with the way you look. hands up if you've ever spent a little too long planning an outfit, redoing you ha...
i need to confront them but i don't know how
14 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
tricky conversations is the topic today! whether it's a partner, friend, colleague or neighbour, difficult chats are part of life. so let's not shy aw...
i feel like i'm in competition for a friend
31 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
have you ever heard someone else call YOUR best friend THEIR best friend!!!??? in this episode we talk about those defensive, territorial feelings tha...
i feel pressure to drink
17 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
this episode is a bit of a different one as we talk about the pressures around drinking. whether you're teetotal or love a drink we hope this episode ...
i've lost my friend to their relationship
03 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
a new relationship can come with all sorts of things to navigate but today we're specifically talking about how to balance your boyfriend with your be...
help! i don't look good in anything i wear
12 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
anyone else struggle to find clothes they feel confident in? today we’re discussing fashion fails, the struggle to find clothes that fit well and ou...
i don't get on with my best friend's boyfriend
29 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
it’s not just you who can struggle to connect with a friend's significant other. sometimes it's a clash of personalities, sometimes they’re not tr...
i'm never going to be beautiful enough
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
anyone else feel like it's impossible to keep up with the ever changing beauty standards for women? it’s exhausting to try and keep track of what’...
i think i'm catching feels
01 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
we're back !!! to kick off season 2, we're going to be talking about the 5 signs that you've caught feelings for someone. whether you've just met or y...
six questions to ask yourself before the new year
08 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
join us for a big old reflection on the last year. we talk hopes, fears, relationships and everything in between as we prepare to enter 2024. listen a...
i find christmas quite hard
15 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
we love christmas but know it can be a hard time of year for loads of different reasons. join us as we get real about all things christmas related; fr...
i’m in my 20’s and everything keeps changing
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
anyone else feel as though there 20’s are full of change? whether it's friendships, living situations or work, things can feel like they're ...
i like my friends more than they like me
01 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
have you ever wondered if your friends secretly hate you? or whether they're just not as invested in your friendship as you are? you're not th...
why am i so embarrassing
24 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
we’re #cringing because today we’re talking about our most embarrassing moments. join us as we share humiliating stories from our past and chat ab...
i'm 24 and i've never had a boyfriend
17 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
this episode is for all you girls who've never dated before! it's not just you who's wondered if you're the only one or if there's...
what not to do on a first date
10 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
let's talk failed dates, dream first date experiences, our different approaches to dating and the little things a guy can do to make a date extra ...
i'm tired of having fomo
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
the fear of missing out is so real. when you can’t make social plans or you’re just too tired to hang out, it can be so hard to watch on from afar...
is it weird to stalk someone on social media?
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who's done a deep dive on someone's social media and wondered if it's weird. have you ever met someone in person and already known r...
how do i show a guy i like him?
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who doesn't know how to flirt. that's right, in this episode we're chatting all things: flirting. how do you make it...
i don't want to share my best friend
06 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
please say we’re not the only ones who’ve struggled seeing their bestie have other close friends?! it’s pretty gross to admit but it sometimes w...
am i the only one who feels alone?
29 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
have you ever found yourself surrounded by people yet still felt alone? maybe you’ve just started uni or moved to a new city and feel like you haven...
what should i be doing in my twenties?
22 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
should i be travelling the world or settling down? should i be spending my money or saving for the future? should i be single or starting to think abo...
do i look as good as my friends?
15 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
have you ever looked at a mate and felt like they're way better looking than you? have you ever wished you could look more like someone else? in this ...
i just got rejected by the guy i like
08 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who's been pied off by the guy you're interested in! today we’re talking about those vulnerable moments where you put yourself out...
we used to be friends and now we’re not
01 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
there's a lot of chat about romantic breakups, but what happens when a close friendship breaks down?! whether it's a result of an argument, a ...
my friend's going through a breakup and idk what to do
24 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it’s not just you that’s had to support a friend through a breakup! in this episode we discuss the reality of coming alongside someone who's g...
my body's changed and i don’t like it
18 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who struggles with your body changing. we've all looked back on old photos and longed for our body to look like it used to. ...
how do i know if i'm in the right relationship?
11 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who's wondered if the person you're dating is totally right for you. how do you know when to make compromises (cos no o...
i want to be happy for them but i just feel jealous
04 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
whether it's a job promotion, amazing grades or a brand new boyfriend it can sometime feel hard to celebrate your friend's success. what do yo...
why can friendships with guys be so complicated?
28 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it’s not just you who can find friendships with guys confusing. do i fancy them? do they fancy me?! in this episode we chat about our experience of ...
i can't stop talking about people behind their backs
21 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
no one likes to admit it but let’s be honest, we’ve all spoken about a friend behind their back. in this episode we chat about the fact it can be ...
i just want my friends to be single
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
it's not just you who struggles with your friends getting into relationships. in our first ever podcast episode we talk about the reality of remai...
we have a podcast !!!
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
aghhh welcome to our brand new podcast 'it's not just you' !!! join us for honest chats as we address the things everyone feels but no one...