Jillian on Love

How to Love Yourself When Someone Breaks Your Heart

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It is a tragedy to believe we are unlovable when someone has stopped loving us. And yet, it is crucial that we take the time to self-reflect on the re...

The Highly Sensitive Empath and The Narcissist

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian finally addresses the trauma associated with being "highly sensitive" and an "empath" and how one's sensitivity impacts their relationships an...

The Real Reason Why Relationships Fall Apart

27 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships rarely end because of a lack of love. They more commonly end because of a lack of connection. And it is the absence of connection that m...

How To Become an Incredible Communicator with Chris Voss

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready to learn communication skills you have never learned before. Jillian welcomes former FBI hostage negotiator and bestselling author Chris Vos...

The Most Important Green Flags Everyone Needs to Have

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this important episode, Jillian clarifies what makes a relationship UNHEALTHY, and the very things we need to both look for in another and develop ...

7 Reasons Why You're Still Single

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode has one objective: to shed light onto why many people are single despite their best efforts and deep longing to be in a relationship. Jil...

How To Know When It's Time to Walk Away

29 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How to know when you should stay and fight for your relationship, or leave and fight for yourself? Knowing when it's time to leave your relationship i...

How to Raise Your Standards and Choose Yourself with Matthew Hussey

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready for this incredible conversation between Jillian and the one and only Matthew Hussey. Matthew Hussey is a New York Times bestselling author,...

Heal The Anxious and Avoidant Cycle in Your Relationship with Mark Groves + Kylie McBeath

15 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered if you should get back together with your ex? Do you feel stuck in a runner and chaser dynamic with someone? Today, Jillian wel...

The Dating Advice that will Change Your Life

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, Jillian shares the most important and nuanced advice for dating which includes how to understand men and women better so you can h...

How to Be a Healthy Person in a Healthy Relationship

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us do not know what healthy love looks and feels like. Our parents did the best they could, and yet what so many of us are left with is unreal...

What Mentally Strong Couples Do NOT Do: A Conversation with Amy Morin

25 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Amy Morin is a therapist, bestselling author, and has given one of the most popular TED talks of all time in 2015. Her books about mental strength are...

Love Is Blind Summary: The Truth Behind the Cast's Dynamics

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You asked, Jillian delivers. Love Is Blind on Netflix has reached epic levels of popularity, and in this episode, Jillian breaks down her interpretati...

How To Get Over a Toxic Ex and Move On

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Breaking up and divorce is hard enough, but when the relationship was unhealthy, it adds a layer of complexity to the recovery process. The anger and ...

Self-worth: How Not to Abandon Yourself in a Relationship and in Dating

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this important episode, Jillian shares the worst and best pieces of relationship advice she ever received, and how it's influenced how she has help...

How to Let Go of Your Ex: A Live Coaching Call with Jillian

26 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What Would Jillian Say? In this special episode, Jillian speaks to a listener who is having a hard time letting go and moving on from an unhealthy rel...

Break-up Prevention: How to Make It Through a Rough Patch Without Your Relationship Falling Apart

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're in a committed relationship or want to be, it's pretty much guaranteed that you'll go through some hard times where you feel disconnected fr...

Surviving Valentine's Day: How to Love Yourself if You're Single or Heartbroken

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special Valentine's Day episode, Jillian shares important tips and incredible words of wisdom on how to be your own valentine if you're single...

Chasing The Emotionally Unavailable: How to Break the Cycle

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian delves into the complex issue of forming relationships with emotionally unavailable partners. She discusses the patterns that lead people to a...

How to Detect Unhealthy Chemistry and Why Dating Apps are a Problem with Jeff Guenther

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian and special guest Jeff Guenther get candid and personal in this riveting conversation about why men look at provocative accounts, the differen...

How to Love Someone without Tolerating Less than What You Deserve

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, Jillian addresses the debate she's seen all over social media: Do we truly have to accept someone for who they are? What of ...

The Biggest Red and Green Flags you must Never Ignore

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this incredibly informative and direct episode, Jillian shares some hard truths about both red and green flags, and why if you ignore these, you ar...

How To Let Go and Transform Your Life and Relationships with The Minimalists

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is simply incredible. Jillian welcomes Emmy-nominated Netflix stars, podcasters, and New York Times bestselling authors The Minimalists t...

New Year Special: How To Make Your Relationships Stronger, Closer, and Safer

01 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special New Year episode, Jillian teaches truly life-changing ways to deepen and strengthen your connection with the most important people in ...

Holiday Special: How To Give To Yourself The Gift of Self-Love

25 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this holiday special episode, Jillian teaches how to revolutionize the relationship with yourself. Expect themes on self-forgiveness, recovering fr...

How To Stop Obsessing About Them

18 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a very eye-opening episode where Jillian explains why we obsess over people we don't know very well as well as why we obsess after a breakup. ...

Anxious and Avoidant Attachment: How it Shows Up in a Relationship and What To Do About It

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this illuminating episode, expect to learn insights into attachment theory that you have not learned anywhere else. Jillian busts certain myths, cl...

Why Relationships End: 13 Life-changing Lessons About Love And Marriage That Will Save You From Heartbreak

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready to take notes! Jillian shares the 13 most important lessons she's learned about love and marriage after 10 years of helping couples plus her...

How to Love and Heal with Dr Nicole LePera

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes Dr. Nicole LaPera (@theholisticpsychologist) to discuss what it really means to love, why trauma impacts some people more than others...

I Can't Let Go of My Toxic Ex: A Live Coaching Call with Jillian

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever struggled to let go of an ex even though you knew they were not good for you? In today's episode, Jillian speaks with a man who feels ve...

What Would Jillian Say? A Live Coaching Call with Jillian

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"What Would Jillian Say?" is Jillian On Love's first episode that features Jillian coaching a caller live, on her love life. The anonymous caller is a...

The Myth of "The One"

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is there such a thing as a soulmate? In this powerful episode, Jillian discusses why we believe in The One, and busts the myth that is responsible for...

5 Steps To Self-Love

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian has been helping people feel better about themselves for over 20 years. In this episode, she shares 5 life-changing steps to healthy self-wort...

The Dating Crisis and 3 Hard Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Commit To Someone

23 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of the dating culture today is unhealthy. In this episode, Jillian shares what singles need to do to rise above the mess and make sure they are ...

How To Recover From An Unhealthy Relationship And Find Yourself Again

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Self-abandonment is one of the most painful things we can ever experience, and is usually harder to recover from than losing someone else. In this pow...

Should I Stay In My Relationship, or Should I Go? With Vienna Pharaon

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon to the show to discuss communication, attachment, and how to figure out if one's relatio...

The Subconscious Patterns that Create Toxic Relationships and Block Healthy Love

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready to have your mind blown. Jillian outlines the most common subconscious patterns and beliefs she sees in those who are struggling in their lo...

5 Truths About Relationships That Will Transform Your Love Life

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jillian shares 5 of the biggest lessons she's learned about romantic relationships from 20 years of working with people and her own p...

How To Have The Hard Conversations

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We know that communication is crucial for a relationship to work, but very few actually want to have the uncomfortable conversations. In this special ...

Anniversary Special: How to Break Patterns and Choose Yourself

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In celebration of the 1-year anniversary of Jillian On Love, Jillian invited 3 listeners of the podcast to share their stories of change and get some ...

Turning Partners into Projects: Breaking the The Cycle of Rescuing and Codependency

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The dance between autonomy and dependence is an ongoing pursuit in a relationship, and for some, it's a hard balance to find. In this episode, Jillian...

7 Steps To Build Self-Worth and Heal

28 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have to be fully healed to have a healthy relationship? Do you have to love yourself? The answer to these questions are not so black and white....

How To Love Yourself and Have Healthy Boundaries with Mark Groves

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes author, speaker, coach and human connection specialist Mark Groves to the show for a powerful conversation about learning how to feel...

7 Steps to Survive Heartbreak and Reclaim Your Life

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, Jillian teaches her 7-step process to truly survive a break-up or divorce. She created these steps based on her own process ...

How To Parent Consciously with Dr. Shefali

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships reflect back to us where our work is, and your child is a mirror into your deepest self and ego. Jillian welcomes acclaimed author, spea...

5 Steps to Transform Your Relationship

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you're in a relationship or preparing to have a better future one, this might be one of the most important episodes you can listen to. Jillian...

The 5 Biggest Dating Mistakes and How to Avoid Them

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you single and frustrated about it? In this episode, Jillian shares the 5 biggest and most common mistakes singles makes that sabotage their chanc...

On the Brink of Divorce, How to Love Yourself More, and How to Stand Up For Yourself In a Relationship

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this special episode, Jillian takes some of your most intense and riveting questions and answers them, in detail. ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: ...

How to Navigate Dating and Breaking up with Anxious Attachment

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating as a sensitive person and/or abandonment wounds can feel very daunting. In this episode, Jillian shares exactly how to navigate dating so that ...

How to Talk to Your Partner about Social Media & Porn with Connor Beaton

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes Connor Beaton, best-selling author, host of the podcast ManTalks, and Men's coach to thousands of men trying to better their lives. I...

Red Flags: What you must know AND talk about before you commit to someone

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian breaks down what you MUST know about someone before you commit your heart and life to them, as well as the important conversations every coupl...

Boundaries: "Special" Friendships Outside of Your Relationship.

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this unique episode, Jillian answers a listener's complex question about what she should do if she feels threatened by one of her partner's friends...

How to Sustain Physical Attraction in a Relationship

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, Jillian dares to go where other's don't. She explains the habits and things we do unconsciously that impact physical attract...

How to Repair With Your Partner

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The health and vitality of a relationship rests heavily on our ability to repair after an argument and disconnection. In this episode, Jillian breaks ...

The Truth About Chemistry

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this much awaited episode, Jillian breaks down sexual chemistry. She discusses what it is, the difference between healthy chemisty and unhealthy ch...

A Relationship's Impact on Our Mental Health

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The quality of our lives are determined by the quality of our relationships. Strong relationships make us strong, and weak, unhealthy relationships ma...

The Chaser and The Runner: the Pattern that Destroys a Relationship Part 2

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian shares Part 2 of one of her most popular episodes: The Chaser and The Runner. How do two people who love each other get trapped in a pattern o...

Mother's Day Special: The Mother Archetype and the decision to not have a child.

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In honor of Mother's Day, Jillian dedicates this episode to all the women who have decided - for various reasons, not to become a mother and to those ...

A Look Inside Vanderpump Rules: Tom and Arianna - JOL + Unlock

04 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As a special treat for our listeners we're unlocking an episode of JOL +. Jillian shares her perspective on the recent cheating scandal in Bravo's po...

A Mature Relationship: 3 Skills to Master Your Love life

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A healthy and secure relationship is a mature relationship. Yet, why do so many people struggle to create this? In this powerful episode, Jillian teac...

From Rock Bottom to Thriving: A story of transformation with Doug Bopst

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian interviews Doug Bobst, a former felon and drug addict who transformed his life. Today he is an award winning personal trainer, author, speaker...

Ghosted: The Dark Side of Dating

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, Jillian discusses ghosting and online dating. She clarifies what ghosting is (and isn't) why she believes it's on the rise, ...

The Myth of The Conscious Relationship

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"Conscious Relationship" and "Conscious Partner" seem to be what everyone is looking for these days. People are sick and tired of being ghosted, toxic...

The Silent Destroyer of A Relationship

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In honor of Stress Awareness Month, Jillian describes the impact of stress and chronic negativity on a relationship's health. Almost all relationship ...

Surviving Infidelity and How to Grow as a Couple: Kerrilynn and John

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us do not have examples of enduring love. Kerrilynn and John and been married for almost 30 years, having met when they were young, wild, and ...

The Truth about Love-Bombing

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Love-bombing is a popular term in the current zeitgeist, but what does it actually mean, and what do you need to do and NOT do, to prevent it ftrom ha...

Ending the cycle of toxic and abusive relationships

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, Jillian outlines the differences between unhealthy relationships and abuse, and how BOTH present similar patterns. She share...

Lewis Howes on Transforming your Self-Doubt and Trauma into Internal Peace

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes Lewis Howes, New York Times best-selling author, keynote speaker, industry-leading show host, and former pro-athlete, to the podcast....

When Your Partner is Depressed: What to do to help them AND yourself

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the most frequently asked questions Jillian receives is: "How do I help my depressed partner?" Although every situation is different and each c...

From Single and Lost to Marriage with Anna Goldstein

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anna Goldstein is an OG coach, having been in the business long before it was trendy. She was also Jillian's first coach, and without Anna, Jillian wo...

Surviving Valentine’s Day Heartbroken: How to let go of your ex and move on

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s unfortunate that Valentine's Day triggers loneliness in so many people, and it can be particularly difficult for those who are trying to get ov...

The Art Of Choosing The Right Partner

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, Jillian shares the 10 most critical steps to choosing the right match for you that when followed, is guaranteed to help you....

Relationship Anxiety: How to Overcome it

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Relationship anxiety is at an all time high, and it's not just related to attachment styles. Sometimes, the anxiety is so intense, we get trapped in o...

Relationship Trouble: How to restore connection and save your relationship

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Nothing is more stressful than relationship trouble. Nothing keeps us up at night filled with anxiety than being in a relationship that is struggling....

Dating with a chronic illness with Jillian Tuchman

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jillian speaks to Jillian Tuchman, a brilliant functional medicine dietitian and trauma coach who helps those with chronic conditions...

How To Actually Love Yourself and Raise Your Self-Worth

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How we feel about ourselves determines the quality of of our lives. And, how we feel about ourselves is reflected in our romantic relationships. Jilli...

10 steps to a better relationship with yourself and your partner in 2023

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After 20 years of working with people, Jillian shares her top 10 most necessary changes and cotemplations most people need to consider to strengthen t...

JOL + Unlocked - Listener Questions: Am I making the right choice? How do I trust again?

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Holidays from Jillian. In the spirit of giving, we are unlocking a taste of the Jillian On Love Plus subscription. Jillian On Love + gives liste...

The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern that Destroys a Relationship

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The chaser and the runner, the pursurer and the distancer, the anxious and the avoidant. The push and the pull. This pattern is one of the most common...

Over-coming childhood trauma, mindfulness, and learning how to be in a relationship with Cory Allen

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episiode, Jillian speaks with Cory Allen, meditation teacher, podcaster, audio engineer and author of "Now Is The Way". Cory overcame some pre...

The Uncomfortable Truth about Family and Being Triggered during the Holidays

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode about family dynamics and relationships, Jillian goes super deep into healing parental wounds, and why so many people get triggered wh...

Situationships: Stop tolerating less than what you deserve.

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this fiery and educational episode, Jillian discusses "situationships","breadcrumbing", tolerating nonsense, self-abandonent and standing up for wh...

The Truth About Emotional Unavailability

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you emotionally available? Are they? “Emotionally unavailable” gets tossed around a lot but what does it actually mean? In this episode, Jilli...

On Grief and Grieving with Nico Barraza

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jillian sits down with Nico Barraza - a coach and counselor who is passionate about helping his clients through the grieving process....

Anxious Attachment

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Attachment styles have received a lot of attention lately, and for good reason. But, it’s important to know that it is not a diagnosis, instead it i...

How To Survive Heartbreak and Move On

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you're hurting, expect to feel seen, validated and inspired after listening to this episode. Jillian goes deep and teaches things she has never tau...

Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Relationships with Lulu

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes Lulu, a client who faced the challenge of trying to overcome low self worth and toxic relationships. In this raw and candid conversat...

Dating: 10 Things You Need to Know to Find the "Right Partner"

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Attention SINGLES! Jillian breaks down exactly what you need to know in order to find the "right" partner for you, as well as the habits you need to b...

From Separation to Falling in Love Again with Meg & Mike

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jillian welcomes Meg & Mike, a couple she worked with as they navigated serious issues which led to separation. Meg and Mike share their fascinating j...

Infidelity: Why People Cheat

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences a person can face in a relationship, and it's unfortunately very common. In this Episode, Jillian ex...

7 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You End Your Relationship

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Deciding to end your relationship is often not an easy decision. Many people will face big consequences ranging from regret, single parenting, financi...

Why You're Attracted to Unavailable & May Find Healthy Boring

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It is very painful and confusing when you consistently find yourself in relationships or "situations'' with people who are not fully available to you....

Sex And Sweatpants: How To Bring Attraction Back Into Your Long-Term Relationship

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Physical attraction in a long term relationship: Feeling comfortable with your partner is a beautful and necessary thing. But when couples get too com...

The Relationship Truth That Will Change Your Life

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This relationship truth will change your life, and it might be hard to hear. It is not them, it's you. Why do we unconsciously sabotage our relationsh...

Welcome To Jillian On Love

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm on a mission to teach people how to completely transform their love life, and where you start is by addressing the relationship you have with your...

Trailer: Your love directive.

17 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s build healthier and more fulfilling romantic relationships. Jillian is on a mission to teach people how to completely transform their love lif...