Joy Recovery Radio
Episodes
S2 E20 | Shame Tolerance vs Shame Collapse
08 Jun 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Joy Recovery Radio — Shame Collapse, Shame Tolerance, and the Compass of Shame This episode is an excerpt from a live teaching inside the Joy Recove...
S2 E19: What "I've Told You Everything" Actually Means
01 Jun 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Most betrayed partners have heard the sentence "I've already told you everything." In this episode, Roy and Jacqueline examine why that phrase—and f...
S2 E18: Her Hypervigilance is Information (And What It's Actually Telling You)
25 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Most of what gets called hypervigilance in a betrayed partner is not a malfunction. It is information. In this solo episode, Roy reframes what her ner...
S2 E17: Image Management After Betrayal
18 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If compartmentalization is the architecture of the hidden life, image management is the architecture of the visible one. It's the version of you the w...
S2 E16: Minwalla Model: Compartmentalization, or How Someone Can Live Two Lives
10 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode of Joy Recovery Radio explains clinical compartmentalization in betrayal as the deliberate maintenance of separate internal realities, us...
S2 E15: [Minwalla Model] Treatment-Induced Trauma
03 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Treatment-Induced Trauma (Trauma Room 22) in Betrayal Recovery | DST / Minwalla Model Explained Jacqueline and Roy of Joy Recovery Radio explain Dr...
S2 E14: The Four Layers of Real Change
27 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Roy shares a case of a client who stopped acting out, followed recovery steps, and gained insight, yet his partner still doesn’t trust him—because...
S2 E13: Why is the Betrayer So Defensive?
20 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy explains how defensiveness and reactivity show up after betrayal and deceptive sexuality, arguing they are ...
S2 E12: The Entitlement You CAN'T See
13 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy explores covert, pre-conscious entitlement that can fuel deceptive sexuality and relational harm—e...
S2 E11: Three Motivations Behind Betrayal
06 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Joy Recovery Radio explains infidelity through the Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma (DST) model, emphasizing that the primary injury is integrity abuse—...
S2 E10: Why Reassurance Doesn't Relieve Betrayal Anxiety - and What Does
30 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode explains why verbal reassurance often fails to calm betrayal anxiety after discovery or disclosure, because sustained deception breaks th...
S2 E09: The Betrayer’s Pathway - The 4 Stages of Real Recovery
23 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode of Joy Recovery Radio explains the proper sequence of the Four I’s in betrayal recovery and why couples can do harm by pursuing reconne...
S2 E08: Why Betrayal Recovery Feels So Confusing (And What's Actually Happening)
16 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode of Joy Recovery Radio explains why both betrayed partners and those rebuilding integrity often feel confused and stuck after sexual betra...
S2 E07 Why Sobriety is Not Enough After Betrayal
09 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Joy Recovery Radio explains ethical containment in betrayal recovery as the person who caused harm willingly removing access to the tools used to harm...
S2 E06: Why Insight is NOT Change
02 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Why His Insight Doesn’t Make You Feel Safe After Betrayal (Insight vs. Accountability) This episode of Joy Recovery Radio explains why a partner’...
S2 EP05 Why Recovery So Often Goes Wrong
23 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, the hosts discuss a common conflict in betrayal recovery: the betrayer’s urgency to “move on” and return ...
S2 E04: Three Substitutes for Safety & What Actually Creates It
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss why insight, remorse, and emotional intensity are often mistaken for real change in betrayal recover...
S2 E03: Betrayal is NOT a Relationship Issue
09 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Why Betrayal is Not a Relationship Problem | Joy Recovery Radio In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the intricate nature of betrayal,...
S2 E02: DARVO - The Hidden Pattern of Manipulation (pt 2)
02 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) and its impact on betray...
S2 E01: DARVO - The Hidden Pattern of Manipulation (pt 1)
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we tackle the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim, and Offender), a deeply damaging fo...
Season 2 Trailer | Joy Recovery Radio
19 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Season 2 of Joy Recovery Radio continues the conversation about integrity, betrayal trauma, and what real recovery actually requires. In this brief tr...
Ep 47: Breaking the Pursuer/Avoider Cycle for Good
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Roy and Jacqueline discuss the common 'Pursuer-Avoider Cycle' that many couples face after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. The...
Ep 46: The False Self: How We Hide, Perform, and Protect - and How to Break Free
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we explore how understanding the shadow and false self impacts our spiritual and personal growth. Learn about practical spiritual ...
Ep 45: Understanding and Managing His Intrusive Thoughts: A Guide for Couples
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we delve deep into the complexities couples face when recovering from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We explore the nature of...
Ep 44: "Why Can't I Have A Normal Life Again?"
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the profound question, 'Why can't I have a normal life again?' after sexual infidelity and betray...
Ep 43 - Cost of Devaluing Women: From Objectification to Empathy
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore the complexities of healing from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Join us as we delve into the psychology and theolo...
Ep 42: When Trying Fails - How Training Heals What Effort Can’t
10 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of spiritual practices on healing and transformation, particularly for couples facing sexual infide...
Ep 41: How We Change (Part 2) - The Work
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore how to experience holistic transformation by understanding the five integrated parts of the human person: spirit, mind, bo...
Ep 40: How We Change (Part 1): The Drift
27 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore whether the advice to 'be yourself' is beneficial and delve into the concept of spiritual formation. Learn about the stori...
Ep 39: Truth vs. Transparency
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we explore the critical difference between truth and transparency in the journey to healing after sexual infide...
Ep 38: The Brain's Delete Button: Erase Years of P*rn Viewing
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we delve into the fascinating connection between brain science and spiritual principles in the journey to overcome porn addiction. Di...
Ep 37: How to Become a Non-Anxious Presence
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of becoming a non-anxious presence during the challenging journey of recovery from sexual infidelity an...
Ep 36: From Pain to Purpose
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In today's episode, we delve deep into the transformative and challenging journey of forgiveness, especially in th...
EP 35: "Why Is She Trying to Control Me, When Can I Have My Freedom Back?"
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is dedicated to helping couples recover from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We explain how partners in recovery can proactively c...
EP 34: R.U.L.E.R. - Five Skills for Emotional Maturity
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we delve into the complexities of emotional intelligence in recovering from sexual infidelity and betr...
Ep 33: The Deeper Longing Behind Every Addiction
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Join us on Joy Recovery Radio as we explore the journey of healing and hope after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. This episode delves into the ...
Ep 32: Five Levels of Empathy: Rebuilding Trust and Connection
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we explore the crucial role of empathy in healing relationships after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Le...
Ep 31: Breaking the Chains of Self-Deception
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Breaking the Chains of Self-Deception: Healing After Infidelity | Joy Recovery Radio Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep...
Ep 30: I Was an Abuser - Here's How I Stopped
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss the critical issue of abusive behavior among sex addicts, through the lens of the Minwalla model and...
Ep 29 - Healing Resentments: The Four-Phase Forgiveness Journey
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we explore an excerpt from our Conscious Contact group focusing on the spiritual side of recovery. Learn from expert teachings, in...
Ep 28: Is Lying a Co-Addiction for Sex Addicts?
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the intricate relationship between deception and sex addiction. Discover the science of what happ...
Ep 27: (Minwalla Model IAD Series) - The Deception & Manipulation Playbook
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio, where we provide insights, strategies, and real-life stories to help couples heal after sexual infidelity and betrayal ...
Ep 26: Relationship Rescue: 10 Essential Traits
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the top 10 key traits essential for rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships affected by infidelity. Join us as we s...
Ep 25: The H.E.L.P. Tool for Men - Unlocking Emotional Vulnerability
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving deep into the critical role of emotional intimacy in relationships, especially post-betrayal. Join Roy and Jacqueline as...
Ep 24: Why Can't Men Express Emotions? And What To Do About It
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we explore why men often struggle with emotional attunement and how this impacts their recovery journey after b...
Ep 23: Healing After Betrayal - 12 Do's & 5 Don'ts FOR MEN
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss how couples can navigate the journey of healing after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We emph...
Ep 22: Stephen Cabler (Part 2) - The Ultimate Guide to Disclosure Polygraphs
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this eye-opening episode, we explore the profound impact of polygraphs in the journey of healing from sexual infidel...
Ep 21: Stephen Cabler (Part 1) - The Ultimate Guide to Disclosure Polygraphs
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep into the world of polygraphs for betrayal recovery with polygraph expert Stephen Cabler. ...
Ep 20: "How Can We Ever Go on Vacation Again?" The Beach and Beyond after Betrayal
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Join us for another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we dive into traveling post-betrayal and infidelity. Hosts Roy and Jacqueline discuss the cha...
Ep 19: Understanding the 7 Types of Love for Relational Recovery
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio. In this episode, we explore seven different types of love according to the ancient Greeks and discuss which ones are vi...
EP 18: Latest Research: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Method Works Best?
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to this episode of Joy Recovery Radio! Today, we delve into groundbreaking research comparing five interventions for sex addiction recovery: w...
Ep 17: Is Sex a Need?
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this emotionally charged episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the controversial topic of whether sex is a need. Our host, drawing from expe...
Ep 16: The Minwalla Model Part 2: What is Deceptive Sexuality Trauma?
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we continue exploring the Minwalla model by diving into Deceptive Compartmentalized Sexual Relational Reality (...
Ep 15: The Minwalla Model Part 1: Unpacking Deceptive Sexuality & Integrity Abuse
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Understanding the Minwalla Model: Deceptive Sexuality and Integrity Abuse Disorder - Joy Recovery Radio Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio's new multi-part...
Ep 14: Are These Recovery Myths Holding You Back?
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this compelling episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction and recovery. Focusing on the conce...
Ep 13: Why is He So Emotionally Distant? Inside the Mind of a Sex Addict
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the complex topic of emotional distance by exploring the mindset of a sex addict. Share in a pers...
Ep 12: The Relapse Map
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the crucial topic of relapse in addiction recovery. The discussion includes differentiating betw...
Ep 11: The Silent Relationship KILLER You Must Avoid At All Costs
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the insidious and often overlooked issue of invalidation in relationships. Host [Host Name] provi...
Ep 10: Improve Communication - How Imago Dialogue Transforms Relationships
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the final episode of our three-part series on intimacy! In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the Imago Dialogue, an effect...
Ep 9: Intimacy Series - Rethinking Check-Ins
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive into the importance and practice of daily check-ins for building emotional intimacy in relationships. C...
Ep 8: Intimacy with God, Self, and Others
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio! We're diving into a three-part series on intimacy, starting with self intimacy. Discover how underst...
Ep 7: Acting Out vs Acting In
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we delve into the concept of 'acting in' as opposed to 'acting out.' Using insights from psych...
Ep 6: His Triggers and Her Triggers
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, hosts Roy and Jacqueline delve into the complex topic of triggers, particularly emotional and trauma triggers ...
Ep 5: Overcoming Resentment is Key to LASTING Recovery
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, join us as we delve deep into the topic of resentment and its critical role in addiction and recovery. Coaches ...
Ep 4: The Illusion of Lust - Breaking the Cycle
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy delves into the complex topics of lust and objectification, exploring whether they are morally wrong and wh...
Ep 3: Couple's Guide to Overcoming Lust
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio with Jacqueline and Roy. Today, they dive into a sensitive and significant topic — overcoming lust,...
Ep 2: Addiction vs. Abuse
06 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy discusses the critical distinction between addiction and abuse, particularly in the context of compulsive s...
Ep 1: How to Stop Addictive and Abusive Behaviors
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How to stop addictive and abusive behaviors using the Delta Model