She Is Here™
Episodes
Lonely in a Room Full of People: Why You Feel Alone Even When You’re Not
17 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people, even when you’re surrounded, included, and socially “fine”?In this episode, I talk about my ...
Why People Call You ‘Too Sensitive’ (and why they're wrong) - a spoken word poem
27 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever wondered “why do people call me too sensitive?” or questioned whether your feelings are “too much”, this spoken word piece is...
Why You Overthink Messages (and What It Says About Safety)
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done so...
What I Actually Mean by ‘Safe Enough to Be Seen’ (and Why It’s Not About Confidence)
13 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen” because it’s not about confidence...
Why Insight Isn’t Enough: Why You Still Feel Anxious Even When You Understand It
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious.If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still fe...
Why January and New Year’s Resolutions Make You Feel Like You’re Failing
30 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best.In this trauma-informed ep...
The Christmas You Carry
24 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subj...
She Is Here: Remembering Who You Were Before You Were Taught to Be Less
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continua...
When Your Body Makes You Stop And listen To What It Has To Say - It Might Just Surprise You | Ep 53
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise? In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own ...
It’s Not a Rebrand — It’s a Remembering | Ep 52
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. I've notic...
How To Stop Feeling Guilty For Saying No | Ep 51
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those int...
Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find y...
As An Anxious People-Pleaser I Used To Think I Wasn’t Confident Enough — But It Was Never About Confidence | Ep 49
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough.Mayb...
Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t?In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy...
The People-Pleasing Path That Leads You Away From Yourself | Ep 47
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually ...
From Overthinking People-Pleaser to Solo Festival Raver | Ep 47
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Past me would NEVER have done this. This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the m...
Does My Writing Still Sound Like Me? On AI, Sameness, and Finding Our Human Voice | Ep 46
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same?Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” An...
People-Pleasing in the Bedroom: Let’s Talk About Sex | Ep 45
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a pos...
I Thought I Was Being 'Professional'... But I Was Actually Avoiding Being Visible | Ep 44
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to m...
What is People-Pleasing? and Why don't you realise you're a people-pleaser? | Ep 43
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What is people-pleasing? and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it? In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like ...
Is Your Teenager a People-Pleaser? Early Warning Signs and How to Help | Ep 42
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and wha...
What Another Therapist Posted Shocked Me into Speaking Up Online - And I Didn't Spiral! | Ep 41
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you? Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something - but...
People-Pleasing and the Postpartum Period | Ep. 40
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me -...
How To Start Breaking Free From Imposter Syndrome | Ep 39
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.I highlight the c...
Why You Feel Like an Imposter and Out of Your Depth in Business—Even When You 'Know' You’re Credible | Ep 38
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know...
Why Is It So Hard To Say No? A People-Pleasing Therapist Explains. | Ep 37
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boun...
The Little Girl Who Learned How To Mask | Ep 36
10 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is for the girl you used to be - the one who learned to be agreeable, quiet, and easy so she could stay accepted and feel safe. The one w...
You’re Self-Aware… But Are You Sure You’re Seeing Things Clearly? | Ep 35
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a really personal moment that completely caught me off guard - and shifted something deep within me.Despite all th...
Don't Miss These Signs | Ep 34
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You might be making more progress than you think.I’m talking about the shifts we often overlook - the subtle signs that show you’re breaking old p...
Why You Cringe at Putting Yourself Out There | Ep 33
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve learnt the marketing strategies. You know what to do.Rationally you know you'd be encouraging your friend to go for it - that she should...
From Burnout and Breakdown to Finding You Again with Vicki Gilby | Ep 32
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When Vicki hit burnout as a primary school teacher, she realised she had lost her sense of self. In this honest chat, she shares how years of people-p...
How Personal Style and Mindset Can Transform Your Business Confidence | Ep 31
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I’m joined by a very special guest — mindset and personal stylist and founder of The Success Stylist Co, Emma — for a real...
How to Feel Comfortable Being Photographed: Overcoming Self-Doubt and People-Pleasing | Ep 30
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering...
Are You As Kind As You Think? The Truth About People-Pleasing vs Kindness | Ep 29
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powe...
How to Recognise if You're An Overcomitting People-Pleaser (and how to stop the cycle) | Ep 28
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'depen...
The Hidden Problem with the ‘Let Them' Theory | Ep 27
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implemen...
Do you really like that as much as you say you do? The Chameleon Pleaser - a chat with Hannah McLachlan | Ep 26
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others, it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People...
Breaking the Cycle of Over-giving & Finding Your Worth Beyond Your Actions - with Nicola Jayne | Ep 25
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Nicola joins me to share her personal journey from over-giving and over-doing in relationships to recognising her worth was beyond wh...
Living Life by Others’ Expectations vs. Living in Line with Your Values - with Natasha Scullane | Ep 24
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you've been following all the 'right' steps in life - being the good girl, ticking off the achievements, doing what’...
From People-Pleasing to Living Life on Your Own Terms - with Matt Hassan | Ep 23
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Matt Hassan (@veggie_gardener_matt) shares his story of breaking free from people-pleasing and approval seeking tendencies to that of...
Why You Often Feel Like You Don't Have a Choice | Ep 22
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you had no choice but to say yes? Like you had to go along with something, even when every part of you really didn’t want to...
Juggling Life Without the Overwhelm: The Power of Boundaries with Eve Cale | Ep 21
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I speak to Eve Cale, a busy mum, wife, and business owner (@giftwrappedbyeve), about the vital importance of setting boundaries in ev...
Why You Flip Between Feeling 'You're Too Much' and 'Not Enough' | Ep 20
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Different to the usual episodes - this is for all you if you often find yourself flipping between feeling like you are 'too much' and '...
From People-Pleaser to Confidently Authentic: What I Learned in 2024 and What’s Next | Ep 19
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
2024 has been a year of transformation, personally, professionally, and authentically. Tune in for inspiration, honest reflections, and invites to ref...
Things Aren’t Bad Enough for Therapy? Myths, Benefits, and How It Can Transform Your Life | Ep 18
31 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever thought, “My problems aren’t bad enough for therapy,” or perhaps you know you could do with some help but aren't sure what you would a...
12 Practical Ways to Start Tackling Day-to-Day People-Pleasing Habits | Ep 17
24 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m sharing 12 practical ways to begin tackling people-pleasing habits. As I describe some relatively simple but powerful ideas, I&...
Is People-Pleasing Sabotaging your Career? | Ep 16
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boun...
Why Boundaries Are Good For Your Health - with Sheena, The Pain Therapist | Ep 15
10 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the import...
Is Parentification Behind Your People-Pleasing? | Ep 14
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, b...
Here's A Sneaky Way Good-Girl Conditioning Might Be Showing Up For You! | Ep 13
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever caught yourself downplaying your achievements? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment where I noticed myself minimising my succe...
People-Pleasing & Setting Boundaries At Christmas | Ep 12
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The festive season can feel overwhelming, especially when you're pulled in all directions, trying to please everyone and make everything perfect....
When You’re Growing and They’re Not: Navigating the Disconnect | Ep 11
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re working on yourself, making progress with your psychological insights and new perspectives, you may have come across times where certain p...
Why You Say You’re OK With What Your Partner Does (Even When You’re Not) | Ep 10
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Does your partner do things that make you feel uncomfortable, but it feels easier to ignore it and pretend you’re OK with it? Perhaps you don’t wa...
Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word... for People-Pleasers to Stop Saying | Ep 9
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed 'sorry' is often an automatic response?Are you sick of of saying ‘sorry’ for things that aren’t your fault? In this e...
How People-Pleasing Is Making You Ill | Ep 8
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I talk about how constantly trying to please others can take it's toll on your mental and physical health. Feeling the pressure to meet everyone’...
'You're Such A Knob!' - Ways To Tackle Self-Doubt & Anxiety | Ep 7
15 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm reflecting on my recent experience of being a guest on a podcast for the first time and how imposter syndrome and anxiety sh...
ADHD and People-Pleasing | Ep 6
08 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode explores the link between ADHD, trauma, and people-pleasing, and how these patterns can stop you from living authentically. I discuss how...
When Confrontation Makes Your Body Feel Like It's Going Into Battle! | Ep 5
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If the thought of confrontation makes you feel sick, perhaps your body shakes and your brain feels scrambled when it comes to trying to articulate you...
Stressing When It Comes To Getting Ready and Choosing What To Wear? This one's for you | Ep 4
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to going on a night out or meeting friends do you find yourself stressing out about what to wear and worrying what people will think of ...
A 4-Year-Old's Life Changing Lesson | Ep 3
21 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share the simple yet profound words my daughter said that prompted me to reflect on how we treat and speak to ourselves. I share an ...
Why That Person Makes You Feel So Anxious | Ep 2
20 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you notice you always seem to feel particularly anxious when you're around a certain person in your life? Perhaps it's more than one pers...
5 Things You Think Are Normal But Are Probably People-Pleasing (and what to do about it) | Ep 1
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You are probably familiar with the more obvious signs of people-pleasing such as struggling to say no to things you don't want to do or bending o...
Welcome to Let's Talk People-Pleasing! | Trailer / Introduction
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, always putting others first and feeling burnt out in the process, then this podcast is...