Love in a F*cked Up World
Episodes
Resentment
30 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Send us Fan MailTea kettle studies non-expert Morgan Bassichis is back with Dean to talk about resentment—how it can poison our enjoyment of the thi...
Vicky Osterweil
16 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Vicky Osterweil, author of In Defense of Looting, joins Dean for a Trans Day of Visibility event organized by CLAGS (The Center for LGBTQ Studies at C...
Eli Clare
02 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dean chats with his friend, the brilliant writer and activist Eli Clare, about his newest book, Unfurl, which Eli describes as a queer disabled love s...
Benji Hart
19 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dean sits down with friend and collaborator Benji Hart, a facilitator, educator, writer, and artist with years of experience in multiracial abolitioni...
Am I Working Too Hard to Fix Myself?
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Morgan Bassichis is back with Dean to talk through a listener question about when self-improvement work is too rigorous and/or driven by shame. Morgan...
Andrea Ritchie
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dean is joined by longtime collaborator and dear friend Andrea Ritchie, author of Practicing New Worlds, Invisible No More, No More Police, and other ...
Chani Nicholas
05 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Chani Nicholas, queer feminist astrologer and author of You Were Born for This, joins Dean to talk about how she got politicized, how we hold fear and...
Green Dreamer
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dean is excited to share an episode of the podcast Green Dreamer, hosted by kaméa chayne. Green Dreamer features thoughtful, engaging interviews with...
Peter Gelderloos
22 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dean speaks (in person!) with Peter Gelderloos, whose work has profoundly shaped Dean’s political development since he first encountered How Nonviol...
Holly Whitaker
08 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dean sits down with Holly Whitaker, author of Quit Like a Woman and host of the Co-Regulation podcast to talk about Holly’s critical feminist analys...
Giving and Receiving Feedback
24 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In societies where we throw people away regularly, where carcerality is woven into the emotional fabric of all of our psyches and relationships, it ca...
Shira Hassan
10 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Shira Hassan brings her brilliance and decades of experience in harm reduction, transformative justice, and self-help to this deep-dive conversation. ...
7 Steps for De-escalating a Crush
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Crushes can be fun and enlivening, but sometimes they are ill-timed or ill-suited, and it can be hard to shake them off. Morgan Bassichis is back to d...
AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 2)
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Jessica Lanyadoo is back with Dean for part two of this AMA, where they tackle more listener questions. They dive into everything from negotiating rel...
AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 1)
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Jessica Lanyadoo joins Dean for the first AMA episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Jessica and Dean answer listener questions about how to navigate o...
Kelly Hayes
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kelly Hayes joins Dean Spade to talk about the relational work of movement building. In a critical moment in Chicago, Kelly and Dean talk about how to...
Weyam Ghadbian
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Weyam Ghadbian joins Dean Spade to talk about Dean's tool 7 Steps for Deescalating a Crush, how Weyam encouraged Dean to discuss the transformati...
How to Survive the End of the World: Be My Senpai
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dean is excited to share an episode of one of his favorite podcasts, How to Survive the End of the World, hosted by Autumn Brown and adrienne maree br...
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How can you tell when it's time to leave a relationship with a person, project, job, or group? How can you tell if you have a tendency to walk aw...
Prentis Hemphill
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Prentis Hemphill joins Dean Spade in this episode to talk about love, organizing, and healing. They talk about projection, practice, and their approac...
Long Distance and Electronic Communication
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is sexting sex? And is sexting cheating if someone is monogamous? How can we be clear in our communication and boundaries? Can we feel ok giving a may...
Mariame Kaba
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Mariame Kaba joins Dean Spade for this episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Mariame and Dean talk about the dangers of putting leaders on pedestals i...
What Else is True?
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When we're fixated on something, it may be helpful to ask ourselves What Else is True? Morgan Bassichis joins Dean Spade to walk us through this ...
Tourmaline and Morgan Bassichis
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tourmaline and Morgan Bassichis join Dean Spade on this episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Tourmaline, Morgan, and Dean talk about how sites of cap...
Hard Feelings
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Morgan Bassichis joins Dean Spade to talk about how to deal with hard feelings–like jealousy, possessiveness, and control–when they inevitably com...
adrienne maree brown
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
adrienne maree brown joins Dean Spade for the first episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. adrienne and Dean talk about collectivity, working in fracta...
Introducing: Love in a F*cked Up World with Dean Spade
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For over 25 years, Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation and to end police, prisons, immigration enforcement, and wa...