Love Over Addiction

Encore: Dealing with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

11 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

  When you love someone suffering from addiction or substance abuse disorder, it can feel like you're dealing with two different people. When they're...

A Personal Story

04 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share a special story with you today that I don't share very often. It's my personal story about why I left my marriage with someone that dr...

Protecting Yourself

28 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Our community is full of women that love good people who drink too much or suffer from addiction. We truly believe that our loved ones are good people...

The Worst Advice - From Good People

21 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When we love someone suffering from addiction, sometimes our most trusted confidants can give us the most well-meaning, bad advice.   Some of the wi...

3 Warning Signs You're Being Manipulated

14 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

If you love someone who drinks too much or suffers from addiction you'll learn three reasons why we can't just break away when we know we should enter...

Feeling Trapped In Your Relationship?

07 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The drama and stress from loving someone suffering from addiction are enough to make you feel like you're going insane. There are days where you want ...

Warning Signs That Our Self-Care Isn't Healthy

30 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We're smart enough to understand the benefits of self-care, right, especially when we love someone who suffers from any kind of addiction. And if you'...

Encore: Struggling With Anger? This Will Help

23 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Anger…. It's an emotion women don't like to discuss. But it's a very REAL and HONEST feeling when addiction is a part of your family - and we always...

He Got Sober

16 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever dreamed of the day your loved one finally gets sober?  I think most of us can raise our hand.  For many women in our community, this d...

How To Help Your Children Heal From the Trauma of Addiction

09 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

If you're worried that your kids are suffering from the natural trauma that comes from loving someone suffering from addiction, my interview with Dr. ...

Communicate Without Talking (this is not as weird as it sounds)

02 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When our loved one who's suffering from addiction treats us poorly by drinking after they promised not to, or using drugs when they JUST said this tim...

3 Tips for Communicating Boundaries To Your Partner Suffering From Addiction

26 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Every woman walking this earth should know her boundaries and understand how to enforce them because boundaries make us strong, powerful, and respecte...

Uncovering The Truth About Enforcing Boundaries & Addiction

05 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On this week's episode, Michelle shares two very personal stories about boundaries. And if you've been a part of our community for some time, you know...

How To Find Compassion For Your Loved One Who Suffers From Addiction

29 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Would you say that you struggle with resentment while loving someone who drinks too much or suffers from addiction? In this episode, Michelle will tea...

Financial Advice Every Woman Needs To Know When You Love Someone With Addiction

22 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Michelle had the pleasure of interviewing financial expert and President & CEO of Francis Financial, Stacy Francis. She's a financial expert that spec...

Tips From A Divorce Lawyer If You Are Leaving Or Staying With Your Partner Who Suffers From Addiction

15 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When you love someone suffering from addiction, any kind of addiction like alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription pills, gambling, pornography, or sex,...

Stay Quiet or Speak Up? How To Make The Right Choice When Dealing with Addiction

08 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Knowing when to stay quiet or speak up when you love someone who drinks too much or suffers from addiction takes practice. Today Michelle is going to ...

Why We're Changing The Name Of The Podcast

01 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Wife of an Alcoholic is now The Love Over Addiction Podcast. In today's episode, Michelle explains the reasons behind the change and what it means for...

The Secret to Loving Yourself

24 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

For those of you who have been following my blog or listening to The Wife of an Alcoholic Podcast, you know that I used to do yoga on a pretty regular...

The Most Empowering Daily Practice To Heal Ourselves

17 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I want to talk to you today about the importance of grace. Grace is my new favorite word. I think it's going to be my keyword for 2018. This community...

If You're Thinking About Leaving

10 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you scared of leaving the one you love? Have you thought about it, but the idea almost paralyzes you with fear, so you immediately stop thinking a...

Suffering From Anxiety and Depression? THIS Can Help.

03 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Most of you know that I was married to a wonderful man. He was super talented, really good looking, and funny to the core. He was much smarter than I ...

You Need THIS in Your Life

27 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I've been thinking about how important humor is when we're in the midst of living life while loving someone who struggles with addiction. So I was thi...

The Shocking Truth About The $35 Billion Rehab Industry

25 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Greg Horvath resides in Los Angeles, CA, and is a nationally respected motivational speaker, author and producer. For 15 years he's traveled the globe...

Is it Okay to Drink Around Your Alcoholic?

20 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A while ago, I started practicing yoga. I found it incredibly therapeutic and very nurturing. It didn't help me with weight loss, but it did help me t...

Signs that You're in an Abusive Relationship

13 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The Harvey Weinstein case came about several months ago, and one of the women in our community and I were talking about it. She said, "You know, Miche...

The Most Important Advice About YOUR Recovery

06 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Isn't it frustrating when you love somebody who seems so out of control and you don't know how to help? Your heart hurts for them. They are hurting yo...

When Addiction is Preventing You From Feeling Loved

29 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Addiction thrives on the fact that it can mess with our minds. We get confused and feel guilty when our expectations are not met by our partner, parti...

3 Benefits of Separation

22 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Deciding whether to stay or leave is an extremely common topic in our community. You can't blame us, right? We long for the day addiction will let go ...

Detaching Without Frustration

15 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Detaching is a big buzzword in the recovery community. I hear a lot from the women in our secret Facebook group that detaching with love is almost imp...

When Addiction Bullies You

08 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I'm a big fan of Brené Brown. In one of her books, she talks about being vulnerable, and she has a rule that I'm about to break. The rule is that you...

How to Stop Feeling Crazy

01 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We offer a secret Facebook group for women who have joined one of our programs. It's filled with over 1,000 women from over 132 different countries ar...

Worried Things Will Never Get Better? This Will Help.

25 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

If you love someone suffering from addiction, you might feel like you're on a roller coaster ride. One minute you feel angry, the next guilty, and the...

Pornography Addiction

18 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Our community in the Secret Facebook Group are some of the most loving and thoughtful women I know. Every time I read their posts I am blown away by t...

Should You Leave Or Should You Hold On To Hope And Stay?

11 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The moment I knew I needed to leave. I had been waiting for this moment for years and years. Even through all the verbal abuse, the name calling, the ...

7 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Today

04 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I used to paint for fun.  I used to be silly and laugh a lot. I was confident in a room full of other people and I was adventurous and had a great gr...

How To Tell If You Can Trust Them Again

25 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

He had to work late and wouldn't be home for dinner. So, my three children and I sat around the table and ate lasagna and salad without him. When my b...

Letting Go Of Guilt for Staying or Leaving?

18 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There is so much debate these days about leaving or staying with someone who's addicted.  Everybody has an opinion. Your mom, your therapist, the guy...

How To Start Feeling Happiness and Joy

11 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

So you love someone who is suffering from addiction? Welcome to our club. We are a group of strong and tenderhearted women from all over the world who...

Dealing with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? This Is a Must-Read.

04 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Let's be real with each other. It's hard to keep up with all the different ways your loved one treats you, isn't it? You might have a tender moment in...

8 Helpful Tips for Children of Alcoholics or Substance Abusers

28 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Talking with your kids about addiction is extremely important. Your children are a lot wiser and perceptive than you think. They might not know drinki...

Struggling With Anger? This Will Help.

21 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel angry because the one you love has an issue with drugs, drinking, pornography, gambling, or sex? I bet if you were being honest with ...

How to Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Other Couples

14 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When I was married to a good man who struggled with addiction, one of my biggest battles was comparing my marriage to my friends', family's, and even ...

How to REALLY Surrender

07 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The word surrender is used a lot in the world of addiction. One of the things that always bothered me was that I was constantly being told that I nee...

4 Easy Tips For New Years Eve

30 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

New Year's Eve is a night of the year that painfully reminds us of the unique relationship of loving someone who drinks too much or has substance abus...

Three Tips for a Happy Holiday + BONUS for Mothers

22 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Holidays… when you're married to a man who drinks too much or suffers from addiction they can be difficult, can't they? You're hoping for the best. ...

A Boundaries Victory From One of Our Sisters

17 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Here's a post that came from our Secret Facebook Group that is full of THE most loving and encouraging friends. There are over 800 women waiting to li...

A Story From One Brave Woman

10 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Because this post is so good, it only needs a short introduction from me in addition to saying it's written by one of the women in our Love Over Addic...

The Truth About Trusting Them After Rehab

03 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How do you trust your partner again? Can it ever be possible? Or will you always worry and constantly be waiting for the other shoe to drop? Trusting ...

What To Do if They Drink and Drive

26 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Are you worried about your partner drunk driving? When you ask them for the keys, do they refuse? Do they try to convince you that they are fine? They...

A Truth About Sobriety That No One Talks About

19 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There is a very common issue in the world of addiction called dry drunk. It's when someone is actively refraining from drinking, but still displaying ...

This Could Happen Coming Home From Rehab

12 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Rehab can be the best thing that has ever happened to someone trying to get sober. And for many brave men and women, it is the starting point for thei...

How to Deal With Lying

05 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I was talking to a wonderful and wise woman who has joined the Love Over Addiction program, and she was telling me a story about her husband who lied ...

Feeling Stuck? Here's the simple solution.

29 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Last week I was speaking with a woman who booked a personal coaching call with me. She was feeling stuck, and she wanted to leave but couldn't bring h...

How Addiction Can Be A Blessing For Our Kids

22 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Let's be real, loving someone who drinks too much or suffers from substance abuse can feel like the opposite of a blessing. But one of the things that...

7 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself When You Love An Alcoholic or Substance Abuser

15 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel exhausted from loving someone suffering from addiction? Are you worried about the one you love so much your heart hurts? Are you wondering...

How To Tell If They Love Alcohol More Than They Love You

08 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

The other day, my husband and I were celebrating a special event. We came home, got our pajamas on, tucked the kids into bed, and prepared for a cozy ...

For Mothers & Wives Who Are Feeling Defeated and Helpless

01 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

A woman in our community told me she's heard some mothers say it's easier for wives who love someone suffering from addiction or alcoholism because t...

Why does your partner spend time with their friends over you?

24 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you're married to someone who leaves the house to hang out with his or her friends or who stops at the bar on the way home and you're wondering why...

A Must Read For Women Who Always Take Care of Everyone Else

17 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

A while ago, I went skilling with my family in Whistler, Canada, and when I came back I just didn't feel like myself. I would wake up in the morning f...

Should You Drink Around An Alcoholic?

10 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

When you love someone suffering from addiction is it ok to drink around them? Sometimes it's easy to say "no, thank you" when we're asked if we would ...

If You're Feeling Tired of Being Strong

03 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I love to remind you how strong and courageous you are.  I choose these adjectives for two reasons: one--I know they are true about you and two--this...

Why Did He Fall In Love With You?

27 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

The other night I was folding laundry - that's a daily chore with a large family… thankfully, I have a very nice laundry room where I can watch the ...

Drinking and Driving: The Boundaries You Need

20 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

The Love Over Addiction Secret Facebook Group is filled with women who are some of the most loving and encouraging women I've ever meet. We are a sist...

Why You Might Be Staying in an Unhealthy Relationship

13 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're going to answer the question: why do I stay in an unhealthy relationship?  But... before we get started, I want to make something cle...

My Personal Body Shaming Story

06 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

As most of you know, I have a blended family. I have given birth to 4 children. And I'm about to share with you a story that at first glance might not...

Intimacy - Part 2 - Be Prepared to Blush a Little

30 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

A few weeks ago we discussed intimacy while loving an alcoholic or substance abuser and I covered what to do if you would rather not be intimate with ...

Something We Should Remember

23 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes the disease of addiction can bring out the worst in us. We can feel angry they keep lying to us. Or depressed because they keep choosing dru...

How To Deal With His Anger

16 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Last week, I answered a question from one of our loving, strong women in our Secret Facebook Group. I love this group. I'll admit... being the introve...

Intimacy

02 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're going to be talking about a subject that makes some people (most people) feel uncomfortable. Intimacy (or in other words: sex). Intima...

Should You Tell Other People About His Disease?

25 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There is a new movement going on about addiction - men and women who are in recovery are speaking out about their addiction. They are trying to break ...

5 Tips for Dealing With Anger

18 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do when the one we love keeps choosing drugs and alcohol over us? Most of us feel angry and rejected. Some of us choose to react to our ang...

What Addiction Doesn't Want You To Know

11 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this community, we give you a lot of tools to help you feel happiness and joy whether your partner gets sober or not. We don't believe the common t...

How To Stop Being Afraid of Change

14 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

My family and I are thinking of moving to Nashville. This really isn't something we all want to do, but it's a move that we are feeling called to do...

Does Rehab Really Work?

30 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

When I was married to a good man suffering from this disease, I went to the bookstore on a regular basis looking for books about how to help my husban...

Why We Keep Going Back to Them

16 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I am asked all the time, "Why do I keep going back to someone who hurts me so much?" There are many reasons we stay, but instead of guessing, I'm goin...

How To Deal With Judgemental Family Members

09 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Almost every week, a woman who loves a good person suffering from the disease of addiction asks me if they should tell their family how out of contro...

12 Blessings Of Addiction

02 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you have been listening to my podcast or reading my blog, then you know that I love to research. One of my happy places is sitting behind my comput...

What To Do With The Kids When Your Partner Drinks

26 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find it difficult to know what to do when the one you love starts drinking in front of your children? Are you a parent of a child who drinks to...

How To Protect Your Finances From Addiction

19 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Addiction is expensive. Beer, liquor, drugs, pills, porn - it all adds up. I was an oblivious wife and never really paid much attention to our bank st...

An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband

12 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Dear _______, Our marriage served a purpose and was not wasted even though it did not last. We had three little ones who are light and joy and gifts t...

Looking for God to Tell You What to Do? This Will Help.

09 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you overcomplicate things in your life?   Maybe you make a decision only to doubt if it's the right one? Do you stay stuck in your situation becau...

4 Helpful Boundaries

26 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I signed up to volunteer with the 4-year-olds at church one Sunday, and about ten minutes into the class, I started looking at the clock and wondering...

Is He Cheating? Here's What To Do

19 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It's not uncommon for the ones we love who are struggling with addiction to have an affair. This disease makes good men and women do awful, hurtful th...

How To Stop Feeling "Not Good Enough"

12 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Several years ago, my dad took my brother and me on a trip to Paris. We went to the Louvre one afternoon and we paid extra money for headsets that yo...

Make Sure You're Not Making These 7 Mistakes

05 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It's not "normal" to love someone who drinks too much or suffers from addiction, so we can't use "normal" relationship tools. There are common mistake...

Not Feeling Great Today? Here Are 5 Tips to Help.

29 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Loving someone who drinks too much or suffers from addiction can feel like your relationship is a roller coaster. One day your partner is loving and k...

How to Stop "Helping" Your Loved One Get Sober & Start Helping Yourself

22 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

When I was married to an alcoholic and substance abuser, I stopped taking care of myself and became consumed with taking care of him. Slowly, the thin...

Struggles of Keeping Addiction Secret

15 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I thought I would make you a video about one of my most favorite topics to discuss: the struggles of the secrecy that comes hand-in-hand with addictio...

The Courses

08 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

So here's the deal…. for years I have been sending you letters and recording podcasts of encouragement and love (with some helpful tips) because I t...

What To Do If You're Feeling Lonely

01 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you love someone who is struggling with addiction, you might be feeling alone and disappointed since this season is just not turning out the way yo...

Why I Decided to Leave My Marriage

25 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Did I ever tell you one of the reasons I decided to leave my husband was because of a basketball hoop we purchased for my kids' Christmas gift?   My ...

4 Things Your Partner Won't Tell You

18 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

You love a good man or woman who drinks too much or suffers from addiction. This disease is cunning and secretive. There are things you need to know ...

How To Feel Better When You Love An Alcoholic

11 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Are you more comfortable putting yourself down than being kind to yourself? How do you react when someone compliments you? Do you take a moment to bre...

7 Most Common Mistakes You Might Be Making

05 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel beaten down? Like you don't recognize yourself anymore while loving someone who drinks too much or suffers from addiction? This disease d...

Boundary Basics - What Every Woman Needs to Know

27 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

For years, I thought I had an idea of what a boundary was. I even thought I was implementing them in my home and my relationships.   But it turns out...

2 Simple and Powerful Boundaries For a Happy Thanksgiving

20 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

The holidays are usually so difficult when you love someone who drinks too much or suffers with substance abuse. While everyone is excited to celebrat...

Good Boundaries vs. Poor Boundaries

13 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Let me ask you a question… do you have boundaries in your life? Let's get even more basic than that…. do you know what a good boundary is? Having...

Are You Mad at Me?

06 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

The other day I got an email from a loving woman who has been a member of our community for years. She is in love with a man who drinks too much and ...

Do you make these mistakes?

23 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Loving someone who drinks too much or suffers from substance abuse can be really difficult. No one prepares you for how to handle the lying, the denia...