LX2 Codependency Coaching

Strength of relationships

06 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are taking about how to create strength in the bonds of relationship. I was thinking about steel and how it is strengthened with different e...

Unintended consequences

16 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about unintentional consequences of our choices and behaviors. We often take for granted that we don't things in a vacuum and wh...

Othered

10 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about that feeling of being outside of group or situation. Feeling like you are wrong, bad, or other than everyone else. So many...

Knowing and trusting yourself

03 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the knowing that comes with experience and especially going through hard things. Yes there is healing and growing from the...

Fitting in and belonging

27 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the spaces we occupy considering where we came from and where we want to be. It is one thing to feel comfortable being you...

Weather the storm

20 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about how to get through the challenges that seem to come one after the other. The shit storm that happens in everyone's life at...

What not to do

13 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the things we learn from our parents, including what not to do. It is helpful to consider all the elements it takes to be ...

Slow problem

05 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the slow problems we take for granted or avoid. A slow problem are those things we know are issues and we tend to sweep th...

Getting out

19 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about how to change or get out of challenging situation or circumstance that is uncomfortable or not serving the version of you ...

Tap or drain

12 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about if something is a tap or a drain. If something is a tap, it moves us forward or gives us energy. Drains limit our motivati...

Modeling behavior

06 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about how we show the people around us how to behave. We get an opportunity to show up and be the leaders or communicators we wa...

Comfortable complacency

29 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about comfortable complacency and the idea that we often don't make change until we are in discomfort. Often, we can talk oursel...

Wisdom

23 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about sharing and listening to the wisdom around us. Especially now, it is important to pay attention to the experience of the p...

Distress tolerance

15 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about how to manage ourselves in really challenging times. Right now we are all getting through day by day and feeling pretty ov...

Directed attention

08 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about increasing our directed attention, awareness, to create change. Often we are operating on auto pilot or simply functioning...

Emotional coregulation

27 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is...

Having your back

19 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the idea of building confidence and success when you feel like someone has your back. It is helpful to feeling secure doin...

Rejection sensitivity dysphoria

11 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about RSD or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. In the podcast I said disorder but it is dysphoria or feeling sensitive to being r...

Burn out and boundaries

05 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about using our boundaries of time, space, thoughts, emotions, sex to help prevent feeling burned out. At the end of the year we...

Effort goes both ways

29 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about effort going both ways. We are not entitled to is healthy boundaries and healthy love. If someone with a title can't give ...

Failure to thrive

20 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about failure to thrive in relationships. While this term typically refers to children receiving substandard care in challenging...

Grit: making it through

13 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the resilience that comes from pressure or adversity. When we have experience dealing with challenging things we gain an a...

Anhedonia; like eating cardboard

09 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they ...

Doing your best

31 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate ...

Closing the loop

24 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel ...

Power and Peace

17 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our l...

Being the weapon in conflict

10 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselv...

Proud of you

05 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindnes...

Love or oxytocin addiction.

26 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beg...

Choices from fear

19 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can m...

Wrong kind of good

05 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using th...

Losing yourself

29 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we do...

Importance of Friendship

22 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometim...

Can we change?

15 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. ...

Logic and feelings

01 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things,...

Positivity v reality

25 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about positivity versus reality. There are times we work hard to "stay positive" in the face of challenges. It might be a better...

Acceptance in relationship

18 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about feeling accepted in our relationships. Are we being seen and understood, all of our parts at the same time? Are we seeing ...

Prove your love

11 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the concept of proving love or earning love. Often, we start in one place in relationship and can get off course as life h...

Hook up culture and app dating

27 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about hook up culture and dating on the apps for connection. It is helpful to consider how our brain and endorphins play into co...

Global anxiety

20 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, is hard podcast. I want to acknowledge this is different from my other content. We are experiencing so many weird things including human rights...

Dysfunctional families

13 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about dysfunctional families. I think all families function to the level of awareness. There are helpful and unhelpful parts of ...

Men's mental health

30 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about men's mental health. Men are struggling, and consequently, woman are feeling those effects. With marriage rates down and s...

The myth of perfection

23 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the myth of perfection. So often we have an idea of what something should feel like, look like, of be and we lose sight of...

Self-awareness

16 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about self-awareness. Part of healing, growing, and changing behavior is being aware of who we are and how we show up in the wor...

Rebuilding and repair

09 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about rebuilding and repairing. As we evolve in our human experience we get so many opportunities to evaluate the different part...

Betraying yourself

30 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about how we betray ourselves. In one's life we make decisions and choose to live in a way that is inauthentic to who we actuall...

Compartmentalization

25 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about compartmentalization experiences and emotions. It is sometimes helpful, if not necessary, to put those aside to continue c...

Surrender

18 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about Surrender and how helpful it is to just sit down sometimes. We are all dealing with so many things. It feels like overwhel...

Mindset and assumptions

04 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about the different mindsets. How we look at the world depending on our attitudes, beliefs, feelings, thoughts, and assumptions....

Generational trauma

28 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about generational trauma. We can look back though our family lineage and see pattern of behavior. In order to change things for...

Judgement

21 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about judgement and how we are perceived. Sometime we need to check our own behavior and often we need to check who is doing the...

Emotional baggage

14 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about emotional the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck. It is helpful to see, feel, and let go of those emotions. Heal...

Imposter syndrome is an insult to the previous versions of ourselves

06 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about imposter syndrome. Often when we achieve big things we can often feel undeserving. It is an opportunity to validate previou...

Resilience; the space between not knowing and knowing

21 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about resilience; the space from now knowing to knowing It can be uncomfortable and create anxiety. It can also create an opportu...

Getting through

14 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about getting though. Because right now, that's all we can manage. Make sure to do the big three: sleep, diet, and moving your bo...

Conflict, communication, and connection

07 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about conflict. Understanding how you fight and what you're feeling. Also, coming back to the conversation is necessary. #conflic...

Anger

31 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about anger. It is often said that anger is a secondary emotion. What is under the anger is usually fear, sadness, feeling disreg...

Hay comida en la casa/We have food at home

17 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talking about validating and accepting our whole self. The phrase hay comida en la casa, meaning we have food at home. When we love our whol...

Character flaw and mental health

10 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about seeing our struggles as character flaws. We often assume when we are struggling that something is wrong with us. It's not ...

Intellectualizing v Feeling

03 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we are talking about intellectualizing versus feeling in the process of growth. We process lots of information through out thoughts before allo...

Being Wrong

20 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about being wrong. How being wrong is a good place to be because it gives us a different perspective. We can learn a lot when we ...

Best laid plans and adjustment

13 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about plans and adjusting to those plans. Addressing the anxiety and discomfort that comes from changes to our plans. #planning #...

Perception

06 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about perception. How we are perceived in the world around us and how we perceive the world around us. #change #perception #besti...

Emotional Perspective

22 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about experiencing the world through our emotional perspective. Giving yourself grace and patience while you are having your emot...

Nurturing Relationships

15 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about nurturing relationships. Attending to the relationships you want to grow and evolve, especially the relationship with yours...

Control what you can, check your facts, and keep going

08 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about controlling what you can in the moment, checking your facts, and keep going. This past week was rough. Lots of emotions. We...

When helping is not helpful

01 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about when helping is not helpful. There are times we think we are helping and it makes things worse. It can be disempowering the...

Communication skills for relationships

25 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about relationship communication. I go over a tool I use often to help clients build helpful communication skills. I use the 6 St...

Emotional access, awareness, and availability

18 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about being able to access and process our own emotions. Emotional intelligence is about being aware of what we are feeling, auth...

Denial

04 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about denial and the things we refuse to look at. Often we avoid addressing things head on because we don't know what to do to ch...

Distraction vs Detachment

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about distraction vs detachment. Often, when we are feeling tough emotions we want to distract ourselves in order not to feel. Wh...

Satisfaction, suffering, and sacrifice

20 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about satisfaction, suffering, and satisfaction. We get to choose how much of those things we endure or get from life. We can man...

Memory and rebuilding

13 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about memories and how we can change the narrative. We can recall something from a different perspective. We can create a better ...

Forgiveness, bridges, and napalm

30 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about forgiveness, bridges, and napalm. We get to determine the relationships that warrant forgiveness as it relates to our peace...

The big three: Food, exercise, and sleep

23 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the big three things I talk to clients about often often to evaluate how they are feeling: Food, exercise, and sleep. All o...

Motivation and the fuel we use

16 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today are talking about motivation and fuel we use to get there. We can use lots of different things to drive us to change, healing, and growth. What ...

Routine and rituals to manage anxiety

09 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about using routines and rituals to help us regulate our anxiety. Our brains strive for order. When we can consciously create rou...

Inner circle

02 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about who is in your inner circle of humans. Who do you feel safe and comfortable with. What those bonds are made of. We get to d...

Assumption of suffering

26 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the assumption of suffering as it relates to compassion and empathy. We are all going through our things; good, bad, or oth...

Life is not a zero sum game

19 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about shift perspective from a zero sum absolutes mindset. It is not all or nothing, win or lose, love or hate, but something in ...

Righteous Indignation

12 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the idea "righteous" indignation. The idea of getting angry or frustrated on behalf of someone else. When we are frustrated...

Raised by sheep or wolves

05 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking raising sheep or wolves. Thinking about using the opportunity to teach our precious children how to exist the world that can be d...

Finding Gold

21 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about finding gold in your everyday rather than waiting for the "golden years" or "bucket list". Make a to do list and put gold i...

The myth of happy and ability to experience joy

14 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about detaching form the myth of being happy and shifting to the feeling of experiencing joy in moments. Sustaining happiness all...

Meaningful Relationships

07 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the importance of meaningful relationships to our longevity and quality of our lives. Our human experience is motivated by ...

Blessings and lesson

31 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the blessings and lessons we experience when we create the perspective of receiving. When we can start to be receiving of g...

Life is happening

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Life happens and we can get stuck in the why. We don't always know why this tough part of life is happening. It might just be the how. Controlling wha...

Paradoxical feelings and persistence

17 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Moving forward into our life can be difficult when we are feeling multiple things at the same time. Being human is allowing ourselves to feel our emot...

Having needs

10 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about having needs and who we are rely on to meet them. #needs #chosenfamily #mentalhealth #rhainacohen #lx2codependencycoachingp...

Hard lessons and best teachers

03 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There are so many teachers in our lives. We learn lessons through out our lives. Many of the things we learn feel random but they are all teaching us ...

Self-sabotage as a form of self-harm

26 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We can get in our own way of our growth and progress. It is helpful to be aware of when we are triggered, what is motivating that, and how are we feel...

Default settng

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the default setting and shifting our perspective from our trauma to our growth setting. When we are learning new skills, we...

Trust issues

12 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Trust is something people struggle with. Where trust issues come from is feeling confident in who you are and secure in your ability to be vulnerable ...

Quitting

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Quitting things, relationships, and behaviors is challenging. Changing habits and having to engage our brain in what we do can create a lot of discomf...

Shapeshifting and people pleasing

29 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we do not feel safe sharing our emotional self we can shape shift to different version of ourself contributing to the delusion. We become differe...

Detaching from delusion

22 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about detaching from the delusions of how we see the people we want to be in relationship with. #detachment #delusion #codependen...

Lonely at the top.

15 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the loneliness that comes with growing and healing. #mentalhealth #selftalk #loneliness #boundaries

How hard can it be?

08 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the idea of making hard challenges. When we willing to face the challenges in our lives that are uncomfortable. We can face...

Nurturing all of the parts of yourself

01 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about ways to nurture the parts of ourselves that still need some momming or dadding, nurture, and love. Part of healing and grow...

Affirmations and healing

23 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can affirmation help and influence change and growth? YES and it is helpful when we are dealing with change. We have to increase are awareness of what...