Menu
Sign In Search Podcasts Libraries Charts People & Topics Add Podcast API Blog Pricing
Podcast Image

Making Sense with Sam Harris

#476 — The Bittersweet Age

20 May 2026

Transcription

Chapter 1: Who is Susan Cain and what is her significance in the discussion?

2.242 - 28.3 Sam Harris

I'm with Susan Cain. Susan, thanks for joining me.

0

28.364 - 53.2 Susan Cain

Absolutely. It's so great to be here. Yeah, it's great to see you. And that doesn't happen enough for me, but I want to make the most of this occasion. So to remind people, you are the all too famous author of the book Quiet, which became a Bible for introverts everywhere, and then led to a TED Talk that is, if not the most seen TED Talk in the history of the galaxy, it's among the most seen.

0

53.28 - 74.979 Susan Cain

So there's like tens of millions of views on various platforms. And then more recently, that was about 15 years ago, 14 years ago? 2012, whatever that was. Yeah. And then you have written a book, Bittersweet, which came out more like four years ago, 2022? That's funny. I'm not even sure, but something like that, three or four years ago.

0

75.299 - 97.334 Susan Cain

And now my family and I actually have another book coming out. I don't know if I mentioned that to you. No. Yeah, we have a children's book coming out that we wrote with three generations of canes. So yeah, my in-laws, Ken and me, and our two boys, we all wrote it together. And it was based on a really, really fun. Yeah.

0

97.354 - 114.331 Susan Cain

And based on an experience that the boys had where we went on this childhood vacation and they befriended two adorable donkeys and then had to say goodbye to them at the end of the vacation. And so it's about bittersweetness and how to say goodbye. Yeah. Oh, nice. When does that come out? Any minute now. I think it's June 2nd.

115.432 - 135.152 Susan Cain

And most recently and continuously, you have a presence on Substack where you can be found under the banner of The Quiet Life, which is, from the looks of it, is very focused on community as much as your actual writing. What are you doing over there on Substack?

136.28 - 157.47 Susan Cain

Well, I write usually to, I guess, newsletters is what people call them generically, but I call them kindred letters because I'm writing to people who have the same orientation that I do towards quiet depth and beauty. And so I write two of those kindred letters every week. and then really encourage people to comment.

157.65 - 181.087 Susan Cain

Because as you say, the comments and the dialogue back and forth, I think is some of the best part of the Substack. So a lot of it is that, and it's sharing, you know, I call it art, ideas, and consolations. So it's sharing all of those things. And then we also come together once a month and do candlelight chats, where actually Anika was one of our guests. Oh, nice. One of everyone's favorites.

181.307 - 197.752 Susan Cain

Nice. Nice. I think I knew that at the time, but like everything else, it has been memory hold. So people join you on Substack and go cameras on for that or that's a Zoom call or how does that work? Yeah, we do that on Zoom and it's live. And so people can come on and talk to me and talk to our guest.

Chapter 2: What themes does Susan Cain explore in her book 'Bittersweet'?

366.237 - 387.506 Susan Cain

There's something about removing the everydayness of life and the feeling of daily responsibilities where I can still get back into that state. Which doesn't mean that I'm not still checking my phone more than I wish I were. But I'm still really loving books. And every time that happens, actually, every time we're traveling, I vow to do the same thing as soon as we get home.

0

387.807 - 408.51 Susan Cain

And then it all flies away. So in writing on Substack, is this a decision to go where the people are? Or is it just you just like the demand you've placed on yourself to publish something without any friction on a regular schedule? Or how are you thinking about Substack writing versus book writing?

0

408.642 - 434.65 Susan Cain

I actually, with Substack, I don't, although writing is the central thing that I do there, I don't feel like writing is the primary impetus for why I do it. I think of it much more as tending to a community. All my life, I felt really inspired by my grandfather, who was a rabbi who was serving his community till he was 94, like literally till like two weeks before he died. He was there with them.

0

434.63 - 458.112 Susan Cain

And I feel a kind of love for my readers. So I just wanted to have a way to be kind of more closely connected with them. So I feel like that's what the sub stack is really about. And the tricky thing about it is to the extent I actually have three different books that I'm thinking about writing now and files that I add stuff to all the time. But I spend a lot of time on the sub stack.

0

458.273 - 476.94 Susan Cain

And so a lot of my creative energy is going in that direction. And there's less available for what used to go into book writing. So that's something I'm trying to figure out. Do you feel this with all the different projects that you have going? Yeah. Well, you know, I just feel the... poverty of 24 hours in the day, which afflicts everyone.

477 - 497.947 Susan Cain

But I mean, I've always looked to do things that are synergistic or where you get two bites at the same apple on some level. So you could write the, back in the day, you could write the op-ed, which later would wind up in a talk or in a book. And I was hoping Substack would be that for me, but it hasn't quite, I just have not been able to spend enough time writing there.

498.007 - 516.129 Susan Cain

So it really has just defaulted to becoming a publishing channel for the podcast. So are you working on another book right now? Am I allowed to ask that? No, I have something I'm working on, which I'm not ready to publicly announce because I haven't fully admitted to myself that I'm working on it. Oh, wow. That's very intriguing. Someday.

516.249 - 539.105 Susan Cain

But how is AI showing up for you as a benefit or concern with respect to your own writing or the writing of others or where our culture is headed? What are your thoughts on AI? So my thoughts are that I notice when I'm scrolling around on social media, it keeps happening to me that I'll start reading some kind of story that sounds really interesting.

539.625 - 550.942 Susan Cain

And then I quickly realize a paragraph in that it was just generated by AI. And I noticed that the moment that I know that it was AI, I have zero interest and I stop reading.

Chapter 3: What role does community play in Susan Cain's Substack writing?

653.988 - 674.626 Susan Cain

I've been really worried about the death of the humanities in our culture. Like long before AI came around, I've been super worried about that. And there's a million reasons that it's happening. But I'm actually wondering if the advent of AI is actually going to help or cause us to turn towards the humanities. I think this is something I've heard you talk about as well.

0

674.646 - 691.403 Susan Cain

It's like, that's all that's left. I've been thinking of it in terms of the revenge of the humanities. Yeah. Because obviously, learn to code is not a phrase that is tripping from the tongues of anyone over in the CS department anymore. And yeah, when you think of what will be left standing...

0

691.383 - 714.738 Susan Cain

should anything be left standing when the robots take over, it has to be those things where we still care that a human is in the loop, right? It's not radiology. It's not even scientific discovery, right? I think if we could automate all science, we will not be nostalgic for the time that the apes were the authors of those discoveries. I mean, we simply just want to know what's true, right?

0

714.758 - 735.584 Susan Cain

So if we can get the real physics faster and the real medicine faster and everything in between, I think we want that from the robots, but I'm not sure we want to see robots writing all or any of our novels or poems or, you know, we're not going to show up in a Broadway theater to see robots perform Arthur Miller.

0

735.684 - 753.175 Susan Cain

I mean, you know, I guess maybe for novelty's sake, we might, but I just feel like there will be those things and they'll be disproportionately on the humanity side of the quad where We feel like we want the human connection both at the origination of the work or at least the curation of it, right?

753.196 - 772.282 Susan Cain

We just want some, we want people with good taste, I think, guiding culture once more and more of it gets produced by machines. Yeah, I think it's not only about wanting to know what's true. I think it's also about there's just a deep, insatiable curiosity about who humans really are, like who we are.

772.322 - 795.253 Susan Cain

So I think the amazing thing about reading a novel is just the glimpse into the subjective inner life of another human. That's really what we're in it for. And I think that's why I stop when I come across these AI stories. I feel like, okay, it's not actually giving me a true insight because it was just put together by some code. Do you think you feel that way about all art equally?

795.493 - 813.68 Susan Cain

I'm not sure I feel that way about music, purely instrumental music, leaving the singing and the lyrics aside. If you play me some tune of any genre that just sounds... I don't know that I care.

813.981 - 830.879 Susan Cain

Like if you then pull back the curtain and tell me that this is pure AI confection, it's possible I'll still like it better than the human product because on some level music is doing something different for me. It's a little bit like the difference between art and music. interior decorating.

Chapter 4: How does Susan Cain view the future of books and reading?

1053.439 - 1075.531 Susan Cain

Again, back in the day, you didn't have to think about it because you knew there was an orchestra there and there were people behind all that. But I don't think I was ever thinking. There's a much more fundamental... just purely kind of neurological and primal response to a stimulus, right? This is almost like, you know, tasting a fruit you've never tasted before.

0

1075.571 - 1095.988 Susan Cain

And it's just, you've got this sunburst of flavor in your mouth. And you're not thinking about the evolution of this plant that gave you the fruit. You're just having an experience. And I do think that the raw experience of bittersweetness or any other emotion to music can be fully uncoupled from any thought about how it got there in the first place. Well, okay.

0

1096.028 - 1118.323 Susan Cain

So the example of the soundtrack to a movie, that's a really interesting example because I feel like if we think of it as a continuum, it's not quite in the realm of interior design, but it's also not in the realm of just sitting quietly and listening to your favorite musician. It's somewhere in between. My Philistine bona fides are well established at this point. No.

0

1118.303 - 1139.737 Susan Cain

No, but I might grant you that in the context of a movie, maybe it doesn't matter. And in fact, my family and I talk about this all the time because that shows Succession. I don't know if you've watched that one. Yeah, and the music for Succession. Oh my gosh, it's so incredible. And so we've talked about, okay, would it be as good if the music had been produced by a machine?

0

1140.057 - 1162.561 Susan Cain

And maybe it would in that context. But when it's purely a musical listening experience, I'm actually going to hold down a quote from my wall. So as I like to say ad nauseum, I love Leonard Cohen, the musician. He's like my rabbi, my patron saint. And I literally have this quote hanging up on my wall that says, the only religion I've ever known is the Church of Leonard Cohen.

1162.942 - 1176.637 Susan Cain

All others pale in comparison. That's what someone said about his music. And I thought, yeah, that's exactly what I feel. I wasn't sure whether someone else wrote that or whether Leonard Cohen wrote that. No, no, no, no. This was like a random comment on a YouTube video of his music.

1176.657 - 1189.131 Susan Cain

And when I read it, I thought that that doesn't work with AI because it's like the, I know you don't like the, probably the word soul, but it's like the soul of the musician is transmitting to you when you're listening in that way.

1189.111 - 1206.613 Susan Cain

I held music with lyrics and voice to one side just because there it's pretty obvious to me that I'm not so interested in the version of Hallelujah that is sung by a robot. But it's not the singing, it's the creation of it. It's the fact that a human actually...

1206.593 - 1232.821 Susan Cain

created it right right yeah so written and sung by a robot whatever the simulacrum of the same vibe however successful I think it's it's not interesting it's not interesting once you know that it's the product of AI but again not knowing in the Pepsi challenge, I think we will be fooled. We could be fooled already. And there's something psychologically interesting about that.

Comments

There are no comments yet.

Please log in to write the first comment.