Men, Sex & Tantra
Episodes
Live Coaching with Robert Part 2
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja is back with Robert with candid coaching and dropping into a topic i hear many men deal with. The shame of desiring sex. How to be a good man an...
Live Coaching Call w/ Robert
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A brave listner of Men, Sex and Tantra takes Tanja up on being coached on the podcast. Robert has faced what a lot of good men are facing today... ...
Yep- Our Friend Vulnerability
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Mathias and Tanja dive into the topic of vulnerability and it's most men's least favorite topic... we get it.Some men would say "OK vulnerability is n...
The Importance Of Being Curious About Truth
13 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Some people think about the truth : "you want the truth? You can't handle the truth!!" With a sense of happiness or duty...From a western standpoint...
Do You Lead And Live With Courage?
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
J Mathias and I get into the definition and idea of courage. It's my numer 1 value and I use it everyday to make decisions and stay in alignment with ...
What Are You Doing With Your Life...
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
My new guest J Mathias Bennett brings a refreshing perspectve to things that make men stand out from the ordinary and become unforgettable. Our next 4...
Strong Men Don't Need Watered Down Women
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Enough of the BS that a masculine man needs a watered down woman. Most strong men I have met are not intimidated nor turned off my a strong woman. Oli...
Sex, Aging and Wolves
16 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Olver Starr is still with us and we explore what can wolves show us about the potency of aging in a world obbsessed with youth.Tanja's Last Longer For...
The Females Hold The Pack Together
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Oliver expains why the females in the wolf family group are the glue which holds the pack together. We see the same experience in human family groups....
Let's Demystify the Alpha
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I have Olver Starr with me to talk about how we got it all wrong when it comes to what an Alpha is.And Oliver should know, he works with wolves and re...
Why She Got To Be So Vague
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt like you’re not getting a straight answer from a woman? Like her words are wrapped in layers of implication, energy, and mystery?In the re...
Why you should read what she's reading
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja is solo today talking about her work with couples... Couples don't communicate well and when it comes to sex it's usually even more tragic. Why ...
How To Live Into Your Best Self
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
People often wonder what happens in your life when you heal your past patterns and wounds and start to move into self care. Is it selffish to put your...
Have you found your NO?
27 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In a world where good men don't want to be jerks, the idea of saying no to others can be hard. How can you be true to yourself and not hurt others. Le...
Divorce Strategies and Trauma
20 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
My guest today is Farren West, one of my friends and clients. He shares his path since his divorce 5 years ago and how he was stuck in the nice guy sp...
Are Your Strategies Working For You
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What is the difference between addiction and strategies? Are your strategies working for you or hurting you. Alberto discusses his journey through dif...
Four Pillars of Self Love
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alberto is with me again and we are tackling the self love dilema. What actually is it and how do you make it happen? There are 4 pillars to self lov...
Neo Tantra Coaching with Alberto
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Meet Alberto Bercich who's becoming a Neo Tantra Certifued Coach in my Program.He reveals why he's doing it and what he has learned in the process. L...
Couples, Comedy, and Climbing: Embrace the Chaos!
06 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hey lovebirds and laughter lovers! 🎙️ Tanja here, and boy, do I have a treat for you! In this episode, we dive into the wild ride of balancing da...
Sexual Empowerment and Poly Sex
02 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lukasz and Tanja discuss sexual empowerment and the poly world. Do you need to be sexually open to lots of sex and people to be liberated and sexually...
Your Hidden Testosterone and Libido Killers
25 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lukasz and Tanja tackle the real reason you are flagging in the sex department. How you are inadvertently tanking your testosterone and sex life and w...
Avoid Fairyland at all costs
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lukasz and Tanja take a trip to fairyland. Fairyland is the new age blissed-out scene where spiritual seekers go to live in ungrounded unconditional l...
Tattoos and Energy
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lukasz Darmosz is Tanja's new guest, and the conversation about tattoos, energy, hidden messages in water, and the intention you carry surprises them ...
Visit Shibari Land, Get Knotted
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Shibari is the ancient Japanese art of tying knots. Strider is a fan, and this episode has some twists and turns as Tanja weaves the episode into some...
Objectification and Energetic Ethics
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Energetic Ethics? What the heck is that when it comes to objectification? Strider has a 5-second rule of looking at someone, and Tanja gets into the n...
Erotic Authenticity
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Erotic Authenticity - Strider and Tanja break down what this means. Tanja believes that just because it feels good doesn't mean you should do it—wha...
Masculine Containment
17 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join me and my new guest, Strider John Peterson, as we explore masculine containment. How to show up as a protective man and not be confused about wha...
Your Family Relationships Impacted Your Intimacy Skills
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It seems straightforward that your family relationships impacted your intimacy abilities, but maybe you have never seen how. James D lets us in on how...
Coaching Yourself When Life Hands You Hardships
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Life doesn't always give you a break or even provide you with what you want. Dealing with challenges can leave you feeling angry and frustrated, blami...
Learn to Dance Before You Use Weapons
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
James D and Tanja dive into the idea of the Irish proverb, “You don't give a man a weapon until you've taught him how to dance.”There are so many ...
Family Let You Down? Find Your Way Through
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja's new guest is James Deirmendjian https://www.facebook.com/fightfittPhilosopher, and founder of Fit Fight Training, James is a sports-performanc...
The Heart Space and Pleasure
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Darshan wrap up Sacred masculinity with why you want to access your feelings with a nice little incentive; it's called Feeling MORE sexual a...
Men can be clueless and it's not their fault!
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Darshan believe men can be clueless, but this is a societal and programming problem, not a lack of caring on men's part. Between childhood p...
What is this Sacred Masculine things anyway?
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I have a new guest with me Darshan Gregory, and we tackle the topic of Sacred Masculinity. You know how I tend to get picky when it comes to spiritual...
Connection with Women, friendship isn't a bad zone
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Michiel talk about women and what they want. Call this the Euro version because here we get into the fact being friends is NOT a bad thing a...
Another look at the Polarity topic
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Michiel tackle polarity because, face it, there can never be enough times we talk about it! So much confusion surrounds the topic, and I thi...
Are American Men Juveniles?
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Michiel get real about how European men and American men differ regarding dating, women, and life.Although you might find this hard to liste...
What's ego got to do with it
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja Talks with a new guest, Michiel Doorn, from 2nd Life Strategies. Tanja and Michiel get together, have some laughs, and talk about a piece of Mic...
Tantric sex - demystified
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We talked about Tantra last time; let's talk about Tantric sex and get that clear. Is it all medications, eye gazing, and long orgasms, or??For a low ...
Tantra What it is
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tantra, Tantra, Tantra, so misunderstood and misused. Let's get clarity, shall we?For a low introductory coaching call, click herehttps://tinyurl.com/...
Sex is an activity
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What if sex were just an activity, like going to the zoo. Imagine a world where you could say, Hey, want to go to the zoo, and your partner was like.....
Just say No to Porn
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Yep, they say every man does it, and it's no big deal, but internet porn is causing so many problems in the bedroom. It's being cited as a big reason ...
What's a nice guy and why nice guys should finish last because they're dangerous
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What is a nice guy? Why do we think nice guys should finish last? Because they are actually dangerous.Lean in and find out the difference between nice...
Masculine Confidence, what is it and how to get it
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sniper and Tanja dive into masculine confidence. Sniper says it's the #1 thing men want to know about and don't want to talk to women about. I certain...
Dating - Are you overspending?
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dating and especially that first date can be harrowing. What are some of the best do's and don't when it comes to making the date great? Well, I found...
What Bar Kings need to know about moving on
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Sniper get real about the life of a Bar King and the upside and downsides of this way of scoring women. Are you or so you want to be a King ...
Hanging with the Intellectual Sniper
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today I have a new guest with me and his moniker is the Intellectual Sniper, or sniper for short. We are dropping into the world of dating, confidence...
Sexual compatibility... is it important to a great sex life?
30 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I get a lot of questions about sexual compatibility and what it really means. It is definitely important but one of the things that can usually be wor...
Sexual Chemistry. What it really is and why it's so important
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We hear about this so-called "spark" but what is it really? Sexual chemistry is not about how someone looks, or a good reason to have a relationship. ...
Why do women really fake orgasms?
18 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Faking Orgasms, why do women do this, and can men really tell? I think it's pretty sad women do this at the alarming rate they do AND how we can all m...
Stop "gaming/scamming" women to get sex
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you buy into the Seduction community BS? Tanja takes this episode on solo to talk about why what you know about getting sex and love might be all w...
What Women Want You To Know - Diane
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to do something different this season and pull back the curtain on what women wished you knew, so I made a post on my FB page and asked women...
What Women Want You To Know - Amber
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to do something different this season and pull back the curtain on what women wished you knew, so I made a post on my FB page and asked women...
What Women Want You To Know - Tina
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to do something different this season and pull back the curtain on what women wished you knew, so I made a post on my FB page and asked women...
What Women Want You To Know - Judy
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to do something different this season and pull back the curtain on what women wished you knew, so I made a post on my FB page and asked women...
Women Tell All - Sasha
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to do something different this season and pull back the curtain on what women wished you knew, so I made a post on my FB page and asked women...
What Women Wish You Knew - Mandy
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I wanted to do something different this season and pull back the curtain on what women wished you knew, so I made a post on my FB page and asked women...
Your ideas about money and being right and wrong can make or break your intimacy and sex life
21 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a saver and righteous about it? Are you a spender and feel you're way is the right way to live? Find out how your ideas about the right way to...
Get financially naked
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Can you get financially naked with your partner? Your money story impacts your sex life and we want to show you how to make sure it affects it on a go...
Ed Coambs. What's money got to do with sex?
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Introduction to Ed Coambs a financial intimacy expert. Money and sex are linked in ways you might not expect, come check it out.Find out more about Ed...
Turned On
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we say turned on we mean more than just being horny. We mean full life turn on that makes taking a breath orgasmic... yep
The Art of Kissing
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ah kissing... Did you know some people won't date you again if you don't kiss well? Well we're here to stop that from happening. The art of kissing is...
Receive a blow-job so well your partner wants to do it more
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Yes you read that right!In what's sure to be one of the most talked about and share episodes, the art of recieving a blow job is vital information! Ma...
The inability to recieve can mess up your sex life. Let's change that.
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Every good lover understands it's all about your putting your partner first, right. Or is it?The art of receiving well is a vital component to increas...
What the heck is Embodiment anyway?
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We hear the word embodiment thrown around a lot in spiritual communities and neo Tantra spaces, but what does it really mean and how can you take adva...
Are you a subversive taker even though you make sure she cums first?
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Ean go deep into the topic of "taking" from women even if you think you are a selfless lover and giving her what she needs.
What does Cuming Down have to do with it?
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Ean could go head to head on this one - The topic of cuming as a medication tool, good or bad? And what about all the pleasure you're shorti...
How your overstimulated life is affecting your ability to have great sex
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Ean dive into overstimulation outside of bedroom wreaks havoc on your sex life and what to do about it.
Are men more visual? Your eyes may be blinding you...
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja and Ean check out the visual aspect of sexuality and explore the idea that using your vision for picking partners as well as self satisfaction c...
Ean Wood, Exploring your sexual identity
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome my new season 4 co-host Ean Wood as we explore the topic of your ideas about your sexual self and brussel sprouts. (Seriously, brussel sprouts...
Sexual Healing
18 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you believe that you need sexual healing?In this episode, Tanja and John talk about how important to go through the programs and lessons to achieve...
Expressing Sexual Desire
11 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Can our sexual desires go wrong?We have our own sexual desires which are programmed into us. But it should not lead to porn but to a feeling of satisf...
Honoring Your Word
04 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Can men keep their words?The honesty and truthfulness of men in their thoughts and actions… This is what women count on.But let’s listen more, as ...
What To Do With Your Feelings?
27 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There are a lot of reasons for frustrations in a relationship and why men don’t feel like talking about it.In this episode, Tanja and John Herbert s...
Your Online Dating Profile
20 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you looking for a date or a relationship online?You may be thinking of how to make yourself look good and attractive on your social media profile ...
Intro to John Herbert
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Tanja introduces her new co-host for season 3, John Herbert, and how they met.John talks about his amazing experiences and wonderful ...
Should A Man Lead?
06 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Should a man really lead in a relationship? It's the popular thing to say and it's certainly the societal norm to promote... but why?
Involuntary Celibacy
30 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel unattractive? There are people, especially teenagers who want to make out with somebody but have trouble and fear rejection.In this episod...
Does Size Matter?
23 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Is there such a perfect size? There can be the truth about this as part of an individual’s sexual preference. But it is possible that something is m...
Help I Cum Too Soon
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you premature during sex? It's a topic men have on their minds a lot and it's the #1 topic men want to talk about when they hire me for sex coachi...
Am I Masculine Enough?
09 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you masculine enough? It's a question that gets debated by men and women all over social media. Who gets to decide? What's with all this polarity ...
Introducing Michael Author
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tanja takes on a new cohost for season 2 of Men, Sex and Tantra
What is Sexual Confidence?
05 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Being confident as a man is a big deal… both to men AND women.But… have you ever stopped to wonder what confidence actually is? Especially when it...
What is Intimacy?
14 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
“Intimacy” can be a confusing word for many men.When a woman says she wants more of it, what exactly does this mean, and how can you provide that ...
What is Sexual Trauma?
01 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What IS sexual trauma?Most people think of it as an overt act of violence that only a few men experience, but the truth is much different than that.Jo...
How Comfortable Are You With Your Body?
14 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Most men we talk to believe that when it comes to dating and sex, looks matter to women.Do you think that’s true? Or untrue?In today’s episode, Ta...
Do You Feel Fully Seen & Appreciated By Women?
01 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What energy do you bring to your connections with women? Does it close or repel them? Or magnetize them to you?This episode goes deep into how you can...
Do You Adore Women?
14 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do you truly appreciate and adore women?Many men think they do, but secretly they are harboring pain or resentment toward women, and this ends up crea...
Sex... What is Good, What is Enough?
02 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week Tanja and Robert talk about sex… specifically, what does it mean to have ENOUGH sex, and what does it mean to have GOOD sex.Well… what d...
What Was Your Sexual Education Like Growing Up?
15 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode has to do with the sexual education we received as boys. Some boys grew up in an overly sexualized environment where porn, women...
The Journey to Everything Sex Begins
01 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The Journey Begins - Men, Sex, and Tantra is all about masculine empowerment. Join us while we explore topics, related to sex, women, intimacy, relati...