My Holistic Therapist
Episodes
#44 The Regulated Woman - Part 1 of 3: The Physical Symptoms of Stress and Trauma, and Why They Are Missed
04 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this first episode of a three-part mini series, I am joined by Dr Carrie Rigoni - chiropractor, applied kinesiologist, and vagus nerve educator - f...
#43 Why You Still Feel Overwhelmed (Even After Doing Everything Right)
29 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore one of the most common patterns I see in my work with women in midlife - feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and disconnected des...
#42 Estrangement to Connection: How I Changed My Family Dynamic
20 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I build on last week’s conversation around adult child estrangement and explore what we need as parents to do different if we want ...
#41 Mel Robbins and Oprah have weighed in on family estrangement. As a psychotherapist, I have thoughts
12 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the growing conversation around adult children becoming estranged from their parents - and the narrative that this is simpl...
#40 Why You Feel Unseen in Your Marriage (And What It’s Really About)
05 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore a pattern I see all the time in my clinical work - the quiet, often hard-to-articulate experience of feeling unseen in a lo...
#38 Is Nervous System Regulation Becoming Another Form of Avoidance?
30 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore something I’m noticing more and more in conversations around nervous system healing - the growing idea that being “regu...
#37 Polyvagal Theory Is Being Challenged - What Women Need to Know
23 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the growing scientific debate around Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory - a framework that has shaped how many therapists a...
#36 Perimenopause Isn’t Causing Your Anxiety - It’s Exposing It
16 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore something I see repeatedly in my work with women in midlife: anxiety that feels new during perimenopause is often not actua...
#35 Do Our Beauty Standards Keep Women Looking Like Girls?
09 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode was sparked by an article from Jamella Jamil with the provocative title “Ah shit, we let paedophiles decide our beauty standa...
#34 When Powerful Men Are Protected: The Psychological Impact of Watching Andrew’s Case
02 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week I’m speaking about Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor, his recent arrest, and the broader psychological impact of watching powerful men appear pro...
#33 Why Smart, Self-Aware Women Stay Stuck
23 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There’s never been more access to psychological education - yet midlife women’s mental health is not improving.In this episode, I explore why insi...
#32 Breathwork: Benefits & Risks for Women in Peri-Menopause
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Breathwork is everywhere right now, and many women are turning to it hoping to feel calmer, more grounded, and more connected to themselves, but not a...
#31 The Truth About Perimenopause and Poo No One’s Told You
09 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week I’m joined by Sheradyn Dekker, a Functional Nutritionist specialising in gut health and hormonal imbalances. Sheradyn holds a Masters in ...
#30 Why Birthdays Are So Hard for People-Pleasers
02 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore why birthdays can feel unexpectedly heavy for people-pleasers and women with a fragile sense of self. I unpack how early co...
#29 The Missing Self: Why So Many Women Struggle to Live Life Their Way
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode builds on last week’s conversation about the Let Them theory and the many responses it generated. One message stood out:“The Let Th...
When Powerful Men Are Protected: The Psychological Impact of Watching Andrew’s Case
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week I’m speaking about Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor, his recent arrest, and the broader psychological impact of watching powerful men appear pro...
#28 When Coaching Replaces Therapy: Why “Let Them” Is Concerning for People-Pleasers
19 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I take a clear stance on a growing problem in the mental health space: the flattening of psychological nuance on social media and the...
#27 Why Stress Feels Harder in Midlife - Three Habits That Actually Help
12 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If stress feels heavier and more relentless in midlife, it’s not because you’re failing - it’s because the strategies that once kept you functio...
#26 People-Pleasing Reset: How to Lose the Overwhelm of What Others Think and Come Home to Yourself
05 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
As the new year begins, many women in midlife feel a quiet pull to do things differently - not through pressure or reinvention, but through deeper sel...
#25 Why I Don’t Set New Year’s Resolutions - And What I Do Instead
29 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share why I don’t encourage New Year’s resolutions - especially for women who already carry a lot of internal pressure and self...
Most Replayed Moment: ou're Not Healing, Even Though You Have Done The Work
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve done the therapy. Taken the supplements. Tried journaling, yoga, maybe even medication. So why are you still stuck in survival?In this episod...
Most Replayed Moment: What is Nervous System Dysregulation?
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Anxiety, burnout, emotional numbness - what if these aren’t just symptoms, but signs your nervous system is stuck in survival mode?In this episode, ...
#22 My Dark Night of the Soul
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m sharing a personal reflection that I suspect many women in midlife will see parts of themselves in. I talk about the quiet but ...
#21 Why You Can’t Relax During the Silly Season - And What Actually Helps
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered why you can’t relax during the silly season, no matter how much you try? In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s actually happ...
#20 Rethinking Love, Friendship and Freedom as a woman in Midlife
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m exploring the quiet revolution happening inside so many women in midlife - the moment where we start to ask, “Is this it?”...
#19 How Your Relationships Change in Midlife - and Why Women Struggle
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m exploring what really happens when your body - and your hormones - decide they’re done with people-pleasing. For many women, ...
#18 The Hidden Ways Emotional Immaturity Shows Up - Even in ‘Self-Aware’ Women
10 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You know those moments when you catch yourself thinking, “I know better than this”, but you still overreact, shut down, or find yourself managing...
#17 The State of Your Nervous System Shapes Your Thoughts
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if your inner critic isn’t a mindset problem - it’s a physiological one?In this episode, I unpack how the state of your nervous system direct...
#16 When “Yes” Stops Working - Midlife, People-Pleasing & Perimenopause
27 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into what really happens when your lifelong habit of saying “yes” stops working. If you’ve spent years being the calm on...
#15 The Good Girl Wound
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So many of us learned early on that being ‘good’ kept us safe. We read the room, smoothed the edges, and made sure everyone else was okay - even i...
#14 The Sugar Rollercoaster: What Your Nervous System Is Really Craving
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode dives into the second session on the biology of food, stress, and sugar. I break down the adrenal sequence step by step - what happens in...
#13 Food, Stress & Why Willpower Isn’t the Answer
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share the first part of the truth about why food means so much more to women than just nutrition . I talk about my own story of cho...
#12 How the Medical System is Failing Women in Perimenopause
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is part of my special mini-series with Dr. Lucy Caratti: How the Medical System is Failing Women in Perimenopause.In Episode 3, How the...
#11 Burnout in Midlife - When Stress Meets Perimenopause
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is part of my special mini-series with Dr. Lucy Caratti: How the Medical System is Failing Women in Perimenopause.In Episode 2, Burnout...
#10 Why Mental Health in Perimenopause Isn’t Just in Your Head - the Hormone and Nervous System Connection
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is part of my special three-part series with Dr. Lucy Caratti: How the Medical System is Failing Women in Perimenopause.In Episode 1, we...
#9 Midlife, Capacity & Why Old Coping Strategies Stop Working
17 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about why midlife feels so destabilising when the coping strategies that once kept you afloat, such as, people-pleasing, perfe...
#8 The Cost of Overriding Your Body
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the hidden cost of pushing through and overriding our body’s signals. From the emotional suppression that ramps up cortis...
# 7 What It Really Means to Heal at the Root
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore what it really means to heal at the root. Not just fixing symptoms or chasing quick solutions, but looking at ourselves as ...
#6 The Difference Between Stress and Trauma
01 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I unpack the real difference between stress and trauma, and why so many people get confused. I explain what trauma really is (it’s ...
#5 Why insight isn’t enough
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You can read every self-help book and know your trauma story inside-out, and still feel stuck. In this episode, I unpack why insight alone doesn’t s...
#4 Functional Freeze, Fawning & the Myth of High Functioning
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode we explore what Functional Freeze looks like and how being in this blended state can look like competence, but that in fact it'...
#3 What is Nervous System Dysregulation?
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Anxiety, burnout, emotional numbness - what if these aren’t just symptoms, but signs your nervous system is stuck in survival mode?In this episode, ...
#2 You're Not Healing, Even Though You Have Done The Work
04 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve done the therapy. Taken the supplements. Tried journaling, yoga, maybe even medication. So why are you still stuck in survival?In this episod...
#1: My Story, My Work, and Why You’re Not Broken
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
My Holistic Therapist is a podcast for women ready to heal from chronic stress, trauma, and burnout - at the root.Hosted by Alex Field, a clinically ...