Narcissism Recovery Podcast
Episodes
Perfectionism - Defense Mechanism
18 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
- Perfectionism is a fallacy in logic. It concludes that if all flaws are removed and perfection attained then the inner chaos and pain will subside. ...
How Narcissistic Parents Create Battle of the Sexes.
17 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic parents cannot love their children because they do not love themselves. Children of narcissist will see this lack of love as an indicatio...
Self Reflection - Self Correction
16 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In order to heal after abuse it is vital that one takes responsibility for the wounds, Personality flaws, brokenness and inner dysfunction as without ...
How Trauma Creates a Distorted Lens of Perception
15 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When a child is traumatized they will have extreme emotional reaction. These reactions become overwhelming and will create a distortion of the child’...
Smothering
14 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Smothering happens when a person is controlled, manipulated, or abused most commonly found in victims of narcissistic abuse. Because of its subtle nat...
Grieving After Narcissistic Abuse
12 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abuse is often difficult to identify but when does there will an initial shock. This shock will be followed by stages of grief that mirro...
Childhood Programming
11 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Children will learn in childhood how to see themselves and relate to themselves and others based on how they were treated and perceived by primary car...
Alignment and Authenticity as a Form of Healing
10 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When a person is aligned with their authentic self they are at peace. Most mental disease stems from being out of alignment. This is usually because o...
Breakdown/Breakthrough
09 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Breakdowns in life which include lost jobs, broken relationships and feeling isolated are all potential opportunities to break through into a higher l...
Emasculated Male Narcissists
08 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic mothers are extremely smothering. With a weak dad, the son of these mothers will come to enmesh and rely on their mother even into adulth...
The Narcissists’ Perpetual State of Denial
06 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers live in this state of denial and project the true and shamed aspects of themselves onto victims. This is done to remove these asp...
Intellectualization - Defense Mechanism
05 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Intellectualization is a Defense Mechanism designed to protect the individual from facing their anxiety, shame, guilt and other painful emotions. The ...
Self Abuse
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers abuse others but they are also abusing themselves. In fact, anything that is done to disrespect, mistreat, berate or humiliate th...
Narcissistic Families - Sibling Rivalry
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Children of narcissists are pitted against each other in order to maintain control by the narcissistic parent. Siblings will start to compete against ...
Narcissism as a Defense Mechanism
01 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Defense Mechanism of Narcissism is one of a false personality in order to protect from facing one’s inner shame, guilt, feelings of worthlessnes...
Religious and Spiritual Narcissists
31 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Religious and Spiritual Narcissists take advantage of victims who are in a low place in their life as well as those who are looking for guidance spiri...
Free Choice - Using Choice to Protect Against Narcissists
29 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
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Narcissistic Projection
29 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Projection is a defense mechanism that is done in order to protect oneself from facing inner feelings that have been deemed unlovable and unacceptable...
Narcissistic Supply
28 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic Supply is what narcissists’ need to fuel and keep in place their false self and fake world. This can come in many forms and is extracte...
Contact Vs No Contact
27 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When deciding to leave a narcissistic abuser one will need to decide if they can contact their abuser or not. In deciding this it is important to dete...
Pathological Envy
26 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Pathological Envy differs from jealousy and simply envy in that is seeks to destroy others and their accomplishment because of a deep hate for what ot...
The Borderline Narcissist
23 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
It is not uncommon that a narcissist will also have borderline personality traits. The personality disorders of NPD and BPD exist on a continuum based...
The Narcissists’ Fantasy World
22 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers live in a false imaginary world that is split off from reality. The dissociated state that narcissists live in is a defense again...
The Subconscious Mind - The Narcissists’ Access Point
20 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
According to most neurologists and psychologists, 90 to 98 percent of a persons conscious awareness is not actually inside of the individuals awarenes...
Vulnerability After Narcissistic Abuse
19 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Vulnerability becomes extremely difficult for abuse victims who have learned that being so will subject them to mistreatment and exploitation. Vulnera...
Boundaries - The Narcissists’ Kryptonite
18 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers are notorious for boundary violating and disrespecting their partners, friends, children etc. victims may not realize they are be...
Shaming and Guilting - Narcissistic Abuse Tactic
16 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers are aware that they can use shame and guilt to make victims feel badly about minor actions taken that upset them. By shaming and ...
Narcissistic Control
15 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
“It's impossible to love someone and control them at the same time" - Terry Crews. There is no better description of the lack of love that exists wi...
Empathy - The Narcissists‘ Achilles Heal
15 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Empathy is a natural and later nurtured human trait that allows one to step out of one’s shoes and feel another’s pain. It’s allows for true hum...
Repetition Compulsion
13 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Repetition Compulsion is the phenomenon where relationship partners are chosen with specific abuse patterns that are repeating a childhood dynamic...
Anger After Narcissistic Abuse
13 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
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Codependency
11 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Codependency is a relationship dynamics that includes people pleasing, self sacrificing, and clinging to others in an attempt to avoid inner pain and ...
Trauma Bond - Stockholm Syndrome
09 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Trauma Bond otherwise known as the Stockholm Syndrome, is when a victim is bonded to their abuser with feelings of love and desire regardless of t...
Shame - Feeling Worthless
08 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you feel like you are never enough, doing enough, or accomplishing enough? Everyone has been plagued by these feelings at one point in ...
Covert Sexual Incest
07 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Covert Sexual Incest is a term coined by Dr Kenneth Adams to describe the inappropriate enmeshment between a parent and child. This happens when a par...
Negative Core Beliefs
06 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Our beliefs systems are created in childhood as we shape a personality that is based on messages received from parents and surrounding cast. Abuse le...
Gaslighting
05 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Gaslighting is a control tactic done to make victims feel crazy by offering a series of lies masked as truths and forcing victims to doubt themselves ...
Narcissistic Tendencies vs Narcissistic Personality
04 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
It is perfectly normal to have narcissistic tendencies but those with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) have the following traits: - Have an ex...
Abuse and it’s Effects on Sexual Identity
02 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Any form of abuse will cause extreme shame in victims. Vulnerability which is synonymous with intimacy will become greatly affected. Abuse often disto...
Interview with Former Patient Joseph
01 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I was joined by former patient Joseph who discussed his healing journey from an abusive childhood. We discussed the Mind Map and the way it helped him...
Emotional Flashbacks
01 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional flashbacks are an indicator of wounds of childhood that have yet to be resolved. According to Pete Walker, an expert on Complex Post Traumat...
Childhood Wounds and Its Impact on Relationships
30 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
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Narcissistic Fathers
29 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic Fathers are entitled and use their family to make them look good. They will cause damage to the children by never allowing them into the ...
Narcissistic Mothers
29 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic Mothers lack empathy and use others as do other narcissistic abusers but what differentiates them is their disguise as being a super mom ...
Borderline Personality Disorder - The Abandonment Wound
28 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
BPD, or Borderline Personality Disorder, is characterized by a pervasive fear of abandonment and extreme emotional dysregulation. Those suffering from...
The Narcissistic Family Unit
26 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic family units are completely controlled by a narcissistic abuser who has manipulated, bullied, and coerced everyone to serve them. These f...
The Makings of a Narcissist
22 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissists are wounded individuals who experienced having a rejecting, neglecting, smothering, controlling, or dismissive parent. In an attempt to fe...
The Narcissist’s Mental Prison
21 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers live in a prison of their own mind and look to pull victims into this prison to serve and become a supply of love, adoration, mon...
The Amygdala and the Traumatized Brain
18 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Neural pathways are created and reinforced when a child experiences repetitive good or negative thoughts, feelings, feedback and messages. When there ...
The Narcissist’s Battered/Broken Self
18 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Childhood abuse of any sort creates a fracture in the self. With extreme abuse as with narcissistic abuse, the child will be unable to build a sense o...
Idealizing, Devaluing & Discarding - Narcissistic Control
16 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic Abusers use Idealizing, Devaluing & Discarding as a way of controlling victims. The initial love bombing stage is done to make the victim...
The Narcissistic Wound
15 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The injury to the self, caused by critical, abusive, judgmental or narcissistic parents is called a narcissistic wound. When a child is wounded they w...
The Narcissist’s Self Hate
11 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic abusers, contrary to what appears, have a deep self hate. When a person has a narcissistic injury, an injury to the self in early childh...
Emotions and Trauma
10 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma occurs because of a person being in an unexpected place where they are unprepared and helpless against the threat. An individual under threat w...
The Silent Treatment
09 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Silent Treatment is a passive aggressive control tactic used by narcissistic abusers to emotionally bully victims into submission. This control ta...
Dissociation - A Narcissistic Abuse Defense Mechanism
08 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Victims of Narcissistic Abuse will learn to detach from their environment due to the inability to deal with painful stimuli by dissociating. Like the ...
Narcissistic Triangulation
03 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic Triangulation is a control technique used by narcissists to keep victims in servitude and feeling shameful. The narcissist will bring in ...
Narcissistic Mirroring
01 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissists are exceptional at showing victims the perfect and ideal parent, spouse, business partner, friend etc. this is done by using a technique c...
Interview with Mindset Coach Sam Chein
27 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I was joined by Mindset Coach Sam Chein to discuss some prevalent topics with regards to narcissism and narcissistic abuse. Have a listen as we dive i...
Narcissism and Reactivity
26 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma causes the emotional brain, the amygdala, to take control of victims minds and decision making. A narcissistically injures person will be someo...
Narcissism & Childhood Wounds
25 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Childhood wounds are extremely impactful on adult relationships. When childhood abuse occurs and wounds are inflicted, there will be an impact on the ...
Narcissism and the False Self
18 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic operate out of false sense of self. The false self is made up of ideas looks and manipulating conversation which work to convince victims...
Narcissism and Addiction
12 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissism is often referred to as an excessive entitlement with lack of empathy and willingness to hurt others for personal gain. Rarely is referred ...