Frugal Fatigue Is Real: How to Stop Saving Burnout and Start Spending on Purpose
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What is frugal fatigue and how does it affect budgeting?
Hey, Sean, what's the last thing you treated yourself to?
I had a week recently where I accidentally bought three pairs of running shoes. What? Three? I don't know if I told you I'm going to be running around Mount Hood over the summer. And so I'm training and I need a few different pairs of shoes to prepare for that. Today, we'll be chatting about treating yourself and how to balance it with savings goals, which I am doing, by the way. Welcome to NerdWallet's Smart Money Podcast, where you send us your money questions and we answer them with the help of our genius nerds. I'm Sean Piles.
And I'm Elizabeth Ayola. This episode's question comes from a listener named Michael by text, and it's about balancing, budgeting, and treating yourself. Here it goes. Hi, NerdWallet. Essentially, I have my savings goals and I'm working to meet them. However, because of this, I often don't go out, go on fun trips, aka treat myself. I usually stay inside, eat cheap meals, and shame myself on any money that I spend. What do you recommend I can do to help me enjoy life a little and not obsess about my savings goals to my detriment? Thanks.
To help us answer Michael's question on this episode of Smart Money, we're joined by personal finance writer Kim Palmer. Hey, welcome back to Smart Money, Kim.
Hi, Sean and Elizabeth. Thank you so much for having me.
Kim, it sounds like Michael is experiencing a term called frugal fatigue, and that's essentially a burnout that can happen when you're perpetually cost cutting or have a restrictive budget. Now, the issue with frugal fatigue is that it can lead to impulsive shopping or this kind of cycle of saving and then shaming yourself, as Michael seems to be experiencing. Saving is not always fun, I know personally, but it definitely shouldn't feel like punishment. Now, Michael said they often shame themselves on the money that they spend. So Kim, what is money shaming and what are some causes?
Well, money shame is basically feeling badly about the way that you're handling money or decisions that you're making. It's actually pretty common. And so I'm glad that we're talking about it because I think it doesn't get enough attention, but it can really guide a lot of the day to day decisions that we're making about money. And sometimes money shame comes from just how we were taught to think about money growing up. If you were constantly told that you're wasting money or that you might run out of money, then you could grow up just kind of feeling guilty as an adult about everyday purchases. So it's not necessarily our parents' fault because they were probably dealing with their own challenges, but that can be a source of why we might feel like that today.
I read this great book a few years back called So You've Been Publicly Shamed, and it was about kind of the rise of online Internet shaming. And the book describes shame as this feeling that you have because of how your actions are not in line with what people expect you to be doing. So in this case, shame can derive from maybe not having enough savings for retirement or not spending your money on the right things that other people are putting upon you. So you're internalizing these external expectations and not living up to that. And that breeds shame, which can be really destructive. So Kim, what are some ways that you can address shame when it comes up around your spending?
I think it starts with really exploring where it comes from and thinking about your own money story. So reflecting or even talking with a friend that you trust about where these feelings are coming from can really help. And then of course, if you want to go deeper, there is a whole field of financial therapists out there that can help you think through this, maybe make adjustments to how you think about money. And in some cases you're processing really difficult things that happened to you growing up and the way that you were taught about money. So that can be a really useful resource and not to put you both on the spot, but Sean and Elizabeth, do you have money stories that you had to unlearn?
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