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142: The Final Episode of New View Advice
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is the last episode of New View Advice podcast! This is truly the end of an era for me, and I am so grateful for every single person who has ever...
141: Lover's Crossroads: Does It Have to Be Love or Independence?
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into a listener’s question about feeling conflicted between being with someone special and embracing a period of independenc...
140: How to Embrace Courage Over Fear
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to New View Advice! After taking a short break, I’m excited to return with an episode all about courage. In this episode I share – Wh...
139: Woman-to-Woman Sexual Assault: Healing from Betrayal & Exploring Workplace Grooming
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I address the rarely discussed topic of woman-to-woman sexual assault. I respond to a listener who shares her story of being sexually...
138: Burnout at Work: Signs, Causes, and Burnout Recovery
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure if your job is still right for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question a...
137: Why Do I Cry Every Night Since He Broke My Heart?
13 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain st...
136: Grieving a Friendship Breakup That Turned Romantic
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close fr...
135: The Pain of Loving Who You Can’t Have: Overcoming Limerence & Fantasies with Self-Love & Compassion
16 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is...
134: Triggered by Your Partner’s Parents? Finding Safety, Healing, and Self-Compassion
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when to...
133: Living Without Justice: Healing When Your Rapist Isn’t Punished
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accoun...
132: I Can’t Change Him, Now What? The Quiet Strain of Addiction in Relationships
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even cultur...
131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheat...
130: Healing After Female Friendship Breakups
28 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female frien...
129: How to Begin Again When Life Feels Unfair - Starting at Square One
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that c...
128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change ...
127: Why Talking About Sexual Assault is Hard & Tools to Help You Begin
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common ex...
126: What to Do When Things Don't Go According to Plan
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found m...
125: What is EMDR and How EMDR Can Help You on the Healing Journey with Kelly Schooner
12 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitizati...
124: Feeling Frustrated: What to Do When Overwhelmed with Frustration
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we exp...
123: Loneliness After an Affair: How to Forgive Yourself for Cheating
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feel...
122: What Does It Mean if I Fail at Love?
19 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a ...
121: Too Good to be True?: Why Fear & Anxiety Arise When Life is Good
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle an...
120: Why Am I Scared of Love?
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including...
119: How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, ...
117: “Good” vs “Bad” Therapy: How to Find a Good Therapist with Katie Landrum
15 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We disc...
116: Prioritizing Mental Health: Amanda's Thoughts on 2024 & Suggestions for Improving Mental Health
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I be...
115: Holiday Season Sadness & Depression: Embracing Self-Love & Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. ...
114: How to Be Comfortable with Physical Touch After Sexual Assault
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and...
113: Repressed Memories of Childhood Trauma: How to Trust Yourself & Your Body
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. ...
112: Why Do I Seek Parental Validation as an Adult?
13 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know ...
111: Sexual Assault by a Family Member: Navigating Family Relationships After Trauma
06 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navig...
110: Should I Stay or Should I Leave?
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and con...
Reflections #1 - That Time the Guy Who Raped Me Got Engaged & I Lost My Sh*t
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about...
109: Embracing Creativity as a Trauma Survivor: Let the Pressure Go & Begin Creating
23 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a r...
108: How to Support Yourself After Sexual Assault, Rape, & Sexual Trauma
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to fe...
107: How to Forgive Yourself for Regrets: Regretting Telling the Truth
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the t...
106: Why Do I Always Feel Alone? Healing from the Feeling of Loneliness
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this epi...
105: Grief of a Break Up: Feeling & Navigating the Break Up Grieving Process
19 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from ...
104: 6 Pillars of the Self-Love System: How Practicing Self-Love Helps Us to Feel Enough for Loving Relationships
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I outline my Self-Love System and the 6 pillars for practicing self-love. By practicing the self-love system, you will learn how to lo...
103: Self-Love: Why So Many People Struggle with Self-Love & Why Self-Compassion is the Key
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we talk about self-love. I answer a question from a listener who wants to know how do you love yourself if you can't remember a time w...
101: Can You Cheat on Someone Who You Aren’t Technically Dating?
15 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know whether they need to feel guilty for cheating on someone they aren’t technica...
100: Get to Know Amanda Durocher: Why I Started New View Advice & Reflections on 100 Episodes
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In honor of New View Advice’s 100th episode, Amanda Durocher gives a behind-the-scenes look into why she started the podcast and what she has learne...
99: Imposter Syndrome at Work: How to Identify & Overcome Being an Imposter
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Amanda Durocher discusses imposter syndrome and why these feelings often have nothing to do with your current job or situation. Impos...
98: How to Support Survivors of Sexual Assault, Rape, & Sexual Trauma
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the...
97: I Am Afraid to Put Myself Out There: Fear of Abandonment & Embracing Courage & Vulnerability
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for thes...
96: Help! I'm in Love with My Best Friend
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who ...
95: Reflections on the Healing Journey
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and ...
94: How to Develop Emotional Maturity as an Adult
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature pat...
93: EMDR: What I Wish Someone Told Me Before Starting EMDR
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you...
92: Honoring Our Ancestors & Letting Go of the Guilt and Suffering of the Past
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the ver...
91: Why Do I Date Bad Men?: Feeling Naive & The Importance of Empathy
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are ...
90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positi...
89: Healing Low Self-Esteem & Building Self-Confidence (One Step at a Time)
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to kno...
88: Men & Vulnerability: How to Practice Vulnerability in Your Relationship & Why Criticism Hurts
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is s...
87: Why Am I Triggered by Being a Third Wheel? Processing Feelings of Sadness, Jealousy, and Not Being Enough
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up...
86: Why Perseverance is Important for the Healing Journey
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseve...
85: Love Letter to the New View Advice Community
17 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not ...
84: Healing the Female Friendship Wound
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feelin...
83: Steps to Overcome Fear: Why Do I Fear Everything & Have So Many Fearful Thoughts and Anxiety?
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen ...
82: How to Survive the Holidays as a People Pleaser or Empath: 5 Tips to Find Joy this Holiday Season
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will ju...
81: Help! My Boyfriend’s Parents Don’t Approve Because I’m From a Different Culture: Navigating Family Relationships, Disagreements, and the Decision to Wait or Move On
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different ...
80: Why Does Disappointment Hurt So Much? How to Navigate Feeling Disappointed
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who ...
79: Healing Your Inner Teenager: Why Beliefs from Your Teen Years are Still Impacting Your Life
08 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we le...
78: Rebuilding Self-Worth After Sexual Assault & Rape
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth a...
77: Denial after Infidelity: How to Tell if You are in Denial or Listening to Your Heart
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are bein...
76: Why Do I Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough? How to Heal the Feelings of Low Self-Worth, Shame, and Inadequacy
18 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you aren’t enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren’t you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have...
75: How to Heal Feelings of Rejection in Relationships (Fear of Rejection)
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, emba...
74: Learnings from Grief & Death: Why Grief Can Lead to Major Life Changes & Grieving the Loss of a Dog
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Grieving the death of loved ones is always difficult, but it presents the opportunity to learn more about life and ourselves. In this episode, I talk ...
73: How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship after Trust is Broken: Healing After Hurting Loved Ones and How to Forgive Yourself
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How do we forgive ourselves when we betray someone else's trust? How do we heal the feelings of anger, resentment, and self-judgement? How do we learn...
71: Religious/Spiritual Trauma and Catholic Guilt: How to Heal Past Experiences, Find Your Truth, and Empower Yourself
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to religious and spiritual trauma, religious institutions, spiritual leaders, and family dynamics can lead to hurtful or abusive experie...
70: Pandemic Hangover: How to Heal Your Post-Covid Mental and Emotional Health (Anxiety and Depression) and Reacclimate to the Post-Pandemic World
12 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Following the Covid-19 pandemic, many people still struggle with pandemic hangover, the lingering emotional and mental health side effects from pandem...
69: Cheater’s Guilt & Shame: How to Heal Yourself and Your Relationship after Emotional and Physical Infidelity
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Cheater’s guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity, but are often misunderstood by social media and the movies. In this episode, my inte...
68: Emotional Abuse & Gaslighting: How to Heal from Relationships with Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, and Lying
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional abuse in romantic partnerships, families, and friendships can be scary and confusing because many forms of emotional abuse are sub...
67: Healing from Broken Trust, Trust Issues & Betrayal: Learning to Trust Ourselves & How to Rebuild Trust in Relationships
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Trust in a relationship is built over time, but can be lost in a moment. When trust is broken, for example with infidelity/cheating, the feelings of b...
66: The Father Wound (or Daddy Issues): How to Heal from Absent Fathers and Emotionally Unavailable Fathers (& Fatherly Caregivers)
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The Father wound consists of unresolved feelings, pain, and wounding caused by your relationship with your father or a fatherly caregiver. Informally ...
65: Overcoming Self-Doubt: 4 Tips to Heal & Overcome Self-Doubt in Your Life
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us who struggle with self-doubt feel alone and the feelings of self-doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety can be debilitating and all-consuming. The...
64: Unrequited Love & Limerence: What's Unrequited Love & How to Heal from Unrequited Love & Limerence
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Unrequited love occurs when one person “loves” someone who does not love them back. Unrequited love feels difficult so difficult to heal because t...
63: Cheating in Relationships & Hard Feelings: Learning to Process Guilt & How to Handle Conflict After Infidelity
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Healing from infidelity involves learning how to process hard feelings. This is true for people who have cheated and been cheated on in...
62: How to Heal a Broken Heart: Advice for Healing from Heartbreak & Moving On After a Break Up with No Closure
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Healing from a broken heart is challenging and many people struggle with moving on after a breakup because they feel depressed and alone. In this epis...
61: Healing from Dissociation and the Returning of Memories
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Disassociation can sound scary and overwhelming, but is actually much more common than we think. Disassociation is a trauma response and can become a ...
60: Healing from Sexual Assault and Rape: Should I Press Charges and Where Should I Begin When Healing from Rape
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Healing from sexual assault and rape takes time, patience, and a lot of support. In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is dec...
59: Why Self-Compassion is Important and How to Start Being Self-Compassionate Today
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Self-compassion is an important tool for not only healing trauma and heartbreak, but also for living a happy life. ...
58: Workplace Anxiety: How to Heal Imposter Syndrome & Deal with a Difficult Boss
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Workplace anxiety occurs when we feel anxious or stressed because of demanding jobs or confrontational coworkers and bosses. The symptoms of workplace...
57: We Both Cheated on Each Other: Advice for Moving Forward After Affairs
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is it possible for a relationship to work when both people have cheated on each other? In this episode, I answer two questions from listeners who want...
56: How to Stop a Negative Thought Cycle: The 4 Cs
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has negative thoughts, and sometimes these thoughts can even spiral and create negative thought cycles that we have trouble getting out of. I...
55: Overcoming the Long Term Effects of Bullying: Healing Low Self-Esteem, Abandonment Wound, & Mean Friends
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The wounds created from bullying and being bullied can impact our lives long after the instances of bullying have occurred. In this episode, I discuss...
54: How Porn Addiction Impacts Relationships
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Oftentimes when we discuss porn addiction, we only discuss it from the view point of the person dealing with porn addiction, but the truth is that por...
53: 3 Things that Helped Me to Heal from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) is a common side-effect of experiencing trauma. In this episode I discuss my own journey with PTSD, my post trau...
52: Why Feeling Anger & Rage is Important & How to Release Your Anger & Rage in a Good Way
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Anger and rage are natural feelings and are important to feel for your healing journey and your mental health. Many people try to numb their triggers,...
51: How to Heal from Infidelity with Andrea Giles
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week I have a special guest Andrea Giles, Infidelity Coach and host of the Heal from Infidelity podcast on how to heal from cheating in relations...
50: What is Self-Care & Why It's Important for the Healing Journey
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Self-care is a popular “buzz word” and is often quoted in lyrics and on social media, but what does it actually mean? You may think it is treating...
49: Healing Body Image Issues: Advice for Body Image Acceptance & Healing Negative Self-Talk
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Body image issues negatively impact so many people in today’s world. Healing your relationship with your body and learning to love and accept your b...
48: 4 Steps for Letting Go of Expectations of Yourself and Others
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Setting unrealistic expectations for yourself and others can lead to a repeating cycle of disappointment and frustration. In this episode, I outline m...
47: The Mother Wound: Advice for Healing Your Relationship with Your Mother
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The mother wound is the pain caused by your relationship with your mother. This can happen through your relationship or through witnessing how your mo...
46: Healing Sexual Trauma: Recovering from Sexual Assault & Rape through Healing One Layer at a Time
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Healing sexual trauma takes time. Many people wish to rush the process, but unfortunately it’s a journey that takes time, patience, and a lot of sel...
45: Adult Children of Divorce: Healing the Effects of Your Parents' Divorce
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many adults today are living with the wounding, trauma, and effects of their parents' divorce. Divorce affects all those involved, not just the two ge...
44: Advice for Depression: How to Move through Seasons of Depression with Self-Care, Self-Awareness, & Self-Compassion
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Depression is a common problem for many, including those who have experienced trauma during their lives. In this episode, I discuss my own journey wit...
43: Family Dynamics & The Holidays: How to Set Boundaries & Prioritize Yourself (Part 2)
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are filled with joy, but also can bring up triggers and family dynamics that want to be healed. In this episode, I discuss family dynamic...
42: Family & Relationships: My Family Doesn’t Approve of My Partner & I Don’t Like My Boyfriend’s Family
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I discuss how difficult family dynamics and triggering relationships are a beautiful opportunity for growth and healing. I answe...
41: 10 Lessons from My 30th Year
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I discuss 10 lessons I learned over the past year on my own healing journey. These lessons and learnings include that new things will...