Non-Monogamy Help
Episodes
Episode 81 - Just FOMO
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Thinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. ...
Episode 80 - Trying to Convince
08 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy. That's what's on this week's ep...
Episode 79 - Outside Veto
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week's episode is about what happens when a mutual friend is unhappy with the relationship building happening between you and someone else. Find ...
Episode 78 - Not Good Enough
11 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That's what's on this week's episode o...
Episode 77 - Making the Leap
25 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. ...
Episode 76 - No Way Out
11 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That's what's on this week's episode ...
Episode 75 - Overreacting
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That's what's on th...
Episode 74 - Dating Family
14 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That's ...
Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor
01 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?
Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal
17 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help.
Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually chang...
Episode 70 - Half Ghosting
12 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's ...
Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much
29 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be s...
Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals
15 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Disc...
Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how yo...
Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a n...
Episode 65 - No Longer Primary
03 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal l...
Episode 64 - What Rules to Have
20 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio...
Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner
06 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find th...
Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity
23 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That's what's on this week of...
Episode 61 - PTSD and Polyamory
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
A previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop? That's what's on this week o...
Episode 60 - Temporarily Open
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Can opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio tra...
Episode 59 - Feeling Disconnected
04 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling disconnected? That's what's on this wee...
Episode 58 - Sexual Incompatibility
21 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
After more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are going too fast. What do you do? That's what...
Episode 57 - Begging For Time
07 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with you. What do you do? That's what's on this ...
Episode 56 - Escalating Past a Metamour
23 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help...
Episode 55 - How Much is Too Much
09 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How much is too much to know about your partner’s other relationships? Where is the line? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the ...
Episode 54 - Sacrificing Too Much
26 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When you're trying your best with polyamory but it feels like if you don't get it right, you may get divorced. That's what's on this week of Non-Monog...
Episode 53 - Forgiving Mistakes
12 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You have a metamour who thinks someone you're dating is a bad person. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full a...
Episode 52 - Anxious After Marriage
26 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Anxiety that's so overwhelming can make you feel like non-monogamy isn't for you at the time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find th...
Episode 51 - Conversion Therapy
12 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When you don't want to be polyamorous anymore and you're considering therapy to convert yourself back. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help...
Episode 50 - What Is Love?
15 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner expects you to commit to monogamy eventually but you're not sure if you've ever been in love. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy ...
Episode 49 - Wanting Monogamy
01 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
A partner comes to you asking if you'd consider monogamy and then changes their mind later on, but you're still stuck on wanting it. What do you do? h...
Episode 48 - Too Much NRE
18 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Is 18 months enough time to give someone to decide if they want polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio ...
Episode 47 - Harem Boy
04 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Should you judge a guy who says that all men want a harem of submissive women? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio tr...
Episode 46 - STI Risks
20 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How worried should you be about STI risk as an immunocompromised person? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcri...
Episode 45 - Sex Work and Polyamory
06 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio tran...
Episode 44 - You Don't Need 5 Partners
23 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you struggle to find partners but your domestic partner does not? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full aud...
Episode 43 - What if It Ends?
09 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when our biggest fear is losing our current relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcript...
Episode 42 - The Dreaded Veto
25 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When you've conceded to many rules but your partner demands you dump another, what do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find th...
Episode 41 - No Rules Just Wrong
11 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In trying establish rules, does that make you less "ready" for non-monogamy or polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the fu...
Episode 40 - Polyam is Valid
14 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What if you're struggling to see the relationship you have as valid if they're married to someone else? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Hel...
Episode 39 - Multiple Escalators
31 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Is it possible to build a new primary relationship on top of an existing, serious secondary relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy H...
Episode 38 - Is Polyamory Part of Me?
17 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Is polyamory an inherent part of who you are or is it something you can learn to be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full au...
Episode 37 - Don't Want to Share
03 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When you and your partner are dating the same person and you're tired of sharing. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio...
Episode 36 - Last Ditch Attempt
19 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Should you go with polyamory to keep someone in your life? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this ...
Episode 35 - Primary Responsibility
05 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do titles matter when one partner asks for exclusive time? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this ...
Episode 34 - Afraid of Loss
22 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner doesn't want to try polyamory because they are afraid to lose you. How do you move forward from that? That's what's on this week of Non-M...
Episode 33 - Stuck in the Middle
08 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you feel stuck in the middle of your partner and their metamour? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audi...
Episode 32 - Dating a Colleague
24 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you fell for someone at work and they're now off limits, should you keep pushing it? Is your partner giving you an unfair veto? That's what's on th...
Episode 31 - So Uncomfortable
10 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find t...
Episode 30 - How to Not Care
20 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find t...
Episode 29 - Preventing Cheating
06 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Can opening a relationship prevent cheating from ever happening? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of...
Episode 28 - Unhealthy or Incompatible
21 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do if your partner wants no restrictions but you need reassurance that what you have means something? That's what's on this week of Non-Mo...
Episode 27 - Signs of Seriousness
07 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know your relationship is 'serious'? Is asking about it going to bug your partner too much? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help...
Episode 26 - Flirting or Cheating
24 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What if your partner has always flirted in a way you define is cheating and now they want to be non-monogamous. That's what's on this week of Non-Mono...
Episode 25 - First Time Jitters
10 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If your first foray into non-monogamy is cheating - but it's not sexual - are you doomed? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the fu...
Episode 24 - Rules Won't Save You
27 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Can you make enough rules to prevent your partner from leaving you? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription...
Episode 23 - Abusive Metamours
13 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner is trapped in what you think is a psychologically abusive relationship. Can you get them to leave? That's what's on this week of Non-Mono...
Episode 22 - Backup Wife
29 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
A husband asks a wife to open their relationship after cancer, with some troubling caveats. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the ...
Episode 21 - Walking on Eggshells
15 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
A metamour's temper has this individual walking on eggshells. Is it because they aren't doing enough? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help....
Episode 20 - Ethical Non-Monogamy
18 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your marriage doesn't have passion but a new friendship does. How do make what's been unethical ethical? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy He...
Episode 19 - Is Polyamory Lazy?
04 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Is polyamory just an easy way to go from person to person to get what you want. Or is there more to it than that? That's what's on this week of Non-Mo...
Episode 18 - Monster of a Metamour
20 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You don't get along with your metamour and what's more -- you think they might be unhealthy for your partner. What do you do? That's what's on this we...
Episode 17 - Delaying The Inevitable
06 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner has agreed to open your relationship, but you're afraid to make the first leap. Should you wait until they have a date first? That's what...
Episode 16 - Just Deal With It
23 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner has told you that they want to sleep with other people and expects you to just deal with it. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy H...
Episode 15 - Fancying An Artist
09 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner has never been too keen on non-monogamy, but you have an appointment with an artist you can't resist. That's what's on this week of Non-M...
Episode 14 - To Open or Not To Open
29 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Should you end a marriage with kids just because your partner wants to be explore? Or just wait it out? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Hel...
Episode 13 - I Wanna Ruin Our Friendship
12 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You've fallen for your (very monogamous) best friend. Should you take the plunge and 'ruin' your friendship? That's what's on this week of Non-Mo...
Episode 12 - Needing To Be Touched
28 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When your partner feels like they can’t touch anyone any more, are cheating or polyamory your only options? That's what's on this week of Non-M...
Episode 11 - Long Distance Lament
14 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your relationship has moved to long distance and your partner has a new partner... and is now ignoring your needs. What do you do? That's what's on th...
Episode 10 - Forced into Polyamory
17 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner wants to open your relationship, but you don't. And you have kids. What now? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the fu...
Episode 9 - Winning Gold Medals
03 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you giving your partner a gold medal for doing something they should be doing anyway? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find t...
Episode 8 - Polyamorous and Pregnant
19 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When a baby's on the way should you close the relationship if you feel you can't trust your partner? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. ...
Episode 7 - Polyagony
05 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of juggling partners, living in polyagony, and ready to throw in the towel. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio...
Episode 6: Polyam in the Middle
22 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When an attempt at kitchen table polyamory goes awry and two of your loves can't see eye to eye. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find...
Episode 5: Tricky Triangles and BPD
08 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When is a good time to try and see if you are non-monogamous? And how can borderline personality disorder impact it? That's what's on this week of Non...
Episode 4: Getting Married As a Triad
22 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Is it possible to get married to both of the loves of your life? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of...
Episode 3: Shouldn't this be easier if I've cheated?
08 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What if you've tried non-monogamy because you cheated, and it's not working out as well as you thought? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Hel...
Episode 2: STIs Don't Care About Feelings
25 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when your partner is fluid bonded with others but you want them to be fluid bonded to you instead? That's what's on this week's episode o...
Episode 1: Thruple Trouble
11 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you start dating a couple and things don't seem to be going right... but that's actually going according to plan? That's what's on...