Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Personal Stories of Polyamory, Swinging, and Beyond

Ep 353 - Mae

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In her early twenties Mae repeatedly found herself in a cycle of getting into a relationship, developing feelings for someone else, fighting them off ...

Ep 352 - Jen

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jen identifies as a queer, pansexual, non-binary, relationship anarchist and has been living with their partner for over 12 years. However, that's not...

Ep 351 - Christa Lei

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"It's been a beautiful journey so far... But oh so messy!" Christa Lei and their partner originally opened their relationship into a "don't ask, don'...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 10

26 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! However... This month we have a special gues...

Ep 350 - Flora + Andy

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's interview with Flora and Andy is so full of love and zest for life! The last seven years have been full of adventure for ...

Ep 349 - Sandy

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

From a very young age Sandy had lots of crushes, loved kissing boys, and felt very free. Unfortunately, she learned very quickly ...

Ep 348 - Billy (Manwhore Podcast)

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Billy is a bit of a self-described hopeless romantic with a romanticized view of love and relationships. He tried out monogamy fo...

Ep 347 - Kathy

03 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our conversation today with Kathy is so beautiful, full of energy, and powerful. She is a vibrant 49 year old bisexual proud moth...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 9

28 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about exploring swingi...

Ep 346 - Michael

26 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Michael and his wife have been exploring non-monogamy since just before they got married about seven years ago. The conversation ...

Ep 345 - Taylor + Kuran

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Taylor and Kuran have been together since 2017 and have an incredibly unique and beautiful relationship dynamic. We talk with lot...

Ep 344 - Aria

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Aria is a bisexual, demisexual, sapiosexual, polyamorous, queer woman who's been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. During...

Ep 343 - Ally

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ally has been exploring non-monogamy for about the past eight years but her fascination with relationships and human connection started ...

Ep 342 - Mrs. N + Mr. N (Vanilla to Vixen)

29 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Mrs. N and Mr. N have been together nearly twenty years and started fantasizing together early on in their partnership. Their rich fanta...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 8

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about tips and strateg...

Ep 341 - Brett

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Like many of us, Brett started initially exploring non-monogamy before he had the language to describe it or a framework to understand i...

Ep 340 - Jessica

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jessica is in her mid-thirties and has been practicing non-monogamy for over 11 years. From a very young age she decided she didn't want...

Ep 339 - Abbey + Liam (Evolving Love Project)

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Abbey and Liam have been together for over 12 years and in an open relationship for about 10 of them. They initially started by explorin...

Ep 338 - Daniel

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Daniel feels he was born polyamorous but it took him until about eight years ago to stop conforming to monogamy. He was in a monogamous ...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 7

26 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about how to persevere...

Ep 337 - Megan + Brett

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Megan and Brett have been together for over 18 years and have been married for over 13. The idea of non-monogamy marinated in the backgr...

Ep 336 - Kat

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kat is a polyamorous queer woman in her mid-thirties who has been pushing against the status quo her whole life as she strives to be her...

Ep 335 - Mara + Mike

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Mara and Mike have been together for almost 25 years and married for almost 20 of them... They've also been in some form of an open rela...

Ep 334 - Evelin

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We are so excited to have Dr. Evelin Dacker back after more than four years... And this time, she's here to tell her incredibly powerful...

Ep 333 - Romi

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Romi has always been an insatiably curious person who questions the status quo. This combination has led him to a life full of incredibl...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 6

22 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about balancing breaki...

Ep 332 - Jules

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jules has explored a variety of relationship styles in her life and her preference would be to be non-monogamous. Yet, she has very inte...

Ep 331 - Nikita

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Nikita grew up in India and came to the US about seven years ago when she was 19. As she began to embrace her queerness she started learn...

Ep 330 - Jill + Jack: Round 2

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jill and Jack are back and this conversation is so powerful! This interview stands on its own. You do not need to have listened to their ...

Ep 329 - Anna

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today (February 28) is Metamour Day and we're so excited to be celebrating with Anna! While Metamour relationships are definitely a vibrant them...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 5

23 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about advice for a cou...

Ep 328 - Kim

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kim is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience helping clients work through difficulties with relationships and break-downs in c...

Ep 327 - Dedeker (Multiamory): Round 2

14 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dedeker is back after more than four years and an entire pandemic! As always, there's so much to get out of this beautiful conversation without ...

Ep 326 - Courtney (Something Positive For Positive People): Round 2

07 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Courtney is back after more than 150 episodes to give us an update on all the ways he's been finding himself and crushing life over the last thr...

Ep 325 - Jess + Tyler

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Tyler have been together nearly a decade and have been married for about six years. A few years back, the idea of opening their relatio...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 4

26 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about navigating a pol...

Ep 324 - Carrie (The Relationship Diversity Podcast)

24 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Carrie has been married for over 17 years, has kids, and is in a polyamorous relationship… Yet, this conversation is less about where she is t...

Ep 323 - Roy: Round 2

17 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Roy first came on the podcast with his partner Jessie back on episode 182 and now he's back to give us an update and to dig into his personal journe...

Ep 322 - Princess + DD

10 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Princess and DD have been together for almost four years and have both been exploring non-monogamy for about a decade. They each began their non-mon...

Ep 321 - Noa

03 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Noa and her partner met in 2008 and were initially friends and roommates during college. Their romantic partnership grew out of their foundation...

Ep 320 - Rose + Spade

27 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Rose and Spade met in middle school and have now been together for over 30 years, and married for more than 20 of them! They've had open minds an...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 3

22 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   Today's questions are about advice for a...

Ep 319 - Evita: Round 2

20 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Evita is back after almost 100 episodes and we're so excited! She's been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade and brings so many different exper...

Ep 318 - Sarah + George: Round 2

13 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sarah and George are back after more than two years! The first time they came on was on episode 169 under the pseudonyms Alice and Sam. But, never ...

Ep 317 - The Confident Swinger (Jo)

06 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jo and her husband have been together for 18 years and have been exploring swinging for 17 of those years. They initially opened their relationship as...

Ep 316 - Beth + Mark

29 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This interview with Beth and Mark is such a delight! They met in college on a blind date and have now been married for over 30 years! They dec...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 2

24 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   Today's questions are about advice for som...

Ep 315 - Adam

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today's interview with Adam is best summarized as an unforgettable, powerful, and transformative adventure. He describes it better than we eve...

Ep 314 - Tasha + David

15 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tasha and David have been married for about five years and have been together for about a decade. They've had variations of an open relationshi...

Ep 313 - Mariana

08 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mariana is a wonderful 31 year old polyamorous woman in Portugal who is in a mono-poly dynamic with her partner of five years and an addition...

Ep 312 - Jessica + David

01 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jessica and David have been in many different iterations of relationship together for over twenty years... They were friends, they dated, they were...

Ask Us Anything - Episode 1

27 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   Today's questions are about how to determi...

Ep 311 - Rachel

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Rachel's first appearance on the podcast was over 300 episodes, and five years ago. She originally shared her story on episode 8 with her part...

Ep 310 - Anna + Andy + J

18 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This conversation is beyond powerful. We say that often and we always mean it. This is no exception to the rule.   About a year ago Anna an...

Ep 309 - Orit

11 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is such a deep, vulnerable, and beautiful conversation. Orit and her husband discussed opening their relationship fairly early on. However, p...

Ep 308 - Bru + Mark

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"You have to do the work..." gets thrown around all the time these days in love and relationships. Never before have we heard a more powerful discus...

Ep 307 - Rachel

27 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Rachel Lark is a bisexual, kinky, polyamorous, cis female musician, performer, and writer. And that's all before she's had her morning...

Ask Us Anything - Announcement

22 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Quick episode announcing the our new Ask Us Anything episodes!   Fin is teaming up with Meshai from Expansive Connection coachin...

Ep 306 - Chaneé

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  This is one of those interviews you'll listen to over and over... Chaneé is absolutely full of incredible experience and wisdom....

Ep 305 - Lauren + Lars

13 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Lauren and Lars have been together for about 20 years and decided to open their marriage about five years ago. They initially opened sl...

Ep 304 - Natalie

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Natalie and her husband have been exploring non-monogamy for over 25 years. They initially opened their marriage as they were redesigning...

Ep 303 - Casey

30 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We absolutely love this conversation! So much of this episode is about the never ending journey of trying to figure out how to embrace who ...

Ep 302 - Bree

23 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Bree is a queer, polyamorous, Chicana in her mid-thirties who is also a mother of two toddlers and has been married about a decade. Oh! An...

Ep 301 - Jeannie

16 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Jeannie's story is an absolutely beautiful one. She had what she felt was an "average" or "normal" sex life until...

Ep 300 - Chloe + Drew: Round 3

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are incredibly grateful and delighted to have Chloe and Drew back on the show for a third time. This conversation is so powerful and we ...

Ep 299 - Nikki + Michael

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Nikki and Michael have known each other since they were teenagers, have been together 27 years, and married for 20. They've also both been in ...

Ep 298 - Polycurious (Fernanda)

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Fernanda grew up in Mexico and moved to the US in 2016. She knew about the concept of non-monogamy before that, but her firs...

Ep 297 - Katie + Beau

19 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Katie and Beau have an incredibly beautiful story and they are some of the most kind and loving people we've come across. This interview is tru...

Ep 296 - Nick

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Nick has been exploring consensual non-monogamy for about a decade and is the hinge in a cohabitating triad with Jace (Episode 254) and Sam...

Ep 295 - Liana

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This interview with Liana is so much fun! Get ready to laugh... Liana describes herself as a "severely gay", queer, and polyamorous relation...

Ep 294 - Joli + Ken

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Joli and Ken have known one another since Joli was born. Then, somewhere around 14 years ago something clicked on the dance floor. (Not a e...

Ep 293 - Frank

21 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Frank and his fiancé have been together for about eight years and have explored a wide variety of flavors of non-monogamy. They opened up ...

Ep 292 - Leah + Brady

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Leah and Brady have been together for about five years and came to the partnership with different backgrounds in non-monogamy, Leah was pretty...

Ep 291 - Sara

07 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sara has known she was non-monogamous her whole life but only found the words to describe it about seven years ago. She was initially introduced to ...

Ep 290 - Ann + Charles

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ann and Charles are in their early thirties and found each other a few years ago. They both came to the partnership with backgrounds in non-monoga...

Ep 289 - Multiamory (Dedeker, Emily, + Jase)

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are thrilled to have all three co-hosts of the Multiamory podcast on this week. Or as they sometimes refer to themselves... "An emotionally bonde...

Ep 288 - Terry

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Terry has been exploring polyamory for about 50 years and we are so excited to help share her story with the world! And no, that's not a typo... ...

Ep 287 - Mariko

10 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mariko has an incredibly powerful and beautiful story. She was born and raised in Japan and came to the US for her Master's degree at age 25. She spen...

Ep 286 - Libby + Tom

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Libby and Tom have been together for over six years and for the last while have been making it work long distance. Their "...

Ep 285 - Elizabeth

26 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Non-monogamy has been a big part of how Elizabeth has related to others her whole life, but she's only recently put words to...

Ep 284 - Kyrr + Libby + Drew

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Today we are super excited to have a beautiful and lively conversation with Kyrr, Libby, and Drew! We're thrilled to ha...

Ep 283 - Alyssa

12 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Alyssa is an autistic trans woman who was first exposed to non-monogamy about a decade ago, and as she describes it, it wa...

Ep 282 - Phoenix

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Phoenix is obsessed with sex, relationships, intimacy, and how to make all of those things better. Those are their words, not ou...

Ep 281 - Roderick

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Roderick is so full of energy and enthusiasm for life, and so is our conversation together! Roderick and his partner Jane h...

Ep 280 - Janiqueel

22 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"It only takes one person to make change, and I'll try." Janiqueel's approach to love and life is so incredibly powerful and beau...

Ep 279 - Ready for Polyamory (Laura)

15 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This wonderful conversation with Laura has a little bit of everything! She's been exploring non-monogamy for over 15 years and has do...

Ep 278 - Jill + Stephen

08 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Life is an adventure... And that's exactly how Jill and Stephen live it. These two have been best friends since they met, married ...

Ep 277 - Queer Theology (Brian)

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This conversation with Brian is so amazing and covers so many facets of relating to other humans, regardless of your relationship dy...

Ep 276 - Sara

22 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sara is an amazing, community-building badass! She's been exploring non-monogamy since 2006 when she and her husband decided to open the...

Ep 275 - Susan

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We rarely recommend gathering your kids for one of our interviews, but here we are. We'll wait for you to wrangle the whole family. ...

Ep 274 - Kate

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Kate was accidentally monogamous for a bit, but as long she can remember, non-monogamy has been who she is. She's a mother of two, a c...

Ep 273 - Libby + Cal

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Libby and Cal have been playing music together for the last five years and about three years ago they stopped fighting their urges a...

Ep 272 - Casey

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Casey and her husband have an absolutely incredible story. They met during a blind date threesome, ended up getting married a few years la...

Ep 271 - Cat + EJ | Round 2

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Cat and EJ are back after 252 episodes and almost a full five years! They first came on the show back on episode 19... Way wa...

Ep 270 - Rose

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Rose identifies as monogamish and her favorite relationship dynamic is a committed longterm partnership "with room to explore." She also id...

Ep 269 - Lara + John

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Lara and John got married over 30 years ago, 9 months after their first date at the library... About 22 years ago they opened their relations...

Ep 268 - Stephanie

28 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As long as Stephanie can remember she's been attracted to, and curious about, lots of different people. Of course, most of us are conditio...

Ep 267 - Maria + Steve

21 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Maria is back! And! Steve is here with her for the first time and the conversation we have is beyond powerful. If you listened to Maria's first interv...

Ep 266 - Kelli + Conner

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kelli and Conner opened up their relationship pretty early on as a way for Kelli to explore her bisexuality. For the last few years they have been on...

Ep 265 - Eve

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This conversation is so much fun! So much! Eve opens this interview by saying "I'm a woman who does a lot... That means work-wise, and people-wise!"...