Not So Secret Lives
Episodes
Are We Dating The Same Guy?
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re diving into the infamous “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook pages—and whew, do we have thoughts. Do we agree with the or...
Foreplay For The Win
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It’s getting real hot this week 🔥 We’re talking all things foreplay — what turns us on, what keeps it interesting, and why it’s way more th...
Love Bombed or Loved Right?
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Love is in the air — and we are so here for it! Big news... Karina and Chan are in relationships! 💕 It started off hot and heavy (are you surpris...
The Lost Episode: Know Your Worth
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This one’s been sitting in the vault — recorded back on August 21st, it’s our lost episode! We’re diving into knowing your worth — in relati...
I Think I Want Out: Navigating Marriage Crises with Dr. Becky Whetstone
17 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When Dr. Becky's team reached out and asked if we wanted to have her on we couldn't say yes fast enough! This week we’re joined by Dr. Becky Whetsto...
The Comeback Episode: Spice, Stories & Surprises
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back, besties! 🎉 After a little summer break, your favorite duo is finally back behind the mics and catching you up on everything we’ve b...
The Good Girl Era
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re flipping the script on what it really means to be in our Good Girl / Soft Girl Era—and trust us, it’s not all sundresses and si...
Shame, Self-Confidence, and Self-Sabotage: Healing Before Dating
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful and honest episode, we dive deep into the complicated relationship between shame and self-confidence. From the invisible weight of so...
The Silent Battle: Mental Health Awareness with Brook
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this special episode, we’re stepping outside of our usual niche to shine a light on a topic that affects so many but is often left in the dark—...
The Male POV: One Man’s Opinion on Today’s Dating Scene
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hey look Mom! We made it! Episode 20 coming in hot with our most requested topic... Male and female POV on dating! This week, we’re getting into the...
Catch-Up & Chaos: Our Dating Diaries and Life Lately
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Karina and Chan are back with all the juicy updates! From unexpected dates to wild encounters out in the real world, we’re spilling...
Becoming Jennie: Reclaiming Her Body, Her Voice, Her Life
23 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re getting real (and a little rebellious) with our guest Jennie — who left the church and an 18-year marriage like it was a bad grou...
Sex Myths & G Spot Truths
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re busting myths and dropping facts—from erectile dysfunction and STIs to the age-old claim that men want sex more than women (uhh, ...
Getting Spiritually Smacked with Tarot Readings by Haylie
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Getting Spiritually Smacked with Tarot Readings by Haylie In this episode, we sit down for a raw, honest, and unexpectedly emotional tarot reading wit...
Rewriting the Rules: Love, Identity & Owning Your Power
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we sit down with an incredible guest whose journey is nothing short of inspiring. She went from being in a relationship with a Mormon man a...
Dating in Your 40s – A Complete Dumpster Fire
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Well, it happened. We don’t know how we got here but, here we are! Dating in your 40s! Buckle up, because it’s a wild ride! In this episode, we di...
Swinging State of Mind: Love, Lust & ENM
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered what it really means to be in an open relationship? In this episode, we sit down with the author of For Better or Even Better -Lauren Ha...
Dating Do’s & Don’ts: The Internet Said It, We Judge It
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Look, we’re not experts… but we’ve got Google to help us out! We took a deep dive into the internet’s list of dating do’s and don’ts, and ...
New Studio, New Dates, Same Hot Mess
03 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After a 2 week break and a couple recording hiccups were back baby! We’re officially in the studio, and we’re bringing the same raw, unfiltered en...
Swiping, Sniffling, and Laughing: Our Adventures Back on Dating Apps
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving back into the world of dating apps and trying to navigate finding love (or at least a good laugh) while juggling our cra...
New Year New You – Self Confidence Baby!
06 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s kick off the new year with confidence! In this episode, we dive into the power of self-confidence, affirmations, and positive self-talk. Learn...
The Science of Sex and Random Facts
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into the fascinating science behind sex! From surprising fun facts to the quirks of human biology, we’re exploring what mak...
Why We're Single
09 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why we’re still single? In this episode, we’re spilling all the tea on our single status, breaking down the good, the bad, and the dow...
Sexual Fantasies
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this steamy episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on sexual fantasies. Karina and Chan will be baring it all as we explore what turns us on, wh...
Dating Games part 2 – Catching Feelings, Leaning in, Expectations, and Sending Nudes!
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dating in the modern world is a wild ride amiright?! We’re here for ALL of it! This week, we’re getting real about catching feelings and figuring ...
The Dating Game Part 1 - Getting Ghosted, Catfished, and Dating Multiple People
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dating in the digital age is a wild ride! This week, we’re talking about the highs and lows of modern romance—getting ghosted, the shocking realit...
Bedroom Confessions—What Men and Women Really Want
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
!!THIS EPISODE IS VERY EXPLICIT!! Get ready to turn up the heat! In this episode, we’re delving into the thrilling and often taboo topics of sex, de...
What Women and Men Really Want in Relationships
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re keeping it real and raw as we dig into what women and men truly want in relationships. From the value of honest communication...
Pilot - Dating Stories & Real Talk
28 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready to meet us, your new best friends in dating! In this episode, we're not only sharing our (mis)adventures in dating but giving you a front-ro...