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Episodes
74: What if my options are all *bad*? (Q&A)
29 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I answer a listener question about knowing what you want. The listener, Stephanie, wrote in saying that she's struggling to make a ...
73: 9 ways to get better at making decisions
15 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
So many folks say, "I'm bad at making decisions" or "I struggle to make decisions." While that may *feel* true, it can also become its own self-perpet...
72: How to make small decisions more easily
01 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I talk a lot about bigger decisions with higher stakes. But small decisions can really take an enormous amount of energy + brain space. So in this ...
71: Past Decision Trauma
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
"Past Decision Trauma" is where a person has at least one experience where they had an important decision, and it didn't go the way that they hoped. T...
70: Your priorities
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about priorities. I find that knowing your actual priorities can be the solution to issues such as guilty thoughts, over-thinking, or ...
69: Buying carrots at the bodega (or: let's talk about energy + goal setting)
18 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today I am sharing a concept that's about energy. It is also about how to achieve our goals or intentions more effectively. I tell a client story +...
68: Are you "confused"? Here's the antidote.
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I do a lot of work on clarity, and many people come to me saying they feel confused. Feeling confused can be exhausting + frustrating. In my work, ...
67: Clarity + Quality Time
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Here's something I've been telling tons of clients lately: if you want clarity on a topic, one of the easiest + simplest first steps you should take i...
66: One More Things (My New Year's Suggestion)
07 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The new year is upon us — and I'm not really a new year's resolution kind of person. So today, I want to share one thing that is really top of mi...
65: 3 personal examples of Rightness
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As I prepare for my upcoming course, "How To Know What You Want," I have been thinking a lot about how to make decisions, "Rightness," and knowing wha...
64: What "Rightness" is (and what it *isn't*)
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share about what "Rightness" is, and why it matters. Why do we even care about Rightness? I also talk a bit about what Rightness...
63: All about my new course: "How To Know What You Want"
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For this first time, *ever*, I'm offering a course! The course is called "How To Know What You Want" — and has been over a decade in the making. ...
62: Journaling for clarity
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about journaling for clarity - or journaling to figure out what you want or what you think about something. I discuss the c...
61: "Because I want to" is a reason (and might be the *best* reason)
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I talk to a lot of people who are in the process of figuring out what they want. There's often one thing that I'm listening for — or feeling for —...
60: "How do I make sure it's not 'Grass Is Greener Syndrome'?" (Q&A)
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I am answering a question from a newsletter subscriber. Alexine asks: How do you check in with yourself before making a major move to check i...
59: My new favorite practice (that's not journaling)
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share with you my new favorite practice — that's not journaling. I discovered it about a month ago when I was feeling pretty d...
58: Balancing your energy "budget"
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I suspect that many of you reading this have emergency funds, IRA's, and ETF portfolios. I also suspect that you may be living "month-to-month," wh...
57: When things don't come "naturally"
28 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is there some area of your life that doesn't come "naturally"? Maybe it's some element of your work, parenthood, friendship, marriage, or even a hobby...
56: One way to reduce stress + hours when you're a leader
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I was working with two clients (who are both leaders and managers) in the past week, and I was giving them both very similar coaching. Whenever tha...
55: Edward's Story
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing an interview with my client Edward. Edward is a husband, a father of four, an avid traveler, and a business owner and con...
54: Making reading (almost) as easy as Instagram — and more fun
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about reading, and how to help yourself read more. I love reading, but that's actually *not* why I'm making the argument for doing ...
53: One obstacle to clarity
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I coach on clarity — or figuring out what you want — a lot. I've realized recently there's one thing that gets in the way of clarity with almos...
52: Adaptability
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I offer an idea that came up - as so many of my favorite ideas do - in working with one of my clients. That idea is: adaptability. I share...
51: How I grew + run my coaching business
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I've been coaching for a decade now, and my business has grown quite a bit. I frequently get asked about how I grew my business, how I run it now, and...
50: Dealing with professional + creative rejection (Q&A)
22 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I'm answering another question from a newsletter subscriber. Emily asks: "When do you know if it's the right time for a career change? or Ho...
49: An idea for traveling
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the self-development space, there's often so much content about "seizing the new year." I can sometimes find it exhausting, so today, I wanted t...
48: How I started a women's group — and how you can, too.
11 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're starting to dream about the new year, I want to propose something that would significantly improve your year: Start a women's group in 2025....
47: When you're not going to f*cking meditate
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We are approaching a very particular time of year. There are holidays, extra activities and events, and it's a lot. So today I'm sharing what to do wh...
46: Feeling held by the world
13 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I want to share about "feeling held by the world." It's a desire, or need, that underlies many other problems - if you're frustrated in your fri...
45: "How do I assess and make good decisions for my future after a divorce?" (Q&A)
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I am answering another newsletter subscriber question today. Camilla asked: "I've just gotten divorced and not worked for some time while we reloca...
44: Maintaining friendships when you're exhausted + overwhelmed (Q&A)
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm answering another question from a newsletter subscriber. J asks: "How do I find time and energy for friendship when I'm exhausted by work an...
43: It might not be a logical decision (at least not in the way that you think)
11 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Here's something I've said to three different clients just this week: It might not be a logical decision. (At least not in the way that you think)....
42: Getting your ego out of the way (Q&A)
28 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A newsletter subscriber recently asked: "How do I get my ego out of the way when approaching a career transition?" She's used to having the "credib...
41: Radical friendship insights from my father
14 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Some time ago, I wrote about what I've learned about friendship from watching my dad. People tell me, over and over, that this piece about my dad real...
40: Hannah's Story
31 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm interviewing my wonderful former client, Hannah. Hannah came to me when she was going through an extremely tough season at work, and want...
39: Basking
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I'm talking about basking, a body-based way of relating to people. Basking allows us to take in different, often quite useful information, and ...
38: When nothing is "wrong," but…
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I recently asked my newsletter community if there were any questions they would like me to answer on the podcast. I got some really good ones and toda...
37: When you're not seeing results
19 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes we go through periods where we do not see outside progress or results, despite taking the action. And that can be....frustrating (to put it ...
36: Self-development realism
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about self-development realism. To me, self-development realism is acknowledging the *reality* of your limitations when it comes to im...
35: Agitation
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about agitation. If you're thinking: "What the heck is agitation, and why does it matter?" - well, this episode is for you....
34: A rant for people with Energetically Expensive Lives
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is a rant that I would like to share with people who have Energetically Expensive Lives. It's a rant that I have been sharing with ...
33: The Princess and the Pea (A Sensitivity Story)
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I am sharing a concept I've developed over the past year or so. Like most of my best concepts, it came out of my work with my 1:1 clients. On...
32: Communicating with men (advice for women + everyone else)
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I'm back with my husband, Gil, to share some ideas about how to communicate with men. (This is part 2 of the series we started in Episode 31, where...
31: Communicating with women (advice for men + everyone else)
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In coaching my male clients, I realized that there were some common challenges that they encountered, in communicating with their female partner...
30: Julie's Story
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview I did with my former client, Julie. Our coaching work together covered many things – including a dee...
29: "What actually happens during a life coaching engagement?"
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most common questions I hear is some form of: so what actually *happens* on a coaching engagement? This is a great question. After...
28: Two Intentional Technology Ideas
27 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about intentional technology. I share the first two big things I did to get intentional about technology years ago. Thes...
27: Loving, functional families + individuation
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I am sharing a very specific observation that has some interesting implications during the holiday season. This is about people who grow up i...
26: Take the Next Day Off
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As we enter the holiday season, I want to offer you an idea that has been really resonating with me in my life, and with my clients as well. Here i...
25: "What Happened" Conversations
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I am talking about "what happened" conversations. A "what happened" conversation is a type of conversation that is incredibly useful when you...
24: Making Decisions
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I am talking about the pulling-the-trigger part of decision making. The part when you basically know what you want, but sometimes you...
23: 10 Bread-and-Butter Coaching Topics
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes what holds people back from getting support is that they don't even realize what kinds of topics coaches can help with. So in this episod...
22: Coaching vs Therapy
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most common questions I hear from potential clients is: "What's the difference between coaching and therapy?" In this episode, I answer ...
21: When you've changed but your partner…hasn't, Part 2
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In part 2 of this conversation, I revisit a newsletter reader question about relationships + change. The reader asks: "I have done a LOT of work...
20: When you've changed but your partner…hasn't, Part 1
30 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I am answering another newsletter reader question today, a question about relationships + change. The reader asks: "I have done a LOT of work on...
19: Kara's Story
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview I did with my client, Kara, about her experiences being coached. Kara came to coaching not because her...
18: Transitioning to Motherhood
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I recently asked my email newsletter list if they had any questions they'd like for me to answer on the podcast. Today, I answer one of those question...
17: Compass Instruction Manual
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One thing I do very, very frequently is help clients with problems like: "I don't know what I want." Or: "I don't know what to do about my job o...
16: Practical Ideas for Adult Friendships
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I cover a topic that is close to my heart - adult friendship. And in particular, I talk about the mechanics of making and deepening f...
15: A Generally Useful Prescription
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I want to share with you a generally useful prescription. This prescription is for you, if you're feeling more anxious, down, stuck, frustrat...
14: Olivia's Story
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
*"I was stuck…but not for lack of trying."* On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview with my client Olivia. When I met Olivia, she was an ...
13: A Radical Idea about Your Job
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I'm offering you a radical idea: At work, your job is to add value. Your job is not to work a specific number of hours. In 1...
12: How to Work Fewer Hours
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I'm sharing a high-level map of everything that you can do to reduce your working hours without sacrificing quality. If that sounds like a b...
11: Work-Life Balance + 10 Hours Back (!!!)
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm talking about a topic that is close to my heart: cultivating work-life balance. We want to show up for our jobs and do good work that we're ...
10. Matt's Story
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview with my client, Matt Bruner. When I first met Matt, he was exhausted, burnt out, and *very* dissatisfi...
9: My Story, Part 2
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In a continuation of this two-part series, I'm sharing more of my story. This is where things really get juicy – I share two more big experiences o...
8: My Story, Part 1
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Recently, I realized that people who are new to my work might want to know a bit more *about* me. Like, who is this person who has this podcast? Wha...
7: Dating Q&A with a special guest: my husband Gil
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From the moment I decided to launch a podcast, I wanted to bring on my husband Gil on as a guest. He. Is genuinely one of the most deep + insightful p...
6: Recovering from Burnout, Part 2
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In part 2 of this series, I share insights 3 through 7 about recovering from burnout. I discuss how long it may take to recover and how you may fee...
5: Recovering from Burnout, Part 1
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I have a lot of experience with burnout, that feeling of "I'm completely empty. I'm tired and exhausted and I have nothing left." In this episode I...
4: Sunny's Story
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm interviewing my former client, Sunny, about her journey. She has so many great insights about being coached + life, more generally, includin...
3: 3 Minute Abs (It's a Metaphor)
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What can you make easier in your life? I share a story about "3 minute abs" and how I was inspired to make other things in my life simple and easy, so...
2: On Authenticity
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Authenticity, along with energy, is at the core of the work I do with my clients. It's tempting to think that you don't need this topic, because you a...
1: Energy Debt
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about energy. I share a concept I call "energy debt" and explain how energy and money work in surprisingly similar ways. So many o...