Chapter 1: Why is reinventing yourself important at any age?
it's too late for you or it's going to be too hard because you're older. How often do we hear that?
All the time. Everyone thinks that you only have this tiny window of your life. You can't just decide when you're like 32, oh, I can never do this now because I'm 32. Like you've got a whole life ahead of you. You are allowed to have many different iterations of your life.
Do something differently, but all you've done is speak about it. You are being your own worst enemy right now.
if you actually do stick with that mindset you're never going to see your potential you're never going to change and to me that's scary there is no prime like we just keep evolving you've just got to remember that it's never too late to try something new
Welcome back to the Oilers Talk podcast. I'm Kate.
And I'm Gemma. A no BS conversation for the women who want more. Today, this episode is for anyone in their 20s, in their 30s, in their 40s, even in your 50s.
If you have in your head that it is too late to start the gym, to go after what you want, to make some sort of big change, we want to dedicate this episode to you to remind you, to motivate and inspire you that it is absolutely never too late to make a change. Absolutely.
And I feel like this is such a underrated topic or conversation that I feel like I don't really hear people speaking about. Because I do think if you are somebody who is wanting different for their life, better for their life, they're wanting to make a career change, they want to start a business, whatever the thing is, everyone thinks that you only have this tiny window of your life to do that.
When you're in your early 20s, late teens, it's like you need to go to uni, you need to figure out exactly the career you're going to have for the next 50 years and you stay there forever. And taking that change or wanting to take that leap or make that change feels really scary. So I'm excited to have this conversation because I feel like
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Chapter 2: How can self-belief influence life changes?
You don't need to stick in the version of yourself that currently exists. Don't be afraid of that. I personally love the evolution that comes with different careers, doing different things, becoming better versions of yourself. That really excites me. I had a DM from someone yesterday who said, getting into the gym for the first time at 47. And she's like, I've just gotten into it.
Like I've started training for three weeks. And I was like, I love that. You can literally decide after never training that, yep, I'm going to get into it and I'm going to kill it and you will kill it and you will make amazing changes. And like we've said, and we're going to speak about, it's like, you can't just decide when you're like 32, oh, I can never do this now because I'm 32.
Like you've got a whole life ahead of you. Like we just can't have that mindset. And it's very limiting. Like if you actually do stick with that mindset, you're never going to see your potential. You're never going to change. And to me, that's scary. I would much rather the experience of trying new things, being a newbie again, learning things, maybe failing at a couple of things.
I would rather the fear of staying the same than the fear of making a change and not being afraid to start again. But I think...
coming in with a bit of a challenge here. I actually think that we are like that, but we are the anomaly. Because I actually think that majority of the population is probably more risk adverse and probably is really stuck in this mindset. And that's why we want to speak about it on the podcast today. Because if you are an Aussie listener,
you'll know exactly what I'm about to say and you'll resonate with this. But think about going from high school into university. The last year of high school, you are so pressed to study hard, apply for a university, and that's the pathway that you take. So much so, and I don't know if you've had the same experience, Gem, that if you didn't apply for uni in year 12, it was like good luck.
You're never going to make it in life. It's going to be a harder path for you. You're not smart enough. That was the overwhelming, for me anyways, amount of pressure that I felt in high school. So you're almost conditioned from a young age to be more risk adverse and actually not be able to look at it through the lens that like what we do, where it's
It's learning experiences and it's exciting and that's what life is, in my opinion, meant to be about. Challenging yourself, doing things differently, going against the grain, trying things that you've never done before to see whether or not you like it and learning and extracting the lessons along the way.
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Chapter 3: What are common misconceptions about starting over in your 30s?
But I don't feel like a lot of people are wired like that because of the conditioning. And I think that starts in high school.
Yeah, it's just like a safety thing. It's like go down this route because it's tried and tested and it's more likely to be successful. The other routes are more unknown. So like who knows what's going to happen there, aka it's more risky. And then people don't really like to challenge the status quo or go against the grain.
And then it just keeps you not really trying things new or not really having any kind of life experience outside of that bubble. Now, when I think of, sorry, I've lost my thought there. Can I just paint a picture for you guys?
Yeah, paint a picture. Will you come back to your thought? Yeah. I actually wrote this down because I didn't want to butcher it.
When you think about, or if you're a person listening right now who is maybe in their mid-30s, mid-40s, and they think, or even in their early 30s, and they feel like it's too late for them, I just want to let you guys know that there are some incredible businesswomen who have had insane amounts of success in their life at a quote-unquote later age.
Vera Wang, for example, didn't start her business until she was aged 40, 4-0. I don't know if I'm going to pronounce this name right, but Janine Ellis, who is the owner of Boost Juice in Australia, if you're an Australian girl, you'll know what that is, started her business at the age of 32 with very little business experience and now has over 600 stores across the country.
Now, 32 is not necessarily old, but it definitely is probably where people feel like it is too far gone for them to make a career pivot or get into something that they feel like they don't have quote unquote experience with.
Yeah, and I think that's so nice to hear because, again, like that's real-world experiences of people who started completely pivoted and grew something amazing. And it's like you can live multiple lives in your lifetime. You don't have to stay in the one thing. You can be like, actually, this isn't serving me and I thought that it was.
And like for my personal experience, I did the normal route of finishing high school and I went straight to university and I did a business degree. Same. majoring in event management and I thought that I was going to run large scale events like that was my kind of focus.
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Chapter 4: How did successful women like Vera Wang reinvent themselves?
Or, okay, cool. This might be hard. It might not get me an immediate result. I might not fully understand absolutely everything straight away. And you know what? I'm probably going to be fucking shit at it, which is a bruise to my ego because I'm a girlie that needs to be good at absolutely everything. But I am still going to invest money into this to learn and and upskill.
And I know that that investment will pay off long-term. There are so many people who either don't want to invest in themselves because they're so afraid that they are past the timing of learning new things, which that's not even a thing. You're never too old to learn something new.
And they just put it off and then they find themselves stuck in the same problems or the same cycles or exactly where they currently are that they maybe don't want to be anymore. Same job, same patterns repeating itself, insert whatever. So all I'm trying to say to wrap up that point, because I've lost me point, is if we can do it,
So can you. Yeah. And the mindset that I took when I started studying this year is like the next two years are going to pass anyway. So yes, it's an extra workload and it's another thing to think about, but I enjoy studying and I also love learning and knowing that it's going to like, I'm going to learn things and it's going to benefit my clients. But I also thought like,
In two years time, I could either just be where I am currently at, which is fine and like continue to grow, or I could have a literal qualification and completely pivot if I wanted to. Like it opens up more opportunities and the fear of the fitness journey starting or the business journey starting is like how long it's going to take. But that time is going to pass anyway.
I would rather dedicate Fridays to studying and doing what I can and then that compounding effect being like, cool, in two years' time, I'm really proud of myself and my efforts. The point that I wanted to quickly speak about is just that being okay with shedding of your identity when you do decide to, you know, change careers or change like what it is that you're currently doing.
Because I think there's a level of like needing to kind of change the way, like how you currently are if you want a different, like a different outcome kind of thing. Because if you're in a workplace at the moment and then maybe you want to go work for yourself, you need to kind of work on so many different character things Like you need to work on your character so much to be able to evolve.
It's like a full rebirth. It's like a full rebirth. So what I was trying to say is just like, don't resist that. Like be okay with this like constant evolution. And maybe people who knew you five years ago might know a version of you that doesn't exist anymore, but that's not a bad thing. It just means that you're continuing to grow. And that's what I would actually be...
diving towards as a positive thing.
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Chapter 5: What mindset shifts are necessary to embrace change?
Follow more people that are doing that. Follow more women who are
a little bit older who are absolutely kicking ass because if you stay stuck in a bubble of everyone doing the same thing but you want different it's like you need exposure to different things and you need to listen to different voices and something that I always like to think as well is like there is no prime like we just keep evolving don't get stuck in this notion that
You know, once you hit 30, your prime is over. Like 30 is young, 40 is young. Like it doesn't actually exist. Like we decide what our prime is. Don't give someone else that power to be like, oh, it's too late to do anything. That is a limiting belief. So be careful who you listen to and the information you absorb. Follow people that inspire and motivate you.
And you've just got to remember that it's never too late to try something new.
Yeah, I love that. This is so random and rogue what I'm about to bring up, but I feel like this really relates about the environment piece. Children. So I am 30 and all of my friends are having children. And it's like the best time ever, like watching your friends that you've grown up with, like become moms. It's like a whole other thing.
But I am still so undecided about having children and very much so. And maybe we could do a whole episode on this if you guys want to speak about this, because I feel like it isn't a topic that a lot of people speak about. You kind of see content where it's There's people that are childless by choice or child free by choice, love that for them.
And then there's people who were like, I was always destined to be a mom, but there's no one in the middle who's like, I actually don't know what I want. Like, do I want kids? Do I not want kids? And I feel like I fall into that category. Like some days I wake up, I'm like, fuck, no, not interested. Other days I'm like, oh, maybe I like, could I be cute preggo? Like whatever.
But I feel like I have had to engineer my environment around this because a very big fear for me is like losing my identity, not having enough time.
And because I am very career focused, I have had to really limit the amount of people or information that I consume online about this and only follow women that I inspire to be like, who are founders of businesses, running multi-million dollar companies with children. And really looking like on social media, we never know behind closed doors that they really are balancing and loving it all.
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