Own Your Identity
Episodes
You've Got What it Takes
12 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
“You’ve got what it takes.” That’s what my friend Noah writes to Timothy—a young man experiencing same-sex attraction (SSA) and feeling alon...
Don’t Die Wondering: Interview with Bent on Men author
22 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What are you avoiding that you don’t want to die wondering about?In this conversation with Harrison Bly, author of Bent on Men, we explore a simple ...
We Honor You
06 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the story you’ve been telling yourself about your attractions begins to change?In this episode, Jason talks with Kevin, a graduate...
The Attraction Scorecard
27 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What if you’ve been measuring the wrong thing? For years, I defined success in my SSA journey by whether I felt more drawn to women than men. In thi...
There's nothing wrong with you
06 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Living with shame can make life so much harder than it needs to be. My friend Lare and I invite you to choose a greater future than what shame offers....
Trade Dead-Person Goals for Legacy Goals
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Are your goals helping you become more alive—or just more controlled? This episode invites you to move beyond avoidance and into legacy, asking a si...
Remember Wonder
23 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What if part of our healing isn’t just honoring what hurt, but remembering what made you feel alive? In this episode, I reflect on wonder as a pract...
There You Are
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you brace yourself when someone says, "there you are"? In this episode, I discuss how this phrase can feel like pressure. But what if you...
Reclaim Power Over Attractions
02 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You don’t need to eliminate your attractions to be free.This episode reframes same-sex attraction as information rather than identity and offers a f...
Men Create
12 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the first thing God asked a man to do wasn’t to lead, protect, or achieve—but to create? In this episode, we explore the overlooked mascul...
Vision Trumps Fantasy
05 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Fantasy escapes reality. Vision transforms it. Vision gives direction, clarifies choices, changes what you tolerate, and activates courage.In this epi...
Make Space for What's Next
28 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If I received that promotion, I wouldn't be talking with you today. God used that disappointment to make space for something bigger. Now, I am a C...
Participate in Masculinity
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A powerful reminder that masculinity isn’t earned — it’s shared. In this episode, we explore what it means to participate in masculinity, belong...
Redirect Your Sexual Energy for Greater Purpose
24 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I decided I didn’t want to experience sexual pleasure alone. I want my gift of sexuality to be used for connection, creation, and service. In this e...
The Key, the Locked Door, and the True Me
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For years, I’ve stood in front of the mirror, staring at my reflection. I saw my silhouette—the outline of me. But just beyond it, like a shadow I...
No Compromise: Why 100% is Easier than 99%
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find compromise exhausting? In this episode, we’re diving into why living aligned with your values 100% of the time is actually easier than 9...
Choose Your Feelings
03 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When I turned to gay porn, I wasn’t just escaping life—I was running towards feelings I desired. I wanted to feel strong, inspired, connected, and...
Honor Your Anger
27 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Learn to honor your anger, meet it with empathy, and process it in a way that helps you move forward. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attr...
Navigating Confusion
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt stuck in the fog of confusion, unsure of your next step? In this episode, we dive deep into how moments of uncertainty can actually be the c...
When Admiration Shifts to Lust
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How can we recognize the shift from admiration, to comparison, envy, or lust? In this episode, we will explore how to become more self-aware and navig...
Choose Me
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself longing to be noticed? To be chosen? To hear someone say, You matter. You’re enough. I see you. In this week’s podcas...
Just Be
29 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we will learn how to just be ourselves, present in the moment, without overcompensating, performing, or needing to be "extra", inspir...
What I Wish I’d Learned Growing Up
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we’re going to talk about the things we didn’t learn from our dads, or our mentors, or our peers—and how that shaped us. But more importa...
Am I Marriage Material?
01 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve longed for a life shared with a wife — a woman to build a future with, to be known and loved by, and to love in return—this episode is...
The Locker Room: A Place of Vulnerability and Preparation
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While I longed to be in the athletic, game-time locker room, energized with the team before stepping onto the field, I was doing good to make it throu...
If You Only Knew
03 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Those five words can feel like a prison — locking us in shame, self-doubt, and fear. But what if that phrase could be transformed from a whisper of ...
Mastering the Moment: Mindfulness During SSA Urges
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do your same-sex attractions feel overwhelming at times? Maybe it’s a physical sensation that catches you off guard. Maybe it’s a romantic feeling...
3 Guys at the Airport and the Stories I Spun
22 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When we admire something in others, it’s like God is whispering, “This is already in you. I’ve planted this seed—now let’s grow it together....
Redesign Your Emotional Home
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you act out sexually with another guy, use porn, or entertain comparisons, what emotional home are you coming from? Is it loneliness? Shame? A need...
Sacred Time. Sacred Purpose.
06 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Time is sacred. It’s a gift from God, entrusted to us to use wisely. But too often we waste it obsessing over things that don’t serve us—whether...
Celebrate Courage
01 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When we take small, courageous steps—whether it’s replacing a limiting belief, speaking truth over ourselves, or simply showing up when it’s har...
The Power of Certainty
26 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine waking up each day knowing that no matter what happens, you are loved, you are enough in Christ, and the best is yet to come. Imagine living w...
Am I Too Much?
23 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you’re just too much for people? Like your personality, your struggles, or your past make you a burden, a liability, or some...
Be Gentle. Be Sensitive. Be Bold.
11 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For too long, the world has told men that gentleness and sensitivity are weaknesses. That to be a “real man,” you have to be tough, stoic, and uny...
He's an Attractive Guy. Period.
08 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind can turn a simple observation into a full-blown story? You see an attractive guy, and before you know it, ...
We Just Talk and Take in the View
04 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you’re on the outside looking in when it comes to friendships? In this episode, we’re breaking down those barriers and tal...
Let Christ White-Knuckle It
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share the top 3 things I sought from porn, and the 6 steps that made the biggest impact for me toward freedom from porn.For more re...
Choose Your Frequency
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Satan loves to turn up the bass on our negative thoughts, but every time you make a choice aligned with faith, love, and connection, you’re tuning i...
What are You Staring at?
13 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What is more powerful— staring at our sin or staring at the face of God? Gaze at the face of God. And let His holiness, His love, and His grace br...
Stay Uncomfortable
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you stay open in the midst of discomfort, you give yourself permission to hope, to dream, to love, to fail, to get hurt, and to rise again. That ...
You are Not Alone
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, you'll hear men speak directly to the young man I call Timothy. When I record each of my podcast episodes, I imagine sitting acro...
You're Like Me. I'm Like You.
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
My five-year-old son came up to me with this big grin on his face and asked, “Dad, can we wear matching clothes today?” He wasn’t trying to prov...
Embrace Mystery
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Some mysteries are traps—they pull us into obsession, comparison, or fear. Others are healthy invitations—they call us to grow, to trust, and to l...
Life With and Without My Dad
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is the story of how my dad and I came in and out of each others lives. Whether you have been deeply hurt or have hurt others deeply, I want you t...
Why is Change a Must for You?
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Showing up fully in life regardless of my attractions or the story I told myself about them was a must for me. I have too much to give to stay stuck. ...
When the Truth Doesn't Feel True
23 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One of the biggest struggles I’ve faced has been with my romantic feelings toward other men. It felt true that giving myself over to a man sexually ...
Get Curious
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When we experience a strong unwanted attraction towards a guy, we’ve got a few options. We can move in the direction our mind and body are suggestin...
They are Better Off When You're Around
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You have two choices: Believe others are ALWAYS better off for your presence or believe they MIGHT BE better off. In this episode, I'll share the ...
Let the Past and Future Fuel You
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I unpack two powerful actions to leverage our past and future to empower us in the present: 1. Decide that everything in our past is ...
Why do you think I'm gay?
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share the two meanings of this podcast name, Own Your Identity, and the answer to why my college classmate told me I was gay.
Is Vulnerability Worth the Risk?
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I walk through the times I was courageous in sharing my unwanted same-sex attractions with others, my desire for close connection wit...
Navigating SSA: What Works
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Discover how my unwanted attractions transformed from heavy, big, and complex to light, small, and simple. In this episode, I'll share the one decisio...
How to Feel Good and Love Life Now
28 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you in the habit of waiting until you or circumstances look different before allowing yourself to feel good and love life? Life doesn’t wait—a...
Choose Your Beliefs
27 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Where did my false beliefs come from, and why did they feel so true? How did my beliefs change? I’ll share my understanding of it. As you listen, co...
Talk to Yourself, Don't Listen to Yourself
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we're diving into an incredibly powerful topic - our thoughts, and how the statements and questions we say to ourselves can hold us back or...
Separateness vs. Oneness: My Story and Take on SSA
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share my story and my understanding of how unwanted same-sex attractions developed and resolved in my life.Would you like additiona...
Deflate Your Attractions
08 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I used to believe my unwanted same-sex attractions were bigger than me and my dreams. I've learned that's not the case. It was the fear, shame, and ju...