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This is: Do As We Say, Not As They Did
08 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Hey NerdLovers, did you know that Doc has a new podcast? I've teamed up with my good friend (and actual doctor) Dr. Liz Powell to bring you some of th...
#156 — This Is Why Dating Sucks For Men (And How To Fix It)
09 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Let's be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn't something you enjoy, it's something you endure. From trying to meet women, to g...
#155 — The 5 Things That Make People Like You... Instantly.
19 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren't popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of the...
#154 — Building Incredible Emotional Strength And Powerful Confidence
05 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you're in a relat...
#153 — The Secret to Healthier, Stronger Relationships
21 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you? Maybe you've been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you i...
#152 — This Is What Nobody Tells You About Having ADHD
07 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I ...
#151 — The 5 Things You Need to Know About Dating
24 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a check...
#150 — Stop Being Afraid Of Rejection
09 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Rejection hurts... but the fear of rejection can often hurt even worse. In fact, when we give into the fear of rejection, we often set up a pattern t...
#149 — How Do You Know if She's Right For You?
27 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightm...
#148 — What Avatar: The Last Airbender Can Teach Us About Finding Redemption
13 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's very easy to feel like you're forever going to be defined by your worst decisions or your biggest mistakes. But while you can't change your past,...
#147 — How to Talk To Anyone (At Any Time)
23 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
One reason why a lot of guys have a hard time meeting women is because they've put ALL of their focus on ONLY talking to women, and even then, only wo...
#146 — How To Transform Your Life (With Arden Leigh)
08 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What does it take to turn your life around? How can you learn to recognize negative patterns in your life that are sabotaging your progress? And what ...
#145 — The Problem with "Nice Guys"
18 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Women often say that they want a nice guy, so why do so many of them think that nice guys are THE WORST? The trouble is that Nice Guy's behavior work...
#144 — Use This Mindset To Overcome Your Self-Limiting Beliefs
04 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Over the course of my career, I've dealt with a lot of people who haven't had much dating experience — from people who've only had one or two girlfr...
Bonus Episode: Ask Dr. NerdLove Anything!
28 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we have a special bonus episode: a live episode where my patrons got to ask me anything — from dating advice to moving to Austin to what ...
#143 — The Art of Sexting Like A Gentleman
21 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Sexting and knowing how to flirt over text is a skill that's invaluable whether you have a friends-with-benefits relationship, a long-distance relatio...
#142 — 5 Things You Need To Get Your Life Together
07 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How happy are you with your life right now? If you're like most people, you probably have a list of major changes you've wanted to make. You may even ...
#141 — How To Get Your Ex Back... The RIGHT Way
29 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Last time, we talked about the recent trend of folks reaching out to their exes, why it's happening so frequently and why it can be comforting to try ...
#140 — Should You Get Back Together With Your Ex?
23 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
With the stress and the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic, more and more people are reaching out to their exes for comfort, for connection and something ...
#139 — How To Help Your Relationship Survive the COVID-19 Quarantine
15 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Self-isolation can be a trial for even the happiest lovers. Couples under quarantine are starting to feel the strain on their relationship. Relationsh...
#138 — Love, Sex and Dating During Quarantine
08 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The COVID-19 pandemic doesn't mean that your love life has to be put on hold. In fact, relationships are more important than ever. People are still me...
#137 — How To Have A Great Social Life During COVID-19
01 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Loneliness is one of the unspoken side-effects of sheltering in place. And yet, we need our social connections more than ever. How can you build and m...
#136 — DR NERDLOVE LIVE: Managing Your Emotional Health During COVID-19
27 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How do you manage anxiety in the middle of a pandemic? How is living under quarantine affecting you? In my first LIVE teleseminar, I talk about how to...
Ask Dr. NerdLove: How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work
18 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next ...
#135 — The 5 Things You Need To Get Over A Breakup
11 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The reason why you have such a hard time getting over your ex is because most folks have the wrong idea about breakups. The pain of a break-up is equa...
What Letterkenny Can Teach Us About Positive Masculinity
04 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next ...
#133 — You Are Your Own Worst Enemy
26 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The reason why so many people struggle with dating isn't because of their looks, their height, their genes or their hairline. It's because they are ca...
ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do You Handle Being "Just Friends"?
19 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next...
#133 - What Makes a Man Sexy To Women?
12 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know what women find sexy in a man? Not attractive, not aesthetically pleasing but what makes a woman want to peel a man's clothing off with he...
ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Can You Learn To Love Being Single?
05 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next ...
#132 — The Secret to Being Successful With Women
29 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Here's something nobody will tell you about being successful with women: nobody is "naturally" good with women. Nobody is born with an instinctual abi...
ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do You Keep The Spark In Your Relationship?
22 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next ...
#131 - How To Flirt With Women on Social Media
15 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We live more and more of our lives online, and that means that more of our relationships start there too. But most guys don't know how to flirt effect...
Ask Dr. NerdLove: How To Take The Perfect Tinder Photo
08 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next ...
#130 — How To Find The PERFECT Girlfriend
01 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How do you find someone who's the RIGHT girlfriend for you... and how do you make sure that YOU are the guy that SHE'S looking for? We're going to tal...
#129 - 3 Tips For Flirting Like A Master
18 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
DR. NERDLOVE MERCHANDISE: https://nerdloveacademy.com/shop/ One of the biggest reasons why people have a hard time flirting successfully is that the...
ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do You Meet More Women?
11 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the nex...
#128 — How To Get Over Your Fear of Rejection
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What would you do if you weren't afraid of being rejected? How would your life change if you could approach people you were attracted to without the f...
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Should You Tell Your Date That You're A Virgin?
27 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next ...
#127 - Why Women Won't Text You Back (And What You Should Do)
20 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Why did she stop replying to your texts? Why won't she text you back? Is time to panic? When when stop responding to your texts, it can feel like s...
Ask Dr. NerdLove: What Do You Do If She Gives You A Fake Number?
13 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe next week...
#126 - Why Online Dating SUCKS (And 5 Ways To Fix It)
06 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Online dating sucks. Doesn't matter if it's Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid or Christian Mingle. Men get next to no matches, women get flooded with awful mess...
#125 - Are You Trapped In An Abusive Relationship?
23 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Toxic relationships can be hard to recognize. Are you being stubborn and selfish? Or is something actually wrong? Toxic people don't look like cartoon...
#124 - Why Women Don't Like Nice Guys
10 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Why do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to want to date them? The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more imp...
#123 - 5 Things Men Do That Women HATE
25 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you ruining your chances of meeting incredible women before you even start? Women HATE it when the guys they meet do these 5 things. SHOW HIGHLIGH...
#122 - Conquer Your Social Anxiety and Develop Bullet-Proof Social Confidence
12 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence isn't about being 100% sure of your inevitable success, it's simply feeling that you know how to handle the situation. Taking away the f...
#121 - The 5 Things That Make You Irresistible To Women
28 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What does it take to be someone that women want to date? It's not about looks, status or money. It's about understanding the secret behind why we fal...
#120 - What REALLY Makes Men Attractive?
14 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Does personality matter, or are looks the only thing that's important? Why do guys have a hard time understanding what makes a man attractive to women...
#119 - What Does A Real Man Look Like?
01 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Men feel immense pressure to look a particular way and they're breaking themselves, physically and psychically to try to get to reach those ideals. ...
#118 - Dating Tips for Short Men
18 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When Chris Morgan had a meltdown at the Bagel Boss in Long Island, he was tapping into real frustrations short men have in dating. Here's how short gu...
#117 - How To Be Instantly Magnetic To Women
04 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Charisma and personal magnetism aren't about being the handsomest or most impressive person in the room. It's about knowing how to connect with people...
BONUS EPISODE: Learning the (Love) Lessons of End of Evangelion
28 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Now that Neon Genesis Evangelion is available on Netflix, what can we learn about love, life and loneliness from Shinji Ikari? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why s...
#116 - This is Why Your Life Isn't Getting Better... and How To Fix It.
20 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Incels are spending tens of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery to become Chads and they're still miserable. Here's why your life isn't getting be...
#115 - The Secret to Successful Flirting
06 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Flirting with amazing women is far less complicated or difficult than people think it is. Here's the secret. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why we rarely recognize...
#114 - The Mistake That's Costing You Dates
23 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This common belief is ruining your relationships and making it impossible to find the dating success you want. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How one simple change...
BONUS EPISODE: Why Are Millennials Having Less Sex?
16 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Millennials in general and Millennial men are having less sex than ever. Why? And what does this have to do with #metoo and the recent #sexstrike? SHO...
#113 - The Dr. NerdLoveLine Special
09 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You've been waiting patiently, and it's finally here! This week, the Doc - and special guest host Crystal Donovan - take your questions from the NerdL...
#112 - Overcome Your Self-Limiting Beliefs
25 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Almost every man who struggles with dating, is holding on to these self-limiting beliefs: beliefs and assumptions about yourself and the world that ho...
#111 - This Is Why Women Won't Date You (And How To Fix It)
11 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Young men are having less sex than ever. But what's more important is how you respond to that information. Here's what's ruining your chances with wom...
#110 - The Truth About Women and Casual Sex
29 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Why aren't more women interested in casual sex? What can guys do to find women who're interested in a no-strings hook-up? It's time to talk about the ...
#109 - This Is The Worst Dating Advice In The World (And You Need To Follow It)
14 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
"Just be yourself" is some of the worst advice that you can give someone who wants to get better at dating. It's also the most important. So here's ho...
#108 - The Virgin's Guide To Great Sex
28 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Many virgin men-- especially older virgins -- believe that no woman's going to want to sleep with a guy who has no experience… but they can't they g...
#107 - Who REALLY Holds The Power In Dating?
14 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The power dynamics of dating directly affect your dating success. But who REALLY holds the power when it comes to dating? Why do so many people get th...
#106 - Did #MeToo RUIN Flirting?
31 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Did the #MeToo movement change flirting forever? Can men no longer approach women? What makes the difference between flirting and harassment in this d...
#105 - Is Masculinity A Mental Illness?
17 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Don't forget: I'm taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! The American Psy...
#104 - How To Keep Going (Even When It Feels Pointless)
03 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Don't forget: I'm taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! Tell me if this h...
#103 - Offset, Cardi B. and The Wrong Way To Win Back Your Ex
20 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
There are the right ways of getting back with your ex. And then there are the wrong ways. And then there's what Offset did to Cardi B., which is one o...
#102 - Is Masturbation Bad For You? Understanding The NoFap Movement
06 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
To fap or not to fap... that is the question. Are there health benefits to giving up masturbation? Is porn addiction a real thing? And just what is th...
#101 - This is Why You Can't Get Over Her
29 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Friends, do you suffer from uncontrollable longing for someone who barely knows you're alive? Are you unable to get over that break up, even after mon...
#100 - Is She Flirting Or Just Being Friendly?
22 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you tell the difference between when someone's flirting with you and just being polite? And why are we so bad at telling the two apart in the f...
#99 - Let's Talk About Toxic Femininity
15 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
One of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity. It's something that I personally feel is important to talk about be...
#98 - How To Build A Lifestyle That Attracts Amazing Women
08 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When we talk about being more attractive to women, we tend to focus on the surface. We talk about how to dress, what to say, how to act. But that's th...
#97 - How To Develop a Mindset For Relationship Success
01 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Success, whether in life or in relationships, doesn't come from having the perfect plan or never making a mistake. It comes a mindset that strips away...
#96 - This Is Why You Fail
25 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How often has the frustration of being single gotten to you? How many times have you asked yourself: why aren't you going to get any better? Why do o...
#95 - What Men Get Wrong About Women
18 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
If you're looking for advice on dating women, then you're going to find many, many self-proclaimed experts in the female mind. The problem is that mo...
#94 - How To Be A Better Man
11 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Over the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on survivors. And as more women speak up...
#93 - Flirting Mistakes That Women Hate
12 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
There's a lot of bad advice out there when it comes to flirting. Advice that not only does it not work, but is actually a masterclass in how to cree...
#92 - How To Upgrade Your Style, Instantly
06 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Learning how to dress well is one of the quickest and easiest ways to be more attractive. When you start dressing up sharp, you look amazing... and m...
#91 - How To Plan The Perfect First Date
30 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How many times have you had a first date that you thought was amazing... but never lead to a second date? First dates can be tricky and frustrating. ...
#90 - How To Be More Attractive... Instantly!
23 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When we talk about being attractive, we tend to think of it in terms of being physically good looking. But there's a difference between being good lo...
#89 - How To Improve Your Social Skills... Quickly
16 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
One of the mistakes a lot of people make is that they assume that social success is a binary. Either you're good with girls or you aren't and there's ...
#88 - Why Nice Guys Lose (And Bad Boys Win)
09 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Doctor's Note: There's a recurring audio issue with this week's episode that I wasn't able to fully eliminate. I've edited around it as best as I cou...
#87 - How To Overcome Neediness
02 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to dating, there is one common issue that men have that will kill any chance you have to build attraction or a relationship: neediness....
#86 - How To Approach Women In Groups
26 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of men don't know how to approach women in groups — whether they're with other women or a mixed group of men, women and more. As a result, the...
#85 - Understanding The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment
19 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Recently Henry Cavill gave his thoughts about flirting in a post #MeToo era during an interview with GQ Australia, where he claimed to be afraid that...
#84 - Can Silicon Valley Save Sex Ed? A Conversation With Brianna Rader
12 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The state of sexual education in America is appalling. If schools aren't required by law to only teach abstinence-only education, then at most we get ...
#83 - What Terry Crews Can Teach Us About Standing Up For Male Victims
05 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
(Content Warning: Sexual Assault) On June 26th, Expendables and Brooklyn 99 star Terry Crews testified before Congress in support of the Sexual Assaul...
#82 - How To Get Women To Approach You
28 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Lots of guys get anxious about approaching women that they're attracted to. But what if there were a way to change that. Ever wished you were one of t...
#81 - The Texting Mistakes That Cost Men Dates
21 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How often has this happened to you: you've got a woman's number, but you never seem to be able to actually get a date. You may be doing great at firs...
#80 - How To Make New Friends (When You're Out Of College)
14 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Men on the whole, and white, heterosexual men in particular, tend to have fewer friends than women and the friendships they do have tend to be shallow...
#79 - Men and the Epidemic of Loneliness
07 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Men, especially heterosexual men, tend to have very few deep, emotional connections, and of the ones they do have, very few of them are with other men...
#78 - 5 Tips To Unlock Powerful Self-Confidence
31 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone and their dog will tell you that confidence is sexy, it's probably the oldest trope in dating advice besides "just be yourself". And, in fair...
#77 - This Is What Makes You Creepy
24 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What is it that makes one person creepy and another person attractive? Why do some men set off women's Spidey-sense while other men can do the exact s...
#76 - The Virginity Paradox
17 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Recently, we've been talking about toxic masculinity and all of the ways that it damages men on the individual level and society on the whole. One of ...
#75 - How Do You Fix The Problem With Incels?
10 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Over the last couple of weeks, it seems as though the world has been talking about incels - people who refer to themselves as being involuntarily celi...
#74 - How Do You Escape The Friend Zone?
26 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The question of "how do I get out of The Friend Zone" is among the top Google searches out there when it comes to relationship advice. The idea of the...
#73 - How To Be A High-Status Man
19 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
One of the long-running questions that men have tried to solve has been why women choose to date and sleep with some men over others — and, more imp...
#72 - What Does Positive Masculinity Look Like?
12 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Toxic masculinity doesn't mean that that being a man is toxic, bad or even undesirable. At the same time non-toxic or positive masculinity doesn't m...
#71 - What's Wrong With Men Today?
05 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What do Men's Rights Advocates, popular self-help gurus, the alt-right and the movie Fight Club all have in common? They're all trying to answer the q...
#70 - Bridging The Love Gap: A Conversation with Jenna Birch
22 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Normally when I talk about dating issues, I'm talking about issues that primarily affect men, from a man's perspective. However, it can also be incred...