Paradigm Shifting Books

The Advice Trap: Why You Don’t Know the Real Problem with Michael Bungay Stanier

19 Nov 2025

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In this episode of Paradigm Shifting Books, hosts Stephen and Britain Covey explore Michael Bungay Stanier’s transformative work, The Advice Trap, a companion to his earlier book, The Coaching Habit. Michael delves into the concept of the “Advice Monster,” explaining how the impulse to offer quick solutions often leads to ineffective problem-solving. Instead, he advocates for staying curious longer to encourage deeper understanding and foster self-sufficiency in others. This approach not only enhances leadership and coaching skills but also improves personal relationships and parenting.Throughout the episode, Michael breaks down the three types of advice monsters: Tell It, Save It, and Control It, and offers practical tips on how to tame them. By shifting the focus from providing answers to asking the right questions, you’ll learn how to empower others to think critically and solve problems on their own. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their coaching, leadership, and communication skills, especially in work environments, parenting, or coaching settings.What We Discuss[00:00] Introduction[03:50] Three types of advice monsters and how they manifest in everyday life[07:40] How giving advice too quickly leads to solving the wrong problem[12:18] The art of asking questions instead of offering solutions[15:01] How the advice trap shows up in parenting, and how space can empower others[19:13] Why seeking control prevents growth and what true empowerment looks likeNotable Quotes[03:25] "The advice monster is a sneaky impulse that wants to jump in with answers before we truly understand what’s going on." – Michael Bungay Stanier[10:29] "We all rush to solve problems, but sometimes the first problem isn’t even the real problem." – Michael Bungay Stanier[12:00] "Advice is everywhere, but what people really need is space to think and explore for themselves." – Michael Bungay Stanier[19:13] "The act of listening to understand is not about being smart, it’s about giving up control and empowering the other person." – Michael Bungay StanierResourcesParadigm Shifting BooksPodcastInstagram YouTube BookThe Advice Trap by Michael Bungay StanierMichael Bungay StanierWebsiteLinkedInInstagramBritain CoveyLinkedIn InstagramStephen H. CoveyLinkedIn

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13:00H | 21 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

10:00H | 21 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

12:00H | 20 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

2ª PARTE | 06 ENE 2026 | EL PARTIDAZO DE COPE

3ª PARTE | 22 ENE 2026 | EL PARTIDAZO DE COPE

3ª PARTE | 04 MAR 2026 | EL PARTIDAZO DE COPE

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