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270 - Doing Life Together w/ Chris White

29 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Coach Chris White joins Porn Free Radio today. In this episode, Chris shares his experience growing up in the shadow of Shelley Manor in the beach tow...

269 - Find Your Why in 3 Steps

19 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What's your single, motivating purpose for going porn free? We're looking to tap into is your own intrinsic motivation for recovery. I call this your ...

268 - Relapsed Again? Good.

15 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

After relapse we often feel dejected and confused. We sometimes begin to question our ability to fully recover. But what if we looked at relapse as a ...

267 - Major X Flies Again

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In PFR 242 – How To Avoid A Big Crash, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. To protect his anonymity and security clearance I referred to ...

266 - The Tipping Point for Long-term Success w/ Vern Tompke

23 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about the tipping point in recovery. The tipping point is the point at which a series of small steps becomes significant enough to...

265 - Mapping Habits for Greater Freedom

15 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If we define addiction as "an extreme version of a habit." Then recovery is the process where we transform our habits. But what new habits do we need ...

264 - The Gap and The Gain with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

29 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Organizational psychologist and bestselling author, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, joins Porn Free Radio today. On this episode, we'll discuss the most empowerin...

263 - The 2021 NFL Preview Show

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2021 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Kris Pavone, and your host Matt Dobschuetz. Join three coache...

262 - Relapse Without Relapsing

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Recently, a client of mine noticed a pattern. The day after a relapse he would have more clarity about his life and recovery. He would be aware of his...

261 - BS: Your Happiness is Determined By Your Life Conditions

05 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This is the final episode of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On t...

260 - BS: Your Value Comes From What People Think of You

30 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This is the third of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this epis...

259 - BS: Your Past Performance Indicates Your Future Results

23 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This is the second of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this epi...

258 - BS: Your Personality Is Permanent

08 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This is the first of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this epis...

257 - Partner Focus Pt. 2 with Hope Ray

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Therapist Hope Ray, from Hope Ray Therapy, joins Porn Free Radio for part 2 of 2 partner-focused episodes. Get the full show notes here: https://recov...

256 - Partner Focus Pt. 1 with Shawna Meek

23 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Shawna Meek from Living Stones Coaching joins Porn Free Radio for part 1 of 2 partner-focused episodes. Get the full show notes here: https://recovere...

255 - Loaded Questions

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On today's episode, we tackle 3 loaded questions... If there was no moral problem with your porn use, would it be okay? If your partner was cool wit...

254 - Relationships and Recovery w/ Brendan Burns

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A mega-sized episode about relationships and recovery with Brendan Burns, coach and host of the Brendan Burns show. Get the full show notes here: http...

253 - I'm not like these people. I'm different.

09 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On today's show, we discuss how our sense of uniqueness and the stories we tell ourselves about our struggle can block our freedom and keep us isolate...

252 - Craving Is Not Something That Happens To You

04 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On today's show, we consider the challenging quote, "Craving is NOT something that happens to you; it's something you actively do." — The Freedom Mo...

251 - Why Do I Look At Porn (The Short Answer)

26 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I get asked this question a lot; "Why Do I Look At Porn?" We think if we can figure out the root cause of why we look at porn it would help us quit. I...

250 - Perfectionism Pt. 2

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We continue our discussion from episode 249 on perfectionism and our obsession with an acceptable image. In this episode, I share listener emails and ...

249 - Perfectionism Pt. 1

24 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast is about the other p-word in your life: perfectionism. If you don't identify with being a perfectionist now you may after hearing this ep...

248 - Personal Mastery Pt. 3: Create Your New Normal

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In part 3 of our 3-part series on Personal Mastery, we talk about creating a peak state model of the world. The goal is to spend the majority of your ...

247 - Personal Mastery Pt. 2: Learning To Leverage Triggers

08 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In part 2 of our 3-part series on personal mastery, we discuss how you can change your state in challenging situations. In fact, the real Jedi mind tr...

246 - Personal Mastery Pt. 1: Change Your State

01 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Over the next 3 episodes, we are discussing the 3 levels of Personal Mastery. In part 1, we discuss what shapes our decisions and how we get more cont...

245 - Accountability 2.0

03 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Get an accountability partner" is the default advice given to guys early in recovery. In this episode, I move past the common thinking about accounta...

244 - The Power of Being 3% Better

13 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you gotten stuck? Has your motivation slipped? Have you lost some of your desire to change? In today's episode, I share the 3% tool to shift your...

243 - Understanding the Two Secret Instincts of Men

28 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Seventeenth-century, philosopher and mathematician, Blaise Pascal argued that "there are two opposing secret instincts in men." The secrets confuse us...

242 - How To Avoid A Big Crash

19 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. You'll learn the secret of how successful pilots avoid bad landings. Get the full show...

241 - My 10 Porn Rules

01 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I reveal my 10 porn rules. Your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the differe...

240 - The Difference Between Failure and Results

23 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In a follow-up to episode 239, I discuss the difference between failure and results in recovery. For more on the Owner/Victim choice described by Stev...

239 - Are you ALL IN?

04 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be ALL IN. "The decision had been made and all that was left to do was whatever it took. And that invo...

238 - Welcoming Being Misunderstood (Updated)

26 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the fear of being misunderstood. The irony is we give so much energy, in life, to what people think and how we're percei...

237 - Why Now Is The Best Time To Make Positive Changes In Your Life w/ Brendan Burns

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode coach and podcaster, Brendan Burns, hosts a crossover episode about why now is the best time to make positive changes in your life. Th...

236 - The Social Self Vs. the Authentic Self

16 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you care a lot about what people think? Do you struggle with feeling good enough? Do you avoid conflict? When you relapse to you feel a lot of sham...

235 - Reclaiming Your Creativity and Imagination

02 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"I'm committed to being porn free because I'm sick and tired of living off of chicken nuggets and french fries and I want more ski slopes, Hulk rides,...

234 - Sobriety For What?

03 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Guys in recovery are often focused on sobriety. But what is your sobriety for? What does it make possible? And in light of the recent tragedy, in Minn...

233 - Pure Desire Podcast with Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor

26 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pure Desire Podcast. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.c...

232 - Avoiding Pain and Seeking Pleasure

21 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I discuss what Tony Robbins calls the two driving forces in life that motivate us. I also share a quick exercise you can use to take ...

231 - The Myth of Unaccountable Time

14 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For years I struggled with unaccountable time. The idea that there were situations where I was alone and not accountable. But it's a myth. All time is...

230 - Your Recovery Advantage

01 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The things you have learned from recovery can actually help you lead and serve others in challenging times. I'm excited to announce a new PFR sponsor:...

229 - The 5 Anchor Habits You Need Right Now

24 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jason George aka "The Griz" rides shotgun on this episode where I share 5 powerful anchor habits you can build into your recovery right now. Get the f...

228 - Recovery Is Not About Making My World Small with Jay Pyatt

09 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Recovery Coach Jay Pyatt joins me for the final episode of the coaches trilogy that started in PFR 226. We discuss current events, sheltering-in-place...

227 - How I Do One Thing Is How I Do Everything with Kris Pavone

02 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Podcaster and Coach, Kris Pavone, joins me for a conversation about current events in early 2020. Kris is a teacher, former WWE Wrestler, and the host...

226 - What Does This Make Possible with Brendan Burns

23 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How can we reframe the challenges that come from disruption, travel restriction, and sheltering in place? Business and life coach, Brendan Burns, vis...

225 - Welcoming Fear And Anxiety

18 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We're facing a tsunami of feelings and emotions these days. How do we deal with emotions in a skillful way? In this episode, I share a powerful tool y...

224 - By Endurance We Conquer: How To Deal With Uncertainty In Turbulent Times

12 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to deal with uncertainty in turbulent times, 6 leadership lessons we can learn from polar explorer, Sir Ernest Shack...

223 - The 4 C's of Recovery

27 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do we grow and transform in our lives? We have to go through the 4 C's of Recovery. And no one recovers without going through a period of courage....

222 - Are We Powerless Over Porn?

18 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Step One of any 12-step program says, "We admitted we were powerless..." But are we powerless? And if so how does it help us to admit this? Get the fu...

221 - The Most Satisfactory Years of Your Existence Lie Ahead

10 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

With each new year, we reflect on what happened in the past 12 months and wonder, "what's next?" Well, what if I told you that life will have more mea...

220 - Forget About Goals

03 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's a New Year and it's expected that we talk about goals. But I am not going to do that. Because I see things a little differently... Get the full s...

219 - We're Happy When We're Growing with Brendan Burns

18 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Business and Life Coach Brendan Burns joins me for a crossover podcast. In this super-sized episode, we talk about recovery, sushi, sex, dating, relat...

218 - Nobody Cares. Work Harder!

04 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

At some point in recovery, you have to put in effort and hard work to move forward. Internally we resist this. We see effort as pain and we want to av...

217 - The Powerful Daily Habit You're Missing

20 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today's show, I share a powerful daily habit that creates focus, gives you more clarity in your thinking, and actually makes recovery easier. Get t...

216 - Who Do You Need To Be To Recover?

14 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Does your personality or the way you define yourself get in the way of recovery? Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/216   PLUS: W...

215 - Why Fear-Based Recovery Doesn't Work

06 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What is the motivation for recovery? If it's primarily fear we have a problem. Fear-based recovery can inspire action at first but eventually exhausts...

214 - Dobber and the Pirate Monks

23 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pirate Monk Podcast.  Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman....

213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?

17 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond? Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on...

212 - Why Do We Struggle With Commitment?

10 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if...

211 - Automatic Thoughts

02 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic oft...

210 - The Most Unpleasant Success Principle In The World

12 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share about one of my heroes, my rusty Buick, and the most unpleasant success principle in the world. Get the full show notes here:...

209 - Commitment Wanes; It Eventually Dies

04 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What story do you tell yourself after a setback? That you're not disciplined enough? That you're lacking confidence? Or will power? The truth is we ...

208 - How Our Pain Is Transformed

15 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Following up on episode 207, Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted, I answer the specific question of how our pain is transformed. "We are born in relat...

207 - Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted

08 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

"If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with por...

206 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 5: Kicking Ass In Life

31 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Our culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery. But the opposite is true. When we put the proper boundary ...

205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our Beliefs

25 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery? Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate? What's stopping you? In t...

204 – My Horrific, Porn Withdrawal Experience

19 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

I have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions... What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse? Is a realistic goal to a...

203 – We Feel What We Focus On

10 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the pla...

202 – Unwanted with Jay Stringer

02 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredm...

201 – Being Kind To Yourself

28 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/201 ...

200 – Superfan Takeover

20 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredma...

199 – PFR: Behind The Music

14 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Gentlemen, we're not alone in this. In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer. Get the full show notes here:...

198 – Getting Caught or Getting Courage

05 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty. In this episode...

197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me?

31 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego ...

196 – John Wick Focus

24 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga. Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Pa...

195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don't Try, I Can't Fail

16 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's ti...

194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging? (Updated)

09 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy to...

193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2

30 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport. G...

192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1

26 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science prof...

191 – Rejection

24 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy reco...

190 – 7-Day Stretch Goals

01 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Need a boost? A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week. In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's imp...

189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2

22 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn." This idea has connected with many listene...

188 – More Hope

14 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.c...

187 – What I want to do, I can't do. I do what I hate.

24 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions: Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you've gone porn f...

186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life (Updated)

11 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that. But then I think what am I doing to kick as...

185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging

04 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. In this episode, you'll learn to shift your th...

184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredom

28 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

in this episode, we continue our Successful Guys series. We talk about boredom, distraction, and why cultivating solitude is important for recovery. G...

183 – How Successful Guys Overcome Relapsing

21 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing our successful guys series, I offer 3 powerful ideas for overcoming relapsing.  Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/183...

182 – How Successful Guys Overcome Shame

13 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we continue with our successful guys series by discussing shame.  C.G. Jung called shame a "soul eating emotion." It's the corrosive...

181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of Motivation

06 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

You want to change your relationship and habits with porn. You want motivation to do what has to be done. Get the full show notes here: https://recove...

180 – How to Overcome Triggers And Craving

29 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of importance is placed on triggers in recovery. Almost too much. Because its really the craving we need to learn to deal with. Get the full sho...

179 – Coffee with the Dobber: Flow

15 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you overwhelmed getting started going porn free? Or have you been in recovery, a while, and gotten bored? Maybe you've lost some focus or feel apa...

178 – Matt, What's Your Plan Look Like?

01 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In REV this week, I was asked to share my current plan. So my co-leader Jay and I went through Your PornFree Playbook and captured our current recover...

177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and Clay

24 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Brian, a PFR super fan, shares 10 quotes that impacted him from the podcast. He's joined by his accountability partner, Clay. Plus, you have to check ...

176 – There's A Part Of You That Doesn't Want To Give Up Porn

17 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There's one thing you should know: there's a part of you that doesn't want to give up porn. It's your rebellious side that avoids responsibility and a...

175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership

11 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

If you ever thought, " I just need someone to hold me accountable." OR "I really need a good accountability partner.", this episode if for you. Get th...

174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done

03 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you committed to being porn free? Let me see your calendar. What does your calendar show me about your commitment to recovery? On this episode, I ...

173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs

26 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

After a relapse have you ever wondered. "why did I do that?" Regardless of who we are we are all driven to meet six human needs. The first four needs ...

172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem?

13 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever thought, "Man, I'm hopeless..." Or "I'm not good with self-discipline..." Or when it comes to recovery, "If I can't do this perfect... I...

171 – Love People Use Things with Noah Church

29 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Noah Church joins me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Love People Use Things podcast. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/171...