Psychology of Dating Podcast

Why You Should Date Like You’re Already Married (In the Best Way): Conversation With Monica Tanner

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What if the skills that create strong, lasting marriages are the very ones you should be using while you’re still dating?In this episode, I’m join...

Breaking the Trauma Pattern: Healing “Not Good Enough” Beliefs & the Body’s Story with Anu Verma

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Anu Verma, UK-based trauma therapist and coach, who shares her lived experience of childhood sexual abu...

Dating Smarter, Not Harder: Research, Strategy & Small Steps with Tim Molnar

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m joined by Tim Molnar, US-based dating strategy coach, author, and former university lecturer, for a grounded and practical conv...

When Emotions Feel Too Much: Self-Compassion, Fear, and Dating

19 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Many people don’t struggle with dating because they don’t know what to do — they struggle because of the emotions that show up along the way.Fea...

What If There’s No Wrong Answer? A New Way to Navigate Dating Choices

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What If There’s No Wrong Answer? A New Way to Navigate Dating ChoicesAs a Clinical Psychologist and dating coach, one of the most common things I se...

Too Focused on Them? How to Tell When You’re Losing Yourself in Dating

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself over-focusing on the other person—trying to keep them happy, overthinking decisions, or guessing what they want in the relation...

Stop Fighting, Start Connecting- Top Conflict Mistakes & What To Do Instead

24 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Conflict is a normal part of any relationship — but when you’re trying to assert yourself and emotions rise, it’s easy to fall into patterns tha...

The Neuroscience of Manifestation & Dating: With Isabella Rosenthal

17 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of The Psychology of Dating Podcast, I’m joined by manifestation coach Isabella Rosenthal to explore the fascinating intersection be...

Feeling Guilty for Self-Care? Why It Matters in Dating and Boundaries

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel guilty taking time for yourself? You're not alone—and this internal conflict can have a big impact on your dating life. In this ep...

Too Many Dates? When Your Love Life Becomes Overloaded

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Can there be such a thing as too much dating? In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked impact of overloading your dating life—how seeing to...

Dating Starts With You: What It Really Means to Build a Relationship With Yourself

31 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Before we focus on finding the right partner, it’s essential to ask—how strong is your relationship with yourself? In this episode, we unpack what...

Before You Fix It, Name It: Clarifying Your Dating Struggles

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in the same dating pattern—but not sure what exactly needs to change? Before you jump into solutions, take a step back: have you clear...

Should I Keep Going or Let It Go? How to Follow Through in Dating

30 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Should you keep seeing them—or call it quits? In this episode, we explore how to navigate early dating with clarity and confidence.You’ll learn:Wh...

Understanding the Impact of Complex Trauma on Dating & Relationships

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why does dating feel so overwhelming when all you want is a healthy connection? In this episode, we explore how complex trauma can shape the way you a...

Help! I'm Overthinking This Text

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Not sure what to text back? Feeling anxious while waiting for a reply or wondering if you're coming on too strong?In this episode:How to pace tex...

How To Be Present In Dating & Reduce Mind-Reading

23 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Meeting new people in dating can be anxiety provoking, frustrating, boring, confusing, and many other emotions. It is normal for the human brain to tr...

Dating In Your Midlife

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you in your midlife and contemplating dating? People often have many fears and barriers about dating as they grow older, with thoughts such as; &q...

Mindset Hacks to Help You Get Back On The Dating Apps

14 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself hot and cold with use of the dating apps. You go on them for a few months and then feel disheartened and quit for another few mon...

Emotion Regulation: How To Manage Difficult Emotions In Dating

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you experience intense and overwhelming emotions where you become impulsive or feel out of control in dating? Or do you feel numb and disconnected ...

What To Do When You Have Conflicting 'Parts' Of You In Dating

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself doubting your decisions in dating? Making one choice and then feeling guilt afterwards or criticising yourself? One part ...

Tips For Managing Conflict

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Conflict can be healthy and to be expected in a relationship. The important part of conflict is how we navigate it.In this episode:- Learn how can att...

Q & A for Use Of Dating Apps

09 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Part of my dating coaching program involves running weekly groups. Each week participants ask dating questions and receive personalised coaching on ar...

How To Increase Pleasant Emotions In Dating - ABC PLEASE Skill

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When people are feeling stuck in dating they can experience an imbalance in their emotions, an increase in challenging emotions such as fear, sadness,...

Why I Loved Dating In COVID-19 Lockdown And What I Learnt About Authentic Dating

06 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does authentic dating actually mean? This episode looks at key aspects of authentic dating including aligning with your values and goals, honesty...

How To Make Your New Years Resolutions Stick?

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you are feeling stuck in dating, altering habits  can significantly increase satisfaction and confidence. However habits can be very hard to form....

Changing Thoughts To Change Your Dating Experience

21 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode looks at ways to reduce unnecessary suffering in dating caused by thinking. It explores the difference between a neutral dating circumsta...

Finding Love After A Breakup And Getting Back Together - Hazel's Story

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this Episode Nadine's cousin Hazel shares the challenges and highs in her long term relationship with her now fiancé. Topics include; dating...

Conversation With Georgia Grace - Certified Sex And Relationship Practitioner And Somatic Therapist

18 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is an interview with Georgia Grace, who is a Certified Sex and Relationship Practitioner And Somatic Therapist. Georgia shares expertise ...

Menstrual Cycle, Hormones, and Dating

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What are the impacts of the hormones Oestrogen and Progesterone which occur in different phases of the menstrual cycle? How can these impact your dati...

Fast Acting Skills To Tolerate Distress: DBT TIPP Skills Including Practice of Paced Breathing & Progressive Muscle Relaxation

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode learn about the DBT distress tolerance skills that are fast acting to help manage distress. TIPP is an acronym for the skills of (extr...

Can I Change The Person I Am Dating?

28 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can people change? And if so which aspects of personality, characteristics, circumstances can change?This episode covers:- Stages of change based on M...

Processing Past Memories To Improve Your Current Dating Experiences: What Is EMDR Therapy?

21 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Therapy) is an established therapy with a strong evidence base. This therapy can help people to process past trauma...

When To Stop Looking & 'Settle' With Someone

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores two key concepts in dating: - The importance of mindset in dating, and the difference between scarcity and abundance mindset- T...

Signs Someone You Are Dating Is Narcissistic

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you experience chronic anxiety with the person you are dating? Feel like you are walking on eggshells or are 'not good enough'? These can...

Healing Inner Child: A Guided Meditation For Triggered Emotions

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This guided meditation uses a 'parts work' therapy approach. Explore triggered emotions and the child/young part these feelings may be relat...

I Have What I Want In Dating But I'm Anxious/Stressed/Low Mood, Why Is This?

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you dreamed of obtaining a goal in dating/relationships, reached this goal, and then had unexpected difficult emotions like anxiety or stress? Th...

How Often Should I See Someone I'm Dating?

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How often should you see someone you are dating? This is a common question asked by people who see Nadine for coaching or psychology sessions. Once a ...

Date Ideas: What Activity To Do On Your Next Date?

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast will go through an extensive list of date activity ideas, whether they are active, at home, entertainment, getaways and more. FREE Guide...

When & How To Clarify Labels In Dating: e.g. become exclusive or keep it casual

08 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know when to ask someone to date you exclusively? When is the right timing? What do you say? What types of labels can you ask for? How do y...

How To Do A Video Date

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to meet more people for dates and reduce dating burnout? Video dates are a quick and efficient way to initially connect with people from d...

When To Take A Break From Dating & What To Do In That Break

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dating can become ineffective if you are experiencing dating burnout, a major life stressor, or a major blocker such as heartache. In this episode:- ...

Navigating 9 Years Of A Long Distance Relationship - Interview With Jasmine

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How to make a long distance relationship work? In this episode Jasmine shares her experience of navigating a 9 year long relationship between Austral...

Am I Triggered Or Is This A 'Red Flag'?

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you experience extreme emotions in dating it can be hard to know if this is a trigger from your past experiences, or if this is a 'red flag&...

Build Resilience In Dating: Savouring Pleasant Events

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Resilience in dating helps you bounce back from difficult experiences, be able to access balanced thinking, and more easily regulate emotions. This ep...

Managing Jealousy - Insights From Ruby

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jealousy is a common emotion experienced in dating and relationships which many find challenging. In this episode my friend Ruby shares her experience...

Balance Your Thinking: Take That Person Off The Pedestal

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It can be common in dating for our brain's to have biased thinking; either putting someone on a pedestal and not seeing the early 'red flags...

Create Your Dating Experience

15 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It is common to find dating difficult, however it is less common for people to know exactly what they would like to be different in their dating exper...

Mind Reading & Dating

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It is common for people to 'mind read' in dating. That is, assume what others are thinking and take this as fact. This unhelpful thinking pa...

Pre-Date Meditation: Managing Fear Of Feelings

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you experience difficult feelings before a date? Anxiety, Anger, Hopelessness, Confusion?In this episode:- Rationale for practising equanimity to e...

How To End A Date

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A common challenge in dating is how to end a date. Maybe you're too worried about hurting the other person's feelings, or maybe you like the...

How To Solve Problems In Dating

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Numerous issues and problems can arise in dating. For example; how to have a difficult conversation, where do I go for the next date, how do I manage ...

Reduce Dating Burnout: Impacts of Masking

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dating burnout can include feeling fatigued, hopeless and anxious. In this episode the impact of masking behaviours is explored as a key contributor t...

3 Lessons For Dating From A Yoga Teacher Training

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Nadine completed a one month intensive yoga teacher training in India 2015. This episode explored 3 key lessons from the experience and how this can r...

How To Stay Focused On Your Dating Goal: Goal Setting

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Forming clear goals in dating helps you stay focused on what is important to you. Goal setting can increase the time and effort you spend in building ...

Managing Loneliness

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Loneliness is a universal human emotion that can commonly occur in dating. In this episode:- Learn about the definition and function of loneliness- S...

How To Heal From A Breakup

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling heartbroken? Lonely, sad, angry, numb. Breakups can bring up intense overwhelming emotions and rumination.In this episode:- Learn about action...

What To Do If They Haven't Replied To Your Message

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you suddenly been ghosted by someone, left waiting for a reply to a message, unsure if you should contact them or wait? Not knowing how to respon...

How To Enjoy Use Of The Dating Apps

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you felt disheartened/overwhelmed with use of dating apps? It can be common for people to feel burnout with the apps and want to quit using them ...

Confidence In Your Dating Decisions- Dan's Coaching Experience

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode features special guest Dan, a former client who shares his key transformations and learnings from 9 months of coaching. In this episode ...

How To Take The Pressure Off Yourself In Dating- Factors Within & Outside Of Your Control

25 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel a sense of pressure in dating? Feeling disheartened, worried you are 'failing' or 'not getting it right'? Building ski...

Top Dating Coaching Advice- Interview With Dating Coach Amber Grubenmann

18 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode features special guest Amber Grubemann. Amber is a confidence and dating coach for women across the globe, helping people move from casua...

How to Meet People in Person

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a desire to meet someone in person? Feeling tired of the dating apps? Unsure where to start and how to approach someone?In this episode:- ...

Don't Dismiss the 'Nice but Boring' Person

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you had a pattern of knowing someone who is nice, consistent, kind....yet you find the connection boring, no spark, just don't feel it? Yet ...

Self-Blame vs Blame of Others

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Some people can have a default setting of going into self-blame when faced with a difficult dating situation, and others can have a reflex to automati...

How to Validate Yourself & Others

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Validation is a key skill to strengthen relationships, reduce conflict, and help build a sense of self.In this episode:- definition of validation and ...

Sense of Self & Dating

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A limited sense of self can lead to increased relationship challenges and a feeling of being directionless. A limited sense of self can also lead to i...

Gratitude: Benefits & Practice

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It is common for the human brain to have a negativity bias, focusing on worries, worst case scenarios, and general negative thoughts. This negativity ...

Embracing Differences

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It is common for the people we date to have differences, in values, hobbies, routines, interests. How can you know whether this is a dealbreaker or if...

6 Common Mistakes Using Dating Apps

23 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating apps are a large part of the dating experience in the modern day. While the apps can be useful ways to connect and meet new people, there are c...

5 Senses Grounding: A Strategy For Anxiety or Stress

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Our minds can often be thinking about the past or future, looping in rumination or worry thoughts, which increases emotional distress. 5 Senses Ground...

Unhelpful Thinking Styles

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There are 10 types of unhelpful thinking styles from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), these can frequently come up in dating. This limits perspectiv...

'Good Enough' Partner- Understanding The Traps Of Perfectionism

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In dating people can pursue perfectionism, for themselves and others, in the pursuit of their ideal relationship. Perfectionism however can have adver...

How To Motivate Yourself In Dating

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating and finding the relationship you desire is a journey, we don't how long it will take, and it is most helpful to be consistent and motivate...

Polyvagal Theory

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Polyvagal Theory is a way to help understand the states of your nervous system, and it's automatic survival functions and physiological responses...

Cope Ahead Planning

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating situations can commonly bring up anxiety, stress, or apprehension. Worry about the situation can be a common automatic coping strategy, however...

Opposite Action To Emotions

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Every emotion we experience has an action urge.  For example, when feeling afraid the urge is the avoid or run away, when feeling excited the urge is...

Managing Rumination

28 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Painful or uncomfortable dating situations can trigger rumination, repetitive negative thoughts. Rumination can increase anxiety, depression, and stre...

'GIVE Skill' How To Keep & Maintain Healthy Relationships

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How to show care, interest, and kindness to those you are dating? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) the 'GIVE skill' helps people focus...

Embrace Pain & Follow Your Dreams

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In dating it is natural to encounter uncomfortable thoughts and feelings- anxiety, low mood, burnout, fear of rejection, fear of putting effort in and...

Boring vs Interesting Messages

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you ever tired of the conversations on dating apps? Feeling bored, fatigued of the same conversations and questions?In this episode:- Learn about ...

Rejection Part 2: How to Manage Fear of Rejecting Others

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Rejection can be a difficult emotion to manage. People can not only have a fear of being rejected, but also of doing the rejection. If you have a fear...

Rejection Part 1: How To Manage Being Rejected

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Fear of being rejected is common in dating. Fear of rejection can lead to increased self-criticism, overgeneralisation, and assuming the worst of ours...

How To Maintain Self-Respect: FAST Skill

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Having self-respect involves pride, self-love, and knowing your worth. If you have healthy self-respect, then confidence increases and it makes it eas...

Maintaining Standards: The Importance Of Speaking Up

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It can be common in dating to have fears about speaking up and naming dynamics that make you uncomfortable. People can assume they are 'too needy...

Overscheduling: Marathon Not A Sprint

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Overscheduling and Underscheduling can be common habits of dating. That is, going on so many dates you begin to feel exhausted and neglect other aspec...

How To Define 'Success" In Dating

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What you define as 'success' in dating, can dramatically impact how pressured, stressed, and disheartened you feel, OR create feelings of pr...

Radical Acceptance: How To Reduce Suffering In Situations You Cannot Change

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It is common to find it hard to let go of painful dating situations, even though they happened in the past, and you cannot change them. When we have p...

Untangling Biases- Core Mindfulness Skills

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It is common in dating to have judgments and biases that obscure dating experiences. For example, people may make up stories about how a person is, ba...

Boundary Setting

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Boundary setting can be challenging in dating, people may neglect their emotions and needs and over-extend themselves with others. Ultimately this inc...

Loving Kindness

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Difficulties in dating can build up hurt, resentment, and feelings of rejection. We can take these difficult feelings into dating experiences, creatin...

Assertiveness Skills: DEAR MAN Script

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is an assertiveness skill 'DEAR MAN', this acronym helps structure what to say when you would l...

5 Pillars for Nervous System Health: Self-Care

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Our nervous systems impact every aspect of health, both emotional and physical. A stabilised nervous system can reduce dating burnout and anxiety, and...

How to Tolerate Uncertainty

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating is full of ambiguous and uncertain situations, Do they like me? Do I like them? Will this be a long term relationship? Why did they end it?It i...

Accessing Your 'Wise Mind' State

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) they describe 3 mind states: 'Wise Mind', 'Reasonable Mind' & 'Emotion Mind'....

People Pleasing - Healthy vs Unhealthy

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

People pleasing frequently comes up in dating, this shapes how people act and who they attract. People who over people-please neglect their own needs ...

Mindfulness Meditation for Dating Anxiety/Stress

15 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode:- Learn about the signs of dating anxiety/stress- Rationale for mindfulness meditation- Guided Meditation for anxiety/stress (if you&a...

"It's not Working", "It's a Waste of Time"- Managing Doubt Thoughts

14 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Doubt thoughts are part of the process of dating. People frequently experience thoughts such as "It's not working", "I'm wast...

Dialectics & Dating

02 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When people experience difficulties in dating they can have 'non-dialectical' thinking. This includes rigid, black and white, and all-or-not...

Attachment Styles & Dating

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Attachment styles influence how we think and behave in relationships. Our primary relationships from childhood create blueprints for how we engage in ...

Challenge Unhelpful Beliefs in Dating: Behavioural Experiments

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Unhelpful and rigid beliefs in dating take people further away from their dating goals. Often without conscious awareness, these beliefs can influence...