Queer Sex Ed Podcast
Episodes
Consent Education, People Pleasing, and Building an Atmosphere of Consent with Mia Schachter - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 67
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of QSE, Sara talks with Mia Schachter (they/them) from Consent Wizardy and the You're Doing it Wrong Podcast about all things consent!...
Making Joyful Trans Porn with Aura, Star, and Deluge from Effigy Films
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode Sara talks with Aura (she/her), Star (she/it), and Deluge (any pronoun) from Effigy Films about how they got started camming and making t...
Kink 101 LIVE at Southwest Love Fest 2025
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a live workshop with Sara from the Southwest Love Fest conference in Phoenix, AZ. Discussions include finding overlapping desires, consent as ...
Happy 8th Birthday to QSE!
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A message from Sara about what to expect for the QSE relaunch and teasing upcoming content in the feed! This is different from the previous reintroduc...
Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 64
14 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structu...
Trans Justice and Sex Ed - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 63
20 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also...
Genital Torture and Trans Bodies - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 62
12 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safe...
Dysphoria and Sex as a Trans Person - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 61
24 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate th...
QSE Listener Questions 6 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 60
16 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-ba...
Body Changes on Hormones - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 59
27 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and ...
QSE Listener Questions 5 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 58
17 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fe...
Abortion Laws and Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 57
01 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda s...
Pervertables and Kink on a Budget - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 56
20 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap...
Navigating Consent On Dating Apps (A Dick Pic Isn't Communication) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 55
12 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary cros...
The Future of Trans Liberation - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 54
27 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like. What would it me...
Biological Sex and Expanding the Trans Medical Model - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 53
21 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new way...
Butt Stuff 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 52
06 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the man...
Modern Transgender Medicine - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 51
22 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also d...
The Trans Military Ban and QSE Listener Questions 4 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 50
15 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be aboliti...
History of Transgender Medicine - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 49
10 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Al...
Sensory Deprivation - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 48
22 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The ...
QSE Listener Questions 3 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 47
15 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all t...
Audio Article - Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 46
11 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice. Read along here: https://medium.co...
Things You May Have Missed in 2018 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 45
27 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019. QSE will be back next year aft...
And A Kinky New Year - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 44
23 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay celebrate a new year by looking back at their favorite moments, best sex toys, top kink memories, and a special surprise segment about ma...
Fisting and Edge Play - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 43
14 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week Sara and Jay talk about topping and bottoming fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queernes...
Switching Roles in Kink Play - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 42
10 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, way...
What is Sex? LIVE from CU Boulder - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 41
03 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do. Also discussed: STI testing,...
Impact Play, Safe Words, and Pain Calibration - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 40
24 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and s...
Audio Article - An Open Letter to Everyone Who Won't Stop Telling Me to Vote - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 39
03 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this sy...
Voter Suppression and Gerrymandering - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 38
27 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, w...
QSE Listener Questions 2 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 37
19 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things. ...
Boundaries - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 36
12 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what yo...
QSE Quickies - Kink
30 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, domi...
QSE Quickies - Communication
17 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara edited together some of her favorite moments about communication from past QSE episodes while she is healing from surgery. New episodes should be...
Queer Rewatch Podcast: Episode 2 - Carol (2015)
09 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
QSE is on a short hiatus while Sara recovers from surgery, so we wanted to share this episode of Sara's new podcast in the feed for folks who haven't ...
Audio Article - How the Nazi Party Came to Power in a Democratic Country - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 35
03 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara is back to read another article she recently published on Medium. This one is about how Nazis came to power and what we can learn from their lega...
Heteronormativity and the Nature Vs Nurture Debate - Queer Sex Ed: Episode 34
26 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight bac...
Making Sex Toys Work for Our Bodies - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 33
21 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled ...
Sex Toys 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 32
13 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the...
Modern Queer and Kink Criminalization in the US - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 31
07 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also ...
The History of Queer Criminalization - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 30
30 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish quee...
Sexuality Research and Academia - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 29
22 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different t...
Bisexual is not Transphobic and Other Responses to Memes - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 28
16 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexu...
Femme - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 27
10 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, fe...
QSE Listener Questions 2 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 26
01 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at queersexed@gm...
Audio Article - When You Say "I Would Never Date A Trans Person," It's Transphobic, Here's Why - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 25
17 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrot...
Sex Education (Part 2) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 24
10 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized id...
Sex Education (Part 1) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 23
04 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed....
Queering Sex Ed at Gender Infinity Conference 2017 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 22
27 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topi...
Reproductive Justice and Family Building - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 21
21 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara discuss the broad spectrum of reproductive justice work as well as contraception, abortion, adoption, foster care, and ART (assisted repr...
Sexually Transmitted Infections and Getting Tested - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 20
05 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week Jay and Sara talk about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) including a discussion of the word "risk", tips on how you can talk to your p...
QSE Listener Questions - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 19
28 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay answer your questions on this week's show! Topics include: speaking at universities, consent to have difficult conversations, coming out ...
Conflict and Cheating - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 18
22 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of conflict that happen in relationships, share communication skills for more effective conflict resolu...
Ethical Communication - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 17
16 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Jay and Sara talk about talking! How can you communicate with your partners, friends, and fuck buddies in a way that is direct, honest, and kind. Also...
Submission - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 16
10 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Sara and Jay dive deep into submission, including a discussion of different types of pain, what subspace actually is, how some people use k...
Audio Article - The XX and XY Lie: Our Social Construction of a Sex and Gender Binary - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 15
03 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara reads her article on Medium about binary sex and gender. Sara and Jay were unable to record this week, but will be back next week with a discussi...
Dominance, Orgasm Denial, and Kink Self-Care - Queer Sex Ed: Episode 14
23 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay discuss all things dominance! This episode dives deep into the kink role that has the control in a BDSM scene and all of the different fa...
Trans Dating and Sex Positivity on KBOOs Transpositive Radio Show - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 13
16 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara was interviewed on Portland's KBOO Radio Station for their Transpositive weekly show. They talked about why Sara started QSE, sex positivity, and...
Interview with Marla Renee Stewart, Founder of Sex Down South and Velvet Lips - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 12
08 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara talks with Marla Renee Stewart from Sex Down South and Velvet Lips about helping people find sexual confidence, sharing your desires with your pa...
Sharing Your Desires - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 11
06 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay discuss how you can share your sexual and intimate desires, including strategies for starting the conversation, tools you can use to find...
Long Term Relationships and Long Distance Relationships - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 10
30 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay discuss different types of LTRs and LDRs, including thoughts on how you can keep connecting over distance and time with the same person o...
Identifying Desire, Asexuality, and Aromanticism - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 9
19 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hey friends! Sara and Jay discuss desire, exploration, and how you can identify what you want, learn more about sexual activities you may want to try...
Ending Relationships, Allyship, and Sex Work - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 8
13 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week on Queer Sex Ed, we talk about ending relationships in an ethical and direct way. Topics discussed include why relationships end, strategies...
Queerness, Performing Arts, and Trans Dating with Woodzick from the Theatrical Mustang Podcast - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 7
08 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sara sits down with her friend Woodzick, creator of the Non-Binary Monologues Project and host of the Theatrical Mustang Podcast to discuss many diffe...
Jealousy, Compersion, and Building Inclusive Spaces - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 6
27 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 6 is finally here! We talk about what jealousy actually is, how jealousy is a second-order emotion, and how you can reverse enginee...
Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 5
25 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay are BACK from a two month hiatus and we're talking about one of our favorite topics, group sex! What is a unicorn? How can you find more ...
What is Queer Sex Ed?
02 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Queer Sex Ed is an imperative statement. When we call to "Queer" Sex Ed, it is a call-to-arms for sexual health educators, schools, parents, and peopl...
Sara at Bedpost Confessions and Slutwalk - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 4
02 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Hey friends, it's Sara! Even though the show is technically still on hiatus until October, I thought it might be fun to share two performances I recen...
Solo Polyamory, Transition, and Kink with Lisa from the Elephant Talk Podcast - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 3
12 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This week we are cross-posting an interview Sara did on the Elephant Talk Podcast! She will be on an upcoming episode in Elephant Talk Season 2, but L...
Kink and BDSM 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 2
31 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sara and Jay dive right into the deep end with Kink and BDSM 101. We discuss intro level Kink and BDSM topics from a queer perspective. Discussion to...
Sex Positivity - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 1
22 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is our first episode! Sara and Jay introduce the show and discuss what it means to "queer" sex ed. Discussion topics include: sex positivity, nor...