REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Mon, 02 Jun 2025
On today’s episode, Andy answers live call-in questions on how to navigate the situation when you have a leadership role but don’t have full authority to make critical changes, how to stay ethical when trying to earn money, and how to handle spiteful coworkers when you outperform them at your job.
Chapter 1: What are the key areas of focus in this episode?
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have q and af that's where uh you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you can submit your questions a couple different ways first way is
Guys, email these questions in to askandy at andyfusella.com. Or you go on YouTube on the Q&A episodes. Go down in the link right underneath the video. Click that link, and you could submit your question there to be a caller on the show. Or you just leave your question in the comments, and we'll choose some from there as well.
Other times throughout the week, we're going to have other types of shows. Tomorrow, we're going to have CTI. That stands for Cruise the Internet. Crews, the internet is where we take topics going on in the world. We put them on the screen. We laugh about them, make fun of them. We talk about what's really going on. We speculate on what's really going on.
And then we talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Other times, we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we have 75 hard versus 75 hard versus where someone who's completed the 75 hard program comes on the show.
They talk about how their life sucked and how it doesn't suck now because they did the 75 hard program. If you are unfamiliar with 75 hard is the initial phase of the live hard program, which can be found for free at episode two zero eight on the audio feed. Again, that's two zero eight.
audio feed only there's a book available on my website called the book on mental toughness it includes the entire program plus a whole bunch of other stuff on mental toughness um basically a whole new book on mental toughness you can get that uh it's not free but it is very in-depth and people love it we're usually out of it but i think we have some right now so uh what else oh we got a fee the fee is very simple the show makes you laugh it makes you think
gives you a new perspective if it helps you which it will do us a favor and share the show we don't run ads on the show we don't try to monetize the show and make this big thing i'm a successful entrepreneur i finance the show myself i don't want to be told what i can or can't say so all i ask from you guys is that you help us share the show all right so don't be a hoe
should show all right what's up top of the morning to you yeah good morning yeah how's it going good yeah got a big week this week big week summer smash laying out some stuff our first live show ever first live show first live show ever yeah live like with a live cry with a live studio audience yeah that is uh friday at one at one pm yeah friday at one here at hq
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Chapter 2: How can you deal with a leadership role without full authority?
Hi, how you doing?
This is DJ. What's going on?
Not much. Just finishing up a meeting. How are y'all?
Oh, sweet. We're doing sick, man. I got Andy here. Adriana, hello. How are you?
Fabulous. Thank you so much for asking.
All right. Is this a good time?
Oh, yeah. Absolutely.
How did the meeting go? Was the meeting good?
DJ? Hello? Yeah.
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Chapter 3: What to do when you feel underutilized in your job?
So you have an intermediary between you and her is that correct?
No it's me directly to her.
So she's telling you I want to wait until the end of the year?
Yeah.
Is she giving you a reason why?
She says that it is too busy to put any of the processes in place.
Is that true?
It's definitely very busy, but I don't believe we can grow unless we have these processes in place.
So when you have these discussions, do you push back on her and say, hey, listen, if we put these in, I think we can grow faster?
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Chapter 4: How to navigate ethical dilemmas in business?
Of course. Thank you guys so much. All right. Thank you.
that's awesome yeah man that's awesome you know i was thinking too like one of the other reasons and this may not be this situation but other people other owner operators decision makers entrepreneurs who are who are simply just afraid to grow from where they are like they're they're cool where they are and like growth i guess can scare them is that is that a thing
Yeah, yes, but it doesn't work in real life, okay? Because it betrays the reality of the market. Yeah. The reality of the market is it's always moving forward. Okay? So you're moving forward. Okay? And you decide, I like it right here. Yeah, this is cool. But the market continues to move forward. People are innovating. They're trying harder. They're getting aggressive. They want to grow.
Eventually, they swallow you up. So in business, there is no... And that's what kills people, man. They think that they get to a certain level and everything will just be all right. It's not how it works, man.
very rarely does that work and it certainly doesn't work long term it might work for a year it might work for two years but it's not going to work that long and we see this in usually multi-generational businesses where the dad or the mom who owned the business worked very hard to grow it The kids come in, and they look around, and they're like, well, fuck, dude, I'm rich. It's cool.
Yeah, I got this business. And they don't do shit, and they don't try to get aggressive, and they're going to the lake on Thursday and coming back on Monday and walking around the office acting like they're a big deal when all the other people are carrying all the fucking water, bro. And then those companies lose. Business is the most competitive fucking sport, right?
the planet it is way more competitive than any other physical sport it is the consequences are way higher because we're not talking about winning a game we're talking about people's fucking lives can they eat or can they not eat can they go to the store or can they not go to the store can they have a pay their rent or could they not pay their rent those are much higher consequences than winning a fucking football game
And so to think that it's not the most competitive thing, it is the most competitive thing. And if you think that you're going to come into the game and run your game half-ass, you're going to get fucking eaten up, dude. So yes, there's owners that do that.
but it never works and it is a common thing yeah you know like they say like like more common than you think no there's what they say you see this on the internet too bro like they say like well i don't want to make any more money than i make right now but and that's fine okay Don't pay yourself anymore.
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Chapter 5: What strategies can help manage difficult coworkers?
And he'd come in, bro, like, fucking cut-off shirt, holes in his shorts. This guy would come in and buy $500, $600 worth of shit. Loaded. Yeah, he didn't give a fuck. He'd pull out a cash wad and be like, like Scrooge McDuck, bro, walk the fuck out. Yeah, you can't judge that. No, and that's a big sales no-no.
do not judge people on how they look do not judge them on what car they drive and do not judge them on what you think is expensive because you happen to it would be expensive for you okay if you do those three things you will suck at sales you have to present the product ask for a fair value and you will be successful i love it man i love it guys let's get to our third and final call and we got one more call in for you guys uh let's give our boy josh
Give my boy Josh a call.
This is Josh.
Josh, what's up, my man? Hey, how's it going?
Good, brother. This is DJ. I got Andy here. What's up, Josh? How you doing, brother? Good. How are you? We're doing good, man. You sounded a little happier when you heard Andy's voice. Why wouldn't he be? What's that about? He's racist.
Clearly. Josh, where are you calling in from, bro?
Des Moines, Iowa. All right.
Well, he's definitely racist. Josh, we're just playing, bro. What's up, dude? What are you doing?
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Chapter 6: How to find fulfillment in your career?
So that's... Right, right. I just need to come to terms with not feeling terrible about doing that.
No, bro, because you've given him chances. You've given him chances, bro. And this is about respecting yourself, man. So I understand it's hard for people like you, but, like, dude, there's just people out there that are... they're fucked up.
So, um, yeah, they're too far gone. You can't do anything to get them back. That's right.
That's right, man. And that's why I like punched him in the face. Sometimes verbally, um, tennis does right now. He probably thinks you're a pushover. He probably thinks I could say whatever I want to Josh. He went and can do shit. You know what I'm saying?
Well, he's scared to even come talk to me. My manager told me that. So, well, But as far as, you know, him constantly trying to get in my way.
He ain't that fucking scared if he keeps talking shit.
Right. I can tell you this, bro. I don't deal with that shit. You talk shit to my face. Say whatever you want to my fucking face. But if I catch you running your mouth out there behind my back, we're going to have an issue. And I have that policy inside my companies. Like we're not going to have cancer here.
If you want to come to me and sit in my office and tell me I'm a piece of shit, I will hear it and I will hear it calmly and we can have a talk. But you go out there and I find out you've been doing that, you're out. So, you know, look, man, I think you know what you got to do. And unfortunately, you know, it sucks.
But actually, I think after you do it, you'll probably, I think if you stand up for yourself, this guy will end up respecting you. That's the truth.
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