Relationship Dish

ep 138 / Great Expectations: When Needs Turn Into Demands in Relationships

25 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Where do our expectations in relationships actually come from—and when do they start working against us? In this revealing episode of Relationship D...

ep 137 / Can People Really Change? Boundaries, Acceptance, and Being "Good Enough"

18 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Can people actually change, or do we eventually have to learn how to live with what is? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona let liste...

ep 136 / When Therapy Works: Trust, Accountability, and Showing Up for Each Other (with Dr. Rotem Regev)

04 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What does it look like when couples therapy actually works? In this special episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona are joined by Dr. Rotem Regev, ...

ep 135 / Narcissism in Relationships: The Traits, the Patterns, and the Trap of "Passion"

21 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

"Narcissist" has become a buzzword—and that can get messy fast. In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona aren't diagnosing anyone… but t...

ep 134 / Relationship Pet Peeves: From Toothpaste Splatter to Taking Responsibility

07 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is it the big stuff that wears down relationships or the tiny, everyday annoyances? In this fun, honest episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona di...

ep 133 / Emotional Maturity: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t and Start Owning It

17 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it really mean to be emotionally mature—and why is it so damn hard sometimes? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive dee...

ep 132 / The Push-Pull of Love: Why We Want Intimacy but Fear It

03 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever long for a deep, loving relationship—then find yourself backing away the moment it gets real? In this relatable episode of Relationship Dish, ...

ep 131 / Gratitude and the Blocks to Joy: Learning to Trust the Good Stuff

19 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Gratitude sounds simple, but for many of us, it's complicated. In this deeply honest episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore how early emo...

ep 130 / Daddy Issues (and Mommy Issues): How Our Parents Shape Our Love Lives

05 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why you're drawn to people who feel a little too familiar? In this revealing episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona unpack how the dyn...

ep 129 / 10 Ways to Keep Love Alive: Season Finale Special

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's the Relationship Dish season finale—and Pam and Iona are closing things out with their top 10 best tips for building and maintaining a healthy,...

ep 128 / Ego vs. Intimacy: What's Really Getting in the Way of Connection

10 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeding your ego—or your intimacy? In this thought-provoking episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona unpack the subtle but powerful force...

ep 127 / The Power of "We": Balancing Togetherness and Individuality in Love

27 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it really mean to be a we in a relationship—and how do you balance it with your own I? In this insightful episode of Relationship Dish, Pa...

ep 126 / Making It Right: How to Repair After a Relationship Rupture

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Fights happen, but what really matters is what comes next. In this raw and revealing episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore the often-mis...

ep 125 / Can This Relationship Be Saved? What Couples Therapy Can (and Can't) Do

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Thinking about couples therapy? Wondering if it can really fix what's broken—or if you're just signing up for weekly battles on a therapist's couch?...

ep 124 / The Boundary Breakdown: What's Really Getting in the Way?

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We all say we want healthy boundaries—but actually setting them? That's where things get messy. In this raw and revealing episode of Relationship Di...

ep 123 / Fun Is Not a Luxury: Why Joy Is Essential in Your Relationship

11 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sure, you've done the hard work—therapy, repair, tough conversations. But now what? In this feel-good episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona div...

ep 122 / Sorry Not Sorry: The Courage (and Craft) of a Real Apology

28 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does a real apology sound like—and why is it so damn hard to get one? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive into the delicate...

ep 121 / Is Your Relationship Haunted by Ghosts of the Past?

14 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like you're arguing with your partner's past self—or like they're stuck seeing you as who you used to be? In this candid and insightful ep...

ep 120 / Making Peace with Anger (Without Exploding)

01 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Pam and Iona unpack how childhood experiences with explosive anger shaped their adult relationships—and their own relationship with...

ep 119 / Who Are You Showing Up As—Parent, Child, or Partner?

16 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Iona and Pam dig into the powerful dynamics of over- and under-compensating in relationships and how these patterns often reflect par...

ep 118 / Childhood Wounds in Adult Relationships

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do your childhood wounds still have a seat at the table in your relationships? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive into how early ...

ep 117 / Face Your Feelings

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, therapists Iona and Pam explore how facing—and honoring—your feelings is the key to clear communication and successful negotiatio...

ep 116 / Is It Possible to Have an Amicable Divorce?

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Iona and Pam dish about whether or not it's possible to have an amicable divorce or breakup. What if only one of you wants to end the relat...

ep 115 / You've Lost That Lovin' Feeling—What Now?

20 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Iona and Pam dish about what people really mean when they say that they've "fallen out of love" with their partner. It can sound so nebulous, scary, a...

ep 114 / Are You Overriding Your Instincts?

15 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you overriding your instincts—and potentially putting your safety in jeopardy—to make others feel comfortable? Listen in this week as the ther...

ep 113 / What Are You Afraid Of?

01 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about their fears and vulnerabilities. Pam shares that she struggles with a fear of humiliation, ...

ep 112 / Dating with Differences

18 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about navigating the differences between you and your partner. How alike—or unalike—can you be...

ep 111 / Navigating Life Transitions

04 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about navigating life transitions. Iona shares her personal experiences with her daughter's depart...

ep 110 / Quick TIP Creating Positive Cycles

25 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We are on a much needed break between seasons 4 and 5.   We leave you with a 5 min reminder tip to stay open and vulnerable in your relationship with...

ep 109 / Quick TIP Vulnerability

18 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We are on a much needed break between seasons 4 and 5.   We leave you with a 5 min reminder tip to stay open and vulnerable in your relationship with...

ep 108 / Narcissism It's All About Me

11 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about narcissism.    Iona gets a rude awakening about how she's behaved in her relationship and ...

ep 107 / Men In Relationships PART 2

04 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week for part 2 of our interview with therapist Alistair Moes, as he shares his knowledge about men, their feelings and their relations...

ep 106 / Men In Relationships PART 1

26 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week for part 1 of an interview where the therapists talk with Alistair- a therapist and colleague who's worked for years specifically ...

ep 105 / The Withdrawer

19 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about The Withdrawer. Behind every good pursuer is a good distancer. Iona is married to one and P...

Valentines Day Greetings

14 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We would like to wish you a very Happy Valentines Day from us at Relationship Dish. Love the one you're with, and most importantly love yourself to he...

ep 104 / The Pursuer

12 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about the pursuer position in the cycle. Iona is a pursuer and Pam is married to one, so there is plenty of fod...

ep 103 / When Couples Grow Apart

05 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as Iona and Pam dish and dive about growing apart from their partners. It can happen to the best of us but how do we know if it's ...

ep 102 / The Husbands part 1

29 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As a special treat to celebrate our recent 100th episode, this week the therapists interview Eric, Pam's husband, to find out what impact the podcast ...

ep 101 / Hypochondria

22 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listener pick! Just in time for cold and flu season... Listen in this week as the therapists discuss hypochondria. Ever worry if the headache you have...

ep 100 / Guilt, what is it good for? Absolutely everything!

15 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish about healthy guilt. Is that a thing? You betcha! Sometimes feeling healthy guilt is really useful. Pam and...

ep 99 / Self Regulation

08 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Happy new year! What better way to start 2020 than with learning how to regulate your emotions so that you can maintain your relationships!  Listen i...

ep 98 / Falling in Love. New Years Version Replay.

01 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year and Happy Holidays, Here is a replay of one of our favourite episodes, Falling in Love. Sometimes we have to do away with the image we...

ep 97 / The Critic. Xmas Version Replay.

25 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Here is a replay of one of our favourite episodes. The Critic. This week the therapists dish and dive about that ...

ep 96 / Second Time Around. Part 2

18 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists continue their interview with a couple who are beating the odds! Typically divorce rates for second marriages are even higher...

ep 95 / Second Time Around. Part 1

11 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists interview a couple who are beating the odds! Typically divorce rates for second marriages are even higher than for firsts. Bu...

ep 94 / Who do you want to be when you grow up?

04 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about adult growth and development. Why is it that so many adults believe that once you're of drin...

ep 93 / All the Single Ladies Part2

27 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists conclude their conversation with the single ladies. Learn from them how to have a happy and full filling life, w...

ep 92 / All the Single Ladies Part1

20 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists talk with two single women about their lives and loves. Learn how they thrive in a "couples' world" and understa...

ep 91 / Low Level Forces That Compete With Intimacy

13 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about the low level forces that can compete with intimacy. They look at their own relationship struggles and le...

ep 90 / Falling into SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)

06 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about Seasonal Affective Disorder aka SAD.  With the fall time change upon us, many of us struggle with having...

ep 89 / When The Universe Throws You a Curve Ball

30 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about getting blindsided; when the universe throws you a curveball.   Iona weighs in on her recent experience ...

ep 88 / My Mother Myself

23 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists weigh in on their relationships with their mothers....cue scary music! They wonder how they're like them, different from them...

ep 87 / Breaking up is Hard to Do

16 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists answer a listener's question: How do you know when to leave a relationship? Pam and Iona discuss the reasons for...

ep 86 / One is the Loneliest Number

09 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week, as a special thanksgiving episode, the therapists dish and dive about loneliness. Pam and Iona discuss the difference between being alone a...

ep 85 / Have You Any Dreams You'd Like to Sell

02 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week Pam and Iona weigh in on dreams. Listen in as they share some of the more exciting, reoccurring  and cryptic dreams they've had over the ye...

ep 84 / The Stigma of Couples Counselling

25 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about couples counselling. Both of them have attended and benefitted from couples counselling over the years bu...

ep 83 / Value of Admitting our Impulses

18 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about some of  the impulses they have and what they do with them. It seems that  both therapists have some pr...

ep 82 / The Kindness of Strangers a Tribute to 911

11 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish on the kindness of strangers as they remember the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. Within the darkness that unfolded, t...

ep 81 / Back to School Ugh.

04 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It's back to school time and this week the therapists dish and dive about the anxiety they experience around this time of year. Why, even as adults, d...

ep 80 / Why the Bad Outweighs the Good.

28 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists look at how and why we get more stuck in our negative emotions and experiences than in our positive ones. Pam and Iona both h...

ep 79 / Therapy.. What is it Good For?

21 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists wonder if therapy is helpful after all. They discuss the different types of therapy models out there and determi...

ep 78 / Overfunctioning

14 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about over functioning.   Pam and Iona both learned to over function to control and distract the...

ep 77 / Jealousy

07 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about jealousy. Iona's had an episode of feeling very jealous, which catches her off guard. Pam weighs in on ho...

ep 76 / Trauma part 2. The whole body tragedy.

31 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists finish their discussion about trauma with a dive into the literature about trauma. We learn about the different types of trau...

ep 75 / Trauma part 1. The whole body tragedy.

24 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish extensively about their own experience with trauma and the ongoing impact these traumas have had on their lives. There i...

Season 4 Welcome!

23 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Join us on a new season where we Dish and Dive on topics sure to peak your interest. Iona and Pam

Appetizer 4 / Your Partner is your client

17 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hi listeners, we're still on our break between season 3 and 4 but in the meantime we're going to leave you with a quick appetizer today.  Try treatin...

Appetizer 3 / The Balance to Stand Alone

10 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Here is a quick little 1 minute Appetizer for you about The balance and courage to stand alone. We're taking a 2 week break while preparing to launch ...

ep 74 / Addictions

03 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists weigh in on the issue of addiction, in its many forms. Listen in as they discuss their own addictions and the addictions of t...

ep 73 / Infidelity

26 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about affairs and infidelity. Listen in as they dish about their own experiences with infidelity and affairs (s...

ep 72 / The Critic

19 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about that critical voice in their heads, their inner critics. They look at where they come from and  how we c...

ep 71 / Fatherhood

12 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It's Fathers Day and This week the therapists dish and dive about fathers! They look at the fathers of their own children and compare them to their ow...

ep 70 / Enmeshment

05 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about enmeshment. They wonder if they are at times, enmeshed with their partners. Listen in as they dish about ...

ep 69 / My Partner, Myself.

29 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about seeing themselves in their partners.   They realize that many things that trigger them abo...

ep 68 / Woman in Love Part 2

22 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists conclude their interview with two women who are pros at making their marriage work. Learn about what's challenge...

ep 67 / Woman in Love Part 1

15 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists offer yet  another side dish! This time, they interview two women who, despite big obstacles, have managed to c...

ep 66 / Shame Versus Guilt - The Final Showdown

08 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about the difference between shame and guilt. Both therapists recall events from their family of o...

ep 65 / OCD or The Deals We Make With The Devil

01 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about the deals they make with the devil. It turns out they tell themselves some pretty interestin...

ep 64 / Depression Part 2

24 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The therapists continue to dish and dive in this two part series about depression. They continue discussing how depression has impacted their own live...

ep 63 / Depression Part 1

17 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week when Pam and Iona dish and dive about depression as part 1 of a special 2 part series.  The therapists talk about how depression...

ep 62 / Sibling Relationships

10 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about siblings. Why are these relationships, the ones we have with the people who are the closest ...

ep 61 / Self-Care

03 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive on self care. Is it really necessary to care for the self or is it just frivolous at best, selfish at worst? Li...

ep 60 / Repair

27 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about how to fully repair after a tiff.  Pam has had an issue with Eric in the kitchen (where e...

ep 59 / Forgiveness

20 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive on forgiveness.   Iona struggles to forgive Steve for his wrongdoing and in so doing, realized that the she ...

ep 58 / All The Things I Can't Control.

13 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists grapple with the things they can and can't control in their partners and in their relationships. Iona's husband is having so...

ep 57 / Love Through The Ages. Part 2

06 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week listen in for part 2 of our interview with Sandra and Laird, a loving couple, who, despite dealing with many obstacles, has made their rela...

ep 56 / Love Through The Ages

27 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week as a special "side dish", we air part 1 of our "Love Through The Ages" interview with Sandra and Laird, a couple that have been together for...

ep 55 / Good Grief

20 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about grief. Not the grief we feel from the death of a person, but rather the death of a fantasy. When we real...

ep 54 / Falling in Love Again

13 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Valentine's Day! This week listen in as the therapists dish and dive about what it truly means to love your partner. Sometimes we have to do awa...

ep 53 / Yours, Mine and Ours Part 2

06 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists continue with part 2 of Yours, Mine and Ours.   They continue to delve into issues and feelings that are hard t...

ep 52 / Yours, Mine and Ours. Part 1

30 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists work hard to figure out what's yours, mine and ours regarding feelings and responsibility for action in relationships. It can...

ep 51 / Do We Have Each Others Backs

23 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive on the dilemma they have being big complainers about their partners, yet still wa...

ep 50 Thriving, Surviving, or Just Staying Alive

16 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to season 3 everyone!   This week listen in as the therapists open the new season with a dish and a dive about the difference be...

Season 3 Welcome!

16 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey dishers, we're back with Season 3! We have some exciting new episodes for you, so please listen in on Jan 16 for our season 3 debut! and as alway...

Appetizer 2 / Deep breath and break.

09 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Here is a quick little 1 minute Relationship Dish Appetizer for you on how to regain your composure and focus when things are getting a little out of ...

Appetizer 1 / Couples Who Have Great Sex.

02 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Here is a quick little 1 minute Relationship Dish Appetizer for you about what couples who are having great sex are doing.  Listen to this and then ...

ep 49 You Say You Want a Resolution

26 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Happy holidays! This week the therapists dish and dive about New Years resolutions. What makes them stick? What makes them slide? Listen in as Pam and...

ep 48 Navigating the Holidays With The One You Love

19 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about the holidays and what makes them so difficult for couples. Did you know that the month of December is typ...

ep 047 Imposter Syndrome

12 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about feeling like imposters. If they aren't "therapisty " all the time, does that mean they're imposters? Are ...

ep 046 Two Ships passing in the Night

05 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This week the therapists dish and dive about feeling in their relationships,  like two ships that pass in the night.  Pam and Iona worry that this i...